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9 Things You Didn’t Know About Dating for Seniors

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Does it look like everyone around you makes it look so simple but you have a hard time with this idea whenever someone new asks you out? Some are new, and some are classics. They can do just what they promise you to do: I met a lady and dated her this afternoon. She admits she is afraid of her feelings. This sounds exactly what I have been looking for.

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While Toronto is the largest Jewish population centre, Montreal played this role until many English-speaking Jewish Canadians left for Toronto, fearing that Quebec might leave the federation following the rise during the s of nationalist political parties in Quebec, as well as a result of Quebec's Language Law. Andrew Dowling June 5, at 3: The comments about the 65 and 75 year old are true to the extent that people of exactly the same age do have different limits to their abilities, but my experience is that as we get older there are more similarities in those limitations even if not exact and there are still many other issues such as our life experiences that have made us who we are. The ones who are attracted to Stitch join us because they are looking for real people, shared interests and conversation just as much as any physical attraction. Dashefsky, Arnold ; Sheskin, Ira, eds.

One thing we have been struck with has been the important role that dinner plays in the social or not-so-social lives of most older adults. Nobody likes the idea of spending years cooking for themselves and eating alone. And always being the lone single person when your married friends want to catch up for dinner starts to become a little tiresome.

More than any other activity, dinner is where older adults feel the isolation of being alone most strongly. This is why, for most older adults, a dinner date is the most important first step towards finding companionship. This makes quite a comparison to how many young people organize their first dates, which usually involve meeting up in a bar.

Grouper, for example, hooks up groups of young people in bars and offers them a free first drink as part of the package. The fundamental premise behind most dating services for young people is that the ultimate goal is to find love and marriage. While this is true for some older adults, it is far from universal. Many seniors really are looking for companionship and nothing more. Some are seeking someone to have dinner with, some are looking for someone to travel with them, others are looking for someone to share their favorite activities.

For many people at this stage, that is enough. There is an entire spectrum of dating that goes far beyond the marriage-oriented online dating services available today.

Many older adults have multiple needs for companionship. Sure, some are focused only on finding that single life partner who will give them a loving relationship for the next few decades.

But just as many are actually seeking multiple companions to fit in with their varied social needs. A recognition that most older adults are prepared for the fact that no single person may be the solution to all their social needs, that they may be just as well served by multiple companions.

Far more than their younger counterparts, older adults feel much more comfortable evaluating a potential match in the real world instead of online. All the Millennials out there are shaking their heads, wondering why on earth anyone would like to talk on the phone when they can instant message instead. And that sums up the generation gap in a nutshell … recent studies show that young adults are three times as likely to prefer to text than talk via the phone, the complete opposite of their older counterparts.

One of our favorite lines comes from a Huffington Post article on this very subject:. Ask your grandparents about it. Yes, trust is important to everyone, no matter how old they are.

But for a retiree on a fixed income, who has heard countless stories of peers being taken advantage of both online and in the real world, trust takes on a special significance. Or, as we have been often asked by older women considering prospective male companions: One thing that many dating services have in common is using fancy algorithms to help you find a partner based on a dazzling array of filters you provide them.

Younger people can be zealous about the rules they impose on potential partners. The profile selection page from Match. The online dating sites which market themselves as being for 55 and older are simply re-branded versions of dating sites for younger adults. This blog is spot on. Age does matter…a lot! When I was 51, I married my year-old Knight in Shining Armor and immediately had a midlife pregnancy scare.

We lived incredibly happily ever after for 22 years until he died 2 years ago. They explain by saying they are younger than their age. What does that even mean?!? Before investing another dime, I need to know how and if Stitch will address the mismatch? Do you have a hidden stash of active year old men who are seeking year-old companions?

Or is it something information and eduction can address? Particularly for those seeking companionship rather than romance … I have many friends in the Stitch community who are 20 years my senior, while there is no way I could have said the same when I was Older men who want to find a young woman have plenty of other sites they can go to who cater to that.

The ones who are attracted to Stitch join us because they are looking for real people, shared interests and conversation just as much as any physical attraction. I am attractive, 65, with health problems.

All the men have health problems. My husband had prostate cancer. Because he is 73 ,impotent, every lady in FL. It seems, Andrew, that Stitch is catering to older women who are looking for younger men. And, I see a lot of that on the dating sites I am on. Many older women looking for younger men — but reality is that most men are not looking for older women.

