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I realize - and especially upon discovering your article - I am a truly free individual and it is hypocritical and presumptuous of a married man to demand fidelity from his mistress. I had suspicion of the man I fell in love with seeing other women as well when I got in his truck and his passenger seat was laying down one time. My thoughts are that he isn't going to leave unless I leave him - in hope that he misses me. Now things that are valid — such as your differences about children — have become so much larger and stronger motivations to you than they were even before. I can't be friends, we can't be lovers, but we are not enemy either. If it hurts afterwards, then let it hit.

I’m Dating Someone Even Though I’m Married

I care about him a good deal and want to love him. He's very attractive, sweet, funny, very confident, takes charge and so on. He never lie to me abt his wife. That is if he does phone or txt. If you continue in that vein, your life is likely going to be one miserable relationship after another. My heart aches for love. I can go far so he appoligized, kneel down telling me his wife is leaving in his country and he lied about his age because of his paper to stay in this country.

I don't want to specify the country for privacy reason I was working on publishing a paper and needed someone more experienced. He agreed to help and then we got closer. I only stayed in that country for 2 days so we mainly kept in contact via Internet afterwards. We stayed in contact for about a year and then the communication gradually stopped. I had a American boyfriend a little older than me but eventually broke up.

I am very young, still a college student in the U. He is much much older than me, definitely older than double of my age. And I know from the beginning that he is married. We had skyped and I can see the ring. But he is just so mature, charming, and intellectual stimulating. I think it is the very first time that I realize I love someone. I think he loves me too, from many details.

Although we are not in contact, I feel I just know it from a woman's sixth sense. I've been thinking working hard after graduation to save money to fly to Europe to see him. I've read the following posts which all seem to come to the conclusion that being a mistress will only hurt you.

But I'm not interested in his wife. Indeed, I am not interested in anyone's ex I also have no interest in wrecking his family. I think he has kids with his wife I want to go all the way to see him just for the sake of love. If it hurts afterwards, then let it hit. I am not afraid. I am thinking about doing a master's degree in his city. I don't know how this will change the outlook.

I dated a married man casually for 3 years. In that time I met his really yummy younger brother. We spent a lot of time together and both knew we had chemistry. But he had a serious girlfriend at the time. He always told me he thought I was too good to be involved in an affair. I listened to him and broke it off with his brother shortly after he left town. The thing is he also asked me to marry him that night.

How do I say yes? What do we say to his brother? I suggested we can all meet for drinks before the gig, either in the city or at my place. I got kind of pissed with that realization and decided to go forward and just resign before he asks me. I can't even explain why or what was I thinking at that time. I even got a chance of rolling my eyes over picture of him on the beach, which was clearly taken by his wife.

I never asked him about moving out or a divorce, I only asked him to finally talk with me. Actually I've asked about that 35 times only this year. He always agreed, but obviously never did it.

Now I fell he moved out because it was easier to have sex with me that way plus he didn't have to come home late and make up excuses what a clever boy. But first I discovered he's spending weekends with his wife and nope, not because of the kid, but some event. At this point I got mad, because he asked me a ton of question and I never kept a secret from him about meeting somebody or going somewhere.

So I was mad and pregnant. I decided to terminate the pregnancy, and informed him about it. His father started to loose his health over that brother situation - I was supportive. I never said a bad word about him changing plans last minute to go who knows where to save his unstable brother yet again. I gave him some advice how to deal with that guy, but he ignored it now I think it's because my advice would actually do the job and therefore deprive him of his favourite excuse.

I don't want to sound mean here, I know everybody has his own problems. He met my parents as a friend, I cannot tell them the truth and some of my friends, I met none of his. I just stopped talking to him. I just got fed up with hearing all the same empty words and seeing no actual action or caring. Moreover, there is not a thing to go back to, don't you think? Maybe the circle has closed, soon he's going on holidays wit his son, I wouldn't be surprised if the wife joined, too.

