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Hey, great article, thanks for putting it years ago, it is all relevant now. Between filling the coffers and fulfilling their dreams, Cole and his friends all struggle, but ultimately it's Cole who must come to terms with what course his own future is going to take, and who, if anyone, he is going to take along with him. Sasuke Uchiha is the patron saint of this.

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Mike and Lucy,the two main characters, are officially this as of Chapter Amen, love is an action and a decision. In North Africa like in many parts of the Middle East, sex without marriage is considered unacceptable. I wish I could find an article more recent in regards to this topic. Mother Rytasha said it best: It is based on the same principle. Don Henley and Glenn Frey wrote the title song to The Long Run partially based on their strained friendship and how they were optimistic that they would work it out like they always do.

There wasn't much ill will at the end of their climatic battle, either. They patch things up further in Metal Gear Solid. Snake even still considered Fox a friend in one part of that game. Metal Gear Solid 4: Over time, they went from close friends to the most bitter of enemies.

Whilst at the end Big Boss no longer feels hate for his old comrade, it is far too late for them to repair their friendship as Zero's advanced age had left him a brain dead shell. Leon and Krauser, where they aren't happy to see each other after several years since their last meeting. Their soured relationship is further explored in Resident Evil: The Darkside Chronicles where Krauser sustained a nasty injury on a mission with Leon and was forced to retire from his unit while Leon, who was a fresh government agent, got awarded for his actions in the mission.

Krauser's retirement left him without a job and he became resentful towards Leon. When Wesker offered him a job as a mercenary, Krauser took the chance knowing that he would run into Leon eventually and extract revenge upon him. Frank eventually meets Kent, a fellow photographer whom he gets along quite nicely with. Until Ken seems to crave a little too much for sensation. Varric and Anders by the time of Dragon Age: After Anders's atrocity at the end of Dragon Age II , if Anders survived the final battle of that game, if asked, Varric bluntly states that he has no idea where Anders has gone, and frankly, he doesn't care either way.

Shepard and the Virmire Survivor in Mass Effect 2. Joining up with terrorists no matter how noble your intentions after apparently faking your death will do that. Especially when the leader of the terrorist group in question does not want your old friends anywhere near you.

Worse at the start of Mass Effect 3 , although they're prepared to hear you out. Depending on whether you take the time to clear the air, they can end up rejoining you, going to work with Hackett or dying at your hands. That last one's not too hard to avoid, though. You know the Commander? I've changed my mind. I don't want to see that fucker's face again. You managed to even make Rios hate you, you evil sack of shit. Just thinking back to the old days when we were friends.

And I'd say something like 'come back', and you'd be like 'no problem! What happened to those days? I loved you, brother Agent Washington and the Meta.

Season 9 revealed that they were closer to each other than really any other Freelancer. After returning as a vengeful ghost Lewis feels this way about the rest of the Mystery Skulls, especially Arthur who murdered him. It's unknown whether Lewis knows that Arthur was possessed at the time. Mike and Lucy,the two main characters, are officially this as of Chapter They were actually friends and crushes for the first half of the comic, but come Mike's "The Reason You Suck" Speech to Lucy in December, he officially cuts off ties with her.

He later comes to regret it when Lucy attempts suicide in Breaking Up and tries to apologize to her not so much to rebuild their friendship as to show regret for taking it too far when she comes back from being put on a bus between that chapter and Love Again, only for Lucy to make clear that she no longer wants any ties with Mike.

Retroactive example in Homestuck: Vriska actually used to be pretty close to Aradia and, in particular, Terezi, but after she started going too far and becoming Chaotic just for the sake of it, both turned their backs on her, their relationship irretrievably broken. Even later when Terezi remembered their friendship and wished they could return to it she couldn't pretend that Vriska wasn't evil or that she wouldn't work against her if it was necessary.

Gamzee and Karkat were moirails after Karkat pulled him out of his murderous rage. During their isolation on the meteor, Karkat makes a point that he won't reveal where Gamzee is, and Gamzee admits to wanting to keep his relationship with Terezi secret because he fears for their friendship.

