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Yea, it is an angry and unforgiving Economy. Overall, my outlook has changed drastically. Sharon Me and my boyfriend been together for 7 and half months now. I am alsooo very very shy around him because i like him sooo much and i feel sooo out of place even when doing stuff in the bedroom. Another thing when I make him mad he tells me the meanest things to hurt me on purpose, why? I have never met that someone who treats me like the queen that I should be treated like. Two days ago i told him that i love him.
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We are both divorced and he has a child almost every weekend, so we typically do not see each other from Friday to Monday night. Should I doubt him or give him the benefit of the doubt? Kimmi What does it mean when my boyfriend tells me that we will go bye engagment rings and get engaged but then when it comes to the day he doesnt even mention anything or sticks to his word? After 3 weeks of talking he came to visit me for the weekend, and there was no nervous or uncomfortable feeling between us, just really had an amazing time. I know that going through a divorce messes you up. I have been going out with this guy for a while and it just started getting serious right as I leave town.
If they address it and say ok we are exclusive then you both let it go and never log in to check on them without reason…. We met online and things are moving In a more serious direction. He told me about 2 months in that he deleted his account. I logged on and saw that he was active.
I think this is a breach of trust and I want to confront him gently. Ive been thru this anf r currently going thru this. My initial reacton was hurt and i approached him so wrong. I dont think he has physically cheated me hut the fact that he does continue to be active on these websites for whatever reason has real taken a toll on me emotionally and ofcourse the trust that have for him.
All this crap about it being ok anf find ouy first is straight crap. For me in aby relationship. I would hope and wish there would be a certain level of respect. And its all bad now. Unfortunately I think in this case Eric is giving women advise on how to give men exactly what they want, without the woman receiving what she wants.
A lot of the time there are imbalances of power in relationships. I was dating a guy who I discovered had a secret dating profile. We were sleeping together, so when I found it I told him I thought it was a great idea — it means we can have an open relationship and I can date and sleep with other men, while continuing to sleep with him also.
I thought it was hilarious!!!! The last part of your post, saying that if he is shopping around and potentially sleeping around , then you can too… yeah, I agree with that. Absolutely agree with this post. However… this is an old article during a time where I would get really big questions and edit them down to be shorter in more recent years I generated my answers from more generalized questions and covered all the bases.
I met my boyfriend on a dating site. We have been together for a little over 6 months. I did find him under some bogus name. He ended up actually messaging a true friend and I took over. Listen, trust is very important. Take it from me I learned the hard way. If he continues to check the dating site drop him and save yourself some pain down the road.
There is no reason for him to be on this site. I knew of a guy who did the same thing. They met online were together 2 years and he was still checking his site.
She did her own investigation and found out that he was talking to other women from everywhere sometimes he would tell them he had a girlfriend but it was ending or he would tell them he is single. Please listen to your instincts and there is nothing wrong for a man or woman to check out their perspective other not in this day and age. If he is trying this relationship with you ask him to delete his profile and you delete yours. The internet and social sites are very tempting to people.
I have met an army man on an online dating site about 6 weeks ago, and we pretty much hit it off right from the beginning. We talked for hours and both expressed how comfortable we felt talking to each other about any topic that you can think of. He is stationed on a US Army Base about 2. After 3 weeks of talking he came to visit me for the weekend, and there was no nervous or uncomfortable feeling between us, just really had an amazing time. In general, he was never pushy or anything, but the opposite, and I got the impression of him as being a nice and honest guy.
I believed him and since we had such a great and easygoing time with each other, I just went with the flow. We saw each other again, two weeks afterwards, I went to visit him this time. He invited me to stay at his place and we again had a great time, very easygoing, no tension or uncomfortable feeling at all. I thought wow he really is an honest guy, what a catch!
I was happy and I told him that and that I liked him a lot. He replied that he liked me a lot too. I asked if he was still on that dating site, because I took my profile down about two weeks after we met. During that weekend we spent a lot of time walking around in the town where he lives, we had lunch and dinner in one of his favorite restaurants, and generally had a great time. He was right where I was with my opinion, so again — a match.
After that weekend we texted each other every day and spoke about every other day, since we both have time consuming jobs. I was very worried because I knew that as an army soldier, deployment is always imminent. After work he did call me and told me that they are being deployed to Turkey for about days.
I was shocked and sad about it, of course, especially since we just had spent a great weekend together but only met twice so far. But I knew I had to be supportive and not dwell on my fears, so I did the best I could to cheer him up and not burden him with my worries.
He kept me in the loop of events for the following days until he finally left for Turkey, and we spoke before he actually got on the plane. I knew it was going to be tough but hey, it was only for a few weeks, and we promised each other that everything would be fine, that he would be fine. Today he is gone the third day only, and when he arrived there he texted me that getting a wifi hotspot is problematic, but that he would figure it out.
Yesterday night I somehow had a weird feeling and just out of curiosity I went and googled his name. Up came a link to badoo. My heart made a jump….. Here we are, I have doubts and feel uneasy about the whole thing. So this morning I texted him the usual good morning text, please be safe out there etc. I struggled with myself whether to bring it up or not about what I had found out, but then I decided to confront him.
