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They are depressed because no guy they like actually likes them. It has nothing to do with them choosing or skipping you, since it showed up the very first time I used the site. I had to hire a lawyer for a friend who was falsely accused of rape by his malignant cunt of a girlfriend. Then you should probably run the other way. My spirit and soul. Your story sounds familiar. Give yourself a break, okay?
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To know exactly how important looks, personality and money are to women check out: But by going out and meeting lots of women we become more comfortable with interacting but also in learning about ourselves. Because they never do, if you don't pay for it but even if you do they still won't come because they no you will keep sending the money. A funny "woman" asked me to send money to her, to buy a webcam. Thanks for your article. When searching for profiles on the right there is a side bar listing newest match members. Relationships are amazing when you can strengthen eachother.
I know how important aesthetics are on dating sites. I try to communicate with ladies who would be in my league.
However, dating sites give the ladies the advantage. However, i do realize that ladies have issues regarding security, I do get that.
As a 62 year old woman, I find it near to impossible to meet anyone even remotely within my area who ARE someone I would like to get to know better. I care nothing for one night stands, nor friends with benefits people.
I just am not that type of person. I can do that myself. But a nice companion for dinners and movies would be nice. It seems however that men my age want someone in the bracket. Who does one trust? At this point, after e harmony, Match. I totally understand your comments..
I paiid Our Time 6months met one man and after month talking.. I was so shocked after xoffee I never spoke to him again… So many years younger pics they post… Be honest post current pics. Hey everyone I was on Our time 3 different times and all 3 times met great guys or so I thought the first only lasted a couple of months he wanted to be possessive. I have decided to reenter the dating game after 15 years of keeping silent and to myself with family. I just woke up one day and decided at 66, I want to meet a man that has similar likes and dislikes as me.
I have a small farm that I dearly love working on and grow all my food, including chickens. It is almost impossible to find a man that likes this sort of lifestyle, much less wants to be involved in it. The perfect partner for me would certainly be a small farmer that loves the soil and works it with love every day.
He would also have to like salt water fishing because next to the soil that is a big love of mine as well. So it is not going to happen for me unless I take the time and pursue this in places where farmers and fishing are prevalent. Therefore, I will begin to go to those farmer days and outings and I will spend lots more time at the beach fishing. If I meet someone special that is great. Good luck to everyone looking and be safe always.
Hi Linda, thanks for your comment. Linda I totally identify with what you said. In up state NY my options are almost non existent Love to fish be in the oods and grow things.
As I read your comment,I felt a little ftustrated. I have the same comments about these sites as everyone else. I was on Farmers Only for several months and experienced much disappointment. In my profile,I stated who and what I was and that I desired to connect with woman who enjoyef rural life. Truly believe most women on that site were looking for a dtugstore cowboy with a new shiny truck. None of the women on Farmers say they wanted to meet a man with rural roots which I found rather odd.
You just have to keep turning stones. Strange but unlike most comments here I have found the dating sites overwhelmingly populated by cougars. The 61 yr old female looking for 25 to 50 yr old men.
I no longer frequent any of them since most ladies never respond to any show of interest but keep coming back to view my profile but never leaving a message at all. One thing I am not looking for is more frustration in my life. Marsha Your message is exactly how i feel. Still full time employed and self sufficient, divorced for over 12 years. Not interested in sleeping around. Just want companionship for events, listening to oldies music from the 70s, trips and just exchange experiences and laugh a lot.
But looks like there are NO men going for that. Ive decided to just join cultural, gardening and volunteer groups where I can meet people face to face. However, this article is extremely honest and well written. You have to keep safe and keep playing. Lots of people I know are now part of a twosome.
Oh Really am new to all this i have also meet a lady that posted her old pictures when she was young. After reading some of the shared comments, I would like to add my two cents worth. It does seem to be challenging to meet quality people for me -men that would like to have q good relationship with a good woman Their mouth or pen is moving. What is wrong with getting to know a person first? Finding out if you like each other enough to forsake others and try to see if you two can make a go of it?
At our age we should have experience enough life to know what basically is negotiable vs is nonnegotiable. How about being comfortable with not only who you are, but where you are in life? No, I am not talking about sitting all day in a rocker and playing dead. But , enjoying life with whatever disabilities, lumps bumps, etc. Now a days-there seems to be more inference on sex than anything else.
Sex-when has that ever determine the value of any relationship? Whatever happen to wanting to get to know one another? Which can lead to true friendship and companionship. Do you remember when you could talk to each other about everything and nothing-but still enjoying just being together?
How about when you were looking across the room at each other , and sharing that special smile -that special look that said so much?. Yet to others, it said nothing-but to you two ahhh-it was like a secret code that only the two of you knew.
Well, Steve Harvey always says the 90 day rules applies to everyone. Yes Dorene I agree with you as well. I love Steve Harvey and own both of his books on relationships. What he is saying makes a lot of sense. I was in a very bad marriage for 26 years that was hard for me to get out of as my ex was abusive in very many ways. Since I have been out in the dating world I find that everything seems to have changed.
But after 26 years I was sure it would be. When I left my ex and found a gentleman who truly was a gentleman and waited to approach me about being intimate. It may have not been the 90 days but it was a while and we dated for four years. So now I hope that I can find someone who would at least give the relationship time instead of hopping in the sack. I see a psychologist because of my past and let him know of what I am finding in this new world of dating. The bottom line is men and there are women as well are not respectful of one another anymore.
I wish everyone well with their searches and may God bless you. What a well written post, and I totally agree with everything that you said. What happened to men who respected you for the person you are and enjoyed being in your company for the purpose of conversation and connecting mentally? Does anyone believe in companionship or friendship anymore? Would love to meet a man with honest values and one who is capable of making a commitment. Men Do want younger women and younger men want Sugar Mamas!
These dating sites have been a joke. Just stumbled upon this site, loving it. Well I just stumbled onto this site too. I appreciate the thoughtfulness and honesty of the posts here Your post is something i could have said too about women.