When they finally get to the Post-Scratch Kid's session, their relationship has fallen apart because Gamzee didn't hold up his end. In Evil Plan Stanley Kinesis back in college and William sever ties after a fight about the telekinetic chip. Possibly subverted, as it was recently revealed that they're still on speaking terms. Why this is has not yet been explained. Their bond is ruined when Tarvek gets sent home for spying, after being told on by Gil- when in fact Gil was his partner in crime, and the secret they were after was the truth of Gil's origins.

In the present day, they vie for Agatha's affections. Gil views Tarvek as a "weasel" and an ineffectual dandy; Tarvek, for his part, sees Gil as a libertine cad.

Played with - for all that they insult, snark at, and oppose one another, it's quite apparent that the two still grudgingly respect, and even like, one another a great deal. Those members of the fanbase who support a certain inclusive conclusion to the comic's Love Triangle point to these moments of Aww, Look! Blank stayed loyal, Black decided to use his newfound freedom to sell his skills on the open market and tries using his successes to convince Blank to follow his example.

In this case, it doesn't end well, and the falling out started before Baam even realized it: The moment he followed her into the Tower. In the end, she drowns him and he barely survives, crushed by the fact that his only family, friend and possible lover now hates him, where the only thing he truly feared was being alone. She ends up cancelling the deal in front of a huge audience , Sony makes his own console as revenge and they become industry competitors.

Part of the premise of Crepuscule is how Lark and Setz were once each other's only friend, but after Setz abandoned Lark for understandable reasons that Lark doesn't learn for a while and they spent ten years with no contact while Setz Took a Level in Jerkass , things are obviously rather tense between them now, with Setz too withdrawn to explain his actions and Lark no longer caring about him. Thankfully, they patch things up.

And then Lark Took a Level in Jerkass to even bigger extremes, with Setz pulling this card this time—and again, at the end of that season, they mend their friendship. The bonds between the group are heavily damaged when Sandra turns on them, forcing Jack to banish her to another reality.

During her stay in the Subfusc, Sandra is able to regain her morality and feels remorse for her actions, but she doesn't expect them to forgive her for what she did. Years later, when her former friends hear about her return, they are terrified except Crystal, who still has hope that Sandra will go back to her former self, though she admits herself that she is at her limit. Cynder and Zonoya used to be best friends until Cynder became cursed, scratched Zonoya's eye and drove her away.

In The Gamer's Alliance , Vaetris and Jahi were once prostitutes in the Demon Realm and close friends, but things changed when they were abused too much and Vaetris's ambition to change their living conditions turned her to the path of conquest, bloodshed and manipulation whereas Jahi chose to nurture her young instead, which set the two on different paths.

Ronove and Nesa became friends while the former was amnesiac but once Ronove regained his memories of being a demon lord, he took back his position in the demon hierarchy and ultimately betrayed his friends, Nesa included.

However, both cases are more complex and grey than that and have shades of Friendly Enemy because neither Vaetris nor Ronove act in a truly villainous way and they do seem to care for their former friends somewhat whenever they're dealing with them although in both cases manipulation is also involved.

Saphir was okay speaking to him in Season 1 but not helping him finish the quest needed to get a sword , while Ystos is still friendly to him. In the web-serial Ash And Cinders Orym and Thavian were both Wizards, both trained under the same master, and are brothers.

For some an-yet unspecified reason, had a falling-out that's led at least two known nearly-lethal encounters. In the web novel Worm , Taylor and Emma's childhood friendship ended after Emma ends up being attacked and, seeking to change her world views, cuts ties with Taylor and starts bullying her. The Nostalgia Critic and Santa Christ. A lot of it is due to Critic fucking up like accidentally shooting Santa Christ in Kickassia , but there's also Santa Christ taking a level in jerkass. Aaron deals with two brothers who were once good friends, but drifted apart and are now estranged.