He's lease is ending this month, so the doors of coming back home are wide open. Only this time I really don't care anymore. Maybe not being in love saved me from feeling pain, but all this months made me feel just empty. Even though I can recall the good moments, I only feel this was a complete waste of time. So for all the girls thinking about being a mistress: You can be super chill, supportive and have your own life going on, but you'll still be drained, sad and used.

Let the guy show you he's serious, before you even consider sleeping with him. I know some says. The best cure for a break up is to build self esteem. Be sucessful and bla bla bla. But J's wife is a professional working woman. Come from a good background family. And she still got cheated. But i seriously losing faith and dont trust man anymore.

So Im busy building my career for me n my baby. Later im gonna fly away from this relationship. Because i know this relay is not going anywhere. I dont even want j to leave her wife because. I cant trust him. Been dating a married man J with no kid for almost 1 year.. I have 1kid with previous husb.

Been dating J since i was married, but we had problematic marriage as hes a gay. After i divorce he started paying for my house and bill. He never lie to me abt his wife. He admit they have sex but seldomly. They trying to have kid. At the same time, some guy w is trying to get my attention. J knows about W. I am happy with J. I have my own work, kid and nice good sex. I dont even have to take care of him all the time.

Im younger than him so many years. Sometimes J said wanna have kid. But i have trauma to have a kid as my previous husband didnt care abt me and baby.. Sometimes i snaped and pushing J's away.

Because im feeling guilty and at the same time i dont want to leave him because im comfortable right now. I love the sex I've been dating a married man for 2 months. He also told me that he and his wife are not truly in love even they're living together for over 13 years.

I didn't believe him at first but day by day, he always cares and make me feel special that no one can do and i realized that i fell for him truly. I'm trying not to bc I don't want to become a third person.

But he's too amazing, he's wonderful I love him more and more even i'm trying not to. Please let me know how to cut him out of my life. I don't want to become a home-wrecker. I've been seeing a man now who has been married for 20 years. His wife knows but doesn't want to leave. He has 2 kids and we still have to sneak around. Everyone knows, it's the elephant in the room.

I needed such an article which is motivating and non judgmental. Been dating a man for 6months now and he swears that he is not sleeping with his wife at all,that they are only raising their 9Year old daughter till she is of age to handle the situation but i just dont belive that he loves me. My instincs just sense that he is playing me for a fool which is almost true.

I just needed a smater way to handle him because in all honesty,i love him so much and though i am ashamed of myself,I am not quitting yet. Just remember if he cheats on his wife, what makes you think he will be loyal to you?

Some men like to play the cheating game with a girl or two Thank you so much for this post. I had suspicion of the man I fell in love with seeing other women as well when I got in his truck and his passenger seat was laying down one time. This article helps me see clearer and more rational to the emotional abuse marriedmen can really put on women. Thank you for this article! I know what I need to do for myself now. He is definately playing with your feelings. Why would he go for his anniversary for weekend getaway if he wanted to be in touch with you?

Tell him that if he really wants to be with you to give you his divorce certificate otherwise to leave you alone. It's hard to deal with this but will save you pain in the long run. Been with a married man for a year I feel like a butt of a joke. I end it but he calls me or texts me telling me how much he needs me.

And its something i love seeing. But i think i know he does it on purpose Theyve been together for ever. They just had a weekend get away for their anniversary and he messaged me every day they were away. And he met me the next day after they had come back. I felt a connection from him since day one. How can i walk away and keep it that way.

He seriously is crushing my heart. Better you move on with your life. I have been in the same situation and been hanging there for years.

He told me same Still hasn't and kids are 18 up. Wants another 5 years. In the beginning of dating we didn't have sex too and he kept giving me hopes for the future and was saying he isn't intimate with the wife and they sleep separately Shouts at me every now and then.

And am so stuck to get out this rut. My advise leave it Don't fall in love with him. About a month ago I started dating a married man. When we first started talking I thought he was divorced. I knew immediately at our first date that he was a man of honesty and integrity.