I think the sad truth is that most people are not capable of having a truly intimate relationship. It seems the older people are, the more it is true. Most people become more rigid the older they get, and certainly more set in their ways, making them less likely to give up the freedom they have as a single person. I think most of us like the idea of being in a loving relationship. What i have found out is that finding someone who can actually show up when the heat is on and wants to be with me, and i want to be with her is rare, especially being over sixty.
Having a personality and mutual respect is what the foundation should be for any relationship regardless of the age of those involved. It is true that the men are seeking sex….. Just be honest if u want a friend with benefits then let the guy know. If u are not into the guy, pay your own way on the date and move on down the line. No gentleman wants to be considered as an entertainment center at this point in his life and would hope that the woman in his company actually enjoyed his company and was not simply with him for A Night out and a free meal.
Of course, it is my belief that doing the everyday things of life….. Will let us know if we are compatible with one another…. Sitting across from you at some restaurant tells me nothing about you except your table manners. For me at this stage of my life …66…. Best of luck to each of you…. After reading some of the comments about online dating sites I would like to make a comment about Plenty of Fish. I thought it was a really good website until I got kicked off because all of my emails from them kept going in my spam.
Try to get back on there and it is next to impossible. I have written to them several times to see if they could help me get back on. The scammers are everywhere on all of these sites. I was almost scammed 3 times I am ashamed to admit but they are very devious!
I am 61 years old and find that most of the men I talk to have nothing but sex on their mind. I think our world is going to hell really quick.
It is very depressing and I wish there were more honest people on these sites and not jerks! Needless to say I am still looking for a good man. In March when I officially retire I think I am going to start looking at activities through churches and community buildings to try to meet people.
It seems to me that would be the only way to meet someone as I am not a bar hopper or nor do I go to clubs. Good luck everyone on finding your soul mate! Kevin Gillham it is good to hear there are good men out there.
I am sorry that your marriage ended the way it did. I have stopped going on the online dating sites. I was diagnosed with another health issue that I have confronted and in the process have lost forty pounds and am doing really well.
I know my problems were due to an abusive marriage and now I am feeling more confident about myself. I enjoyed your feedback and hope to hear from you again.
Hi Kevin Same thing happened to me. Hi Kevin, yOu sOund like the man every woman dream of. I bet yOur not alone anymore. This is the First time I visited this site…. And out of curiousity i read many of the comments and the replies… there seems to be quite a bit of confusion about sex and indivuales …. I agree with you on almost E very thing that you said. If you live near or close to , we can bond and explore.. Thanks and God bless!
I wish you the best of luck! New also and none of this real sounds like it is even worth the effort. Thank you very much. I think it more says, well I want to know what I will get for my dollar coffee and of course my one hour of invested time. I hear the women and the men and my view for what its worth sounds like both are a little defensive, with good cause. You may find a treasure or merely a friend. You will have gotten to know another person. Enough said, no lecture intended. Most men are jerks.
Most men get older but not necessarily more mature. Most men never learn how to be friends first with women. Most men are too concerned with sex as if sex is the answer to everything. I was looking for compatibility and connection, for communication, for shared interests and values. If you had read my profile on OK Cupid, if you had answered a few hundred questions, like I did, it would be easy for you to determine that I was a quality guy.
What matters is that you carefully weed out the wheat from the chaff. You just have to sort out the frogs from the princes. Not all women on these sites are prizes either. There is usually a good reason or two why women are single later in life. I think what our society does in general to men is not conducive to making them good in relationships.
Men are told not to cry, not to show emotion, not to be vulnerable. I was just lucky to be born into a culture that rejects that view of men and teaches respect, if not adulation, for women. The larger issue is how men get to be the way they are. You know the old saying, about the hand that rocks the cradle can change the world?
There are good men out there, like me. Sure a lot of us are taken, just like a lot of good women are taken. The time you spend complaining can be better used in searching. Thanks for your comment. It sounds to me that these are sex preditors lurking on the site and their profiles are probably phoney. Absolutely do not respond to them; rather, please report them to the site. These guys could be very dangerous. There are good and honest people everywhere, some may not be in your location so if you such you have to sacrifice to get them.
At 53, I know my best sex years are behind me physically but I still have the desire to have my hands on her curves, lips kissing her in the spots that at least I am attracted to, nape of her neck, as a for instance , etc.
Do you really think you are going to find a best friend who is the opposite sex? Best friends become so … because they have same interests, and through the pursuit of their interests they are for lack a better term, thrust together and their time spent enjoying that interest buys time spent with another which then can blossom into a true friendship. Not a lot of women are dedicated to football, hunting, etc, the things that men are often found around.
If I am seeking a best friend, then I will look in the areas where I am going to have a good time too. Anyways the problem I have become convinced is the true enemy, is how many women cannot get happy with their appearance, not even to the point of when I am very adamant about how much I love their breasts I happen to prefer breasts that are saggy, because to me, those are real breasts, perky just makes me feel like a pedophile , and I use that as an example, it could just as easily be their bottom or legs or whatever.
Point is that if I say it turns me on … take my word for it! And let go like you would if you DID have that body that you seem to think is SO important to have a great sex life.
I know its not an answer, just an explanation. We do at least try. I could name the ones which make us men look less flattering but you Ladies know which ones hurt your situation more.
So ya, whether the man admits it or not, and whether he is able to even perform or not, its still about sex. She knows and keeps his secrets, and he loves her for that because again … sadly in our world today, it is THAT important to a man that he be viewed as a MAN, in full and completeness. Lastly , it is true most or many men are POS. Would like to know more so can write me at nelykeoyahoo. Whereas I support most of that, the complexities of such an agenda are too great.
All that counts in this society is money. We have a crass commercial culture that is totally about what you look like, how much money you make, the car you drive, the house you live in, etc. Heads up for men who are broke: All the while he was a white collar criminal.
He finally got caught and went to prison. The state took everything [of hers and his] and considered all assets to be fruit from the poisonous tree. AARP has 30,50,70 age range yet its advertised as over70dating. I sure wish I could find a way to no longer receive email messages about this thread.