He's the reason why the original Storm Hawks are all dead. Occurs in the second Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles cartoon between Leonardo and the Shredder's adopted daughter Karai, who in previous seasons had developed a rapport of sorts with him, despite their Feuding Families.

When the turtles successfully stop the Shredder's plan to leave Earth to conquer the Utrom homeworld, and end up getting him imprisoned and exiled , Karai takes it as a betrayal, and vows to avenge her father. Later, after Karai destroys the turtles' lair and believes she's killed the other turtles and Splinter , she heads into April O'Neil's shop and asks her to give Leonardo a message.

When April asks Karai whom she's never met before how she knows the turtle, she responds with the trope name.

Krabs of Spongebob Squarepants. They used to be close friends but are now mortal enemies because of the Krabby Patty formula. The Last Airbender reveals that Aang's predecessor Avatar Roku used to be best friends with a lot of Ho Yay with Firelord Sozin, the man who started the Fire Nation's war for world domination, and committed genocide against the airbenders.

The Alicorn sisters Princess Celestia and Princess Luna used to jointly rule Equestria together until Luna became bitter and resentful when their subjects favored Celestia over her, turning her into Nightmare Moon. After Luna is defeated and returned to normal centuries later, however, the two sisters reconcile. They used to be childhood friends, but their friendship is broken off after Dash finds out that Gilda has been bullying her other friends behind her back. This bitterness carries over into their reunion in "The Lost Treasure of Griffonstone", though Pinkie Pie proves that Gilda has a heart of gold and helps them make up in the end.

Discord attempts to invoke this in the two-part season 2 premiere "The Return of Harmony" in order to keep them from using the Elements of Harmony against him, using a combination of mind control and mind tricks to get Twilight's friends to behave opposite of their respective elements. He very nearly succeeds in pushing Twilight over the Despair Event Horizon with her corrupted friends, but Twilight overcomes his mind games with help from her old friendship reports and lifts his spell on her friends to take him down.

In "Amending Fences", Twilight is shown to have drifted so far apart from her old friends at Canterlot that she can't even remember their names. As soon as this dawns on her, she immediately sets out to fix things. While most of them are willing and eager to reconnect , her closest friend Moondancer wound up holding a deeply seated grudge because Twilight brushed off her one attempt to be more social and then left without saying goodbye, which caused Moondancer to isolate herself in her books and studies much like Twilight herself used to do.

After Moondancer finally vents her pent up frustrations at Twilight , the two patch things up. Lance's Whole Episode Flashback shows them getting along amicably but most of the show is Modula holding the King hostage.

The King is surprised when he discovers Modula was behind his planet's invasion. Jacob and Kane along with Dr. Hudson, although he's not really a bad guy in Motorcity. Jacob now fights KaneCo with the Burners and helped design their bots, which gives him some inside knowledge. Mystery Incorporated , Scooby was on the outs with Shaggy, who he had discovered was romancing Velma, and with Velma in a jealous snit over Shaggy.

Fortunately, fences were mended soon after. The Tiny Toon Adventures episode "Citizen Max" shows Buster and Montana Max used to be the best of friends when they were younger, they shared whatever they had because Max was poor, then his parents won the lottery and Max became a selfish, greedy jerk and cut off his friendship with Buster Codename: The second-to-last episode of the show, "Operation: Chad had apparently mentored Nigel back when he was a cadet, and Nigel was close enough to him to call him "old friend".

Thus, Chad's betrayal was a cut so deep that the two developed a huge rivalry that lasts the rest of the series. It eventually boiled down to this episode, where a Chained Heat situation strains their already tenuous relationship to the breaking point, and by the end, they're trying to kill each other. Even after it's revealed that Chad was a Fake Defector , his disappearance afterwards and his behavior throughout the episode makes it evident that the bridge is burnt and that there's no salvaging their friendship.

Sharon and Arch-Enemy Nina Harper used to be real good friends until the second grade, when someone mysteriously chopped off the heads of Nina's dolls and she blamed it on Sharon. The Steven Universe episode "Maximum Capacity" reveals that Greg and Amethyst used to be good friends who enjoyed watching tapes from an old sitcom together. Their relationship is more strained now due to Amethyst's resentment over Greg monopolizing Rose Quartz's attention when they started their relationship and Greg spending less time with Amethyst as a result leaving her feeling even more alone.

