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This guide is not a trick or a bandage solution for your broken relationship. This article is your ultimate guide on how to win your ex girlfriend back. Just like in a video game. If you and the girl you love just broke up, you are probably going through a lot of pain, heartache, grief, obsessiveness and confusion. About what to do and what not to do. This guide is designed to take the confusion out of the equation.
Think of it as a manual, a walkthrough, a game plan or a strategy guide for the current mission in this game called your love life. This guide will tell you exactly what to do from here on forward to get your ex girlfriend back as soon as possible. Like I said before, you only get a handful of chances at this. So if you are not careful, you might screw this up. Above all, it will need 3 things from you.
This guide is for you if you are a teenager in high school, you in your 20s, 30s, 40s or even 50s. This guide is for you if your ex girlfriend dumped you.
Each stage will have objectives for you to accomplish. Some of these objectives will be optional. The optional objectives are not important to win her back permanently, but they definitely help in the process and they will increase your chances significantly. In addition, there will be actionable tips, objectives, or steps in the articles. Consider this as mini objectives that you can take action on. These actionable objectives are very practical and easy to understand, as opposed to the other things involving dating, relationships and breakups.
You will also find common pitfalls in each section of the article. These are common mistakes that most people make during each stage of getting back together with their ex girlfriend. These additional articles serve as supplement articles to this detailed guide.
But they are in no way a replacement for this. When you lose the girl you love, you are bound to panic. You activate the fight or flight response in your brain. Instead, it relies on your instincts. It goes into overdrive trying to make sense of it all and in a state of panic, it makes you do things that ultimately pushes your ex girlfriend away.
The goal of this stage is to get yourself to stop panicking and pushing your ex away. To do that, you must. Breakup grief is a bitch. Once you lose your ex girlfriend, someone you loved dearly, you are likely to go through the five stages of grief. But when you are trying to win her back for good, you need to watch out for the first three stages of grief. As we will see in the next section, these three stages of grief are likely to make you do things that will push your ex away and make her think why was she ever attracted to you.
To make this easier for you to remember, here is a list of mistakes that pushes your ex away when you are in this stage. I still love her and will always love her. Surely, this should be a good enough reason for her to take me back. But guys get the idea that if they can show their ex GF how helpless they are without her, she will come back.
They try to beg and plead to get her back. In some cases, guys go to extreme lengths to show their ex how miserable they are without her. The truth is though, no girl is attracted to a weak guy. If you act like you are miserable without her, she will just get less and less attracted to you until she decides to cut you off from her life.
I just need to stay in touch with her. This one is obvious. The more you text or call your ex, the less attractive you will look to her. Even if you act all casual when you text her, you will still come off as needy as your ex will see right through it. Texting her again and again is a sign of neediness and desperation and no girl is attracted to a needy guy. Notice how texting and calling her all the time are coming out of neediness and desperation instead of a genuine desire to speak to her and enjoy a conversation with her.
I will agree to whatever she wants from me and do anything to make her happy. It may have worked before the breakup in some cases. The same goes for when you tell her you will do anything to get her back. More commonly known as becoming a doormat. Even if you manage to convince her to come back this way, she will leave again soon because she will not have any respect for you.
Not because you love her, but because you are afraid to lose her to some other guy. Because you are afraid to be alone. Not unless she is extremely manipulative.
In which case, you should still not do it because you will be even more miserable when you are back together. She told me she loved me just a couple of weeks ago and now she is sleeping around with someone else. Her new boyfriend is not the right person for her.
I need to speak to her immediately and convince her to leave the other guy for me. In a lot of cases, your ex may start dating immediately after a breakup. In some cases, she might start dating after a week or a month.
But in almost all the cases, her new relationship will be a rebound. And it will end. Read more about the nature of rebound relationships here and how to get her back when she has a boyfriend here.
I hope you spend the rest of your life being as miserable as I know you are inside. No one wants to be with a guy who is abusive. So, if you ever have the urge to say anything mean to your ex girlfriend, do yourself a favor and STOP. These mistakes are very common.
As I mentioned earlier, these mistakes are a direct result of you going through grief and acting on your instincts. In my experience, the easiest way to avoid making any of the above mistakes and heal from the breakup is to start no contact. No contact rule is a simple rule to not contact your ex at all for a certain number of days. You want to remove your ex from your life and from your mind. When you cut your ex girlfriend out of your life, you will start seeing things clearly and feel better about yourself.