I have sent 2 messages to your site, and I never get a reply, and I still get an email every time someone comments. There is no unsubscribe anywhere. Thanks for removing me from the email list. I am with a verrrrry special man who I met through okcupid. There are some good and honest ones out there!
If you ladies think you have it bad. I am 71 and a widow. I too, look a lot younger. I have been on our time for only a short time and had several contacts. Three of them I have met. Only one was close to my age.
The other two were 80 and But, like of you said, they want women 10to15 years younger. Would you mind telling me which side you have checked out. Almost dread starting all over again with the new site. I have been on several of the senior dating sites for several months. I finally figured out that men are not interested in women over 60 no matter how good the women might look.
Then they are looking for anyone as a nurse or a purse. Very sad how women our age are so disrespected—even by AARP. Look at the women they feature on their covers. You are wrong GG. You might be right in general terms, but I want to grow old with someone who will be facing the same things at the same time as I will. I choose a woman too much older than me, and odds are I will first have to watch her suffer through some horrible illness and then have to bury my love.
At least not to the ability I could have, when I was their age. I have tried all the date sites and never had any luck. They all tell you what you want to hear and all become lies. Or all want money. No luck with any or them. Free or not, every senior dating site sucks! They claim and advertise things that are not true! How can we, as seniors, who are disgusted and tired of their lies, bring them down?
Is a class suite the answer? Ironically, it seems to be one of the better ones. Virtually all of the sites seem to be run greedy, deceptive owners who do little to prevent fraud and scamming, commit it themselves in their billing practices. All seem to have clunky or flawed matching functions whether deliberate or not , and other problems, with little if any customer support.
Ironically, even sites claiming a religious orientation do this. I was on one small site that was very honest and well run Science Connection , but they had a very small user base, and went out of business last year.
Sadly, there seems to be no large, honest, well run dating site on the entire web. Getting such a site started in the sea of already dominant, dishonest ones would probably be hard, but if there any honest entrepreneurs out there, I encourage you to give it a go!
By the way, I had to chuckle at some a couple of people who left their email addresses, hoping to meet someone like minded here, after having little luck on dating sites. So, what the hey, let me do the same. I like to get to know a woman before anything else. Thanks, and good luck to everyone. They never restricted membership age anyway, so I guess now they are openly appealing to younger singles.
So, one less Internet site for senior singles, altho Our Time was awful anyway. Another black eye for us senior singles. Dating sites listed above, I used to be on some.. OK Cupid do not favor me and I deactivated my membership, sick of lies. I got several messages from younger ladies wanting a fling but I needed something more.
So we had no chemistry. Anyone that would recommend a better site where I can find my soulmate. If you find a good website let me know.
I too am tired of all the lies and the requests for money. Nothing but lies, or fake profiles. I found one reviews site that might be useful for you. I know that SeniorMatch does not allow members below the age of You can take a look and choose the suitable one for you.
I know one review sites for online senior dating http: It has listed the best 5 sites including SeniorMatch and OurTime. I have tried Our Time and Senior People Meet and have not been real impressed and been asked for money from men on both sites.
I am taking a break from the sites for now because it all became to depressing but if I decide to return I will try one of the others. You gotta love it: Check out the SeniorMatch website.
It has a photo of a something woman with a something man. So another slap to senior women. Plus the ages that they allow are 30 years and older. Also want to comment about Our Time. I tried them and hated it because of how it works. And you show know this: Does it look like everyone around you makes it look so simple but you have a hard time with this idea whenever someone new asks you out? You may be setting about it the wrong method, or you may merely require some dating ideas for ladies that will make the procedure a little simpler.
Get tips at http: So depressing and frustrating. I have been on these sites, not for long but, I also noticed that the men seem to want young ladies, , I been on zooks,. If you are paying money for ANY of the other sites, you are likely wasting it. The folks at OK Cupid have devised a series of questions.
The more you answer and the more the people you are looking for answer, the better the suggested matchups. As an example, I am very close friends with a woman I would otherwise have never met. It would be more, but neither of us wants a long distance relationship. BTW she is 60 and I am By being totally honest about what I was looking for — an activity partner — and about my current relationship, I found three lovely women.
The fourth person I met about a year ago now as I write this turned out to be the other love of my life. ALL of them live long distance, like over miles. How does that help me again?
I thought it was set up just for scamming. Once my profile was complete, the first 7 men who contacted me were all scammers. POF is one of the worst. I was on there the other day, thinking I would put up my profile once again. All profiles have been on POF for at least 5 years. Not one has been updated, not one.
Same old photos, same old blah blah blah. What does that tell you? I am looking for someone to have an intelligent conversation with. Someone that can make me laugh and just enjoy life. Stay tuned… We expect to publish it in the next two weeks. What are the senior site creators thinking? Hi operasinger, I was also on SinglesOver But I feel good so far. But the situation is much better when I am on SO Though there is not that much contacts but most of them are serious contacts that I can tell.
Maybe there is some patience needed. If any one knows of a truly focusing on seniors I would like to know. Hi homentx and operasinger, we just published our updated dating sites list.
We have big hopes for Stitch. I recently joined OurTime and have been hugely disappointed. Again, they let all ages join. But reading email only on their site is a disaster and very difficult to manage in the crush of those who put only something in the Subject line and no message.
You also get a flood of really dumb stuff from OurTime, notifications if a guy merely looks at your profile, etc. But worst of all, their Search program is virtually worthless.
So I will end my subscription when my 1 month runs out. Have you tried Zoosk? It has men your age. Just as in any site, you have to pick and choose who to learn more about.
Zoosk is very expensive, just like Our Time, eHarmony. Free is the best. I had to quit my job for medical reasons. I was in an abusive marriage for 26 years and my self esteem is low enough. I am under counseling and take medication. The men that talk to me seem to want to just use me also.
After 4 dates, he decided to call it quits with no explanation. So, I keep trying, but refuse to pay to find a good guy any longer. Most guys my age want a younger woman, even though most of them are not much to look at or have that much to offer. A word I absolutely hate! Personally, an older man who thinks he needs a much younger woman, has some serious issues. I stay away from players and fakes. Most men are a-holes, what can I say?
