What To Do When Your Spouse Is In Love With Someone Else

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And being able to figure things out on his own is something that builds confidence in himself and will help him be ready for you sooner rather than later. So I married anyway. However, saving it will mean putting your marriage on a different path to keep another affair from happening in the future. We were working on our relationship and then he had begun talking to her at the end of April and stopped again on May 9. He thought it was just an email address for a nice lady who will do the emotional and logistical labor of telling you how to avoid consequences for your poor choices.

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Often hard to find those in parenting. Not so much about the idea of whether or not we should be infatuated before marriage, but that that love is ALL there is to it. This is why they were able to stay together. AND he has a partner there who probably hopefully?! This woman he talking only wants his money. Yes he is handsome and so attractive with the girls, way back a year ago, he fooled me many times, he had sex with so many girls. I have also seen some people end their relationship because they were chasing this type of passionate love.

I still love him and I want him back…. I cant really believe it. Can someone help me out? She said I have really hurt her. We only dated for a day. Because during the next day of our first date, I did not look for her at her locker and I did not even hug her or kiss her. It made her angry. So I was at the gym in school when I went to sit beside her. She just laughed and I asked her is she angry with me? Then she got up and told her friend to come and tell me that she wants to break up with me and just be friends.

I was really shocked and it pained me but I kept it in me and instead of going to apologize I said okay. I have now really regretted.

It really pains me. What can I do to get her back? Being away for some time my ex got in a relationship with some guy but when I came back she shows me that she still loves me….. Should I move on or what? When we got together, I told her I was under depression and on medication for it and if I chose to break up with her, it would be because I could not, in all fairness, commit to the relationship due to my condition.

I sank into depression due to a previous informal relationship which ended on me being cheated. I also told her I would be heading overseas for my studies in She was fine by it. She lives about 15mins bus ride away from me. Everything went fine and I begun feeling much happier and relied less on my drugs -or so I thought-until a few weeks ago when she begun tearing when I sent her home.

We have never argued once. She said she felt insecure, afraid, and confused as regards my overseas studies and my lack of time spent with her.

A few days later, I met her up and broke up with her. She cried a lot and as I walked her back to her place, she gave me a hug and told me she wants sometime to think over the entire situation and that we should not break up at this point. I agreed to it. Even after agreeing to be together, she looked really worried and depressed the entire day. I told her it would be the best if she thought about it again and she agreed. The day after, we met and petted and in the midst of it we agreed to work on the relationship.

A few days ago, after she came back from an overseas holiday with her family, I noticed she behaved slightly less expressive towards me, was less warmer and no longer made the time to meet me as she would have.

Over the phone, I posed my suspicions if she regretted being in the relationship with me and if she had any feelings for me. She was silent and begun breaking down. We hung out and text. She told me she felt like she could no longer open her heart to me, and subsequently, she told me she no longer had any feelings for me. I anticipated this to come, with all consideration of her needs and wants at her age.

It, however, hurt and saddened me tremendously. We broke up on Wednesday night. Someone whom said she would stood by me and never leave me to someone who said she no longer had any feelings for me and its in my best interest to be with someone better.

On Friday night, I met her to express my thoughts and officially end the relationship. But she gave me a hug before I sent her home. Her tone very so cold and rock-solid.

We agree to meet next week for me to pass her some stuffs-photos of us and letters-before going on no contact. Is this relationship a lost cause? Hi, what about people who have mood problems or other issues? ADHD affects my impulses. I do have therapy to help with the associated issues like low self esteem but in the end this is my biology.

So what can I do? I will rather not be alone for the next 18 years personally. My girlfriend just broke up with me tonight and I have never felt worse. She is already seeing other people. I really want her back and had no idea what to do until I came here. What am I saying hell yes I do. I feel so confused would making her jealous help or maybe the new guy needs a fist to the mouth even though that would not help.

I might do it anyways. Okay, one thing you going to her house is just messed up. No way you are gonna get her back with that. Just you need to text her not go to her house or call her or set up a date or what ever! Tell her how you feel and if she feels the same way then call her. Take it step by step, little baby ones, not engagement on the 2nd date, that will freak her out! What must I do? So my boyfriend broke up with me about a month and a half ago and we had not contacted each other since.

I have kept up well with the no contact rule, and not at one point after the break up did I act clingy or needy. I kept all my facebook status very positive as you said and took the time to work on myself, and I feel great!

I do still have strong feelings for him and there are so many things that I want to tell him. But you said the best thing is to keep things light and emotion-free. He mentions in his email that he misses my friendship and wants to be friends. What exactly does he mean by that? And should I stay friend with him even though I want him back? I have already composed a reply to send to him which i based off of the magic letter guidelines:.