So I texted him jokingly that then Whatsapp must be messing with me, because it says he was last online last night around 9pm. He also said that I should know that if he had a chance to get online, he would have texted me as he always does. Also that he got to go and wished me a great day and that we would talk soon. I also said that I wanted to be there for him and support him, and that what he gets from me is honesty and loyalty, but that I require the same.
I have to add that he struck me to be honest and good from the very beginning, and he never gave me reason to not trust him. Always texted me when he was out with friends, letting me know where he was and that he would call me once he got home etc.
Whenever he said he would call or text, he did, and in situations when he was held up, he would always let me know. I really need your advice! I know this has become a long message, but I really hope you find the time to reply. Thank you so much in advance! My story is I am over 45 and back into dating I was single for 3 years. I joined POF with some nice photos.
I had 4 dates with 4 different men and 2 more wanted to date but were no shows. The last one he was a no show the first date which was an odd time sunday morning!
Hes a single dad with two grown kids at home, they sepd at xmas. He apologized 5 days later online that is was not me and said I was so gracious etc. He said he did not show that day as he ex came to his home and found him on POF and freaked out. This was the reason. But he told me its long over their marriage and said she wont be allowed in his house or at least where his computer is anymore- I could hear anger in his voice. So then a few days goes by he asks if he can see me, so he comes over for coffee it was sunday evening.
Things went well I felt a good connection, we made out etc. Saw him one more time a few days later, then he said hes getting a hip surgery and has to work a lot of OT plus his daughter is moving to another city for college with her things hes been moving her. I offered to help with anything esp. He said he wanted to see me this Monday which is tomorrow holiday.
So 2 hrs later he messaged me. He said he enjoys being around me too. He said I not an option. He said he does not want to lead me on! He said maybe its best if we stop contact until after his surgery and hes well again which could be weeks!
Then he said he may not get to his computer much to message me!. But he has a phone, why would he say that? It that a way to twist my brain? So I then thanked him and said im going out for birthday drinks.
I left him a voicemail 1 hr later just one , its now sunday, he never called me back!! So I went in and deleted mine as well! One guy got mad cause I wanted him to confirm IM hes still coming!! He already has pictures of me, I have sent by phone and I asked him that he had been online, he said it was because he was checking whether I had been online, I have left it a week and sure enough he has been online in the last 24 hours.
Just recently went through this on another site. We dated for two months, spent a lot of good times together, dinners out, movies, nights out with friends, and eventually sex was involved.
He told me that I made him very happy etc. Then he started pulling away, less texting, calls stopped, excuses started. I had a feeling he was lying to me about the excuses its happened before. Seems likes bs to me. Well, I shut down my profile a week after meeting him. He continues to be online at unusual times really late at night or early in the morning. If I make him happy, why look at others? Plus, he said he wanted space? This guy i met online and he said he needed space to get over an ex.
Its been 6 weeks no contact. His profile was still on but he took down his pictures and remained inactive for a month but just yesterday went online and reattached his pictures. Anyway i think its A. Is he trying to test my reaction and call him out on it? Why do guys do this??? I thought he was a genuine nice guy. He told me he loves me and he said he meant it, and would never cheat on me, and I believed it. He constantly went on dating apps to talk to other girls and he confessed to me and told me he cheated on me.
I felt hurt because I thought I knew him and I thought cheating would be the last thing he would to do me. I never thought he would do that to me because of all the words he had said to me about how much he loves me and so on.
He said he is serious about me and called me wifey. He brought me to his parents but seem to be quite scared of letting his friends see me. My boyfriend is very self-centered, which he also admitted. Sometimes I feel like he only cares about himself, pays a lot of attention on himself rather than on me now.
I even flew all the way just to get him to talk about this with me because I thought I had to talk about this with him. Since our last huge fight regarding him talking to other girls he said he had deleted the dating apps.
But he would still talk to a few girls he met on okcupid on whatsapp. I asked him why, he said because this girl called Dion had recently been to korea and he just wanted to ask information about traveling to korea. So that obviously was an excuse.
Although my trust to him is kind of broken but I still want to trust him again. We talked about this issue almost every night and I told him I feel hurt that he still talks to girls from dating app. Then I asked him if he wants to meet friends then why only talk to pretty slim girls but not guys?
Why only pick pretty girls to talk to to be his new friend? Why does he stil want to meet other pretty girls? After another conflict again his mind changed a bit. I said nothing, because minimizing still means he still gets to talk to them. Although we are ok now but I just feel so helpless.
My friends kept telling me to dump him. But what about me? Why are men like that? Hello, I read ur full story. I think you are the opposite of me although we share sth in common, I am also an observant girl when I am dating online, which is what I am doing now.
However, I would do the opposite if I found out the guy I am with is doing all these dating app things behind me. You have made him feel like you will never leave, and he can always get you back as long as he stops it for a while.
What I mean is, dress up and make up urself everyday, keep yourself in the best condition, and go out to meet friends and new guys, and let him see these changes!
I donno if you have thought about this? If you want to make him become obsess with you, you should just go back to the one you were before, the one who attracted this guy to fall in love with you.
If the guy looks at your profile, you get a notification. The advice in this article is terrible. His actions are speaking louder than words. He wants something better, or someone else. Since that moment I knew I had to break contact with him since we were not on the same page.
I will have to trust his decision, and if I ever feel like my mistrust of him is too big to continue, I will let him know and I will break it off, just like I had intended the first time. This dating scene nowadays is tough , it is tempting not only to look around for other people because dating websites are just a click away, but snooping is easier as well, and very tempting.
