Bringing My White Boyfriend Home to Mom
Recent racially charged media such as the axed Cheerios commercial and the Trayvon Martin case reopen my wounded heart every now and then. Same principle applies to men. It is even more heartbreaking to read the comments. Cant listen to music they want to.
Travel with your daughter internationally if possible. Continue to pray for your fathers salvation and relationship with God. Let me tell you that one of them has come to work with bruises and once a black eye. So we talk and talk and talk. My black step dad hits me with his cock
Does society place more value on mixed women or black women? Totally agree with you. A good man is a good man, irrespective of skin color. So is a no good man. Nobody needs to be demonized because of race, but nobody should get a free pass because of it either.
You have thrown your lightning bolts down from Mt. Dark clouds roiling, winds whipping. The grand pronouncement made. Enough about you Mr. The best message any mother can give is to judge a man by his character. His character, and not his color. You accuse of her being a hater without any evidence. Her message was clear to me when she said: This woman may be jaded but placing her in the same category as white supremacists is outrageous.
Those are immediate and you need provide a healthy model for her as she grows up. Let her have friends of different races and talk about good and bad friends and what makes them such.
Teach her the importance of having good character and values such as respect, fairness, honesty, compassion etc. Most parents I believe want the best for their kids but like it or not there will a limit to how much influence you can or should exert with her dating choices as she gets older. Encourage her as she grows up to have big dreams for herself in different areas of life.
K, I read her response and I agree. Good and bad men come in all hues. What would the OP do if she had a son? Like someone said, there are black men all over the world. It kills me how people come up in here and try their best to make me some evil black man hater. Thank you for being a TRUE gentleman and defending my honor. And that is actually pretty sad when you think about it. Am I the only person on this blog that have had mostly positive experiences with Black people including Black men?
The last article was full of people talking about Black women attacking them and now this…SMH. I guess people experiences are their own…. And this is coming from a nerdy, eclectic Black girl who went grew up with mostly Blacks, went to a Black-majority school, and lived in a Black majority neighborhood. And I never oncefelt bothered, afraid, or left out. Empathy is a virtue.
Everybody got a blog about how everyone hates them. We especially me, the publisher encourage women to take responsibility and empower themselves and do what is necessary to acheive personal and professional success. I been following blog for awhile and much of it seems like victimization to me. Read many of the comments of this post. I was so not surprised to see a certain person show up on this topic! And there is a such thing as preference.
This is exactly what is wrong with America today, so many people are obsessed with the color of the skin or race.. Men of all races can hurt a woman, not only black men. The writer needs to be more focused on raising a healthy baby who will grow up to make a change in this world, not a baby who is going to be consumed by what race men she should date. Id be lying if I said that I didnt think about this issue, myself.
Id pretty much would say to my children, everything Chris said in this post. I feel that encouraging our daughters to have standards is the best security against her bringing trashy men home. To the mother of the breathtakingly beautiful little girl; I have 4 year old and 2 year old sons! Call me… just kidding. I date white men and my son is bi-racial. It is just my preference. I am in love with a wonderful man right now. His Mama, Grandmama, great grandmamma, aunts…black lol.
My Father, brother, grandfathers ,uncles, all black. That would be disrespectful to the men that really disrespectful to myself. I love the skin that I am in and possibly this sister does not.
She is appears to want to find a solution to her inner conflict. Personally, I think you should be honest with your daughter. You should let her know you would rather she date other races of men. I always appreciate people who are honest with me good or bad.
Not every AA will respect me as a person, and not every white person will disrespect me. The AA men who approach her want die if they are rejected for their skin color. And many black men like biracial women soley because of their light skin. There is a such thing as preference. Many of the women on this blog only date white men.
Well, yes it is. Too many people is taking SOME black preference that by the way, in my experience many other races of men share exp. But if you come in here talking about my kids your ass is out. Criticize me all you want. Mess with my kids and my family and I will give you hell. As a mother, you want nothing more than to protect your children from all harm and hurt. And, to have the best life possible with nothing but happiness and joy. But as a mother, the desire to protect is still there!
However, I think the chances my daughter would actually be interested in such guys are slim to none! My daughter is seeing first hand what she should look for in a man by way of her father. And ultimately my advice to her would to be to accept nothing less than the protection, provision and care she has seen her father display.
For myself, I knew very early on I was primarily attracted to white men. So, when I began dating in college, I dated white men exclusively. However, my daughter is her own person and she may choose differently. Really, any guy regardless of race that seeks to date our daughter will face immense scrutiny and vetting from my husband and myself.
Same thing withe hair doc. Can I ask you a honest question.. Is the sad, bitter, abused, desperate,petty,whining Black women image good to you? Because I will counter, according to whom? I have also been lucky enough to not have any real life negative experiences with black men directly. My negative experiences have been non-dating situations.