Greg admits he would like them to be friends again, but not if it means he has to put up with her hurtful behavior. The latter never forgave BoJack for not coming to his aid when he was blacklisted from the entertainment industry for being gay.

Season 3 ends on a particularly friendless note for BoJack. Todd has had it with BoJack's selfish, self-destructive behavior and gives him a "The Reason You Suck" Speech in the third-to-last episode of the season. BoJack has fired Princess Carolyn as his agent. Ford used to be close friends with both Bill and his brother Stan but external circumstances have him end up falling out with the two.

The former, Ford realized that he had been betrayed when he only used him to create a portal between two realms to the point of paranoia. For the latter, his brother ended up ruining his college dream and disowns him along with his father and only bothered to contact him for a menial task.

In Recess , T. However, even though they don't hang out anymore, they made an agreement that T. Capote was jealous that Lee won a Pulitzer right off the bat with her first book, and that he never won one despite being a famous and acclaimed author in his own right.

Vercingetorix and Julius Caesar , if the latter is to be believed. Also with Ceasar and Pompey the Great. Caesar actually still considered Pompey a friend during the Civil War between them and genuinely grieved at Pompey's brutal murder.

Likewise, Caesar and Brutus. He spared the latter for siding with Pompey, and was supposedly quite shocked when the latter stabbed him. And on this topic, Syd Barrett and the rest of Pink Floyd. Syd Barrett left the band due to his increasing mental and psychological problems, and eventually withdrew himself from society all together.

Years later, Syd Barrett visited the band in the studio while they were recording their latest album. However, they didn't recognize him at first due to his having gained weight and shaved off his eyebrows and hair, and when they did eventually recognize him, it caused Roger Waters and Richard Wright to be reduced to tears.

And the song they were recording at the time? Aside from an encounter with Waters at Harrods a few years later, this would be the last time the band saw Barrett until the day he died. Don Henley and Glenn Frey wrote the title song to The Long Run partially based on their strained friendship and how they were optimistic that they would work it out like they always do. The band and their friendship broke up for over a decade a year later, but reunited in until permanently disbanding in after Frey's death.

When Eagles guitarist Don Felder refused to sign a deal that would give band leaders Frey and Henley a much larger share of band profits, that resulted in his firing from the band in , and alienated him from everyone else in the band, including the laid-back Timothy B. Schmit and Joe Walsh. He remains friends with ex-Eagles Bernie Leadon dating back to their high school days in Florida and Randy Meisner, though.

To be fair, Felder had long had a contentious relationship with Henley and Frey, and was the target of the latter's ire during the Eagles' last gig in before their year disbandment — a benefit gig for Senator Alan Cranston where Frey was audibly threatening Felder during the set.

Eventually, Jamukha was declared a Khan himself. On the contrary, sworn brother, in the black night I would haunt your dreams, in the bright day I would trouble your heart. I would be the louse in your collar, I would become the splinter in your door-panel I am not trying to protect her. She is a very simple and naive person even tho her work place is very complicated. She is a human and can make mistakes and be confused when she is unhappy in our existing relationship.

I mentioned she misjudged me on my value, right? She worked in the casino for 6 years in a different department. Her friend lets name her AAA helped her to get this new role as a waitress. She really appreciate AAA helps. AAA did a lot of background work for her. We are Chinese and our culture is like this. And of course I paid sometimes, just not everytime.

I explained to her first, AAA helped you by building a bridge so you get the job you wanted. She is also at a different stage of life, she just recently became a grandma, her husband owns a big house and a business. There are many other ways to pay back someone. So, from this example, you can tell she is a very simple person. And I like that part of her very much! The world is complicated enough already. I see this as a quality of her.