I wish you all luck out there, be smart. Why did you let him talk you into staying with him? Your gut instinct was right. Life is too short to waste on second best relationships. I would rather be single. I my name is susan like to call sue. I need to start looking for a honest guy. Iam 49 year old. Have four grow up children.
Was engaged to a man but he been cheating on me, please need to leave and start anew life, i lost myhusband in Now my life is tore up. I wish I could find an article more recent in regards to this topic. I myself have been dating a guy for a little over a month.
Well, curiosity killed the cat, so I created a fake profile and though his was hidden, there are ways to search and find it regardless. I realized he accessed his account and kept mum. I suppose my issue is that his profile IS hidden therefore does not show up in any searches, so why is he accessing his account? If HE emails someone, they then have access to his profile and it can go from there. SO, why would he go and do something that would make me doubt him. Let alone make me feel like he is keeping me around until he finds something better.
You know the answer already. If you were your own best friend, what advice would you give yourself. Your gut instinct is right. Value yourself and find someone who wants you and no one else. I disagree with the advice in this article. The guy HAS given her a reason to distrust him. He offered exclusivity, yet actively participates in an online dating community.
When a person last logged in is public information. How transparent is that. Totally agree with you Moops. Trust is very hard and someone should give you reasons to trust!
I agree with you Moops. I had been dating this guy I met online for 4 months. I told him I was taking down my match account. He said he would also. Not only did he not do that, he joined pof and meet me!
I decided to still give him the benefit of the doubt. Yes he really said that! I said he was the one who was searching. Girls, stop the madness! I was honest with myself and realized I was only with him because I was lonely, and it is so hard to meet someone nice, but I was doing myself a disservice. Still trying to find the one…. This very thing happened to me.
Wasted an entire year on this man. Gave him the benefit of the doubt in the name of trust and it was a bad decision. Now I not only wasted a year but have spent six months trying to recover emotionally and am going back into the dating scene with less trust. If he is logging in…… he is looking or communicating and the bottom line is… you will never be able to trust him completely because this will always be in the back of your mind. A truly excellent reply.
This article seems to expose a type of man that is rotten to the core and is capable of using women without any conscience. The whole interaction left me feeling sick to my stomach. I completely agree that if someone is still checking dating sites after committing to someone then they are leaving options open,stroking their ego,or seeing you as for now person Its disrespectful and breaks trust not builds it.
I met someone in my home area on an online dating site. We have gone out 3 times in two weeks, and have several dates already arranged for the coming week. We are both divorced and he has a child almost every weekend, so we typically do not see each other from Friday to Monday night. I took my profile off the site because I believe it leads to hurt feelings and in my little mind, why make him not trust me. Do you think i should try and make it work or are we both just wasting our time?
My boyfriend and I have been going together for year and half. I have a guy friend , who never wants to tell me anything about himself , i knew he had a facebook so i looked him up. Didnt friend him , or harrass any of his friends , so looked at his profile and some of his likes and checked those sites out , he found out and got mad. Was i wrong for that? Was it so bad just to want to know little things about him? Like where he went to school and what color his hair was , little things like that.
I would answer anything he ask me about me which he never did. I feel guilty and ashamed that i betayed a trust and invaded his privacy. Wanting to know more about someone is human nature. Its a red flag. Take the hint and move forward.
Hello, I just want to ask how do you know when enough is enough? What if you have tried to understand his actions twice and he kept repeating it such as flirting on social media behind your back. When do you leave the relationship? Ok, I was involved with a guy some yrs ago. We hit it off really well until be took a sudden change for the worse. It was nothing for me to call or text and ask if I could come over and what not.
That went on for months until the other woman can into the picture. But before all of this happen, I told him that I loved him and his response was not what I wanted to hear. For years this has been haunting me. But my question or questions to you are…….
I texted him out of the blue to say hi and ask how he was doing and if he remembered me. His response was way better than I expected — not only did he remember me, but he said I had always been in his mind and he had hoped we would get back together at some point.
We were able to talk about things that had haunted me for years and I got answers to them. We did get together one time and it was a great evening — had some deep conversations and a lot of fun and did a lot of catching up.
We are both different people from 10 years ago yet we share that history. Keep it casual — just wanted to say hi, how are you doing. See how he reacts. You can talk about how you felt then if the discussion goes that way for both of you, not just you.
Hopefully you will get your answers but again, remember, it may not be the answers you want. But it could be as well. What does it mean when an ex bf ends it and say I expect to much from my boyfriends is that a good thing or a bad thing?
Ok so this might sound kinda stupid but I need some advise. Well I had this guy message me this charming message and from there we pretty much hit it off. What should I do? He was the one who always had the conversation going, asking interesting questions, being genuine, if he wasnt at work or sleeping he would text, voice massage, send pics and videos. He also spoke about the future, what my plans were, he told me his plans, he always would say I was amazing, his queen, his co workers referred to me as his GF, he told his mom, sister, brother, and father about me.
This went on for 7 weeks, and then it started to slow down.. Now I am confused. Or hanging around other girls? We are not officially together. Am I overthinking this? Could he be waiting til we meet again to make it official? I mean I understand a man will be a man, he has his needs, and unlike women, men NEED to have those met. He has come to see me every weekend and vacations. He is insecure about himself. Through his tears and my own trying to convince him I would not mistreat him he ends up mistreating me.