We both just needed some time apart to heal. I just want to let you know that I respect your decision to end things and that I saw it coming for a while. Also, I would like to apologize for how I acted during the break-up. I have been very well actually.

Busy as usual, but trying to enjoy the nice weather. Oh, something happened regarding me and CLK the other day. I still need some time to process. I would just like to know when the best time is to send the reply and if what i put to get is proper. He still wants me in his life as a special friend and said from time to we can meet up but its on his terms only.

I have already done the texting thing and possibly came across as needy. I just miss him so much my heart aches and I can hardly breathe. I need to regain my thoughts and be calm and stop panicking. But he did, unlike others, he was genuine, it took me a year to know he was. Like other couples, we have been through a lot. But, I would like to try to get back together with him in the future since it brought out the best of both of us.

I was acting like a text terrorist, I began being stupid and started hurting myself knowing it would be hard living without him. An advice would be much appreciated. About 2 or 3 years ago I met this guy named Austin and I dated him for like a few days to a week then he would break up with me. A few days later he would ask me out and I always said yes.

Well we dated for 2 years on and off. When we had to go to school we still stayed up all night on the phone then when we got home we would be on the phone til the next day. Hi, I just split up with my girlfriend of 7 years. We were great together, completely in love and talked about marriage and growing old together, we traveled the world together, everyone knows us as a perfect couple, we never fought always laughed together… however the last 2 years have been very difficult.

We have been living together for over 5 years but the last 2 years have been a stressful living situation as I had to take in a friend that was in need. I also started my own business which kept me extremely busy. I am completely devastated, hurt, lost and just want her back.

I love her completely. We had a few discussions before she left about trying to work things out, and she felt I took her for granted…I had stopped treating her with appreciation and love. I agreed that I have to be more romantic and be an equal partner in the relationship. Over the course of the following days I showed her love and appreciation, treated her like I had done in the past however she still wanted out.

She said she needed time and space to figure out what she wants. I told her I would not give up on us but I would give her space that she wanted. She said she still loved me and care a lot about me but was just hurting. She moved out but left a lot of stuff. I told her I would show her that I am still that man she fell in love with and that I would win her heart back….

I broke up with my ex 7 months ago, I was desperate and I asked him to come back to me more than once. A month ago he started dating another girl but she left him.

S The last time i asked him back was like two months ago but he said he just wants to be single. I feel all of those thing because I love my ex girlfriend. She is the mother of my child. I want her back so bad because she was my first love. Well…I was in a long distance relationship. My ex and I were together for about a year, but in those twelve months we broke up about twelve times.

All I want is a family with her because honestly she is perfect for me and I…was perfect for her. I might as well be honest, gaming took over my life and because of that I hardly ever go out or do anything. But anyway I really need to change and get her back, I want a life. My lost love of more than 2 decades, married, returned to me with promises of giving me a good time. They seek any counsel, from Christians or otherwise, that empathizes with their position and gives any encouragement whatsoever.

So is doing the right things. If your spouse has told you that he or she is in love with someone else, I suggest you do the following things. Good people sometimes do really stupid things. However, if at heart they are good people, they are worth rescuing. Or, if he or she is a good person involved in a bad situation, you can fight to save your marriage. Our experience is that if a good person gets straightened out, not only can the marriage be saved, but it can be stronger and more loving than it was before.

If you decide to try to save your marriage, immediately stop allowing your spouse to manipulate you in any way. Slow things down and drag things out even if it makes them angry. Time is on your side, especially if you continually pray for God to intercede and bring trials and tribulations into the sinful relationship. At the same time, do not cling, beg, whine, plead, or manipulate. It makes you less attractive and intensifies whatever justification he or she has mentally made that allows leaving you.

When a person believes that you are there no matter what they do, they have no compulsion to do right. When they see that you can live happily without them, you become more attractive. Take care of yourself physically, intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually. Your life will not end if your marriage ends. God will still be in heaven. He will still love you.

Other people in your life who care about you will still care about you. No matter how much you love your spouse, life can go on and be good if he or she leaves you. The time to take care of you is NOT after the chaos has ended. You must do it now. It benefits your family. And, believe it or not, it often helps bring the spouse back, though you cannot do it for only that reason.

When you are sure that your spouse is involved in something, or with someone, that is wrong, arrange a group to do an intervention. There are time-tested and proven ways to do interventions. You cannot be part of the actual intervention, so pick people that he or she respects or cares about. If your children are old enough, add them to the group; they make great interveners. Share this link with everyone who will help in the intervention.