In early week the night we texted for 2 hours. She asked me many questions on values. She gave me confidence to quit my old job and took a job that eventually requires public speaking. She got me out of my comfort zone big time! Today I feel better as I read a lot last night. Sun no sleep, Mon 3 hrs, Tue 0, Wed 3, Thur 0. Be positive and happy. I know it takes time.

I know I should try to go out as much as possible. The breakdown feeling would suddenly come and I have to hold myself really hard to not really breakdown. Just hang in there, Tim. Things will get better. This is something that we all go through as men.

My woman of 13 years says she needs space but this is only after I found out she was sexting another man and had gotten physical with him twice. She broke down after it was out in the open, then she says thinks she has feelings for this guy but she knows the feeling is fleeting. I overreacted at this point and only made things worse for a good week. Now we are at the point where she tells me she wants space to do her things, go out when she wants, do things around the house on her own, see this other guy if she want etc.

She says that we are friends now and that she will never rule out gettin back together because of our history together, she just needs space.

How do I know when too long is too long and I just give up on getting her back? I need a path to walk and I can walk it I just need a start. Should you get back with her? If you can accept that fact and choose to give it another shot, you should avoid all contact and let her come back to you.

No amount of calling, texting, sending flowers, or anything else will make her feel attraction for you again. She has to miss you and want to come back. Again, 13 years is a long time, but always remember this — Whether you get back with her or not, you can always start a new life with another women. What do you feel you want to do at this point? My gf told me the other day that she needs to be distant.

I am not really sure what her outlook is at this time and it hurts. Last week was my birthday. We had a trip planned to go away with a group of friends to celebrate. A couple days prior to leaving, she came to me and said she might not be able to go because she has some family issues with her brother relapsing. I told her i support whatever decision she makes. I was thinking about all the money she spends on personal stuff and how that seemed more important than saving money for the trip.

I explained to her that i felt like she prioritizes her money differently then i would, because i make personal sacrifices so i can do things with her and that if she included me in the final decision i may have offered to help her with money. While i was away we communicated through messages, i was under the impression that although we both had differences with priorities, we were working through it.

She wished me happy birthday, said she misses me and wishes she could be there to share it with me. While i was away, she became more distant and i asked her whats wrong. I tried to give her some reassurance. I really wasnt having much fun without her there, and i tried to explain that to her and that i wish i could help her.

The whole time, she and her friends saw pictures my friends posted of us out doing things looking like we are having lots of fun. She kept saying i want you to have a good time for your bday and i tried to, but contrary to the looks of the picures i was really down. She told me she bacame indifferent about us and that its too much ontop of the family issues and her trying to launch her website.

I owned up to my part, but she said she needs space to do her things. I asked her to please define that, and she said she is not just gonna leave but she needs to be distant.

I told her i respect that and will do as she asks. A few hours later she messaged me with rage, after she saw more friends pictures that looked like we spent a lof of money. She said she was pissed that I can call her out for not prioritizing her money while i was out spending money and never even offered to lend any to her to go.

That night i dropped off the gifts i bought her on the vacation to her porch. Thats how we left off. The next day i wished her success in her launch of her website this week and she thanked me. At this point i feel like i put myself out ther and the ball is in her court, i am a little shaken up. What do you think?? Accept the situation, deal with the pain, and move on. My girl of five years suddenly asked for space.

She said sorry and asked me to respect her decision. Of course, emotions got the better of me. I said some things. I begged her not to leave me but to no avail.

Since then I walked away and felt like shit. Months ago she asked about what my career and personal goals are. The truth really is I have a plan for us and myself. I recently subjected for a promotion, which means a significant amount of pay increase.

I was also planning to propose to her by December. Even though I really miss her and want to talk about how we can salvage our relationship. Please advise when is it alright to contact her and what approach should I take for us to sort things out. It can be for a lot of different reasons. I recommend you check out my book where I cover this topic in-depth so you can probably get your question answered.

Maybe you spent too much time together, maybe you kept doing the same things, maybe you got dramatic when the two of you would argue. Again, the reasons are endless. You can download my book here. I have done a lot of stupid things to hurt her. We have been broken up for over a month now. To this day I will go over to her house to see the dogs about twice a week when on one is at home.