He has two 15 year old daughters who are on the low spectrum of autism. After our second date he told me that because of all the care that his daughters need he and his wife have not divorced. I ended our dating relationship immediately but continued to talk to him as a friend. Both of our feeling kept growing so I started dating him again but I have not had sex with him. He has told me that he and his wife had not had sex for 3 years and that they are just roommates, separate bedrooms.

I have told him the problem that I have dating someone who is married whatever the reason. I told him that I am looking for a partner in life not someone to just have fun with. He agreed but his plan was to get divorced when the girls turn 18 because they would get disability that would help take care of them and he would not feel like he is abandoning them. I told him I would never wait that long.

Here is the plan that we have come up with. We are going to date and then if things get serious he is going to tell his wire and come up with a plan to get a divorce but still take care of his girls. I am not sure if I should continue to date? I can only say that he is everything that I am looking for except that he is married due to circumstances.

We have had a lot of communication about what my needs are and what I am expecting moving forward and he had agreed to meet my needs and expectations. I have a doozy, I'll try to keep this short.

My boyfriend is married, we've been together for almost 7 months. Yes, my boyfriend is not only married, but he's also my boss. We also go to the same CrossFit gym and are workout partners from time to time that's how we reconnected, he tried to hire me a few times.

And, we also run together 4x per week. We have a lot of little bits of togetherness everyday. When we started our affair, we talked and asked each other the question "do you really want to do this? He said to me "I'm not getting a divorce. And you're not going to hold yourself back for me. I knew how this relationship was going to go. Fast forward 7 months - we are in love with each other, love being with each other and he's now getting a divorce.

This changed the deal. We were not supposed to fall inlove with each other. He was not going to get a divorce. Ugh, I don't know what to do - to breakup or not breakup? One one hand, I want to stay by his side, be there when he needs me, his best friend, through this tough time. I feel like I would be abandoning him during this difficult time.

I know he's very busy at work and has more than enough. But at the same time, I don't ask for a whole lot and making some time for me, say one hour a week of quality face to face time a week isn't much.

He's told me to give this divorce and us time and asked that I be patient. He does realize that if I were to meet someone, I have every right to go out on a date with someone else that too was part of the deal - I don't hold myself back for him.

I want to stay, but then again I don't. This is absolute torture. I'm also afraid as to how our relationship ends. We agreed "we are friends no matter what happens. At least not for me, that's my luck.

So, I also struggle with - should I continue to delay the inevitable or grab my ovaries of steel and end the relationship now while we are ahead we've not been caught, no one suspects our affair, etc. I had an awful experience with a married man. Dated him for 6 years. He kept saying he wants to leave his wife.

First he said he will leave her in 5 years once his kids go to Uni. Last year he said he wants to leave after another 5 years. Now he is saying he doesn't know. Then he says "one day" he will. His kids are in uni and still hasnt. He takes his wife and family on holidays at least times in a year. He says he is not intimate with her. We are hardly having sex, meet may be once a week for 20 mins or so and don't talk much on the phone now.

He made me reduce all this by shouting at me that he has other things to do. The pain comes when he dumps every time he goes on a holiday and abruptly say "goodbye" without any explanations. When he is back he apologises and we continue. Last 2 years I have been clinging on to this relationship with a fear of being lonely and not finding love.

I get jealous of his wife and convince him to spend time with me. I keep getting sucked in this relationship and find it hard to leave I know there is no future to this. Counselling has not helped me. Part of me wants to move on and find someone else. The other part of me is accepting emotional abuse from him with a hope that he will be with me. You just got a new job - and with this situation I sincerely believe you should leave your job - get away from the situation as soon as possible - find a different job.

It's not that you've been in this job for a long time so it's not hard to leave. Your boss married for 10 and now there is a baby involve too. Please leave him and his family alone. I know it's hard but it NOT impossible. I do it myself. I never have sex with the married guy but I cut off the relationship - and time will heal all sorrow - also you left him it makes you a strong woman and you do the right thing for leaving the job and leaving a married man for everyone's including yourself sake.