Make an offer of some benefit that will come to your straying spouse if he or she agrees to try at least one thing to save the marriage. Pray for wisdom as to what may motivate your spouse. People have come to our workshop to salve their consciences, to get their church leaders off their backs, to make the children happy, to get a better deal in the divorce, and more.

Are those good reasons to come? Any reason is a good reason because for over a decade our success record is three out of four couples, even for those who did not want to be there and for those who came while madly in love with someone else.

Whether you use our services, a counselor full of faith, a minister, or any other help, do something. If you have a desire to save your marriage, act.

Sitting alone while having a pity party does nothing good for you or anyone else. You cannot make your spouse do right, but you can make yourself get out of the dumps and back on the road of faith in the God who speaks universes into existence.

He will not abandon you, even if your spouse does. We see miracles every month. If you wish to save your marriage, wish to heal, and wish to help your spouse heal, please call us toll free at or complete the form below for more information. We care and we wish to help. Our success rate over the last decade is three out of four marriages saved, even when adultery, porn, anger, or other things have deeply hurt the relationship!

She said that she is in love with another man, I do not accept this since we married each other and our vows were forever till death do us part. Today she spoke to a divorce lawyer on how to proceed with it. Please help us with your prayers and God bless you all.

We will definitely keep you both in our prayers. He can give you more information about our highly effective programs we have to help you save your marriage. Gustavo I am sorry for your pain and hurt. This thing we call marriage can be so painful and hurt so much at the end.

It was never meant to be this way yet for so many it ends bad. I will say a prayer for you and your wife tonight and my god give you the strength to weather through the storm.

My wife has recently left me after 13 years and the hurt, pain and love I have for her is never ending. Please turn to the bible and try and get help and assistance during this time of stress. Please pray for my relationship to last. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and 5 months ago he send a message to another girl to tell her that he loves her. I have a 1 year old daughter with him and I hope that he will try to make it work.

Monika, I am sorry that this has happened. While I understand that you want to make your relationship work because of your child that you have together, you must also really decide if this is the kind of behavior that you should have to deal with for the rest of your life. Since you are not married yet, you do have the option to decide if you want something better for yourself.

However, you can still make this relationship work. There are some more articles on our website that could help you figure this out. Thank you for this reply. I am still dealing with trust issues because of what happened but he stoped taking to that girl.

But even though he has not talked to her for one year I am starting to notice that we are very different. He is more outgoing and sometimes imberising.

I am more quiet and emotional. I still dint know If I should ever get married to him. Thank you for any prayers that will help me decide. It still has not sunk in that he has left. He already has her in his house im pregnant and have a 3 yr old i really dont know what to do i really love him and will like to work things out.

We can definitely help your marriage, and we have seen situations like this in the past. There is still hope. My husband and I have been together for 7 yrs married 4yrs in total and seperated for 2 of those 4yrs. Through out the entire relationship I was the more dominant one. I worked and he took care of home. I expressed my frustrations time and time again.

His sons mother and his mother were disrespectful toward me on occassions and when I expressed how it made me feel he never addressed it. I eventually started seeing someone else. Through our entire separation my husband has expressed how he wanted his family back. By this time he has been dating other women as well. I agreed to work on us.

Since me giving him the green light nothing has happened. We have meaningless convo. Fran, it is not unusual for a spouse to show intense desire to reconcile a marriage and then once the wandering spouse agrees, they no longer show the same level of interest.

In fact, it is common for the spouse wanting to work on the marriage your husband in this case to become angry or even apathetic after the straying spouse concedes to fixing it. When the spouse is straying, there is a level of fear that propels wanting to get him or her back. Once there is a sense of some kind of security, they let the anger show and get the best of them.

This does not mean that you should go back to not wanting to pursue the marriage. There is help and hope for your situation. It may take some work. It does seem that there is something that keeps pulling one of you back to the relationship…some rope that gives you a reason to try and work it out. I strongly suggest that you look into our workshop for marriages in crisis. It would turn your marriage around.

My husband and I have been together for five years and married for four. We have three children together, 3,2, and a five week old newborn. My husband is in the army and has been deployed for almost nine months now. I never thought my husband would ever cheat on me. If we somehow work through this episode, how can I ever trust him again? Prayers would be much appreciated!! It is possible to save your marriage from an affair, and it is possible to have an even stronger marriage than before after it.

Your husband being in the army means that he has many, many negative consequences that he could face from being involved in an affair, as affairs actually require legal action in the military. If you choose to work on your marriage and do what you can to save it, then you are in a good position to do so.

If you want to know more about marriage help, please contact us. After I confronted him, he admitted and said that he was madly in love with her and that their relationship was already beyond sexual. He confessed that they had 18 month together the other woman is also married. I got angry and get hurt. However I told him I took responsibility for whatever I did wrong that made him go after another woman.

