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im dating a girl but i like someone else

Now that im doing alright but not good. I have a question. But it was a great accident. Dare I ask you WHY your partner would be comfortable with you having a physical relationship with someone else? Exercises to Enhance Your Sex Life. She now never tells me anything like she is dating.

Already in a relationship but attracted to someone else

He is only passion is to start his own business. Am not putting any pressure on that guy…. Let him show you he can do- has committed, is being consistent, before you move from your Pedestal. Help i love my husband but he wont change i told him millions of times about what i want…. Apparently they think when you put makeup on, either you are hiding something or trying too hard, which comes off as a turn off. He is single divorced years ago. Eric — great article.

Would have been a waste of a beautiful friendship. All that remains I guess is talking to your buddy and telling him it is time to grow up. I told her everything I also told her that I have a crush on her Sounds way too messy. She deserves an apology. It would be a HUGE mistake to lie again. You may as well tell your friend the truth. Clear the air before you develop a reputation as a liar.

Hey friend, I could really use so great advice now. There is this girl whom I've been liking since July. First we only knew each other like you know just another girl or boy in class. So, I tried to start being friends with her and started getting closer to her.

We've had lots of fun since then but as friends not as a couple. Then, in December she told me that one of my friends really crushed hard but she knows that he's a liar and we aren't even friends anymore. So, she told me she's gonna reject him and started backbitching about him. Thing is he IS a liar and always backbitches about others. Still for the sake of friendship I wanted to tell him to stay away from my crush not because I was feeling insecure because I wanted to save him.

But he had already caused a lot of problems in my life so I instead decided to help my crush. I thought this would blow over but one day my crush suddenly clicked screenshots of our chats very selectively and sent it him which clearly misguides that I've got a crush on her Yeah it's true but no one knows so yeah and that I'm trying to break their relationship etc.

I was like really angry and then messaged her a message for him and told her to do her job send him SS. First she was asking what is going on but then later on she knew I knew about all this and then my friend messaged me saying stay away from her and don't try to come between us.

Also, that I've already broken their relationship and if I try to to do that again it'll be bad for me. Honestly I had no intention of doing all this whatsoever but that girl portrayed me as one and now both hate me and maybe hate each other as well. Now, he's gathering up all our mutual friends and trying to start a low key cold war between me and world.

Which I obviously know about coz he's the one who's alone. Anyway back to the girl, now we don't talk at all though when our teacher sent me out of the class as punishment she started blushing and our teacher asked her wtf are you blushing? It was like as if she was smiling and frowning at the same time. Anyway, first few days when I was angry I didn't think about her but now I think I really miss her and want to be with her again even though as friend doesn't matter.

But I fear her because of all this she did with me and my friend. So, can you please tell me how I can manage my friend and crush? Is it the time to say sorry and end everything, intentionally try to break em up though Idk if they are dating or not and as far as I think they are not and I want to do this for my personal satisfaction , or maybe just move on?

There's a girl with whom I am friends since a year now I used to hate her before I told him that I hate that girl a lot I used to always give her an excuse and escape Sure it does, Brady.

You could simply ask her how her day is going. That kind of thing. If a girl likes to say "hi" a lot, does that mean she is trying to start a conversation? I hope this site stays up. And I also like the idea. Also I willl make up most of the time I have. I wonder if I'll still have this page going in years to come when you're older and dating. I like the idea of seeing a message from you when you're 16, telling me about your amazing new girlfriend.

The years will pass quicker than you can imagine, Trev. So make the most of having spare time now. That's what they say in a lame attempt to cover their own insecurities. Don't be one of those guys.

Why not just send her a message of good luck and tell her you'd like to take her out to dinner or a bar or clubbing or whatever you're into to celebrate the end of exams. You could tell her the date of your last exam and ask if she'll be finished hers by then. Ask if she'd like to go out on whichever night you choose. That will give you both something to look forward to, and take the pressure off you when it comes to texting.

I'm kinda happy I figured out some ways to get my mind off it. Thanks for all the help! Were in the same program in uni im just two years above her Shes the first one in a while that made me feel someting deeper. You say keep in contact and have respect for her but all around here i see posts about "keeping the chase" ans "staying mysterious" now i dont know how to do that.

And its exam season now so more than ever were both under lots of pressure Sounds like a rant but i honestly have no idea what to do. I fear that by messaging her shell just take me for granted. But if you miss the interaction, you should make the effort to stay in contact. Do you really expect her to drop everything and jump to meeting your needs? We used to whatsapp a lot for a couple weeks it was everyday then at our last conversation i tried being a bit less excited because i tried asking her out twice and she said she had uni courses she had to work on.

Now its been a week and no one texted the other. I used to start the conversations usually but she initiated some too and today we saw each other and she smiled at me.