Most men still want a younger woman — maybe 5 years younger, and someone that is at least somewhat physically attractive. And, while companionship is great, you can join a local social club for companionship. But then, I had many women ask me why I was not interested in marriage? They all said they would not date someone who is not open to marriage because their ultimate end goal was marriage and commitment.

She is now in the world, not my home. I put my life on hold so long.. I have very long black hair, green eyes, attractive and a decent weight. Have aged gracefully though no one believes me when I say I just turned I have nothing to hide, I look just like my most recent picture Sept Tell me more about what makes this a genuine site for older adults seeking companionship without commitment, willing to share thoughts and maybe have things in common to share.

There are a number of men like me whom are seeking companionship. By that I man firstly friendship to engage in being together for conversations of many topics, having visits to local places of interest, walking at interesting, venues, having a meal together even with friends. However it has to be on a pleasant and positive mindset and not to unload baggage of the past. Surely fun and happiness should be foremost in our seventies. I agree with your entire approach. It takes time to develop a friendship and determine if basics are common.

I am interested in omfortable mutual conversational in which I can learn, perhaps teach and have fun. I just ran into this site. Where do you live? I so agree with you, I want Fun in my seventies. That is The Best medicine. This is my first time on talking to someone. Age absolutely does matter! When my ex-husband about 5 years younger left for a woman 20 years younger than myself, you can bet that was upsetting and revealing.

At 60 when I was first divorced, online dating worked pretty well. I noticed after 65, even though I myself am VERY fit, I have a great financial picture and also a 2nd home — online dating dried up to nothing and I finally opted out.

These men all look for women years younger. And meanwhile my ex lives in our old house he bought me out of and also a fabulous condo on the Florida coast. You are so right! Life is not fair to mature women…so what girl? Get out their and fight the good fight. You do the best you can…i mean stay in all the time?

Why in the hell do women or men have such a hard time eating alone at a restaurant? I never got that. I have dined alone with a boy and without more times. Take a book or paper or planner so you have something to do if your insecure.

I am also quite comfortable being with others including a man. Stay open minded as you have the choice to join in a group or not. No one ever said life would be fair.

No one and it is not. Unfortunately it is especially not fair for the mature female. Anyone that says different has to have blinders on! Sorry for being mean but it is true. Just remember that we get one time around on this planet….

Let us just observe the success of this and other sites. They definitely are not doing the service for free.

Can you imagine services that picked up a date for you back in the day? Haha…they would have been called something quite different. I think you right jamine! They can not get their mind around that at a certain age the body slow down. The mind is will but the body is not. Why should they want to talk about a dark subject at their age.

But for us it here! Its taken me a year to read your Blog Andrew, and to become proactive in your site! I liked this and I think an old friend is connecting with more than friendship so this was good to read. However, I still think some age indications are important. The comments about the 65 and 75 year old are true to the extent that people of exactly the same age do have different limits to their abilities, but my experience is that as we get older there are more similarities in those limitations even if not exact and there are still many other issues such as our life experiences that have made us who we are.

There are generation gaps and always will be because of the society and culture we live in at various stages of life. There is a big difference between people in their 50s and those in their 70s. I believe as I have always done that up to 7 years either side is the most to accommodate all the needs we have at various ages.

I have observed it as a psychologist and lawyer and stick to this even though some people live in the moment only so willing to accept anyone for the moment. It definetly resonates with me and friends who are boomer babies and seniors.

I am 53 years old and in love with a 79 year old woman. We both are scared but excited. Though at times she thinks she needs to be an auntie. She admits she is afraid of her feelings. Would rather pick up and phone though and talk with someone. Body not perfect but sure is busy anyhow.

Thought I was registered and hope to be one of the first. I keep waiting to hear more. Friend but not foe: An in-person meeting in a busy public place is better way to screeen. Profiles are often not written by the writer. I am 59 and still active.

I love walking and talking about everything. I am alone now, so I am looking for new friends to share my life with. Nancy, I am also 70, widowed, and active. Still working to keep active. Email below if you want to communicate further. I know that my own social lifestyle and pursuits have been changing through time and this progression in Stages Of Life.

So I expect that execution will be everything. And extent of participation. I know that others around my age are not as experienced or oriented. Thanks for such a thoughtful and insightful comment! Thank you for recognizing the need for a site to connect older adults. Thanks for coming on the journey with us!

