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9 Things You Didn’t Know About Dating for Seniors

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Many older women looking for younger men — but reality is that most men are not looking for older women. How did you even learn to use the internet? I had a few that really blew my mind.

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My message was for H. People with cancer are as diverse a group as people without cancer and trying to figure out what to say or do is a complex and land-mind ridden task. Women are better than men. I feel like I am in control of my life. That too says that they don't fully respect the men they want to marry!!! Can I even write that you remind me to notice moments, any moments, more often and more intensely?

Please let us know how you go! Andrew just come across your site but find its women on your blog never done this before perhaps need help have now one to ask. I agree with almost all of this — but the part about the phone? I get along fine in person, even in restaurants, but my cell phone is a trial. Hearing aids and cell phones are not a good match….

Email can be a much better alternative. Look thru a handful or more on Match or any other site and women over 55, as an example, are just as restricvtive on age range than the younger generations. I defy anyone to show me otherwise. Trying to decide which membership plan if any to upgrade to.

It was interesting to read the comments. I noticed that there were very few men who contributed. Is this normally the case, and more importantly, is this an accurate barometer of numbers of interested males verses females?

Thank you for taking my question. It would be great if the ratio was 1: Having said that, we are constantly working to increase the number of men on Stitch, and always welcome new suggestions to help in this area. We also notice that our men are much less likely to write comments on posts and activities than our female members — I think most online social media sites observe a similar phenomenon.

Good article except that while I agree that it depends on the fitness etc of the person that can vary with ages, particularly as we get older, fitness is usually not included in the profiles and I believe there are still some differences in views and needs between generations.

For instance people still working, even part time, have different needs to people who are retired. A relationship may still work, but may have more complications. Also past histories, which still make us, even though we change and evolve, still have some impact on who we are and our perceptions, and people whose ages are significantly apart are likely to have less in common. While people may die at any age, there is more likelihood that someone 70 has less active life left than a person 55 and that could be important for people looking for long term relationships.

Who wants to be left on their own when they are older because their partner died much earlier if it can be avoided to some extent. I think an indication of the age of the person is still important for us mature adults. No need to state age preferences if not wanted but at least it gives a bit more ideal about a person than can be provided in the limited profiles.

This article is spot on! A lot of these folks, would be hard pressed to try dating 30 years ago without cell phones, instant messaging, internet or restaurants, entertainment venues and such on every street corner. All we need is good driving weather and possibly a bladder break or two.

Some people may not mind, but others do, for various reasons — time available, ability to travel, preference to have friends in own location etc. The same applies to ages. Sorry to hear that Jennifer. If so please report the members concerned so we can take action. I am 56, very recently retired, very active, fit and adventurous. Is this a venue where I may find mature women of similar traits?

Lucky to be retired so young! Stitch is definitely built to help people like you meet mature women with similar interests. I agree with all of what is posted and would add that everyone is differently unique and looking for someone who compliments their specific qualities.

Wishing everyone much success and many loving connections….. Great article, well written and extremely thoughtful.

Age is just a number and there are lots of us out there looking for a n other. Would you please use the word sex at least once in a while. I am no old dude in a trench coat. I want to date, share and have sex. Are there woman out there over 60 who desire friendship yes. Your site is a very, very good site. I am not complaining.

I just called up your profile on Stitch and was a bit confused as to where you are located — are you in the Canary Islands? I will turn sixty next month. DOes anyone else out there feel as if they are still in their thirties — I do. THanks to my love for exercise in all forms I have managed to stay quite fit and my age has not restricted my activities of daily living.

I would love to meet someone my age or even older who I can have great conversation with, a man who is respectful and know s how to treat a lady and is also fun loving and loves great home made food admitted food snob ONe thing worries me however — I have heard of many woman and I am sure men as well, that have been burned by someone they initially thought to be Great and subsequently revealed their true colors.

So pleased you found us J! After being a widow for two years, I am just recently getting back into the dating scene and everything that you stated is spot on..