Consulted a guy friend and a girl friend and both said i need to not message her so that i become mkre mysterious I havent had the time to talk to her because i was focusing on my exams. But while i was studying i was fiddling with my pencil and i noticed her mimick what i was doing. When i stopped, she would continue for a bit and then stop.

And when i did it again, she would do it again after a few seconds. Not sure if thats a coincidence or not XD. I noticed she was staring at me a liitle more than usual I'm guessing she probably read it and appreciated it. I actually am getting a lot of homework lately luckily I've been getting it all done yay I read your last comment I was going to answer it then my phone died but anyways!

I also have some ways to get my mind of it. Anyways me and her hang out at school we are just friends now because i told her ask me when I'm older and also by the way this is probably my most detailed comment. Anyways yeah we are just friends now. Wait so i don't have a choice? Ok i added her and i said she was cute but she hasn't answered me back should i just wait it out? I like this girl and I think she likes me and she regularly looks at me and I don't know what to do.

So there is this girl in my class. She's always trying to steal looks at me though her best friend sits in front of me so I'm not sure Plus, she was dating one of my friends but not constantly comes up to me and says how shit he was. But, my friend warned me that she's a bit tricky to handle and lies.

We like each other's company. We used to talk a lot. She never hide any type of problem from me. I always help her. We are more than best friends we used to talk at late night also. She never ignore my message and she has a blind trust on me.

I know everything about her and I also know everything about her. I literally clicked on this to see what guys thought about this despite being a straight female- guys the right girl will come along soon give it time! Besides, it reminds me of old ladies and grandmothers. Just do it, Pal. I suggest you busy yourself with your school work. The more you learn about each other. Talk lots, laugh lots and enjoy her company. See of remaining comments.

Other product and company names shown may be trademarks of their respective owners. HubPages and Hubbers authors may earn revenue on this page based on affiliate relationships and advertisements with partners including Amazon, Google, and others. Some girls are afraid to be caught looking at you if they like you. Others might confidently meet your gaze—watch to see if her pupils are dilated. Watch for their reactions like giggling or sudden silence if you approach, or notice if they ask you what you think about their friend.

If she's telling you about problems she doesn't usually talk about, that shows she trusts you a lot. If you're texting regularly, and she's initiating too, then she probably likes you.

Especially if you're texting at night. Are you in a relationship? Yes No See results. She Likes to Talk to You Start a conversation with her. Hopefully she genuinely finds you amusing and isn't just working hard to encourage you. But even if she is trying a little too hard, that's okay. She obviously believes you are worth the effort. Some girls get the giggles when they are nervous.

But here's the kind of laughter you definitely want to look for. The full belly laugh you both share. If you're making extended eye contact with a woman, that is definitely a positive signal. She Notices You A girl who really likes you will at least acknowledge that you exist. Here's some examples of how a girl who likes you might behave if she's really shy: She's with a group who engage you in conversation, but she stays quiet.

She nods, or smiles. Just quickly, but it is a definite nod or smile in your direction. There's a sudden interruption or end to her activity as soon as she sees you. Perhaps she stops singing, or dancing, or talking. She Licks Her Lips I'm sure you'd like to think that licking her lips is an action that should be interpreted to mean she'd love to kiss you.

So there's a good chance she likes you. She Smiles at You A girl who smiles at you, likes you. She Hugs You Does she hug you at every opportunity? Do her friends glance at you as you approach? Do they smile when you approach them? Are her friends seeming to tease her? Does she look cross, as though she's afraid one of them might tell you she likes you? Have any of her friends asked you if you like her?

Best friends can give lots of subtle clues she likes you. If she's mirroring your movements, sitting closely to you, finding reasons to touch you, or fidgeting a lot, then she probably likes you.

She will get interested in things you do or like. For instance if you are a fan of Manchester United, she will also develop an interest in that team You will see her blushing in your presence.

This happens not once but many times Does she play with her hair when you are around her? If yes, that is an unconscious sign that shows her interest in you. She may be imagining you caressing or playing with her hair. When you are sitting or having a rest somewhere, you will find that she will walk past you a couple of times. Maybe she is trying to get your attention. She wants you to be attracted to her and is probably waiting for you to take the first step and start a conversation with her.

She may lean back in a chair or sofa in order to protrude or display her chest area. She will show you 'what you are missing'. That is a sure sign that she likes you and she wants you to fall for her. She is just waiting for you to approach her. When she is having a conversation with friends and she sees you approaching or in a nearby place, she will break from her friends and come to where you are.

She wants to be closer to you at all times and that is a sure sign that you impress her. She compliments you whenever you are dressed nicely or she sees you in designer clothing. She always likes to see you looking good. Does she talk about a relationship she had in the past, making it clear that it ended and she is feeling lonely now? If yes, she is probably attracted to you. Don't assume that she's still obsessed with her ex-boyfriend. Consider it an invitation to take his place.