When I was younger, I preferred older women. I prefer women my age, within 10 years. Look for a guy who has a legit reason for being available.
Look for a guy who knows how to treat a woman. Look for a guy who has worked on himself, to become a better person. As my current love says, you definitely have to kiss a lot of frogs. You do NOT have to sleep with them. The problem for women is our age.
It is our biggest obstacle because soooooooo many men want younger women. Plus, the so-called singles websites for Seniors are NOT just for single seniors. They let all ages in. So us older women are ignored there, too. The only website that claims to verify their subscribers is Stitch. Thank you Bud for your words. We know they are out there somewhere, but it is frustrating slashing through the ignorant ones to find the good one.
I was shocked after joining to find that out, and the first and only man to contact me is 42 with a 6-year old son. Had the same experience on Match. This was the polar opposite experience when I was in my 50s. I can understand where you are coming from with having to reveal your true age and men not even attempting to look at your profile. I am in the same boat. I look so much younger than my actual age. So what do I do? Even with lying about my age I am still getting older looking men who are fuddy duddy, big bellies all out of shape and here I am in shape, exercise, eat healthy, look very good in my cloths I am slender and look very youthful.
I can easily pass for 50 years old if not younger. Went to the ER once, gave all my info to the gal. Yet another gal came in to ask my age and I told her someone already had taken that information. She just wanted to make sure that person had it right because I looked no where near what I had put down and it was my true age. So gals, do what you have to do to get that man you want. I am almost there.
Men lie about their ages too. I call it a lil white lie. You stay beautiful and healthy baby. Stop lying to this girl. If you think being fat is healthy then you are fucking retarded. What is this, ? Buy a prostitute because that is what it sounds like you are looking for. You should take your long winded writing and give them gym a try.
Being healthy is a good thing…. Hahaha, you guys are hilarious. Oh, by the way, when I was 16 I could run faster than all my skinny friends. I lived on calories a day of healthy food, never drank soda, and worked out like an athlete. I never got below lbs.
Sorry honey, but if you grew up in another country you would not be fat. It is not in your genes, it is in the food. I hate to break this to you sir but I live in one of the poorest areas in Africa and you know what?! These people plough the fields and sow the seeds to the healthy food they eat and yet…your argument on a persons geological location being a determining factor is now proved quite wrong.
So maybe before making assumptions try understanding that different people have different bodies, due to different reasons and maybe be a little open minded? Like I said everyone is different. Everyone unto their own. Also I know many men who have dated both fat and skinny women happily.
BBW please stay positive. Obesity as you know is unhealthy and can be life threatening. That should be your number one concern and reason for doing what ever needs to be done to help yourself.
You owe it to yourself and you deserve it. You deserve to be healthy, happy, actively living an exciting life. But keep in mind being healthy is key. You be blessed and keep your head up not down and move forward with confidence. Thanks for the encouragement. And by the way,, I am one of those attractive men not overweight that prefer bigger women.
Very, very well said. Keep your head up lady! He should invest in a long rifle and a sports car to alleviate the lack of…. Yes, you are affecting others. Almost everybody can get not-fat. Almost nobody can get rich in a capitalist economy since the game is rigged. That is the ain difference. Men like most young not-fat women and guess what, everybody gets a chance at being young.
The opposite is not true. To make the dating game easier, men must have a wider selection sinc it is so difficult for them to make a nice lady like them. Fat people are making things worse without any benefit for themselves. Start your change today. You make it very clear that you are aware of what the root of the problem is. Weight loss is painfully simple.
Eat less, move more. Bring an iPod, cellphone, etc. I use to be Lbs than one day a Brazilian coworker told me to lose weight and fast. That day I decided to change my diet. I stopped eating fast food, candy, snack treats, and soda. I started learning to cook meals from scratch and would not eat anything I did not make myself. I made a rule if I wanted soda, candy or such I would have to make it at home.
I also started walking to work which was 5 miles away instead of taking the bus. On my days off I would walk to the beach and along the way would pick up bottles and cans. I went from to 90 in 6 months time. I went from not being able to walk down the stairs to being able to walk 15 miles without huffing and puffing. Now I eat what I cook and cannot stand restaurant food or prepared foods. I make my own pasta, soda, cheese, candy, pastries, sauces, breads, and anything else I want.
Not only does my waistline thank me but so does my wallet. Now I cannot gain weight if I wanted to. This is probably the most ignorant and stupid article I have ever read! You should probably die in a basement somewhere… The world is a better place with out you in it. He speaks the truth as I have traveled to many countries with low obesity rates. The beautiful women really are much more approachable.
Whether that is because they do not have toxic attitudes due to culture or because there are less fat women around therefore more competition is up for debate. Depending on the country they are either thin because of the more organic food there, or because its third world and men get to eat first in the household.
Furthermore men treat a lot of their women like crap. What is your point? Your rant has nothing to do with my comment. The world is a more sustainable place without the hefty carbon footprint of obese western women.
Hell, even their hybrid vehicles are rendered less efficient due to bonus cargo. Uneven tire wear, lower battery stamina…just a sad situation across the board…wow, just wow. Is see that you failed to respond to the article, beyond simply disagreeing with it. Your picture is ugly… Please get plastic surgery ugly black fucker.
I hate when I see these girls with beautiful features and awesome personalities and they have destroyed the chance for us to have anything by being overweight.
Writing articles like this is just a way for him give back to the world. Because you are wrong. Being a white knight will no get you laid btw. And luckily, is reversable, it can be cured. We know youre not a white knight, you just want to hit it and quit it and lie in the process. And leave Onion alone.
Everyone has a right to speak up in here. I feel sorry for all the ignorant people who agree with you.
Its people like you who make women feel poorly about themselves. Every body is built differently, not every body can whatever body you think they should have. This is by far the dumbest piece of garbage. Ow dear, just blame your genes, such an easy excuse! The main problem is nobody runs in your family! Hahahahhah actually no fuck you it does …, having the mind set that you need food as a comfort tool is genetic. Having a shitty metabolism is genetic so fuck you cunt.