I expressed my willing to work on this marriage and make it work despite the infidelity. I asked him to go to counseling with me.

Yet he said no. I asked them both to stop communicating for a while, they both promise they would, but to no avail. He said that he is happy in a way he never was with me and that he regrets marrying me. I can no longer deal with the pain. I can no longer endure how he goes and meets with her. So I decided to move to another state to heal my heart. I wonder is this the right decision? I love him and want nothing more than my marriage to be healed and have the loving relationship we once had.

If leaving at least for now is the right decision. Your prayers are most needed and appreciated. It is a hard decision that you have made, but as long as you have expressed to your spouse that you wish to save the marriage and he refuses to no avail, then the time comes that he must deal with consequences of his actions. We have some podcasts related to this topic as well. I suggest that you check those out. My husband and I have been married for He had his first affair that I know of for sure after our second child—a boy—when we were married 8 years.

We went through marriage and individual counseling for 3 years and stayed together. We thought we were stronger than even and he promised that he would never hurt me like that again. He would go she her at her office and not come by to see me.

When he admitted it, he told me there had been a few others, but that she is the one who is worth it. He left me on June 19, and moved into her house. I ended having to be the one who filed. I got an attorney because he just wanted to go, leaving me with the mortgage and all the bills—taking all his retirement and K. He took this woman to meet his family after Christmas.

Everyday is torture for me—being married to someone who is treating another woman like his wife, and he her husband. I pray for him, and grudgingly try to pray for her also. We even talked about him together … all the while she was sleeping with him. I feel betrayed by the both of them. If I take him back again will he continue to cheat on me?

Is it worth it to be his doormat—his backup plan? Kasumi, Clearly what your husband is doing is not right. You should not be the doormat, or the backup plan, and our Marriage Recovery video series talks more about that.

However, as bad as everything seems, yes your marriage is salvageable. However, saving it will mean putting your marriage on a different path to keep another affair from happening in the future.

We can help you with that. I could never do that to another human being. My husband has been with a home wrecking woman, if you can call her that, for nearly 7 years. She is an awful human being who stops at nothing to flaunt her affair with my husband. I understand that he is no longer in love with me, however, I cannot accept that he is with this horrible human being. He is my heart and I would pick him every single time. Our son is a reminder of happier times. Tina, I am sorry for your pain.

There is a lot of hurt that occurs when your husband has an affair. Let us know if we can help. Then I found that she like her Boss by checking her phn then I ask her She said we are friend after another day I spoke with her she said he is the person who understand her most its feels like they are made for each other , I do not accept this since we married each other and our vows were forever till death do us part.

I really need prayers for my marriage to not end, Please help us with your prayers and God bless you all. I will definitely keep you in my prayers.

I pray that your wife will see what is happening and choose differently. I also pray that God would give you the strength, courage, and knowledge to do whatever you can do to save your marriage even though right now it may seem hopeless. I knew my estranged spouse for 15 years prior to us getting married in There were many things he put me through shortly after we got married when things began to come to light in In , he walked out on me and the marriage.

Up to date, I learned through facebook that he went right into a relationship shortly after leaving me and is now engaged. What should I do? Are you still married, or are you divorced? I strongly recommend tuning in to our live, call-in radio program that is on MarriageRadio.

Joe Beam, the marriage expert, would be able to ask you the questions that you need to help you think through how to proceed. My husband and i have been married for almost twelve years and have seemed to hit our lowest point. From the beginning it is clear to me now that we never set boundary lines. Seems like every year we keep coming back to the point of him and other women. I can admit my faults in snooping through his phone, online,his bag, and even recorded his phone conversation while me and our child was gone.

At one point i was over it and resorted to someone else as well. After we lost our child in he wanted to separate because i had been through his phone tge same day i lost the baby. I evolved with this man but never pushed my husband away instead i reached for him even more but he continued to push away. I ended the relationship with that man after realizing that the connection i was looking for could only come from God.

Time went along and we continued to go through this cycle of other women. His words are just words to me. With this last instance ki asked him did he love this woman our was he in love with this woman and he said that he loved her as a person. He also said that he cut off communication with her. I honestly want to trust and forgive him but i also have a hard time forgiving myself.

Please pray for our marriage and our family. My husband and I just celebrated 22 years of marriage, and 27 years together, I am 46 and he is A few months ago his best friend died, and my husband has been going thru a difficult time, he has even said he is going thru his midlife crisis. He has always gamble in casinos once in a while, but all of the sudden he has been going to this one casino a lot, sometimes times in a week for the past couple of weeks or so. He also told one of his friends that he is smitten with this girl.