You will realize that you can live without your ex and life is not so bad after all. When you stop contacting her, you will go cold turkey on this addiction. You need to get rid of this addiction before you can approach her and get her back. As long as you are addicted to her, you will be needy and desperate.
And if you are needy or desperate, you will never be able to approach her from a position of strength. Even if you try to fake it, she will smell your neediness from a mile away.
She was close to you and she knows a lot about you. Even if you have not made any of the mistakes above, no contact is still very important because you want to give your ex some time to process the breakup and miss you. When you stop contacting your ex, you will instantly become less needy and desperate in her eyes. Hopefully, she will understand and will be impressed and confused and leave you alone. In fact, in most cases, this will make her want you more.
Remember how you were pushing her away when you kept contacting her and telling her how you love her and will give the world to be with her? This is what I call the push pull dynamics of a breakup. Besides, you are not doing this forever, you will only do this for a short while as we will discuss in just a moment.
Even if she dates someone else during no contact, it will probably be a rebound and you can still win her back. Read about rebounds and winning her back from a rebound.
Ideally, you should do no contact until you have finished stage 1 and stage 2 of this mission to get your ex girlfriend back permanently.
That means you should do no contact at least until you have stopped panicking, regained your composure and figured out how to defeat the little devils Stage 2. It can take from two weeks to three months. Read this article on no contact rule to figure out how much no contact is ideal for you. You lost someone you truly love and wanted to be with.
When you first start no contact, you are going to grieve a lot. You are going to feel all the emotions that people going through grief feel. You will feel denial, anger, depression, confusion and obsession. Breakup Grief is a roller coaster ride. Sometimes you will feel like crap and sometimes you will feel much better about yourself. The key is to let yourself feel the emotions and still keep working on yourself. If you feel like crying, let it out.
If you feel anger, shout out loud. But remember to always balance it out and always keep in mind that you need to become a better version of yourself if you want her back. Occasionally, you must pick yourself up and realize that there is much more to life than relationships and breakup. You must remind yourself that life will keep throwing challenges at you.
You must learn to pick yourself up and get back in the game. You need to keep moving forward. That means you need to accept that your ex girlfriend broke up with you and your past relationship is over. You can start a new relationship with her and that relationship may be an amazing one. But the past relationship is over, and there is nothing you can do about it. For a lot of guys reading this, the idea of accepting the breakup will be a tough one. You may even trick yourself into thinking that you have accepted the breakup when you are secretly still hoping that things will go back to the way they were.
So, consider this as an optional objective for now. That means, you can move on to Stage 2 without completing this objective.
But you need to finish this objective before you move on to Stage 3. One of the reasons our minds panic so hard after a breakup is because of our deep rooted fear of being alone. Of being left out in the world. Of never being loved. But chances are, you have a lot of people in your life that love you, care about you, and want you to be happy. Your friends and family can be a very effective healing tool. When you spend time with them and notice how they care about you and love you, your sub-conscious mind will calm down realizing that you are not alone in this world.
That you are loved, and you will survive even if you have lost your ex. You can still get your ex girlfriend back. But you must make a note in your mind to make new friends, good friends you can trust, when you are ready in the future.
If you think like that, you must understand that even though you might be successful in getting her back, you will most likely fail in keeping her permanently. I have seen this happen to my readers and clients over and over again. And I would hate to see it happen to you. As you can see from the objectives above, this stage of getting your ex girlfriend back is all about you. In my opinion, this is the most important stage of this mission.
If you fail at this stage, you will most likely fail at getting your ex girlfriend back permanently. Even if you somehow manage to get her back for the time being, I am quite positive you will break up again in the future. We are going to go through each of the objectives of this stage and then we are going to list out some of the common pitfalls that most guys face during this stage.
The first thing after you have calmed down in Stage 1 is to try to figure out what caused the breakup. She might have used one of those bogus generic lines like.
I am going to try to list out some of the most common reasons here that you may be able to relate to. This will be the case for most of the guys reading this article. Here are a few examples of when a girl loses attraction for you. In fact, all the three reasons mentioned above are a direct result of insecurity. If you love her, you should show her. For me, there is nothing more joyful than making my girlfriend happy and laugh with joy.