Over time we have kept talking it out. Many times I feared losing him and many times fought for myself to keep from walking away. At times I felt he was begging me to leave yet holding on. He still calls and text everyday and we tell each other 20 or more times a day we love each other. I admit I have been made to feel insecure because of all the false accusing he has done and have told him so.
It had gotten so bad that with all the love and pain I told him he had to stop accusing me or we would not make it. I love him so much and he was killing me. He did admit to his insecurities and said he did not want to lose me. We have talked about the future. Living together , kind of ingagement ring and our home to be. He does a lot of the talking and planning as much as me.
He says I do love you and I am not leaving you? I have always been loving and faithful to him. I have suffered real pain from him and still remained by him.
This weekend he was drinking and again accused me of looking at men. He is losing his hair and has skin problems that makes him feel unattractive but I accept him unconditionally. I feel if I let go I will lose him after all this time, love and pain. I feel we would be throwing away a beautiful thing. But the back and forth and the hurt it causes.
Could he be playing games and not realizing how bad it hurts? And why would he keep doing it when I tell him it hurts? My family and kids love him. Why does he behave this way. Should I give another ultimatum? Online dating site I met boyfriend in october. The passion was intense. He seemed to be into me. We live 1hr20min away from eachother. I feel comfortable with telling him my feelings and whats bothering me, he tells me what i want to hear.
When I ask whats the issue is he makes me out to be crazy. I just have this bad feeling that hes playing games with me and its a sick game to him. I have ongoing bad feeling that somethings not right, that im going to get hurt even more than i am now.
Could fear from past hurts be ruining current relationship by thinking to much. How am I supposed to handle that? Hi am so grateful to you guys for atleast for these 3 days i have been with u i have no regrets. Though i need your help, i love my man so much, and so does he me, only that its a long distance arrangement.
It is a year in two months time since i got him online through his sister in law, i have had a chance to see him for a month.
He texts me everyday and he seems happy with me. How do i ensure that i dont loss him to any other gal online. We were so much in love with each other over a sudden he stoped call or texting me unless I call or text him that when he will reply.
We would be mad at each other for days. And when he calls he would want us to be together and have sex without talking about our difference and he tell me he loves me very much and forget. What made us mad. One not fine day he called me to tell me that I should forget him and move on with my life when I ask why he did answer me and ended the call an hour later he call to me that he got back with his ex-girlfriend and that she was pregnant for him….
I never talked to him for a month. He called me 2days ago saying he wants to see me and to talk to me. I met him and we ended up having sex. Is he really telling the truth? Am so confused with what he is telling help me. Eric, what do you think? I he does do nice things for me he buys me clothes we hang out with his family he wants me to meet his mom, this guy has me confused.
We are long distance now, and I feel like it is more important to be in contact. We started off as friends and we messed around a little bit before he started seeing this other girl. They dated for a year and we stayed friends and became best friends and we all got along fine. His girlfriend hated that we were so close though. Then they broke up and a few months later he started maked the moves on me.
He has cheated in relationships before and while he has a good heart he sometimes does not make the best choices.
After his break up with his girlfriend he started seeing this other girl a week or two after, I told him it was too soon after his ex and he needed to take time for himself but of course he didnt listen till she moved away and started dating….
He started to show more and more signs that he wanted me as more then a friend and we discussed it. At this time in my mind there was no question, I did not want to be with him. But then he kept trying and trying and talking to people my co-workers mainly about dating me and how crazy he was about me and as time went on whenever we talked we started getting in little fights and disagreements.
He told me when we met up that he cant stand the thought of never having me again and would do anything to have me…. I do love and care for him very much but at that time it was like a brother. After that encounter we all continued to hangout as friends but then one day I saw him differnetly and i wanted him. There is more to it but maybe I shouldnt even be sharing here.
What else has he lied about? Either get out or stay and accept it, or keep being hurt. Hi Tracey will u give me advice. Cause I too have issues with my bf porn collection. And him re-creating pics to put my head on porn stars body.. Or what do u think.. Please and thank u. He has gone on vacation for 1 month without me. Should I doubt him or give him the benefit of the doubt?
Me and my boyfriend been together for 7 and half months now. He texts me every day during the week and weekends. However he isnt as affectionate over text, he is but he isnt as open than in person. Could posibly be that he can get or is attached to me since he texts me everyday? The tone of the message could also be misread and misunderstood, I myself had experienced this on several occasions!
We both have kids.. I have 2 he has 1 and they are older 7, 9, We met online and immediately hit it off. We laugh so much and are both great at helping each other,spoiling each other and giving each other all kinds of affection.
I let it go at first.. But then I found myself more and more after the kids were in bed sitting on the couch alone wishing he was there…and texting him when can we spend time together?
Then he would immediately spend time with me, we laugh talk.. And things were great. Then I came home he was cooking dinner and saw his phone and it had this pic of a girl and said wanna go on a date? I cooly asked him what that was about. He said it was part of an online game they just pop up. So that was Sunday I came home Thursday I was changing and his phone lit up with another one of those chicks…I made the decision to look at his phone.
It was some app called Tagged and looks just like a dating service thing. I was so upset. But I was like why are you telling them they are beautiful and goregous and yada yada..