We rescued together 4 dogs. I also still have her garage door opener and she has my garage door opener as well. Girlfriend still has some things at my house as well. Right now it is a week since we last text each other but then I was the first to send her a text. All her text messages would be that she is not coming back and she is done. Because I have never seen the kind of behavior from my Girlfriend before. We met up this week and spent a few days together and enjoyed it immensely.

She makes me happy and she says I do the same for her. It went about as well as a first few days together could possibly go and we both genuinely want to be together. She also has a tendency to push people away out of fear of hurting them and by extension, herself should things not work out. But you should leave her alone and let her come back to you.

Maybe she just needs some space. Give her a week alone and then contact her again to say sorry. I accepted then she changed her mind. We are together now but I keep saying things that she says makes her question me and reminds me of her ex she left of 7 years the start of I told her it would of put me of and she flipped out questioning to be with me again I tried to say sorry and make her feel better.

But she replied with leave me alone. Wait a week, then contact her again. If things are not better at that point, you have to leave her alone, my friend. All went well for the first month then she suddenly changed and has been out partying without me. She went out for an evening to go to a party looking amazing. She wants to have some space to figure out whats going on so that time alone will be good as we live together. I just feel like she has changed and I have no part in her life now.

I understand that couples need to have a split between their own lives together. I know it sounds petty but her not wanting to sleep With me is really disheartening. I feel like we are only friends now sharing a house. Just friends, which is what a man and a women are when there is not intimacy. Oh yeah and on a side note I offered her a massage and she flat out declined.

Which was weird as she always lover to get a massage. I asked her and she said it was because she was tired. Which is strange because I offered and was not asking.

Do I be patient and see how she is after a few more weeks to see if anything changes or do I move on when I get back after we talk again. Break-up with her and move on. You deserve a lot better.

When a women sleeps out of the house and ignores you, she lost all respect for the relationship. Move on, trust me. We made out the first night and she was unsure if she wanted to pursue things further so we agreed to getting to know each other first. We hung out the next weekend with other friends and again it was great.

But then she had a busy and stressful week, so she needed time to herself to recharge. She wrote a social media post stating she needed space from all her friends, but kept replying to people.

I was confused, so I sent her a few short messages over two days. I guessed it was due to her stressful week, but I was still hurt hearing that. We clarified things that were miscommunication between us, but its left us still rocky. I said things in my hurtful state that have upset and angered her. I miss her terribly. I want her in my life. Im in the dark about what to do.

I know the feeling sucks, but the best advice I can give you is to move on and start meeting other women. But this made so much sense in such simplistic terms, I felt like I just stepped onto the planet for the first time. Really, how much more simple could it be? Sometimes we forget that we were never in control in the first place and this will be no different. You may not get what you want but you will get what you need. Thank you for this breath of fresh air.

May girlfriend of 4 years and 3 months asked for space last Sunday. But I always make up to her. He continues to be online at unusual times really late at night or early in the morning. If I make him happy, why look at others? Plus, he said he wanted space? This guy i met online and he said he needed space to get over an ex. Its been 6 weeks no contact. His profile was still on but he took down his pictures and remained inactive for a month but just yesterday went online and reattached his pictures.

Anyway i think its A. Is he trying to test my reaction and call him out on it? Why do guys do this??? I thought he was a genuine nice guy. He told me he loves me and he said he meant it, and would never cheat on me, and I believed it.

He constantly went on dating apps to talk to other girls and he confessed to me and told me he cheated on me. I felt hurt because I thought I knew him and I thought cheating would be the last thing he would to do me. I never thought he would do that to me because of all the words he had said to me about how much he loves me and so on.

He said he is serious about me and called me wifey. He brought me to his parents but seem to be quite scared of letting his friends see me. My boyfriend is very self-centered, which he also admitted. Sometimes I feel like he only cares about himself, pays a lot of attention on himself rather than on me now. I even flew all the way just to get him to talk about this with me because I thought I had to talk about this with him. Since our last huge fight regarding him talking to other girls he said he had deleted the dating apps.