Been married to my wife over 30 yrs. Two kids, etc… I recently caught her texting a local man on Easter sunday of all days. Maybe GOD was sick of me working sundays anyway, i lost it. I went nutz for 3 weeks. Im not sure I can get passed this, its eating me up. She is my one and only since I can remember. My husband and I have only been married 18 months. He just told me he is in love with my 25 yr old daughter and wants to leave me. My husband and I have been married 8 years, he has a history of depression, and addiction to pills.

During our marriage, my husband battled alcohol, depression, and pills. It was a roller coaster, the first couple years everything was good. The last years, he was laid off from work frequently, drink alcohol, and be very lazy. We fell behind on our mortgage, I always handled the bills, but could not afford paying for everything myself. Even when he received unemployment benefits he would not contribute. I always tried to get him help,or at least encourage he seek treatment for his depression.

He was in rehab January , and when he came out, all he did was lay around on the couch, this built up some much resentment and angry, that I started talking mean to him, belittling him. In December , we received foreclosure notice for our home, I had tried to save our home on 2 occasions where we were able to modify our mortgage, but of course defaulted because he was again laid off.

I told him over the years that if we foreclosed that I would leave him. So, in January I left the home and got an apartment. He went into rehab then. I always loved my husband despite the turmoil, but just had enough of his irresponbility. I unfortunately reconnected with an x-boyfriend who was also separated from his wife, that relationship was brief and did not work out.

My husband did get sober, and did not find out about my relationship until after it was over. He was willing to forgive me, but I was still not completely ready, just wanted more time for him to prove himself to me. I decided just to do me and not date. Well beginning of June, and we had been in contact this whole time, I found out he was seeing someone since April. Of course I flipped out because I thought he would always want me and love me.

Now he is seeing her and me at the same time, but I have become the side piece. She has threatened to not see him anymore unless he files for divorce with me this week.

I am sure he is lying to her, but he is telling me that he is not filling at least not now, he loves me but is scared I will hurt him by cheating on him, which I never did until after our separation.

He is coming over to talk to me tommorrow, because I told him he needs to either divorce me or move on with her. Last week, the other woman found out he had been seeing me, and after fighting with the both of us, he finally did tell me he loved her. However, now this week he is saying he is not in love with her like that, but is scared I will hurt him after a couple of months.

Please pray for us!! And let me know if there are any services you offer in NJ, if our talk goes well tomorrow. He has been very nice to me this week, even showing more respect and caring.

He is also finally sober. This month I discovered that wife is in love with another man, and when I confronted her she told me that she cannot love me again. They work together and this is the second time they have fallen for each other with 4 months. The first time it was discovered they ended it, citing their respective marriages and children.

This time they both want a divorce. I am trying to slow the process down to buy some time as I still love my wife and want to keep our family and marriage in tact. I would appreciate any thoughts, advice or prayers. Hello im in a crisis my wife and i have been together for almost 12 yrs married for five this month. We have seperated five weeks ago when i found out she was kissing another man at work. I did get upset and say some things not meaning to. I know this didnt just happen over nite her wanting to seperate.

We hqve had ups and down as most couples have but this time i have finally come to the realization of what she has needed fron me and askin for. I have been distqnt and depressed and blocked out my hole famuly at time especially her and her needs. Ive been controlling and not kept any stability in our lives. Among other things i havent seen because ive been so distant and blind to what is going on.

I desperatly want my wife back home but she has started seeing this other guy and pushed me out emotionally and physically. Refuses to discuss reconciling at this point and says she is in a different place than i am on it all.

She says she dont know if she wants a divorce but knows she has to have space and time away from me but remain freinds. Ive since been as calm as can be and better understanding on how she and i have gotten to this point in our marriage.

She says she loves me and i know that and i love her. But it takes more than love she says and i know that. Im working hard to improve my ways of thinking and reacting to things. She told me to go out on dates and get out that i need to find out for sure our family is what i want. I already know it is and dont beleive dating othr women is right. I love my wife and want her to be able to give me her heart back.

I am so sorry for what has happened. Right now, the best thing you can do is start working on those things that would make her want to come back. Be the man that she needed before…that will help bring her back to you.

Married 24 years and my spouse strayed and left me for good. I am so hurt. I am very disappointed with myself for allowing this to happen to me!

I am so hurt that he once again took advantage of me knowing how much I loved him!!!!! Telling me that I have no proof of his infidelity. But the truth is I know that its true because one friend of ours confirmed it. I also saw the missed calls of the other woman in his phone. He told me that its over, that he dont want me anymore and still insisting that he has no other woman.