This new dating game is altogether different than when I dated 55 years ago. I am a 80yr old woman looking for friendship a casual relationship. Men in my age group are all looking for younger women. Absolutely agree with all the points made here. Just started connecting — in person — with a guy that eHarmony matched me with. It was the same story, over and over, without much variance. Single dad, daughter usually in boarding school in some foreign country.

Trust is important, so is companionship, and not necessarily marriage or looks. More and more senior people are looking for companionship online now.

Since many senior couples have their first date as a result of their meeting on a senior dating site, that means, of course, you two should meet in a well-light, public venue. That means, yes, you drive to pick her up. Only after the two of you are a couple and well past your third month of commitment can you start asking her to meet you at the venue.

This is just a thought, but, did you ever consider a way to meet another senior in a city you are visiting just to have dinner or see a play or see the local sites. Thank you — seems like a great idea. Do you think this will be a possibility in the near future? A 84 I may not have too long to search. Best wishes John S Hawkins, Lincoln.

Yes the current state of pretty much every dating site out there is quite horrible. Stitch is very different. I am glad I have found your site as maybe another elderly woman lived the same situation in the past and could give me her opinion. I am 67 years old woman and have been single for quite a while.

There is this 79 years old gentleman who keeps asking me to live with me. We went for supper a few times but he is very persistent and even though I appreciate his company I am very concern about developing a true relationship with him.

My worry is about age. He is very fit at 79 years old with a recent bill of health. If I agree to live with him how worried should I be about future health issues. I am too old to lift him if he falls. I cannot give him a bath once he get disable. I know it can happen to me as well but in 10 years he will be 90 years old. Should I be concern and not get involved with someone 14 years my elderly?

This is not out of selfishness but consideration for both our ability to take care of each other. I could get sick sooner than he and maybe he will not be able to take care of me.

A relationship is more than watching TV together or going for a visit at the zoo. He is a fantastic guy and I wish I had known him many years ago. Maybe someone would share their experience in a similar situation.

Thank you to those who will. Glad you found us! Let me know if you need any help! To me, if I were to find someone, I would like someone to be here 2 or 3 nights a week and I could do the same at his home. You are so right to consider if he becomes disabled and you would then feel like you are required to take care of him. Undoubtedly, that is what this man is thinking about. Do NOT feel obligated to have him live with you.

Tell him you love if you do or care about him very much but at this stage of life other arrangements are unnecessary.

Seniors experienced with loss crave love, companionship, excitement, and potential longevity. We rarely find what we set out for. If you find your soulmate, suddenly age becomes less important. An element of risk becomes a companion. Men risk financial security much more then women simply because more times then not, they can. The nurturing woman is more apt to risk her heart and overlook age and potential health issues for the right man.

Love amoung seniors has a depth and commitment unknown at any other time in life. It is also more complicated then other generations can imagine. Right decisions with the right mate is a gift beyond words.

Wrong decisions with the wrong mate can be crippling for life. Why does it seem like society is so against women over 50 being proactive in finding love?

On-line dating for Seniors is very hard. Looks are still important! Loyalty and commitment to only one partner is important. Filtering is very important, especially about things like religion, ethnicity, age, weight, etc.

About the only point I really found true in this entire article is that TRUST is very important — but i think that is true for all ages, along with respect and loyalty. For women, a lot more difficult. Because men always seem to want the younger women and when I say younger I mean the under 35s. Skinny, blonde, the whole 9 yards. If you are over 55, not white, and overweight…forget it. No one wants you.

That is the truth. Get used to being alone lol. True…trouble is the men want to text as well.. Sadly, that seems to be the going thing.

Men have had access to, specifically, on line pornography since the internet… beautiful young woman on line they pay to have pleasure with. With the onset of senior dating sites some men go to dating sites instead seeking woman who will oblige them with naked pictures of themselves and sexting and the cost for men to experience this is their site membership and their time. This appears as an alternative for men who may be having some sexual dysfunction occurring because of age or illness or men who are not interested in being real with a real person that includes emotion or a relationship.