But he would still talk to a few girls he met on okcupid on whatsapp. I asked him why, he said because this girl called Dion had recently been to korea and he just wanted to ask information about traveling to korea. So that obviously was an excuse. Although my trust to him is kind of broken but I still want to trust him again.

We talked about this issue almost every night and I told him I feel hurt that he still talks to girls from dating app. Then I asked him if he wants to meet friends then why only talk to pretty slim girls but not guys? Why only pick pretty girls to talk to to be his new friend? Why does he stil want to meet other pretty girls?

After another conflict again his mind changed a bit. I said nothing, because minimizing still means he still gets to talk to them. Although we are ok now but I just feel so helpless. My friends kept telling me to dump him.

But what about me? Why are men like that? Hello, I read ur full story. I think you are the opposite of me although we share sth in common, I am also an observant girl when I am dating online, which is what I am doing now.

However, I would do the opposite if I found out the guy I am with is doing all these dating app things behind me. You have made him feel like you will never leave, and he can always get you back as long as he stops it for a while. What I mean is, dress up and make up urself everyday, keep yourself in the best condition, and go out to meet friends and new guys, and let him see these changes! I donno if you have thought about this?

If you want to make him become obsess with you, you should just go back to the one you were before, the one who attracted this guy to fall in love with you.

If the guy looks at your profile, you get a notification. The advice in this article is terrible. His actions are speaking louder than words. He wants something better, or someone else. Since that moment I knew I had to break contact with him since we were not on the same page.

I will have to trust his decision, and if I ever feel like my mistrust of him is too big to continue, I will let him know and I will break it off, just like I had intended the first time. This dating scene nowadays is tough , it is tempting not only to look around for other people because dating websites are just a click away, but snooping is easier as well, and very tempting.

I wish you all luck out there, be smart. Why did you let him talk you into staying with him? Your gut instinct was right. Life is too short to waste on second best relationships. I would rather be single. I my name is susan like to call sue. I need to start looking for a honest guy. Iam 49 year old. Have four grow up children. Was engaged to a man but he been cheating on me, please need to leave and start anew life, i lost myhusband in Now my life is tore up. I wish I could find an article more recent in regards to this topic.

I myself have been dating a guy for a little over a month. Well, curiosity killed the cat, so I created a fake profile and though his was hidden, there are ways to search and find it regardless. I realized he accessed his account and kept mum. I suppose my issue is that his profile IS hidden therefore does not show up in any searches, so why is he accessing his account?

If HE emails someone, they then have access to his profile and it can go from there. SO, why would he go and do something that would make me doubt him. Let alone make me feel like he is keeping me around until he finds something better. You know the answer already. If you were your own best friend, what advice would you give yourself. Your gut instinct is right. Value yourself and find someone who wants you and no one else. I disagree with the advice in this article.

The guy HAS given her a reason to distrust him. He offered exclusivity, yet actively participates in an online dating community. When a person last logged in is public information.

How transparent is that. Totally agree with you Moops. Trust is very hard and someone should give you reasons to trust!

I agree with you Moops. I had been dating this guy I met online for 4 months. I told him I was taking down my match account. He said he would also. Not only did he not do that, he joined pof and meet me!

I decided to still give him the benefit of the doubt. Yes he really said that! I said he was the one who was searching. Girls, stop the madness! I was honest with myself and realized I was only with him because I was lonely, and it is so hard to meet someone nice, but I was doing myself a disservice. Still trying to find the one….

This very thing happened to me. Wasted an entire year on this man. Gave him the benefit of the doubt in the name of trust and it was a bad decision. Now I not only wasted a year but have spent six months trying to recover emotionally and am going back into the dating scene with less trust.

If he is logging in…… he is looking or communicating and the bottom line is… you will never be able to trust him completely because this will always be in the back of your mind.

A truly excellent reply. This article seems to expose a type of man that is rotten to the core and is capable of using women without any conscience. The whole interaction left me feeling sick to my stomach.