By the way, before this arguments happened I sent a message to the other woman on facebook and beg her to stop whatever is happening to them, and that woman also keeps on denying that they have a relationship and she doesnt even know my husband.

But I have the proof which I keep to myself because Im afraid that when I give the proof to my husband he will leave us and he will choose the other woman over us. My wife left me for my dad this past Friday.

Please pray for us. I have begged my wife to come back for the past 3 days and today and she says that she does not ever see us getting back together. She is a good person who has done a bad thing. I want her back badly. My wife and I have been married for almost 14 years, recently I discovered she had been having an affair with a coworker for almost 4 months. I ask anyone that reads this to please keep us in your prayers. And truly is the love of my life. I miss her dearly…. I also encourage you to join our private Facebook group called Save My Marriage where many other people are finding guidance and encouragement in the midst of marriage crisis: I have been married to my wife for 16 years now.

About 5 years ago, under my wifes pressure to get friends, I found a female friend that I became friends with and my hopes were that she could help me open up to my wife.

My wife over time had started to pull away from me out of fear I would have an affair and she asked me to stop talking to this woman. I kept telling my wife that she was silly because I thought I could resist any temptation. Two years ago I started to have feelings for this other woman and started talking to her A LOT over a 3 month period. I becane infatuated with all of the attention I was receiving as my wife continued to pull away. It came to the point after those 3 months that this other woman had told me she loved me and I responded with the same.

He started begging pleading apologizing and I would see him some but then a guy from my school, that I was really attracted to, came into the picture. I really liked him but he started talking bad about J and bashing my lifestyle, kinda made me mad.

I had told J I had kissed him and really liked him. I knew I had to be there for him. Finally after going round n round we got back together at the beginning of November V was still persistent and we talked a lot. However, J won me back and I fell all over again. School started back late January and things started going down hill again. Me and V started talking some again and J started being a butt. Early February I found out I was pregnant…me and J were devastated, terrified.

We made the executive decision to abort it. So I went to get him and took him home. Two days later I made the most regretful decision of my life I hate myself for it to terminate my pregnancy. At first things were hard. But we got better, him and I. Then on spring break, I was playing games on his phone and checked his messages. He had a texts from C, the girl he was interested at the begging of the year. Thinking the obvious, obviously.

Then I put two and two together. I checked the date on the messages and sure enough they were from the night his keys supposedly got locked in his truck. The truth was they had actually been thrown away with his pants with the girl he was interested in. We got better, celebrated a great birthday together only a day apart , and things were looking up.

I was in love with him. He was in love with me. We grew close again. Then V started wiggling his way back in. We texted casually, quite often though. He was so broken, it hurt to see him hurt. It brought us close again.

We had a wonderful family vacation at the lake, gosh I loved him. Then when school started back things got bad again. We fought a lot. We broke up again, I started hanging out with V, kissed, nothing more. I kinda stopped trusting J. We got back together, the last date we went on was mid October Not too long after that though, he broke up with me.

It made me mad. He kinda begged for me back, we fought, said a lot of mean things to each other, it got really really bad.

He told me he wanted me. Finally i softened up and three days after that I agree. So I begged, pleaded, cried, apologized, stalked, hacked. Name everything not to do to get your ex back and I did it. I heard it all. He was so mean. This started January I still begged, cried, called. He started blocking me. End of feb After the second time he blocked me I got mad and left him alone..

During that time he called and facetimed but never text. I Finally answered him late one night and he was crying.

Saying how much he love loved me, how sorry he was, asking if I changed, all that. By the time spring break came around I had given up. Then of course he contacted me again. He even logged on to my Instagram, made it public, and added himself back then messaged me so I would talk to him, deleted the conversation when we finished. So I was trying to do that. I just left it alone.

That was a Tuesday, the following saturday I got a friend request from him on facebook and realized that after our conversation he had deleted me as a friend. But after I realized he deleted me I blocked him on there too. His girlfriend is all about him. His aunt cried as did I when I had to leave. That night I text his mom just to see how school and everything went for him.

Then he text my mom asking her to have me text him. Then he tried to turn it around that it was my fault. He said he tried to talk to me and would talk every time I wanted to but now I had him blocked on everything. Saying how he had been hurt too and all of that jazz. I want to make amends with him because I realize all the hurt I caused. Someone please give me some advice on what to do. I need some coaching on what to do, is there any hope?

He still told me he loved me on spring break, and always would, he just thinks we were no good and all I see is the good.

I love him, I miss him, and I want to make us right. We used to be so good but distance, school, and stress got in the way.

However, right now I feel a bit frustrated. All my life I am following exactly this path — I do enjoy my surroundings, my life, people around. And many people, even strangers, frequently comment that they rarely see a person as happy as me.