You can do it. I beg to disagree. The best 'cure' for a man is to build up your self-esteem to a point where you're not seeking validation from a lying cheat.

To have a rich, fulfilling life and the resources to make wise decisions about who you hop into bed with I am a married woman, I have been with my husband for 30 years married I recently reconnected with a guy that I was with in HS. I have been in love with this man all these years even though we went on with our lives, married and had children with our spouses.

We reconnected over FB messenger. Come to find out after talking with him he has felt the same way about me all these years he mentioned it first. We have met once and it was really nice to see him, we talk and text daily and are planning another meeting soon no sex.

There has been talk about the future and we both agree that it is not in either of our best interest to leave our spouses. I know it's wrong but being around him brings out something I haven't felt in years.

Other posts mentioned being jealous of his wife, I can say I am not jealous of her or the life they have together. We have a friendship that will last a lifetime albeit one that our spouses do not know about. I know a typical nice caucasian woman felt for a Muslim guy - they have 3 sons together - he used her to get citizenship and left her and 3 boys when they are still very small and went back to his first wife Muslim wife This woman died of cancer couple years ago and these 3 boys grew up kind of violent and wild.

This is a true story. Do not divorce your husband just to be used my a Muslim man. In America you are not lower than a man, which means that you don't share a husband with several other women. You are headed for a life of abuse and misery if you don't dump him ASAP Even then, be careful. Muslims are known to disfigured women who they cannot control. I have personally witnessed some horrific things. These men are just not worth any of your time The goal of most cheaters is to hold onto all that is "good" in their primary relationship while addressing their other "needs" on the side.

The majority of cheaters have no desire to replace one relationship with another. Essentially they're looking to "compliment" what they already have. So you should know you are his secondary relationship.

So basically you are his mistress and that's all you will ever be. Should you deserve to be in a primary relationship with someone who truthfully love you? His love is not truthfully because he is selfish and just use you and cheat on his wife and lie to both of you. I suggest for you to get out. Lyric - if you are married to a man - he is your husband and some other woman sleep with him weekly and share some of the money with that woman.

Is that ok with you? Ok so I have been with a married man for 2 years. He told me he was married from the beginning but they had problems. He was my first boyfriend and the first person I ever fell in love with. In the beginning when I needed it he did help me financially but I don't need his help anymore. I don't really want him to divorce his wife at this point but I still want to see him.

There are times that I feel a little.. The question is do I still hang out or is this so unhealthy Im not seeing that it is. Change the genders on this. Would these rules apply to a man? Deeply in love with a married women. I am glad that you have decided to make a big change with your situation.

However, instead of leaving him with hatred and anger. You should feel it with compassion. I suggest to think of it as a hard lesson learn. With compassion and understanding you are not either hate him or agree with his action. If he cheated with you he will or may do it again with another woman. He is a cheater, he likes the thrill even though, it's just wrong. However, that's NOT important anymore at least with you. It will help you to change yourself from inside out.

So I wish you live happily with yourself and your heart will fill with love, compassion, understanding and wisdom. Also once you become a strong, happy, loving person, people will naturally want to be around you, want to be part of your life. You don't want to be someone who fills with hatred and revenge because that would be bad for the next guy right? I can't believe the change in me and it's definitely because I've learnt to love myself.

If they don't choose you then choose not to choose them back. Many many self help books later, many smashed glasses in temper, many wet pillows later I finally couldn't care less and what a relief. If he returns again I won't be responding not that he can find me now anyway unless he turns up at my work place but I've made it clear im off this rusty old rollercoaster. I don't want it.. Oh and the nice guy who is available and wants to date me I may just give him a chance now. I beg you to move on..

It's empowering and they will miss us in the end a hell of a lot more than we will miss them. Yeah he can find a replacement will she be as great as me? Nope it's defo his loss. Don't mean to sound arrogant but you have to believe in yourself, it helps and it helps so much to finally be angry at these men.