I completely agree that if someone is still checking dating sites after committing to someone then they are leaving options open,stroking their ego,or seeing you as for now person Its disrespectful and breaks trust not builds it.

I met someone in my home area on an online dating site. We have gone out 3 times in two weeks, and have several dates already arranged for the coming week.

We are both divorced and he has a child almost every weekend, so we typically do not see each other from Friday to Monday night. I took my profile off the site because I believe it leads to hurt feelings and in my little mind, why make him not trust me.

What I did was set up a bogus account and I can see he is on the site each day, even after we have gone out. He is on and off the site daily.

There are times I have been on the phone with him or in the midst of sending a text back and forth when he is on the site. I really want to find out why men do this? If they meet someone and apparently things are going well, so what is up with men who need to see or chat with other women? It was after telling him this that he asked me if I can go out with him on several days for the coming week. So what is up with men you meet online and how they still log in and show chat venue open.

I have been going through a similar situation and would really appreciate the feedback on here. Im 24 yrs old and im very attractive and have never been in a real relationship and crave that part of my life with someone special.

I have been on the online dating scene for 3 yrs and have been on sooooooo many dates and havent found anyone who I am remotely interested in until 3 and a half months ago. When it comes to me and dating I think I have the worst luck and i cant even get past the 3rd date with someone so I am always walking on pins and needles each time.

But here is my situation:. He first told me that he wasnt looking for anything super super serious and i said well lets take it slow and see where it leads to. He was always treating me like i was his gf and i met one of his close friends and he took me and my sis and his friend out for dinner. I never had any guy treat me like that. This guy always mentions me to his neighbors and friends but we dont have a label on it.

He also talks about personal stuff with him and his whole family and i really thought we were connecting. I also attempted to lose my virginity to him. I never told him i was a virgin the whole time and then it just came out and he was at first mad but then he understood where i was coming from and i kept asking him if he was ok with me not being experienced and he said he was.

But always in the back of my mind it has been bothering me that i am inexperienced because he has been around the block and would leave me for someone who is great in the bedroom.

I am alsooo very very shy around him because i like him sooo much and i feel sooo out of place even when doing stuff in the bedroom.

I just cant seem to snap out of being scared and shy when im with him. Recently i just went on match and saw he was active within 24 hrs and im like wtfff. I feel sooo played but i dont wanna jump to conclusions and he hasnt contacted me in 2 days and im feeling like he wants to find someone who is way more experienced than i am. But the thing is we really connected and I dont think anyone can come close. Its sooo strange cause we started hanging out together times a week recently and he just cant stop staring at me at every moment wen im with him.

Im sooo scared to lose this guy and dont know what to think right now. All my friends that I ask think he is playing me and i dont know if i should even listen to anyone because everyone can have their different reasons. Im really falling for this guy and I never ever pressure him on anything cause i know men dont like to be pressured so i kind of take each day as it comes. Yes, suspicion can destroy a relationship if it is unfounded.

But sometimes suspicion is justified. Hana, this guy is looking around while enjoying you and wonderful qualities. Match and eHarmony screen pretty well, and if a guy has an active profile on a site like one of those, it usually and I would say A girlfriend or boyfriend can usually tell it the profile is real in any number of ways — if the profile has exact details about height and weight, the writing style that was used, etc…..

This girl is just going to get hurt. She should leave the guy ASAP. The majority of these guys that get on these dating sites especially Match never get off.

Imsges: we were dating now she wants to be friends

we were dating now she wants to be friends

Not that they didn't still respect each other.

we were dating now she wants to be friends

I have to add that he struck me to be honest and good from the very beginning, and he never gave me reason to not trust him.

we were dating now she wants to be friends

That's what drew her to me. The director immediately downloaded the score and listened to it for days. They patch things up further in Metal Gear Solid. Random Tropes Random Media. And by the way, I think that applies to things beyond romantic relationships frienfs well. Going out on a limb can be roller-coaster scary because none of us want to be rejected or to have our heart broken.