Yet, unfortunately, very very few find me attractive enough to just start simple conversation, let alone anything like a relationship. Guess, my question is what am I doing wrong? It sounds like a man only wants a woman who never feels anything other than shiny happy perfect.

A robot lady with no soul will do just fine. I actually disagree with this perspective. Happiness is something a person can work on for themselves. I am basically a happy person, and i agree that being happy is magnetic enough to attract people, not just men, effortlessly. I find that freedom to be who you are, accepting yourself as you are, loving and enjoying every moment of your life as you are, and feel that you belong to the universe as a whole, makes things easier to think that possibilities are going to be in your favor and you open yourself up to more beautiful things in life, positive things naturally come your way….

When you are truly happy, there is a natural glow that radiates from within and manifests on the outside. You tend to be more graceful and allowing the sun shine in you like in spring warming the earth and encouraging new life and new beginnings. There is hope, love, joy, and commitment in the enjoyment of life. You naturally become more enthusiastic and loving of life in a serene yet indomitable way. A certain relaxed yet powerful coolness makes you become an authority in confidence and strength inspiring multitude of followers to emulate you.

You become somebody others look up to, want to be with, and want to become. Life springs up on you like natural spring water from a mountain, quenching the thirst for heroes of the people around you. And this does only make you more courageous to forge ahead because you are naturally a warm and happy person. It can be a state of mind or you can really be born a jovial person. Either way, it is still up to you to become such a person. A person of total happiness, enthusiasm and joy, who enjoys life and shares it with others.

Be that person, and your life will always shine through. If you want a feeling of being in heaven, think and focus being in heaven. Heaven is basically just a state of mind. Focus on where you want or what you want. They are your responsibility. You want to be negative and whine? The rest of the people here actually want good results in their life, not a platform to anonymously whine about what they think is fair.

Women just have to show up and their desires and wanted, men have to move mountains, etc. They feel that perceiving injustice from their perspective actually means there IS an injustice….

Do you want to be effective or not? Whilst perpetual moaners and negative people are difficult to be around, sometimes, people, male or female, need a little help and encouragement, to reach a state of happiness and contentment after a difficult time, and whether you are male, female, partner, mother, father etc, being there to help them is a compassionate thing to do.

Only a sociopath can function without feelings or compassion and everyone knows the disruption they can cause in people lives. It can take some time to feel happy again, the brain has to go through the grieving process in most cases, before you are released. I can relate, BUT rather prefer to choose to be happy. Just a few suggestions…try smiling no matter what, even if you feel phony at first, just DO IT!

Please do yourself this favor. And start saying good things to yourself. Appreciate, love, and accept yourself the way God created you: I LOVE your reply. I could not agree more. I cant even tell you how much I love what you said. I recall a girl I knew who would met guys and have her heart broken. Never gonna make you cry, never gonna say goodbye never gonna tell a lie or hurt you!

Me and my now ex boyfriend met off an app two years and a couple months ago. He lived in a different state so it was long distance for a couple of months at the beginning. We were head over heels crazy for each other. He actually decided to move states to where I was so we could be closer. We met up and saw each other in person and things were even better. Me and him made promises and plans for the future, just loving every minute of it.

This was my first real relationship and his longest. So with my lack of experiences relationships and his horrible ones, our relationship took a twist on things. I thought it was a little extreme at first but I loved the attention and everything else with it.

I started to think that relationships were suppose to be that way, having to know where that person is and what they are doing… just putting all their attention on you. A year went by and we were still in our happy honeymoon stage of our relationship, but some things started to change.

He started to become more confident in himself and wanting more space and his own time. This was all great but in my eyes at the time I thought that this is him becoming more board of me and wanting me less. While his confidence grew mine started to become smaller.

The more I pulled him in the more he pushed away. We started to fight and he started to lie and keep things from me. One morning he decided to end things on April the 29th which seemed like it was just out of no where.

One of my other mistakes is not letting the passed go and just bringing them up in fights like ammo. I also told him if he needed a break to just have time for himself and go visit his family to figure things out that we could do that too. He said no to all of my options.

My brother and my ex boyfriend live in the same apartment together. All I want is my boyfriend back, I gave that boy everything, he was my best friend. This is swagathika I was having a great love for the past 10 months I know him for 3 yrs he had all bad habbits but wen he got interest over me he left evrythg jus for me and just to be happy he took care of me like my mother..

I was very much blessed the problem was I had three family frd boys I am very close to them…. This is great Eric. I really hope for a big shift on perspective on the inside after this. Of course I am heartbroken but I realise I fall into the same pattern in every relationship so this breakup is a big sign to change. This is my first time posting. I feel almost like a fool over this. I am a 30 year old female. My ex is a 29 year old male. We dated for 18 months. Two weeks after the breakup, I ran into him at a bar.