But most guys whose girlfriend leaves them are not genuine in showing affection. And slowly, she is going to realize that you are not doing it because you mean it. But because you sub consciously want something in return. Again, giving your ex-girlfriend what she wants is not really a deal breaker. For example, suppose you are having an argument about you always trying to control her. And instead of trying to understand her, you go out and buy her a necklace that she wanted for a while.
You avoided a serious issue in the relationship. You avoided a serious issue in yourself. And that festered inside her. If you want to give something your ex-girlfriend, do it out of your heart and do it because you want to do it without getting anything in return. Guys who are insecure, controlling and secretly manipulative are always trying to control the situation by giving their girlfriend something and hoping to get something in return.
This creates an unhealthy pattern in the relationship and their girlfriends end up losing attraction for them. Like I said in the above two scenarios. Insecurity, jealousy, control and manipulation are present in almost every unhealthy relationship. As you are going through this stage, I want you to think back and figure out when you did something for your ex girlfriend that had an ulterior motive behind it.
If you are just reading this article a few days after your breakup, it might be a bit too much for you to think all this through right now. So, you might want to bookmark this article and come back to it at a later stage when you have calmed down and can think rationally.
You can make your ex girlfriend attracted to you again easily once you learn how to fix the deep rooted insecurity that pushed her away. A lot of times, your ex-girlfriend may have broken up with you because she does not feel a connection with you anymore. This is usually the case when you were together for a very long time more than a year.
If she does not feel a connection with you, she will leave you because she does not see a future with you. She might still be attracted to you. She might still feel that you are a confident attractive guy. She just thinks that you are both not compatible. The fact is, your ex girlfriend does not feel a connection with you anymore. And if she does not feel a connection with you, then it will not matter to her what you are willing to do for her. Before you can show her how things have changed, you first need to rebuild attraction and connection with her.
We will get into that in stage 4 of this article. Some guys reading this page might have done something that hurt their ex girlfriend terribly. The key to winning your ex-girlfriend back in this situation is to show her a ray of hope before anything else. And the best way to show her a ray of hope is to accept where you screwed up, figure out why you did it and work on understanding yourself.
So, work on understanding yourself and learn to trust yourself. Getting therapy or joining a support group sex addicts, alcohol anonymous, anger management etc. This will show her you are serious about change and it will give her a ray of hope that things may be different in the future.
Get your ex back after you cheated. Long distance relationships are a tough one. If you and your ex girlfriend broke up because of long distance, then you are in for an uphill battle. Long Distance often causes a couple to lose attraction, lose connection or betray of trust. But you are seeing her through the rose colored lenses of post breakup denial. This is why I have included this task in stage 2 of this mission. Once you have accepted the breakup and have gone through grief after a breakup, you will need to figure out whether she is worth it.
Here is one article that will help you do that. And read below for some actionable tips about this. What happened in your past relationship with your ex-girlfriend is past. Because YOU are going to be a better version of yourself. In fact, the insecurity that pushed your ex away and caused her to break up with you, is the result of years of negative feedback you received from the world and yourself. And if you fake it, your ex girlfriend will eventually see through it and start thinking of you as manipulative.
Thankfully, you have enough time to work on your confidence during the no contact period. So check back on this space later to figure out how to rebuild confidence during no contact. This is very important if your ex-girlfriend broke up with you due to loss of connection. Or if you both argued constantly and could never come to a reasonable conclusion.
One of the most important relationship skills you can learn is proper communication. If you can be a pro at handling conflict with your girlfriend, each fight you have will bring you closer together. If you learn to empathize and understand her on a deep level, the connection she will feel with you will be unparalleled. So, work on these two skills as they are very important in not only getting her back, but keeping her permanently. This objective is optional for one very simple reason.
Your ex girlfriend was physically attractive to you at one point of time. So, she will be attracted to you again. But it sure helps. If you spend time with your friends and other girls, you will feel better about yourself and realize other girls are interested in you as well. Your awareness level is the most underrated skill. But it can have a huge effect on your happiness, your confidence, your well-being and your relationships. Needless to say, it helps you become a better version of yourself and will increase your chances of getting your ex girlfriend back.