If it would be genetic, how come the prevalence of obesity is on the rise so hard? Hardly angels, many women are. The problem is that men who like curvy or fat women I realize there is a difference are SO ostracized or mocked in US society that they never admit it. Now — how do we deal with the problem of making the world a better place by ridding it of superficial, cruel assholes like you??
There are more men under 35 living with their parents than any generation in recent memory. Get your lazy, unambitious, socially mal-adjusted ass off the couch and leave the house and socialize. Take a look in the mirror before you decide what kind of girl you deserve. Oh yeah, and get a damn clue. My passions are adventure and women. Wow, I think your fat girl hate is akin to homophobia, or racism.
Why put so much effort into hating an entire group of people? Really, why do you even care if someone is fat or not?
Great job internet, and well done morons! Who the fuck are you to decide what people should be attracted to and not. You are selfish and think every other man has to agree with you just because you have a dick between your legs.
Dont try and make it seem like you care because you dont. Seriously you just insulted men and women. But you do seem to think he whole world does or should live by those attractions. The world or fat women or anything else does not owe you that. Are you two attracted to each other? Seems odd, since you have both been agreeing with each other for how long?
God, this page is full of so much discrimination. I hate to say this, but not all foreign women in low fat countries are humble. Some of them just want a rich American. Some simply want what they think is a rich American.
I mean if you are tring to go after someone who degrades who then maybe they are not the best person? Everybody is entitled to their preference. I had once really liked this sexy guy in my college class I would always smile a him, say hi he would ignore me or talk my friend who was pretty much a barbie, of course I got sick of the attempts that lead me no where, so I moved on to my current boyfriend, and we all met up to get lunch and once he saw my boyfriend everything changed, he texted me, he would go out his way to get me a coffee and would even say hi before I walked in the door.
Sorry for the rant, my point being have confidence in yourself, not every hot guy will like every sexy, fat,ugly or pretty girl that walks into the room.
If you do not like your body change it. You want to be healthy and happy. Wish the best to those who are trying!! But being obese is naturally not attractive to men and having relationships with the opposite sex is a psychological necessity. From everybody working out and getting in shape, the states would be a much happier place for everybody.
Actually people were naturally attracted to fatter women because it meant that they were able to survive. You make a great point about obese populations tipping the scale and making hot girls vain but you un-empathetically go on to blame this frustration on the overweight women rather than the smug skinny bitches and the drooling men who put them on pedestals.
Obesity is a huge problem pun intended but morons like you have no idea how to constructively understand or deal with it. Deep down you just wish every girl was attractive so that pretty girls would be more statistically inclined to give a shit about you. Acting all funny or big and bad behind a computer. The internet was molded by trolls and people who enjoy fucking with people like you. Pointing it out is still feeding a troll.
Being butthurt by them in any way is feeding. You are a lesser mind in the eyes of the internet. How was he suppose to voice his opinion go on national TV and talk this is not cyber bullying just stating the facts. I am here to give testimony on how I got my husband back. My husband left me for no reason 3 years ago.
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Even worse the rate that you burn calories at when you exercise goes down. And unfortunately this effect can last for up to 6 years. This is part of the reason so many people lose weight and then they gain it back. If more people really understood how this works then maybe people would be realistic about how they attempt to lose weight.
Latest science shows that in fact, when you lose weight, you have a window of opportunity to lose more and keep it off by properly listening to hunger cues. When you first start exercising and counting calories, you wont get more hungry, but less. You should listen to this and eat only to appetite. But most people are conditioned to three meals a day and snacks. Once you are obese, you have made changes to your genes.
Latest science says, dont put off dealing with weIght gain. Not everyone that is fat is lazy or eats poorly and doesnt exercize. There are several things that cause rapid weight gain making it extremely difficult to lose. Hypothyroidism, birth control, polycystic ovarian disease and many more things that some people have no control over. Then theres people like you with your disgusting remarks towards overweight people.
How the hell do you think that makes them feel? Some people are so depressed from being overweight they try killing themselves. If more people- both men and women- took better care of themselves, the world would be a happier, healthier, less excessive and whiny place. Hypo causes weight gain. Hyper causes weight loss.
Try doing a little reading yourself. Your not only wrong about a certain disease, you misunderstand an entire prefix to many words containing hyper and hypo. What the fuck is your problem? You had an opportunity there to constructively educate and support another person and you chose bullying and shame. Jesus Christ develop some accountability. We would all starve to death without GMOs. Are you living in ? Fat people just prefer it, preferably from a trough or feed bag.
Actually Dan, you present a very narrow minded viewpoint of obese people. Why are active kids larger than kids just 40 years ago? Because I am living in and the differences in what kids ate in the 70s and the numbers of fat kids as opposed to what kids are eating today and the numbers of fat kids are highly disproportionate. Stop fat hating and attempt to solve the problem. Here is the solution. The only carbohydrates aka sugar that you should be consuming is from vegetables. Low-Fat these days equals added sugar because foods low in fat or zero fat food takes like crap.
But in all fairness there are areas in America where you literally cannot buy fresh produce: People have to drive or get on a train to a large supermarket…so at best, they have to get frozen veggies to last til next time, and this is not ideal at all. Hence poorer people are fatter. They have to grab food while they can and American food is too high in sugar and size. I dont like the whole fat positive thing but I do see some people are in a bind.
Still, it shouldnt be glorified and called beautiful. BTW, author, women have lives apart from men. Even if they are sweet and feminine, their mission in life isnt to make you happy. Women want mostly what men want: And I say this as a woman called sweet, feminine and beautiful all her life. However, I do sort of get why the US men would be turned off by these loud-mouthed fat types who are ruining feminism. Please bear in mind, feminism wasnt supposed to be like they have made it, with their foul mouths and utter lack of allure.