He was with two 22 year old girls from his gym. We have been in no contact for 6 months. He unfriended me on facebook in October and blocked me on facebook at the end of January. I found out at the end of December that he reported me to the police because he thought I keyed his car. This occurred sometime in October which makes sense why he and his friends and family all suddenly dropped me from facebook during that time period. I feel like enough time has passed that he would have cooled off.

I googled this and found zero! My ex-husband continues to reach out to befriend by ex-boyfriends. I know it has no impact on my life, but me and my children find it to be very odd, especially because when I was dating my boyfriend s , he talked bad about them.

Hey, basically i really like my ex, even though we only went out for three days, like he keeps trying to make and effort to talk to me and said i have banging boobs.

Even if you think your relationship with your ex boyfriend is completely torn, there is a way to make him fall hopelessly in love with you again or at least give you a second chance! Magdeline, you need to first realize that you are amazing and have so much more worth than he is making you out to have. He was with you for a year and had a fiance too?? He is the total loser. And not only did he cheat on you with someone he was engaged to, but then he tried to make you out to be the bad guy?

Magdeline, please move on from him. You should block him, not the other way around. You need to see your value and realize who you are. Find yourself and know what you are worth. And then someone will come along who will treat you right. It is totally worth it to be single for a little while than to be with a 2-timing jerk like him. Perhaps he needs to leave and join a polygamist culture where they can all pretend to love each other equally on tap, whereas you will be free to find the exclusive partner you deserve.

Good day readers how are you doing? Am Dr Love and I make things possible. If you want your relationship to last forever, and you looking for love or you want your boyfriend or girlfriend back then reach me and I will make it possible for you. You can contact me with my phone number. Idk if i should believe him. He hurt me real bad.

I found out he was telling one of my friends that e loves her too. I love him alot even tho all he does is hurt me. I want him back but i just dont know how to get him back…. You summarized it all very well in this one article that I found to be quite valuable. Thanks so much and please let us hear from you directly more often! Thank you so much for this great article. Happiness is the key. I feel more attractive now than I ever did in my relationship.

And I was in my twenties! Thanks for breaking it down in such an honest way. Everyone should follow your advice! He is a musician, always playing music, spends a lot of time alone or with family. Can you suggest ways that would help deepen our connection or a communication style that would open him up and act the way he did when we first got together-assertive, attentive, or how to get into his emotional mind?? Not overly happy, as if you are just so glad that you are single but you should be the same vibrant girl that he fell in love with.

He liked you from the beginning because you were happy and were out there living your life and doing you. So, be that same girl that is still out there living her life regardless of him.

He needs a girl that is going to be just fine with or without him. He just needs space to get it figured out on his own. And being able to figure things out on his own is something that builds confidence in himself and will help him be ready for you sooner rather than later. So, give him space. This is exactly the situation I am in… I was dumped by my bf, and though I knew he loved me before, things changed. My question is if you are taking this advice into practice in your life, how should you act around the guy if you still see him or have contact with him?

What is appropriate, what is not. How can you show him that you want him to approach you and develop that relationship with you without compromising what was said in this article? Sign up for our free newsletter and get a free chapter of our book,"He's Not That Complicated". The material on this site may not be reproduced, distributed, transmitted, cached or otherwise used, except as expressly permitted in writing by A New Mode, Inc. Other Must-See Related Posts: How To Fix My Relationship.

How Do You Find Love? When a Guy Doesn't Text Back Is He The One? How To Know For Sure Leave Your Comment Now Rita Welsh You are a very nice woman and you are meant to be cared, loved and pampered with care. Big Boy This is such garbage. My I have an exactly the same problem with you.

Imsges: my ex just started dating someone else

my ex just started dating someone else

You are aware this is a post about me realizing my own shortcomings, right? It was so awkward my mom noticed that he was really nervous when he saw me and that he was looking at me. I still dint know If I should ever get married to him.

my ex just started dating someone else

I must admit I fall in love with my husband more with each passing day! Below was my response. No one went looking for that kind of relationship.

my ex just started dating someone else

Share this link with everyone who will help in the intervention. With boring sex scenes. But i only did that because I wanted him to see how hurt I was he was cheating and I thought he was going to beg for forgiveness and want me back in the bedroom, but that was not the case. It only took one or two days for him to reach out. My name is Kevin, and I am writing this 3 Step plan to help you get your ex back, even if you think my ex just started dating someone else situation is hopeless. We have been through so much in over the year we were together. Every couple thinking ni christian dating getting married should do it.