He erased them from his phone…said he was sorry he was only using it as a game.. I want to believe him…. He deleted the app from his phone but make sure he deletes his account! I met my ex on there and after 2 year together he was still chatting with girls, looking at their very exposed pictures and meeting up with them for sex.
It started out as a hook up and he always told me if I wanted to see other people i should but when I did he always kinda freaked about it. He would ask if they took me to places like he did or did they do things like this!
He really showed how much it bothered him. He is not an openly emotional man at all! That was the first and only time he told me he loves me. But he told me before and since then that we arent in a relationship that is going to progress in any way.
He has his goals and that is that. He says he doesnt see any one else but wont make a commitment to be exclusive. I mainly just wanna feel loved. Now that being said his actions are extremely different from his words. He acts like he loves me by doing little things to help me out, buys me flowers for holidays and i believe he does in his way. I do love him. I want more with him eventually. He treats me good and is a gentleman in every way. Just this wknd he went with me to my best friends wedding and he never would do anything like that before.
I do not understand him! I want more or to at least know there is the potential for more. I am a 33 yr old divorced mom of 2 been divorced 5 yrs and he is 34, never married, no kids, typical man who wants to have his house built and everything he needs before he gets married. That is just crazy that you would waste your time on a man that you see once every 6 weeks.
Please ask yourself if you can live the rest of your life with a man you hardly see!! He clearly does not share the same feelings that you have or he would make more of an effort!!
As hard as I know it will be find yourself a man that will give you what you need and deserve!!! He will not change!!! He has a great head of his shoulders and is very driven.
I know I can be needy, but is it wrong to want your boyfriend to tell you he misses you? We try to see each other once in 6 weeks. He does have a very crazy work schedule.
I miss him alot, but sometimes I just want to end it all. Today, I told him I missed him and wished him a great day at work.. Is the adjustment process supposed to be this hard? However he told me that he is hanging out with this other girl and he is really starting to like her. He says he likes us both, he says both of the relationships are moving along nicely…. Omg he is playing u both! Start seeing other guys need forget him before he breaks ur heart.
Hi Eric,, i have been dating this guy 4 months and he is with me every weekend!! He is amazing in nearly everyway!! So last Sunday i asked him where he thinks we are going with this and he said he didnt want a relationship!! I pretended i didnt care but i really was shattered.. Since then he has called and text everday sometimes twice and tonight told me he had bought me a present.. Please help,, i just think all men are wierd!!! I have a problem that has been causing issues for me in this relationship.
His computer, his phone.. Never answered phone calls when I am around and so forth. So the seed was planted, but I confronted him a few times with this, and he was always on the defensive calling me paranoid and so forth.
I have always had the idea that, if there is nothing to hide, why hide it. Anyways, I confronted him, and after a while he ave in reluctantly to atleast not have his laptop passworded.. But it feels very restrained.. But he knows now I am a bit suspicious and what bugs me.
Now the other day we were sitting on the couch together, he had his laptop there, and opened facebook.
There was a private message in his inbox, and he just ignored it because I was there. So the suspicious feelings all came back.. I sat there waiting for at least 10 minutes to see if he would open it. I then decided to test him, and walk into the kitchen. See now this makes me feel he is hiding things, i would never read, what there was, just glance and see who it was from maybe.. I always open and chat with anyone and everyone openly.. And his defensive attitude just makes my suspicions worse.
There were times he asked me the same questions, where I would then just show him everything to ease his mind. But when its the other way around, Im just a paranoid stupid nut. Please give me some advice on how to handle this properly.
I have been going out with this guy for a while and it just started getting serious right as I leave town. Ok, so my boyfriend is great. We go on dates, hang out all the time. I would like for him to return the favor sometimes. He knows what I like. How do I get him to do this without telling him directly because to me it seems like its not worth it if I have to tell him….
My boy friend and I were dating. He broke up with me. Did he want to do that? We were together for one and a half days. This after asking for months and getting no. Am I wasting my time? Hello there , I just dont understand why we do better when we are single then we are in relationships. I kind of not want to ask him anymore and want to let go.. Its killig me cause of this intense pressure and stress. I think you should leave him to be honest..
Do you really want to be one of those women who get married to a guy that doesnt care for you back? Because thats what it sounds like to me. Do what makes you happy most and really think about it, does he make you happy? Or does he make you down, unsure and annoyed? You deserve to be happy do what you think is right and be true to your self and thats really all you can do. Really, its urgent to know if you have hot eyes? What does that even mean?
For instance, do you mean before you ever started dating he was obviously trying to say you have bad eyes? Congradulations, you win the prize for making the least sense. Everything was goin really well. He came to my house every night, with no pressure from me I might add. I didnt call myself his girlfriend as I thought it was to early. Well… leaving comments is one way. Another way is to post your question in the forum dating. Believe me, if I could answer every question personally I would, but we get hundreds of questions every day so we can only get to so many.
Short and to-the-point will definitely help your chances of getting an answer. I was with a man, for 12 years. He was young when we met. We broke up a few times, then it became final, only because he is now dating a much younger girl then him, from another country. She is very very young, and does not have a whole lot of life experience.
She is 19, he is The week we broke up, we made love, we cried, and he said he loved me. It was a very emotional time for both of us. It was like both our worlds were ending. The next week, he is texting this girl from the states, and falls deep in love, and they are telling each other they love each other. Anyhow, we get together for coffee etc.