Oh shut up with your feministic dribble. And in order to do this even if you are not Christian, it is normal to marry anywyas and most people want to , a woman has to take care of herself so she can look decent for he man and vice versa, but to a lesser extent for a man since women arnt as visual as men. Agree, that women should keep themselves looking good. Outrageous to marry and just let go. All I said was, be aware some people are so poor or hardworking, they can get fresh food: Can you even read, or are you the type hat does TL;DR?
When the gorgeous muscles of the husband start to vanish under couch-sitting fat,. I am just being honest. And plenty often, they are screwing that guy. Dont ever mistake what women say for their real feelings. Its only shallow when women do it. I have learned its useless. This is assuming quality healthcare If any is available to them right? Sounds like your just to lazy to apply empathy to the process…the gym does not fix mental sloth.
You people are just looking for something to yack about. I take my meds and I make it by fine. Fat people are just too goddam lazy to walk to the pharmacy too. My childhood friend struggled with being a bit heavyset since childhood, despite diets, working out, playing sports. Why is that funny rto you? I find it quite frankly sad and disturbing.
But just take a look at the high percentage of obesity. Such a high percentage is not caused by these things. If they are depressed they should get their ass up and develop a plan to reach their dream body. If you have never been obese or dealt with obesity I think you should have no say in the matter or be able to judge someone who is. Producing too much testosterone would make it easier to build, muscle, no? I think many people who label themselves fat or obese are not fat or obese at all.
Misty, have you ever gone to an American Restraunt or burger joint and observed what the typical American eats in one setting? What you will observe most of the time is that the typical American is eating an entire burger, along with fryes, a huge supersize me Coke, and a desert. And their Coke should be substituted with something like water or at least a mix of half water and half soda or half lemonade and half water. Secondly, the typical American is gulping down fast food instead of eating more healthy.
That being said is perfectly legitimate to hate fat people if one wants to. My name is tucker stacey. This is a very joyful day of my life because of the help Dr. Trust has rendered to me by helping me get my ex husband back with his magic and love spell.
Trust email on the internet on how he help so many people to get thier ex back and help fixing relationship. He always want to be by me and can not do anything without my present. Trust is truly a real spell caster. He is the only answer to your problem and make you feel happy in your relationship. But fatties are responsible. They are the only lazy asses in the formula. Everyone else actively works to improve themselves and as a direct result, makes the world a better place.
How a person improves themselves is entirely subjective. We all have preferred traits that we are attracted to, but they are different for everyone.
And we are all entitled to define that for ourselves. I am not fat. My mother is between us in weight. Yes, it is much harder to be fit with this issue, down right discouraging at times. Diet is crucial, and exercise even more so. The difference between us three is our motivation to be fit. You need to weight train honey. If you build muscle, the muscle in turn will burn the fat.
I burn more calories than I eat, I follow the paleo diet and eat nothing processed, no starches, or anything with sugar. I do cardio, I have an active job an occupational therapist, I stand while my co-workers sit on stools, I weight train.
Some of is have more trouble than others with PCOS, because we are all different. I am glad that some of you with PCOS are thin. Not every fat person is a pig over stuffing themselves with twinkles and pie. Mird is right, sort of.
Adding muscle will help burn the fat, but it is often best to balance the weight training and the cardio rather than work on just one or the other.
Ignore anyone who gives you dirty looks or talks down to you for trying to better yourself. The only carbs that should be consumed are from vegetables. Up your protein and also your dietary fats olive oil, nuts, salmon, etc…. And your life must be so successful. Its people like you that make this world a living hell.!
You done taking out your personal issues on random people? The calm, rational adults are trying to talk. Fatbitchessuck Who the fuck do you think you are? Calling Alice, Fatlice, There are sicknesses out there that prevent people from losing weight, or even trying. Ur such a bully, and one total troll, i really HATE people like you. Your the reason why this world is CRAP! Yes I feel better now. Yes i forgot all skinny people are healty. Wake up people this article was written by a not so attractive, not so successful guy who thinks he deserves someone who looks better than him.
Anorexics and drug users have mental issues. The person who wrote this article is obviously a self conscious, uneducated, loser. If you truly believe this shit I feel terribly sorry for you. I hope someday something horrible happens to you, something that makes you feel so much pain and embarrassment that you hide away in a pit of your own self loath.
Your a worthless human being and you should be ashamed of yourself. I too have never seen an anorexic I find attractive. So no overweight person has EVER had mental issues? This is insane 1 Depression drugs often contribute to obesity 2 Birth control often contributes to obesity 3 genetics contribute to obesity 4 Greed has nothing to do with weight, health, or physical appearance.
Greed is a attribute independent of the body, though potentially influenced by it. Plenty of small people are greedy. Plenty of large people are greedy. Plenty of people are greedy. Weight indicates nothing, it barely indicates habits.
Some people have a genetic predisposition to developing lung cancer. This really pisses me off, until I turned 14 I was slim and athletic, I was in many sports teams and I loved gymnastics but then I started to get depression, anxiety, bullied, sleep paralysis and other issues including mental ones. People would throw mouldy yoghurt on me and I had a traumatic experience. Very similar to my experience. I used to receive abuse on a daily basis when I put weight on in my early teens.
Deep down they all despise women. A woman only needs to be a few pounds overweight before she starts receiving the most disgusting verbal abuse which has a profound affect on her, mentally.
But then again, there is a sickness where people, no matter what they eat, or how much they eat, are obese. My cousin has this sickness. So she stopped eating for three whole days, only drinking water and excercising.
She had to go to the hospital because of that. No one goes to the hospital after not eating for only three days. Your fat cow cousin was obviously lying about what happened. No one ever seems to put a name to it. Who the fuck was talking about anorexic people? You mean normal sized humans or actual people who are too skinny? I never see a planet sized ham beast over-eating grapes or broccoli. You wanna binge eat? Eat some fucking carrots. Ok so your saying that even though I work out days a week 2hrs a night and compete in powerlifting competitions and have set multiple lifting records and even though i eat and love vegetables including carrots, that its pretty much in my head and that its not a genetic issue even though I do have a genetic hormone inbalance disorder that affects my metabolism and screws up my whole body?
At least I am trying to fix my problems where as you think bringing other people down justifies yours. You are clearly uneducated on such matters and the world would do better without your harmful and simple minded imput.