Whatever the case may be this is happening since these men want to experience pleasure however they are able get it. Times are changing and the way men and women relate is changing to. The idea that men and woman are seeking fun and adventure rather than spending their later years alone is exciting and challenging.

As a woman I believe the boundaries we had and the expectations we had about men needs some tweeking. Men are not bad and evil for the most part.

In fact they are for the most part good people that see and feel and experience the world differently than woman. No person, man or woman wants to feel on line pressure to do anything they are not used to…so here in lies personal thresholds that may need some readjustment and thoughtful consideration. The way we choose to text and talk to each other and finally meet makes all the difference. At 80 having had polio 76 years ago and lived normal life, raised 5 kids, had a wonderful husband that died 20 years ago.

All kids married with children living all on their own with good jobs too. I walk with a crutch and have good health, drive my car around town but miss conversation. My dog even died. At this age most of my friends are gone too. I guess God has no need for me yet.

In the meantime it would be nice too have someone to talk with instead of only the girls at Mcdonalds. I was married for over 40 years when my wife decided she wanted to go in a different direction as we were very young when we married.

I was very hurt but after being divorced for a year I realise she was probably right and we remain close. I am quite fit and active for my age and would love a companion with similar interests and outlook however I am terrified of dating sites and as I live in a very small community the opportunities to meet anyone are very limited? Every time I have thought about online dating or the like I have backed away because I do not have the confidence to progress it.

Probably writing to ladies in the first instance is my only way of eventually getting out there and building that confidence. I noticed in your testimonials that some people got together or became friends after corresponding. Thanks so much for sharing such an honest and open comment — even posting a comment on a forum like this can be challenging, let alone trying online dating! Hi, I believe I will be the only person you have heard from who says I am 90 years in age. I feel very lucky to be in good health and still drive and do my own errands.

I was married for 68 years and had a wonderful husband who I lost two years ago. He was a fantastic dancer and I miss dancing now. I would like some one as a friend and likes to be active and dances and likes playing cards and enjoys life like I do. I also believe there will never be a man in this category. You sound as if you had a wonderful marriage, thanks so much for sharing.

Most are even better after hip replacement. Personally I can now hike over 7 miles with a few thousand feet of gain and still feel great. And the golfer, Tom Watson almost won the British Open with hip replacement on both hips. And that includes walking the course, usually 4 plus miles.

Really, get educated folks. I am a Michigan raised woman ,I like the arts and also go to a theatre going to see real people act. I have went to grafting school. I would like to travel in my retirement years and watch the stars. I am very honest person,and I am looking for a man who knows how to treat woman with respect and honesty. And has no other woman to hide. I am a British male in his 70s, in excellent health and solvent, who would like the friendship and company of an unattached lady — fairly close to me in age — looks of no importance.

Trouble is, I live in mid-western France, and practically all my friends here are in happy relationships. I have wasted my time with other dating sites who could only suggest members living three hours drive or more away — a long way to go for that first cup of coffee. Hi, I have just discovered Stitch! Am a 74 female, who speaks English and French and is looking for male friends, female friends I have lots.

I am in the middle of changes at the moment and am trying to reconfigure my life. I like to travel, read, write but am trying to overcome a fractured knee at the moment.

I am also the proud grandma of 4 grandchildren. So glad you found us Marie! I sent you a message about half an hour ago. Could I please slip in one more word: I have also met younger men and seem to enjoy their fresh attitude, just not sure about how life looks at younger men.

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Emphasis on age on Match. Where To Go From Here? Ric June 3, at Andrew Dowling June 3, at Jasmine August 24, at 2: Andrew Dowling August 24, at 2: Jasmine August 25, at 6: Shirley September 21, at 9: Ji Li February 17, at 4: Carmen December 23, at 1: Tom September 5, at Linda November 20, at 8: Chambers December 3, at 2: No — life is not fair to mature women.