I talk, and I tell him how much I love him and want my life with him, as I always have. He still needs the connection to me.
We still talk on the phone, I still tell him I love him. Anyhow what I am asking is, being a grown woman, is this really just a phase because he was young when we met? Is he looking for his young hood so to speak? I have let him go, so he can experience this, knowing it is probably just a phase.
However the way he looks at me, all the time, I know he still loves me. I tell him all the time, I know he still does. Think of him as emotional vampire. He is healing himself and getting over you by being near you. He saps away your happiness.
And while you love him if you two broke up and you want him back I would say to not contact him for about 3 weeks. If he says hey say hey back but then tell him you are busy. All what my boyfriend ask if i have brought him food.
Hi i have been in a relationship with this guy,he love me and i love him,but the thing is he is married,and i also told him that am enganged,but yet still he agreed and go on even if i get married he will still be with me and he insisted me to show him my man who will marry me. One day he told me that there was a girl he knew long time ago and that girl started phoning him so he told his wife to answer the phone call to shut her down.
I love you and i only wanna be with you! Then i tell him to take it off then and he says ok i promise. But i know i love him a lot but i need help what should i do does he really love me or is he creeping around? You really need to say good bye to this guy. He is playing you, and his other girl. It is not fair to either of you. You are better then this, and deserve more. Someone who respects you, and the ground you walk on. Not someone who walks on you. He said he was sorry i said it was ok but my heart was unhappy.
I would move on and find a guy that cares for you. Men that are in love buy a Valentine card or a stuffed bear whatever the occassion. So me and my boyfriend have 1year and 3months Im 17years old and his 23 ilovehim but ….. I really need advice: Maybe he was drunk? I dated this guy for about three month. Everything was going pretty well between us until one of my friends told me he was cheating on me and sleeping with other girls.
When I asked him about it he was angry at me for thinking he would do that. This friend was a pretty close friend and she heard the news from her brother who hung out with him. He stopped talking to my friends brother because of this. He said he could like to confront my friend who accused him for cheating and sleeping with other girls.
Should I just ignore what my friend said he did. Part of me believes him but I also believe my friend. Me and my boyfriend have been together for going on 4 years. We lived together for most of time. When his friends started popping up he started acting wierd. Claimin i was cheatin on him. We have had 2 kids one that is now 16 months and a little girl 13 weeks ago and we put her up for adoption.
He talks to me all day every day. He wants to have a better relationship with his son. Im having really mixed feelings about my bf.
We have been dating for months and we are extremely different than each other. Sometimes i love him, and sometimes I dont. I dont want to feel that way for the rest of my life. He is extremely sensitive and cries all the time. I need to break up with him but i really cant bring myself to do it. Hes 22 and hes way too immature. How do i break it to him? Ive told him many times about little things he does that needs to stop, and he says hell change but never does, and he never listens to me.
I dont talk much so usually when I say something, its important. Hi Ashley, I totally understand you… I was in the same situation over a year ago. He was the most sensitive guy I had ever met, cried, had panic attacks, and relied on me too much. I felt like I had to be a mother in front of him because I am a very independent person.
There were numerous things that I had told about the things he does that needs to stop, and he always said he would change but he never did. We dated for 9 months and I ended the relationship over summer break on Skype. Not the best way to do it I know, but as we spent time apart during summer I realized what a burden he was becoming and how he was mentally dragging me down along with himself.
You should break up with him. You will find someone better, I promise. Because I did and I am very happy right now! You said you would change, but you never tried to. You could never understand how what meant so little to you could mean the world to me. He text me he was thinking about something that he wanted to say but he cannot say it but he wants to say it.
He said he was confused. Usually people behave like your bf behaving with you when they want to quit a relationship. Then this one time he asked me to go over to his house for dinner and i agreed since i had refused so many times, then things happened and it got too late to go home and i had to sleepover at his house and needless to say we had sex for the first time. Eric, I do not know you, but you are my best friend! U taught me through your writings what nobody else has managed to: You articles made me feel more confident and happy with my life and realize that I do not have to depend on others in order to be happy, and since then my relationships with all people in my life have improved.
And thank you for that comment, I really appreciate hearing that I helped you. Such a constructive articles; would second Irka on that one; thank you Eric for reflecting the simple yet smart thinking of a relationship.
Okay, so me and my ex broke up about a month ago. We were really close and we hung out everyday and now that I think about it that was a bad idea. We went on a break for a couple of days and I honestly thought that would never have happened and I was shocked. After a couple Of days we got back together and it was kind of awkward and we were fighting. I kept asking him what was wrong but he kept saying nothing. At first I said yes and I was crying because of the break up and we were both sad about it but we kept talking to each other for a couple of days.
A couple of weeks later I told him I was okay with being friends and he said he would think about it. Ty and told me to leave him alone. Right now we are avoiding each other and being mean to each other but sometimes it seems like he still cares about me. Idk what to do should I tell him that what we are doing is stupid and that we should be friends?
Should I just let him go and get over him or should I try to get through to him? I think you should leave him alone and move on! The reason I say this is because beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.