Just remember that two can play. I really hope I never meet you in real life Jody … because even though I am anti violence I think I might beat the crap out of you for your ignorant remarks. But a few years ago I broke an ankle so badly it is screwed together.
This makes it hard for me to exercise so I have put on weight even though I eat very healthy. Shut up fat fuck. Awwww you broke your ankle years ago. What a pathetic excuse for being a lard ass. Calories in vs calories out, not complicated. Who cares about their contributions to society and their more superior brain power…. It takes an hour and a half of cardio to burn off a large coca-cola. Cardio is not meant for losing weight. It is intended to increase heart health.
Diet is meant for losing weight. I could have 2 broken ankles and still lose weight if I wanted. God supposedly passes ultimate judgment as to whether you can enter heaven or not.
That is very different from a person exercising good judgment decision making , or voicing a helpful opinion on such, on what is healthy or not based upon their experience of life using the brain they were blessed with — that is for that very purpose.
If you want to distort the true meaning of words into that which they are not then I suggest you educate yourself better. Freedom of speech is the most important freedom of all, as with such there is no way to safeguard any other type of freedom.
HAHA i dont work out , and I eat fast food left and right and am in great shape. They had to eat twice as much and be twice as lazy to get the same size. I suggest you look up something called Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome. I know women with it who work their asses off at the gym, and eat very healthy. But most people 30 years ago had a different lifestyle and the FDA standards were different.
That affects like what percentage of the population now? Also, humans do not need carbohydrates to survive. We only need protein and dietary fat. The only carbs we should be consuming comes from vegetables and only because vegetables have very low carbohydrates and very high vitamins and minerals.
Actually many women including myself and a lot of other women I have met at work or school have it its just not talked about very much and is a lot bigger problem than most would think. I live with and have to deal with it on a daily basis and its also genetic being passed down from mother to daughter some have it worse than others. I wouldnt wish it upon any woman. I have polycystic ovarian syndrome and yes it does affect us in that way. Its a genetic hormone imbalance disorder that affects our metabolism and we produce too much testosterone making it extremely hard to lose weight.
Iam a powerlifter who has competed in competitions over 5years now I work out days a week 2hrs a night and some times twice a day when o was in college and I love sugar free protein bars over candy and like almost every vegetable and I am still obese.
Maybe for men, but not for many women. Many women have various situations that may affect the way our body changes. Men should really not speak on the subject. People have different bodies. Yeah, some people may be more sensitive to gaining fat, that is not valid as an excuse to become obese. They may need to work harder to achieve the same goal but this applies to both men and women alike.
Moreover this applies to other goals in life as well e. Umm… Hate to rain on your parade, but there are many statistics to back up what people are saying about gender hormones, do your homework before pouring your haterade all over the place.
Gender hormones and non vegetable based carbohydrates. Just remember, gender is only one part of a bigger equation.
Butt out and do some research you might actually learn something. The body begins to think its starving and then proceeds to hold onto those calories. The best ways to lose weight include Eating smaller meals more often eating less is generally bad if unbalanced. Drinking primarily water Figure out the sort of diet a body needs. Some people need high protein diets others may need high fiber to really begin slimming down. The general thing is smaller portions and more light snacks.
I cannot stress that enough…also steamed chicken is like some bland ass white people food if I ever heard it. Most importantly find exercise you enjoy. If someone hates something even if they lose weigh the result will be unhappiness. Its more important to be happy for yourself than to be miserable for everyone else. I honestly think dancing is the best work out for people. The gym is often a space to show off and it is very public and uncomfortable for people.
Dancing is so active and it can be done alone or with a partner. And…some people will always be big unless they are starving themselves. They assume a person is unhealthy and has absolute control over the size of their body. Plenty of male and female body builders are heavy set without being muscular.
Some people are built to carry a lot of weight in their thighs and hips, but have tiny waists others are short and squat so they carry a lot around their middle. That was my point. As I said there are many reasons why some people are large…not the least of which is people liking it.
Personally the thought of being skinny is upsetting to me. Not to mention eating healthy consistently is so expensive. The cheapest things to buy are pasta and rice. Near where I live the hardest things to find can be fresh fruit and veggies. Takes less time to cook, lasts longer, etc. Losing weight is a choice, but you have to contextualize those choices.
Tons of people lose weight every year and they gain it right back. I just hate articles like this. At the least people could stop lying about that. The central studies linking weight to a number of issues such as high blood pressure have come under scrutiny recently due to over emphasizing the significance of their relationship. Last I read some medical professionals were deeply concerned about the number of average and smaller people being under diagnosed.
Not to mention a recent study found that being too thin relative to an individuals has the same effects as being obese. I know heavy set track runners who exercise four times a week and walk almost everyday. I know scrawny dudes who almost eat only out of college vending machines, drink booze on the regular, and adore pizza as a weekly part of their diet.
Meanwhile a large person of any size goes to a doctor for a sprained ankle, bronchitis, etc and doctors feel the need to give a lecture about their weight. I know someone who damn near died of a respiratory infection because her doctor insisted it was weight induced asthma. What percentage of that weight is muscle though…. Your mom was a horny fatass. I bet she was single because she was so fat. I bet you were adopted. Who would fuck a fat person except for the desperate. I was thinking the same thing.
You make a good point, and while some of his thoughts are perfectly reasonable he is painfully un aware that its people like him that put overweight people into devastation causing them to stress eat therefor enhancing the problem. Except the people who exacerbate that issue. Individualism exists only within the vacuum of society. Why was this comment necessary, are you doing anyone any good by saying that, do you feel better?
This guy is a classic misogynist. Let women drop everything and cater to men and their desires. But first of all I am a feminist.
I make it my mission to use and abuse men in any way I want. They get what they deserve. I pride myself for not thinking with my dick and I grew up with only sisters and all my friends have been women so I can see right threw little girls like you who they think they control men with the simple ideal of just sex, and surr fat women can be nice but a friends level only.