They are staying in their unhappy marriages.. Leave them there to be sad and miserable and move on and be fun and fabulous. Then who's loss is it?? It sucks too much energy from you and us women get to a point where we are exhausted with it.

I got to that point. I'm begging you ladies run away far far away and never look back X. Good for you - 13 years is a long time but rather late than never - you should know by now - ONLY you and YOU ONLY can make this happen - you put yourself first let yourself free - Have fun with your dog - I am very sure the dog will always welcome you home no mater what day it is or what mood you are in.

Have fun and wish you the best. We hold the power We are not 'trapped' with these men. On off on off for 13 years. I've done it last week.. And it feels good. Took me a longggg time to get here but I'm never going back now. Get out get out get out.. It's not worth the pain and hurt..

It will take time I know but I'm determined plus this is the first time I've ever rejected him. My cookie factory is now closed down!!! I feel so free. I have my opinion base on my own current situation and on your post - The first 3 to 6 months or a year is the most powerful and strongest period of attraction and connection between you two.

The man's power he has over you. So if you can recover yourself or keep your balance during this period of time which means you don't have intimacy or getting addictive to the feeling of being closed to him. However, your current situation is he also have a wife.

She is definitely has more leverage over you. He loves her so much enough to marry her. And Yes, I believe he also love you too very much. You're young, attractive, available and single - so many nice features about you - what is not to love and being loved right?. He can have both women at the same time YES. The point here is - will you accept that kind of relationship?

OR you want him all to yourself? OR you can't have him at all. You must have the power to decide to get over the addiction of him, because I don't think he will leave his wife for you. No you can't be friend not if you in love. I know it's like honey on the knife. You like the sweet of honey but you can get cut by the knife.

So final advice is to challenge him by leave him for as long as it takes and time will answer if he pick you or his wife. I wish you luck and you have to be strong.

I have been dating a married man for about a year now. When I first met him, he told me he was divorced. It took about 9 months for me to eventually admit to myself that he is married. I knew all along,I just wanted to believe him. I spent money on getting a background check and ended up getting links to his wife's Facebook page.

When I confronted him he told me that when we initially met, they were separated and that she moved back in 3 months prior to me finding out. I eventually fell in love with him during that time period. I know that he does love me because I have been in love before. He tells me that his attraction to me is the understanding we have and that his attraction to his wife is based on the fact that she is a good person.

They do not have any children together. I never once thought I would be in this kind of situation but I do not know what to do. He was the first and only person I have been with since my ex passed away. He does a lot for me, more than anyone else has, he looks out for me, and makes sure I'm fed and school work is done. He is much older than me but I can not help how I feel about him. I have tried dating and it did not work. I still find myself with him at the end of the day. From what your telling us.

I understand that this boyfriend of yours has too much power over you. He lied to you that he divorced - he refused to sign divorced paper.

He has 4 other kids with 4 other women. He is a cheater, a liar. Everyone has a different set of values. If we focus on being and becoming the right person, then we will attract the right kind of person.

She has always been understanding toward my marriage and has never interfered with it. Did not have the option of being unreasonable. Daily life in long-term relationships can make it hard to feel that excitement, let alone communicate it. Skip to content What cheating means Even more difficult is her and my side of the family know everything which reinforces her desicion.

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I encourage you to try it and see what it can do for your life. Did I mention the woman I am dating is my wife? What did you expect? I must continue dating my wife even after I marry her. Dating is a time where you get to learn about someone in a special and unique way. Why would you want that to ever stop?

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Please get more information by completing the form below or by calling us at Shouts at me aam now and then. But if he is, you have truly just shot yourself in the foot because you have given up im dating someone and i am married piece of yourself for a someone who belongs to another. I made a terrible mistake by choosing a woman who cannot physically make herself talk to me. He granite hearts dating to tell her about us. If so, then you need to work on your marriage.