Im in my second month with my amazing boyfriend. We talked about it and we decided to try new things. Find ways to spice it up. This is a lesson for a future realationship. STOP texting the poor boy. Play the game if you want him back. Then let some time past. Maybe send a text saying Happy New Years and leave it at that. Take his shoes and put them on. By this time it should be easier to detach from the realationship after playing the game a bit and prepare you for the next realationship.
Hey my ex has a new girl and his life they was chilling n I knew nothing about it.. Then she did some to make herself noticeable cause I knew nothing about her! So once I seen them hugging and kissing but now he doesnt do those things with her..
Why will he come back in my life if he was chilling with her! He tells me everything they do and they only hang out late night but he is trying to keep me in his life and he say she is cool but he cant see his self with her and he has none else to do! If he treats her like that then you can see how he will probably treat you. Would you want him to talk about you like that? Would you want him to say that to another girl if you were with him?
And if he is only using someone because he has nothing else to do…. He is basically using her. Sounds like the guy needs to do some soul searching and decide what he really wants. I have been dating this guy since August. I never through a fit when he goest to his buddies but when I hang out with mine he gets all upset. What is up please I need answer?
Honestly I dated a guy just like that. I am in a relationship just like that. So i dont kno if in this case im the one wrong for going to these places. Whenever i go to the clubs i go with my girlfriends i never dance with other guys n wen it comes to parties is the same thing i dont even drink.
Im not sure what is his worry. I dont know what to do because im 18 and im in college and obviously i like to go out but then again i love this guy. I was married to someone like the guy you described and when I realised he would never change, I just gave it all up… not worth the time and effort. It only takes a bit of patience and not giving up on meeting other people. He is always saying how much he loves me in really sweet ways and how much i mean to him and i feel the same way.
How can i let him know that he is everything to me without sounding cheesy.? I have a friend who is an ex who really wants to be with me again, But hes with a girl who he got regnant and says that after the baby is born and adopted off hes gonna ditch her to get back with me.
Hes telling her and other people that hes not gonna leave her but tells me a whole different story. So what do you think is going on with his head? Cause according to him hes only with her cause shes pregnant but his heart is beating for me. You should realize that hes having a baby with her you should be telling hym to stay with her that you dnt wan to be with hym that he should be there taki.
Hello, I just want to know why do my boyfriend like to make love to me, or have sex? My bf and I have been going out for at least 2 and a half months now, but for some reason, every time we make out, he keeps on touching me in my private areas.
Should I let him do that? My boyfriend and I have been living together for 5 yrs…we have 2 lil girls. I over heard him one time on the phone with his mom, telling her he was just staying with me for his daughter….
My friend started to see this guy. Nice guy but he picked her up beer on the way over and when she offered to give him money for it he took it. I think this might be a deal breaker… what do you think he should have done? PS he works and owns a company small with his friends has his own house and car. I am 17 and I am in long distance with a guy of 21 years living in Italy. We knew each other when we were very small. He was interested in me when he was in relationship with some other girl 4 years back and I knew this.
Early also we were in relationship for a month or two 3 years back with I left him because of some family problems. But we are again together from 3 months and 16 days. And at times I do call him but my call him I remain with no words.
We both love each other alot. What should I do with his talks?? I never met him as his girlfriend should I go this time when I go to Italy? Hello Everyone, I have a guy friend, we always hang out and do stuff together, he told me he is growing very fond of me?
I really feel better to have seen this website, I have a boyfriend who used to care a lot about me, we met 2yrs back, and ater a year he asked me to have a baby with him, promised to marry because i told him that the father of the baby i want should be the man who is going to marry me, we agreed on that.
I was living about km away from him after the pregnancy because of the transfer i was given. Ever since he went to the place once, and never started to tell me that the place is far but he never did until i asked for a transfer. My man has changed a lot that even if i am around he enjoys the company of the other guy who we are sharing a house with.
He never seat next to me, always besides the girl. I bed he distance himself from me, he never kiss nor hug, he never enjoy talking to me, never sms like he used to, never call me with those romatic names, this girls is always calling him and they will spend more than an hour talking in my presence, all these he did to the girl infront of me.
Hey i have a problem.. Ive been with my bf 18months and just recently he has found out i lied and he ended it with me. How can i get him bk? How can i prove to him that i wouldnt do it again? Recnetly hes become very distant and thoughts r going through ny head like does he have a new gf has he cheated.. Im not sure what to do. Can u help me get him back please? Eric, I have been in a wonderful relationship for 2 years and he always said he wants to marry me.
But recently I found that he was lying about his past and he was married twice before and had kids from these relationships. He always told me he was a bachelor in his entire life. I want to leave, but I am so much in love with this guy. So I decided to stay, but went ahead and asked him. I am so confused now. I want this man and is there any way I can make him talk to me? Tell him that u love him, and that u were just curious about his past. I mean who isnt? Ask him y he lied, and y it was a secret.
U love him for him, not the name of him, or what he is or what he does, u love what makes him up. From his laugh to his smile. And all the sweet talk, and how he makes u feel better when ur down. Tell him u dont care about that, that u only care bout u and him, nothin else. This almost always works. Then, all of a sudden, he pulls away and stops his chase.
So ive been going out with my boyfriend for over a year and hes cheated on me and i took him back, because he says he loved me. He shows he really loves me, but i dont know if he really loves me.