God damn your fat ass and your idea of feminism. FYI, feminism is a range of movements and ideologies that share a common goal: Anyway, you sounds like a little insecure fatty xx. If you work two jobs and have seven children, you have a lot more to be concerned about than obesity.
You have a disease that makes you lose one vital nutrient: Not by any means.. But you know how many girls look the other way because of this fact??? At least most fat girls have only their lifestyle to blame and can lose weight…. I have hooked up with taller girls..
But where I live single girls are few and far inbetween to begin with.. I said many girls not all.. How about you spend your time more constructively instead of posting over 30 comments on stupid web article…. Like I said most girls where I live are bitches or good ones are taken.. And I do feel the article has some bit of truth to it..
I would have had more girls to choose from.. I only spend but about a minute or two replying, actually. The rest I spend studying or doing something else. Also, this is entertaining. It is all a matter of them being attracted or not. Which 40 years ago there was the pressure of actually marrying to be financially secure.
How does working on yourself have more societal value than actually doing shit that matters to other people? Like finding the cure for cancer.
Sincerely, a guy who chooses not to be a judgemental asshole. Of course someone who directs their attention to a cause outside of themself is admirable, but lets be realistic here — not everyone can go on to change the world.
Its far more reasonable and achievable to change yourself than to change everything around you. At the end of the day if you had a choice between a slim girl and a fat girl and it was based entirely on innate male perspective looks we all know what you would choose.
But at the end of the day its not as simple as are you fat or skinny, the are many other factors to look into, at least if your an adequate human. Better that then being married to someone whose a jerk. Funny how hypocrisy works. Judged yes, but to be fair the scenario he set up is a choice between curing cancer and working out at the gym. Here is a thought. Why no do both? Or are they mutually exclusive? Curing cancer AND working out.
I love to meet u one day to beat the living shit out of u. You live in some middle class suburb somewhere with a fat wife. You left out the home number in the address so you are dumb. You are offended by the article so you are probably fat, and you live in the hood so you are most likely poor.
Wow, you will make some girl really happy someday. I hope you reproduce too so that there are more of you in society. Did you know, a tumor in the brain can cause severe wait gain and no other symptom to show cancer at all? Sounds more like a case by case situation so stop blaming shit on one stereotype. So maybe we should learn some problem solving skills instead of just quitting so easily. Statistically, the poorer an area is, the higher the obesity rate.
This is because people with limited financial resources have to resort to buying what ever they can afford to put on their tables and most of those are processed unhealthy foods. Then there is of course those who have genes that actually make it so much harder to stay slim. Not only are they lazy, they probably have 3 kids thereby limiting their ability to go to college, so they are also stupid.
Everybody has the opportunity to make good choices. Men and women at all ages are exhausted and cranky. Too tired to go out, unable to have sex anymore. BOTH genders are like that. It will tell you how good your future fun with that person is going to go. Do you personally know every fat person around? Would you consider a mother who used that body to have kids then runs around all day chasing them lazy just because she has extra weight.
There are skinny people out there that can get their asses handed to them in any physical activity by someone who does hold weight but actually moves. You can be thin and be lazy and a lot of thin people are. No fat does not mean active and does not mean healthy. Your assuming all skinny girls or hot? This is why women fat and skinny are getting pissed on here.
He even points out that not all skinny girls are attractive. He really makes excellent points, he just does so like an asshole. Fat is horrible, fat is disgusting, fats kills. If you are fat you already eat too much and move too little its simple. You are putting more in your mouth than you are burning off everyday. It adds up quickly. Fat wraps around you heart and your liver and impairs their functioning.
Fat is lazy, fat is greedy, fat is useless to society. You take up more space, you stink, you eat crap food, you require far more healthcare throughout your life taking places from genuinely sick people. There is absolutly no benefit to oversized greedy people consuming enough to feed a whole family. Big is not beautiful, but getting up off your fat arse and taking action, having a zest for life is. How many overweight animals do you see in nature, none. The only oversized or fat animals are domestic usually cats and dogs from my experience and usually are over fed by oversized owners.
Overeating shortens your life, its a proven fact. Obesity is an eating disorder. All in all makes a great point about the whole thing.
Fat people DO in fact cause more stress on the medicare system, it is not a myth, those countries with it already in place have this. BUT along with them though…. With ALL of the mentioned above.
There is no other way to constructively understand or deal with it other than firing home a few hard truths. The issue cannot be sugar coated and obviously many obese people will take offense. That being said however, my opinion is that the reason fat people get so much hate, especially in the US is down to this american culture which glorifies being fat as something beautiful, I ve seen videos of obese women boasting about that they actually want to be like that.
As a guy I have no problem with fat people, but obese people come on dont give us the genes or the glands excuse, they are just greedy, through and through, and when I think of all the starving children in the world cannot help but hate on them. Just stop stuffing your face with sugar and processed carbs. Was that so hard? When i read a testimony online on how dr. I just let the post pass by and move on the forum.
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So i have no other option than to really check up how he works. I was totally devastated when my beloved lover left me. It was like my entire world vanishing into sorrow and pain. I know it sounds weird but out of all the spell casters I contacted, he was the only one to give me that impression of being so true and trustful. More than his words,He brought my lover back and he made all my wishes come true.
He is now loyal, pays attention to me, he offers me flowers every Sunday, and we often go out at the cinema and the restaurant. I will be forever thankful for turning my life from hell to heaven! May God continue to use you to save broken relationship. Men have very base pursuits. Getting a good job? Well you need money to attract women. Being in good shape? Gotta look good to attract women. Women alone are a pain in the ass as an entire social group.
Coming from the military, we are taught to hate fatbodies. Fat kid slowing running formation down? We all do pushups. Fat kid tried to get fatty food at the DFAC? Fatty was last down to first formation? Deep down, I just really hate fat people because they have no fucking discipline.
You are fat because you shovel garbage down your gullet every meal and you do absoloutely nothing physically engaging. Author hit it on the head. You people are the new hated social group. What can you do about it? Get off your ass and get un-fat. Yes, you got it. The…idiot writing this story has such a low self esteem.
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