My experiences were like the one I had with Kevin, who lived on my block, taking issue with me having lunch with a white male class mate, it was NOT a date at all. At the time I had never dated outside my race. The hypocrisy was staggering. I would discourage my loved ones from dating someone like Kevin regardless of race.
But, take the first page ,for example, half the post are self-help but the other half are obviously not. I got a whole different view from this post. I got that she thinks certain characteristics make her baby to be better then full black kids.
My children are black my daughter looked the same way when she was a baby and my son looked as if he was Indian from india compliments all the time. I want my kids to find someone to love them for them and treat them good.
I want my kids to love all and not to make a decision on color of skin but on character and how people treat her. And after a while I felt with some of the things I did say to my son could also have him develop opinions based on mine. I want them to know and think for themselves with my guidance of certain situations that may arise in their lives.
I am with you tifa1. I have had positive experiences with black men. That is why I tell black women to date the men that treats them the best. Do not limit or single entire groups out.
If you date for a few weeks and there is no connection, move on. As a women who has dated men of all races and has a child with an Italian man, I am no longer excluding races like I once did. Of course there are loser black baby daddy thugs, etcs. Hardworking men who are looking for marriage.
So in conclusion, black women please date the man who will love you and treat you the best. If we take a good look on how we as Black women are being treated, ask yourself an honest question, do I want my daughter going through this? My sister is trying to move our of her apartment and get away from her son because he drives her car around and now he has about 5 tickets on the car.
She was asking my parents can she stay with them. But yet she will tell you about how there are the elusive some not all black men are bad. I will tell my daughter or in my case nieces to look and think long term.
Most black men come correct with the non-black woman because he knows there are many more eyes on him. They are not going to let him lay up on the non-black woman. You hear in Kris Jenner tone on how she wants Kanye to do this or that.
I have seen many Black women either kick their sons out or run from their sons. Too many Black women and children have been abused and in some cases murdered and other Black men have stood around and done nothing. So we are talking about the collective patterns. I am going to say this. As Black women stop lifting any one who does not lift us up.
Most if not all black men have succeeded off the backs of Black women. Then he takes the resources else where. But let him get into trouble and who is usually the first to be out there on the front line?
But when it comes to long term, will he be there or will make like a disappearing act and the when he can look good via graduations will he only show up for the good or will he stick it out for the LONG TERM and not only when he feels like it. He is a racist and color struck. I have had the polar opposite experience with black men. I seem to find the hardworking mushy ones who want to get married lol.
My ex and father of my child was white and I would rather stay single than have to ever go through that again. WIth that said, I just hope black women will vet the best man for them on mental, emotional, and financial levels and not settle. AKA vetting and scrutiny…………. LOL Had I only listened……………. My goal is that every black woman who reads this blog will be emboldened to be the best they can be. She of the many questions. I have a question for you. If if you do I suggest you spill it pronto.
Kanye has not been the best partner during her pregnancy. He will probably marry her and it might even last. She knows that Kanye is not the best person but she was looking at the fact that he is rich and famous. Also, she did not want to be embarrassed publicly so she hung in there.
And I have been saying the same thing about Kanye. He is going to act a little better than he would be if this was a black girl because he is being watched by the world. The media reports every little detail about their relationship. I was just watching this show on Fox the new one with Tamar Braxton and I caught a glimpse and she is talking to this guy it looks like who does not want his son dating a black girl.
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Sign in to add this to a playlist. You are now leaving Pornhub. Go Back You are now leaving Pornhub. My man finally understood why I waited so long to tell my family.
I had to make sure he was the one. They finally announced they would attend our wedding a month before the big day. My father walked me down the aisle. They begrudgingly accepted my husband because they still wanted me in their lives.
Our phone calls were still strained, but my parents only truly came around after my daughter was born almost 9 years ago. After the long journey, my husband is now part of the family. Thien-Kim Lam imnotthenanny For twelve years Thien-Kim Lam has been doling out relationship advice and sex tips while simultaneously hawking edible body powders and vibrators at in home toy parties.
Every woman deserves a happy ending. Have you ever dated outside of your race? What would you add to this list?
Imsges: my white daughter is dating a black guy
At the time I had never dated outside my race. October 9, at 8:
Also a rasmussen poll asked all races which race was the most racist, every group said blacks are the most racist including blacks.
My brothers and I all grew up, all became Dr. The best she can do is to instruct her daughter well in how she relates to people. Remember me on this computer not recommended on public or shared computers. Getting back to the OP the blavk she can do is lead by example. Once again, where have I called for blind allegiance or preferential treatment?
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