If you are working on something you care about, your mind will focus on only that and you will forget about everything else. Moreover, working on things that you care about will give you something to speak with your ex when you end no contact. Guys who are passionate about things other than their girlfriends are instantly seen as more confident and less insecure.
This objective is again optional. The reason is simple, the no contact period is more about you and less about your ex girlfriend. Getting her to miss you will help you in the short term but is not very effective over the long term. If you sacrifice your priorities because you are trying to get her to miss you, you will suffer in the long run.
Getting her to miss you is a nice side effect you can achieve by putting in a little more effort. If you try to play this game of social media jealousy with her, you will lose.
If you find yourself obsessing over this, do not do anything to make your ex miss you. Instead, just stay away from social media altogether during no contact. The truth is, everyone can and should strive to improve themselves and become a better version of yourself.
The objectives of this stage are pretty straight forward. Get Her to speak to you again normally. Get her to smile or laugh at something you said at least once. This stage is called the dragon of resistance because there is a big dragon which is guarding her from opening up to you and giving you a chance to rebuild attraction. These are all very valid reasons to not speak to you. In fact, if any of that is true, I would not advise your ex gf to reply to you if you contacted her.
But hopefully, we have taken care of this in Stage 1 and Stage 2 of getting her back. By now, you are a better version of yourself. You are more confident and you are sure that things will be different when you both get back together.
In this stage, your goal is just to address the first three assumptions that your ex-girlfriend has. You can show her how things will be different later when you are speaking to each other regularly. If you mess up here, your ex girlfriend will put up her defenses instantly and you will have to do no contact again for a month or two before trying again.
There can be two scenarios in this case. Either you and your ex left on good terms. Or you acted in a way that left a sour taste in her mouth about you. I speak about this in my article on texting your ex-girlfriend again here. I call this the elephant in the room approach. You acknowledge the elephant in the room by stating everything that happened and apologize for it. At least for five days. If she does, you are free to talk to her. She still might have her defenses up and if you act desperate or needy in any way, it will confirm her doubts.
Just end the conversation on a light note and make her feel good about it. If your ex girlfriend laughs or smiles at something you said, you can be sure that she has eased up around you and will give you a chance to rebuild attraction and connection. Think of something that you both enjoyed. And use it to your advantage.
This could be a TV show, a youtube channel, a videogame or a coffee shop. Think something funny about it or think of something a pleasant memory. And then just text her about it. Well, I just remembered how I once almost reached the hall of fame for finishing the super large burger when we were drunk and threw up all of it only minutes later. You made fun of me for hours.
But I am sure you can do something better than that. More importantly, you probably know what tickles her funny bone. So, think of a joke that you think she will find funny and send it to her. A deep connection is the difference between lovers who stay together forever and lovers who are together for only a short while.
If you can learn to develop a deep connection with the woman you love, you are going to etch yourself in her heart like no one else before you. You will be able to turn even the biggest flaker into a loyal, loving girlfriend. You want to slowly increase the amount of time you and your ex girlfriend speak. Once you are able to make her smile or laugh, she should be open to hear more from you. To do that, you must first make an effort to understand your ex girlfriend better than anyone else.
Better yet, you need to understand her better than she understands herself. If you can achieve that level, you can rest assured that your ex girlfriend will want to stay with you forever. Here are a few topics that you should speak about to make her feel understood and connected with you. Talk about things she is passionate about. About the things she cares about. To get her to start talking about things that she cares about, you should start talking about the things that matter to you and you are passionate about.
I loved that show you did at the club house. Man, I wish I were that good. How did you become so good at it? Our childhood is the deepest corner of our psyche that pretty much rules our adult life. Talking about your childhood and how it affected you is a great way to understand yourself and your ex girlfriend on a deeper level.
Again, use creative questions like,. It was an amazing family time for me. Did you have a place your family went to for summer vacations? Finding common enemy is a great way to make friends. You can use this to your advantage. Speak about the person she likes the least and try to understand why she dislikes her or him. By validating her negative emotions about this person, you will make her feel understood.
Chances are, your ex still has feelings for you. She might also have some negative feelings about the breakup or the reasons that lead to the breakup. Getting her to talk about these things can work to your advantage if you do it right. Even if she talks about something negative about you or your past relationship, you should not take it a bad sign.