Hes lied and cheated so i dont know if to believe it. Ive noticed last few months he hasnt been like that as much. I have been acting a bit more needy, clingy latelty…would that make him withdrawal a little bit too?
And yet… obvious too? They have their independent, fulfilling lives: And then, slowly but surely, they start giving up those pieces of their independent lives to spend more time in their relationship. Then life starts throwing stresses and obstacles in the way.
One or both people in the relationship start putting other things in front of the relationship. The other person is in the same boat — dealing with life, putting other things in front of the relationship and not putting as much in, but expecting to get just as much out…. Well… you get what you put in. And that sole dependency on your relationship to fulfill you neediness causes stress on your partner.
It ADDS to his problems and stresses instead of replenishing him. Let your life fill you up, and then let the overflow of your fulfillment spill into your relationship John Grey was actually the first person I heard put it like this, so credit to him on that metaphor.
Hope that helps and thanks for your concise, to-the-point question. My boyfriend broke up with because he was going through a lot ,The bank took his car and his house was about to be reposesed,so we He dumped he said he doesnt want to waste my time so it is better if i just dump him and moveon with my life he said he want to serve god,he doesnt want to date anymor ,So didnt argue with but i just let it go. And to all of you who have problems in with your boyfriend or girlfriend Let it go stop making yourselves some1 second option,T.
D jakes said If piple walk out of your life let them go,it mean you were not Conected to them so let them go,is not easy i know but trust me U will thank yourselves. I want to see him but he ask me why i want to see him and if i am fine and he also told me he is trying to move on and he suggest i do the same.
I wanted to know if my boyfriend in cheating…or well in this case would you guys think it is considered cheating or that he will cheat? Well recently on facebook an old friend has contacted me and found out I was dating my current boyfriend and added him as a friend and now I think they may be talking to each other. When I ask if they speak he tells me just a few times while playing facebook games but never mentions the emails. They talk about things could happen and that they are still young and stuff?
I had been dating my boyfriend for basically almost 3 years. Junior and senior year of high school and it was not the best relationship. We took a year break though our first year of college. He left for school and became distant. He came to visit me 2 weekends after it was my first weekend of college and while he was out of my room I logged onto his facebook i know thats bad.
SO i confronted him about it and he said he kissed her drunk once at a party. I started to give him another chance cuz he told me so many amazing things and he changed completely and gave me so much love but then i decided i could not forgive him right now so now i am not talking to him.
I broke up with my boyfriend 3 months back,and last night He called said he is coming to pick me i refused and he got upset Does it mean he still love me. Well I just left him like 4 days ago and this is the first time he has shown his Stuart on Facebook to all of his friends now that he is single.
And at the moment I am enjoying my days as being sing. Steph same thing me and my now husband in a very long distabce erlationship for very long time we have never lived together.
I thought things were great but found he cheated on me not once but twice maybe more? But 2 times I can account for and then he was messing around with a girl ona cruise ship that he worked on and found out he had 2 facebooks on the one facebook he had her on his frineds list she had their picture up and stated they were in a relationship. Fought to get control over that find out he still texting girls hes meeting on the ship telling me they are co workers finding out they were guest on the cruise ships.
Every time I ask him he get pissed off cos I checking on him well I am the one that should be pissed off because byt his time we are married he used t have his status on facebook as married but now he makes it so his profile hides that info and Im seeing him having his picture taken with all these different girls.
Based on previouls lies I really wonder if hes back to cheating on me, something he swore he would never do after we got married and oh yes we do have a baby together, he always calls and says kiss her for me but makes no such remarks to me. In fact I had a battle with him and his damn ass attitude tonite as well. Your article is very helpful but I am curious about something else.
Even for guys who do talk about their feelings, it can still sometimes be a challenge. And there lies the problem…. Guys are much more inclined to look at the evidence in front of them and draw conclusions. Unfortunately, long distance relationships rely heavily on good communication to compensate from the other person not being present. One thing though, he always says one thing then does another.
I really just want to believe him. Thru I really do alot for him. After 8 months of the same thing. Am I wrong for always wanting to believe in him? I think he means that he needs to make caring for his children and raising them a priority. In the meantime, keep yourself busy doing things that you love doing and enjoying life.
Hi i broke up with my boyfriend and He claim that he has moved on with his life, But each time he come to me he want to have sex with me. Does it mean he still love me. Unfortunately I think he just loves having sex with you.
Of course I am replying from a female perspective and not a guys so I am not saying that this is guaranteed. This article was fantastic and I want to say that I was in a relationship with someone who I loved very much and I know that he loved me a tonne too. He was not calling and not being available and it was making me so upset that every time I did see him I would cry. This was our eventual demise. He was very open with me and we are still quite close but not in a romantic way.
He did tell me that this was the reason that he felt we needed to break up. Lesson learned on my end. What you have said is so valuable, Eric. Thank to you, now I understand my boyfriend better. I read him better now.
Imsges: ive been dating a guy for a year
Of course I am replying from a female perspective and not a guys so I am not saying that this is guaranteed.
We would be mad at each other for days.
Really, its urgent to know if you have hot eyes? Lesson learned on my end. Im 24 yrs old and im very attractive and have never been in a real relationship and crave that part of my life ive been dating a guy for a year someone special. When a Guy Doesn't Text Back This poem is how I feel. Or what do u think. You can talk about how you felt then if the discussion goes that way for both of you, not just you.