Thanks Andrew for answering Eileen first. I also answered and yes, I think you have a product here. If Eileen asks for information to get hold of me, please feel free to give her my email address. Of this generation, we want friends — people we can connect with, have fun with and maybe we even know people in common. This is a very important site you are establishing. Thank you for doing so. Have always thought of answering them about that.

How many members do you have? How many do you foresee having when you are in full swing? When do you expect to be up and running? Well, this has real potential! So I signed up for this right away. I really need to play and laugh more and am looking forward to meeting like-minded people. Thanks for doing this; I have high hopes!

It is far beyond what the younger set wants. I personally would like to meet a christian man who enjoys gardening etc, Not looking for marriage. Good luck on the new site. I have been on the online roller coaster for a year now and it really is disheartening to see the deceit that goes with it. Posting pics that are 20 years old and saying boasting things that are so not real either. Being online gives you a sense of protection from being caught in an untruthful statement.

This gives you a voice behind the picture and can seal a deal to have a meal together not a drink or coffee. You can learn alot over a meal. Table manners mean alot to some of us….. This sounds exactly what I have been looking for. I want to make more friends, companions without all the complictaions of so called dating to fing a relationship.

I got a lot of feedback from people about the age I chose when I first wrote that post, so Stitch is actually open to anyone over The only rule we enforce is that you need to be over 50 to join Stitch.

Our members range from 50 up into their late 80s! I have tried many of the others…. I wholeheartedly believe in finding many instead of just one…. We all need friends and companions…. Very excited about this new site.

I have been doing online dating for awhile. Im so hoping this one will be different. I wish you so much success with your endeavor.

Our biggest challenge is going to be making sure everyone hears about Stitch so we can get a lot of really nice people signing up … the real key is making sure that the people on Stitch are the sorts of people want to meet. So anything you can do to help spread the word will be welcome!

How do we find out what your schedule is for our areas? Thousands of applicants and no response! Whereabouts are you located? Depending on where you are, we could be available to you in a few weeks to a few months from now. Hello, Just got done reading all the info and found it very interesting.. I am signed up with another dating service until Nov. It is great to know how much you are interested with the older crowd.

Good Luck to you and I wish you the Best. I would like to meet some senior people in my age about 50 years old and near my city, Houston. Just Signed up and have a try. I only signed up for Stitch because there was a segment on the news for folks 55 and older to meet. I was very excited when I heard about Stitch and sighed up about two months ago. You are spot on and I hope you set the world on fire.

How do you plan on attracting more men to the site? Also, location is a real factor, so I need more than just a hint about a potential friends distance from me. I work 30 miles from home and would also be up for events after work. On the other hand, many others want to see where someone lives as location is so very important to them. In general there is usually more females than there are males. As a Latina I would enjoy meeting fellas that are Latino as well….

Its not easy meeting new people especially if there is a hidden agenda. Thanks so much for such encouraging feedback! Sadly, if Stitch was looked at as a way to meet, greet and eat women men might come out in groves due to word of mouth.

I still love people and still believe in humanity. Please let us know how you go! Andrew just come across your site but find its women on your blog never done this before perhaps need help have now one to ask.

I agree with almost all of this — but the part about the phone? I get along fine in person, even in restaurants, but my cell phone is a trial. Hearing aids and cell phones are not a good match…. Email can be a much better alternative. Look thru a handful or more on Match or any other site and women over 55, as an example, are just as restricvtive on age range than the younger generations. I defy anyone to show me otherwise. Trying to decide which membership plan if any to upgrade to.

It was interesting to read the comments. I noticed that there were very few men who contributed. Is this normally the case, and more importantly, is this an accurate barometer of numbers of interested males verses females?

Thank you for taking my question. It would be great if the ratio was 1: Having said that, we are constantly working to increase the number of men on Stitch, and always welcome new suggestions to help in this area.

We also notice that our men are much less likely to write comments on posts and activities than our female members — I think most online social media sites observe a similar phenomenon. Good article except that while I agree that it depends on the fitness etc of the person that can vary with ages, particularly as we get older, fitness is usually not included in the profiles and I believe there are still some differences in views and needs between generations. For instance people still working, even part time, have different needs to people who are retired.