You can prove to her that you have really changed by remaining calm and handling conflict and negative feelings like a pro.
But, it can also affect you badly if you are not prepared. Getting her to meet you should be easy if you build a strong connection with her over texts and phone calls first.
Just tell her that you want to meet up with her for a coffee. A face to face meetup is your ultimate opportunity to increase attraction, connection and trust with her. But you should not rush into it. You should be speaking to her for at least a couple weeks before you ask her out. If she refuses or is hesitant, give her a little nudge. In this case, just focus on rebuilding connection with her on phone and ask her out again after a week. If you suspect she is dating someone else, read this article to figure out what to do.
If you are in this stage, you risk ending up in the friend zone. This usually happens to guys who are too afraid to speak about difficult topics and try to stay in the safe zone. In other words, this usually happens to guys who are too scared to lose her. Who are scared that the wrong move will make her stop talking to you. Who are scared that if you screw up, she will block you and never speak to you again. If you look at it from another angle, this happens to guys who are still insecure at this stage and have no confidence.
Guys who have put their ex girlfriend on a pedestal and refuse to let her down. If she feels that you are too timid and really want her in your life to feel good about yourself, she will keep you in her life, but as a friend. She loved you and probably cares about you, but she will not get back with you out of pity.
She will keep you as a friend and use you for emotional support though. The first thing I will ask you to do is read Stage 2 of this guide. If you are confident and secure in yourself, she will probably not think of you as friendzone material in the first place.
But, if you still feel like she is using you to just dump all her emotional baggage without giving you anything in return, do the following. Have an equal relationship: If she uses you for emotional support, use her as emotional support.
If she talks about her feelings, you should also spend enough time talking about your feelings. If she asks you to pick her up from the airport, ask her to do the same. Instead, set a boundary. Yes, she might stop talking to you for a while, but she will respect you more for it and will probably start talking again when she misses the connection you both have.
A lot of guys make the mistake of asking your ex-girlfriend out as soon as they start speaking to her. If you ask her out too soon, she is going to put up her defenses and will become reluctant. In a lot of cases, your ex girlfriend will do or say things that she knows will make you angry. She will try to get you to react and act the way you acted in your past relationship. If something makes you angry or upset, you should address it, but you should not do it the way you used to do.
You should breathe, calm down and tell her clearly what makes you upset and what are your boundaries. Alright mates, this is the final boss. The moment you have been waiting for. Because when you meet her, you will have the ultimate opportunity to show her how much you have changed and how things will be different this time. She is going to be skeptical about a lot of things. And for good reasons. You both had a relationship and it ended badly. If your first meeting ends up with both of you just talking about the breakup and your past relationship, it will look like that you are both meeting just to get closure.
Instead, you should use this time to talk about what has changed in your life since the breakup. You should talk about the good times and good memories.
And you should have a good time together and create good memories together. If she wants to talk about something that happened during the breakup or your past relationship, you should be willing to talk about it.
You should be able to resolve the issue swiftly so you can get back to having a good time with her. A lot of time, guys try to avoid any difficult topics because they are scared their ex girlfriend will become upset and the date will go badly.
Instead, learn how to handle arguments and negativity in a conversation. Learn how to understand her without patronizing her. Learn how to be an adult in a difficult situation. If your date goes well, try to extend it to a different venue.
You should take the lead and ask her to join you for something else. Kino is simply a term that is used to describe the art of touching. You want to have physical contact with you ex girlfriend as much as possible during this date.
You should also use intimate actions as much as you can. Actions that only couples do with each other. Scroll down for video. Tinder will make good on its promise to become more inclusive and introduce a number of other genders for users to identify themselves as. From here, users can type a word that describes their gender identity or pick a search result which best reflects their identity. All users have the option to display their gender on their profile as well. In a video released with the update, Rad said: The update has also added new information to educate users.
The Internet did what it does best, ridiculing the situation on social media. What did we do to deserve this? While the update includes the ability for users to better identify their gender, the search results will still bring back three options: Tinder users were left a little lonesome recently, after the platform crashed affecting millions. Users across the UK, Europe and parts of the US reported issues, including messages not sending, matches being deleted and problems logging in.
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