Glen January 5, at 6: T January 17, at 4: Miz Kitty March 6, at 8: Elizabeth April 5, at 2: Andrew Dowling April 6, at 4: Johanna R June 22, at Earl July 24, at 8: Denise March 30, at 4: Leslie July 10, at 8: A J Silberbusch September 14, at The real gorp September 20, at 6: Rudy December 21, at 8: Nancy June 4, at 6: Landou November 26, at 7: Doug August 3, at Christopher June 5, at 1: Andrew Dowling June 5, at 3: Hi Christopher, Thanks for such a thoughtful and insightful comment!

Eileen June 6, at 3: Andrew Dowling June 7, at 3: Nancy June 7, at 8: Cynthia June 8, at 9: Andrew Dowling June 9, at 1: Maya June 9, at Andrew Dowling June 9, at Trudy June 10, at 3: Toni June 11, at 5: Maybe you are on to something. I would give it a fling. Deby June 11, at 6: It would be fun to have friends to go out to dinner with, movies, and etc. Bethany June 12, at 9: Cynthia June 12, at Andrew Dowling June 12, at 3: Hi Cynthia, I got a lot of feedback from people about the age I chose when I first wrote that post, so Stitch is actually open to anyone over Cynthia June 12, at 5: Don October 10, at Andrew Dowling October 11, at 5: Hi Don, The only rule we enforce is that you need to be over 50 to join Stitch.

Anne June 12, at 6: Keep up the good work. Deborah June 12, at Andrew Dowling June 12, at Brigid June 13, at 5: Alba June 13, at 8: I will like to. Martha June 18, at Andrew Dowling June 18, at 4: Stephanie G June 25, at 6: Andrew Dowling June 26, at 6: Hi Stephanie, Whereabouts are you located? Lorraine October 17, at Aimee March 3, at 9: Freda March 11, at 7: LovApp March 31, at 3: Michelle April 12, at 7: Andrew Dowling April 12, at Andrew Dowling April 14, at 4: Hi Violet, Thanks so much for such encouraging feedback!

Howard July 31, at Ellen April 28, at 6: Andrew Dowling April 28, at 7: Susan August 13, at 9: Age 71 Regards Susan. Jenny May 11, at Helpful post, I like it….!!

Margaret June 12, at Marcie Rogo June 13, at 9: Thank you so much, Margaret for bringing up that point. Email is a great alternative! John July 8, at 3: Judith July 20, at 8: Stitch seems promising and certainly different than the other sites. Andrew Dowling July 20, at 6: Jane July 25, at Andrew Dowling July 26, at 6: Denise August 6, at 5: Mark August 8, at 6: Denise King August 9, at 6: One thing that makes PerfectMatch unique is that it has a section to help married couples improve their relationship.

However, the website seems to be poorly monitored, which allows many scammers to run freely among the site. Often these scammers will ask you for money or personal information that should never be given out online. While this site can be a great tool for meeting other seniors with common relationship goals, you should watch carefully for warning signs so you can avoid falling victim to scams.

This is a popular dating site but some users have complained of running into scammers and people with fake profiles. They have not been in business long but they do have a large database with many beautiful, real women and men searching for someone to form a lasting relationship with.

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BBWPersonalsPlus and many of its members host events where you can gather in a safe place to meet in person. Since it is the main site to many smaller ones, it has a very large number of members who are located all over the world. They have a lot of great features that makes it easy to find matches in your area.

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My wife left me and off course with the kids and foolish drunk me happily signed the divorce papers. Everyone wants to tell me about someone they knew who died of cancer, no one has any good stories.

things not to say on a dating website

After she put him in his place, he then tried explaining his credentials and who he studied under. There is this 79 years old gentleman who keeps asking me to live with me. El, you have amazing spirit!

things not to say on a dating website

It only makes matters worse that my oldest is from a previous relationship and she has an entirely different last name! Gay men will give you all equal rights? I believe God gave it to me to zay like your family member said. And Adam said, This [is] now 30 dating 23 of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: Absolutely agree with all the points made here. Cheers, Andrew Stitch Community Founder.