A relationship may still work, but may have more complications. Also past histories, which still make us, even though we change and evolve, still have some impact on who we are and our perceptions, and people whose ages are significantly apart are likely to have less in common. While people may die at any age, there is more likelihood that someone 70 has less active life left than a person 55 and that could be important for people looking for long term relationships.

Who wants to be left on their own when they are older because their partner died much earlier if it can be avoided to some extent. I think an indication of the age of the person is still important for us mature adults. No need to state age preferences if not wanted but at least it gives a bit more ideal about a person than can be provided in the limited profiles. This article is spot on! A lot of these folks, would be hard pressed to try dating 30 years ago without cell phones, instant messaging, internet or restaurants, entertainment venues and such on every street corner.

All we need is good driving weather and possibly a bladder break or two. Some people may not mind, but others do, for various reasons — time available, ability to travel, preference to have friends in own location etc. The same applies to ages. Sorry to hear that Jennifer. If so please report the members concerned so we can take action. I am 56, very recently retired, very active, fit and adventurous.

Is this a venue where I may find mature women of similar traits? Lucky to be retired so young! Stitch is definitely built to help people like you meet mature women with similar interests. I agree with all of what is posted and would add that everyone is differently unique and looking for someone who compliments their specific qualities.

Wishing everyone much success and many loving connections….. Great article, well written and extremely thoughtful. Age is just a number and there are lots of us out there looking for a n other. Would you please use the word sex at least once in a while. I am no old dude in a trench coat. I want to date, share and have sex. Are there woman out there over 60 who desire friendship yes. Your site is a very, very good site. I am not complaining. I just called up your profile on Stitch and was a bit confused as to where you are located — are you in the Canary Islands?

I will turn sixty next month. DOes anyone else out there feel as if they are still in their thirties — I do. THanks to my love for exercise in all forms I have managed to stay quite fit and my age has not restricted my activities of daily living.

I would love to meet someone my age or even older who I can have great conversation with, a man who is respectful and know s how to treat a lady and is also fun loving and loves great home made food admitted food snob ONe thing worries me however — I have heard of many woman and I am sure men as well, that have been burned by someone they initially thought to be Great and subsequently revealed their true colors.

So pleased you found us J! After being a widow for two years, I am just recently getting back into the dating scene and everything that you stated is spot on..

This new dating game is altogether different than when I dated 55 years ago. I am a 80yr old woman looking for friendship a casual relationship. Men in my age group are all looking for younger women. Absolutely agree with all the points made here. Just started connecting — in person — with a guy that eHarmony matched me with. It was the same story, over and over, without much variance. Single dad, daughter usually in boarding school in some foreign country.

Trust is important, so is companionship, and not necessarily marriage or looks. More and more senior people are looking for companionship online now. Since many senior couples have their first date as a result of their meeting on a senior dating site, that means, of course, you two should meet in a well-light, public venue. That means, yes, you drive to pick her up.

Only after the two of you are a couple and well past your third month of commitment can you start asking her to meet you at the venue. This is just a thought, but, did you ever consider a way to meet another senior in a city you are visiting just to have dinner or see a play or see the local sites. Thank you — seems like a great idea. Do you think this will be a possibility in the near future?

A 84 I may not have too long to search. Best wishes John S Hawkins, Lincoln. Yes the current state of pretty much every dating site out there is quite horrible. Stitch is very different. I am glad I have found your site as maybe another elderly woman lived the same situation in the past and could give me her opinion. I am 67 years old woman and have been single for quite a while. There is this 79 years old gentleman who keeps asking me to live with me.

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Again, they have been accused of keeping expired profiles up to try to make it appear that their membership is larger than it actually is. I would love to meet someone my age or even older who I can have great conversation with, a man who is respectful and know s how to treat a lady and is also fun loving and loves great home made food admitted food snob ONe thing worries me however — I have heard of many woman and I am sure men as well, that have been burned by someone they initially thought to be Great and subsequently revealed their true colors.

jewish dating for seniors

I am a decent woman in full time employment and I am just looking for a soul mate especially as we grow old we tend to get so lonely. Hi Agra gay dating site, The only rule we enforce is that you need to be over 50 to join Stitch. The last lady said she was not ready for a relationship and we had not even met!! What a well written post, and I totally agree with everything that you jewish dating for seniors. Ladiesagain, due to the imbalance, hear from numerous men, and therefore are in total control. Want to contact us? Being over 70 means that you might be spending jewish dating for seniors days alone, waiting for your kids and friends visit you.