She suggests hanging out with you or doesn't hesitate to say yes when you suggest that you two hang out. If she's down to hang out when you suggest something and doesn't even check to see if she's busy, that's definitely a good sign that she's into you.

She's opened up to you, maybe telling you about something personal in her life or a problem she's dealing with. Being vulnerable often creates a feeling of intimacy, and girls won't do it with someone they don't really trust. She talks about going to something in the future with you — maybe she mentions that you should go see a movie or a concert together in a month or so. This is a really good sign! She's followed you on Facebook, Instagram, and Snapchat — and she likes your posts frequently, or posts stuff on your wall that reminds her of you.

If you're sending each other Snapchats frequently or posting back and forth, there's definitely something going on. She puts away her phone when she's with you. When a girl gives you her full attention and focuses solely on you, that's a good signal that she's really interested in making a good impression on you.

You text frequently and she initiates too. Regular texting is a sign of friendship and interest. This is especially true if she texts you out of the blue just to find out how you're doing. If Shyness is a Problem For You Need More Help Or Information? If you genuinely care, let her see it. Hi Daniel, Yes, i was with her and saw her eyes were glassy, so i asked her if she had cryied and why: Also there was a guy from her work and she presented me as her friend.

I hugged her because she was freezing last time i did this she moved away I really belive she likes me but: She rejected me on the past What do you think? Hang on a minute. Forget about how she stares at you. I see a definite problem here Of course you might have found someone else by then. Life holds unexpected surprises. What is your opinion? Based on this, does she like me? I have this gut feeling too that she does.

You keep saying the feelings in the primary relationship are more important than those in the second relationship. I agree with you on this, I understand that marriage is an important commitment. I understand that some people believe marriage to be final and sacred. I understand that we seek the things we feel we are missing, that we want to feel complete. But feelings are feelings, and I dont believe a marriage trumps the heart. It wants what it wants. They keep saying that we are only focusing on the flaws of our spouse and the things we love about the new person.

I understand that everyone has flaws, everyone! But when you know in your heart and soul that this new person you met has touched you so deeply, you love the flaws as well, in my case of course. I already decided, maybe evn before it got so serious. Be an adult and make a decision. Live with the consequences of your actions. You just described what I am going through exactly. This has helped me tremendously. The situation sucks, because the love is very real.

Hey Joe, I love that it seems you seen your affair as a big nono…. Sam, while it is true that many relationships do begin with limerence, the real issue here is whether or not you have a right to the person that you are in limerence with. If two people are single, fall in love, and go through limerence, that is normal.

Even when two people have a right to each other, limerence fades. Biologically and chemically, it has to. If someone follows their feelings and betrays their integrity, they change who they are as a person. They will turn into a person that they no longer like.

My marriage of 29 years has never been the marriage that I dreamed of. I find myself to be more of a father-figure to my wife than that of a husband. I have never liked this role. My wife and I have had many discussions about this before. For all these years, I have just accepted the way things are. I met a lady online 8 months ago. She seemed really nice and intelligent. We have been really good friends and can talk about anything. We have shared so much between us and it has turned out to be a beautiful friendship.

For that, I am very grateful! She seems to be a perfect match for me, and she is everything that my wife is not. We are supposed to meet in person for a few drinks soon. I am very afraid of what can happen when we actually meet. I can see how this situation could go really bad, really fast. I have to admit that I am torn right now, not knowing what to do. Should I pursue my happiness with this other person or should I stay in this less than adequate marriage and acknowledge the fact that it is all just a dream.

The temptation is there. I never thought it was possible, certainly not possible for me. But here I am. I have been married for ten years. My husband and I have had many issues in our marriage.

For the last three years I have connected with a man I met when I was 15 years old. I talk to him everyday on fb. I have fallen madly in love with him. He lives in Boston and me Toronto. I often fall asleep thinking of him. I feel so stuck and just want to cry. Im married for 16 years. I dont feel a connection to my husband anymore. I got in contact with an old guy friend and I think we have fallen in love. My husband cheated on me 6 months before our marriage although that was years ago.

The feelings and connection with my friend is amazing I feel we were meant to be together. My husbands knows of the affair and I have no contact with my friend but its killing me, I miss. Cant leave my mamarriage because we have financial commitment and a 10 year old daughter.. You may see money, or financial commitments being a part in this, in reality it is an excuse to stay with your husband.

Your child together may also be a factor but neither are the issue. First off what led you to reconnect? Was a simple Hey old friend… or did you put yourself in that situation. Two different things with different purposes. From my perspective it seems as if you have some still untesolved issue with your husband.

Either for the infidelity he committed or something else. Either way though that is yet another excuse you have given yourself to ease the pain that you are committing emotional cheating. Before I would run with a man that was willing to help destroy a marriage, i would try to rekindle those feelings that helped rebuild it after your husband cheated. Or because in his moment of weakness he knew the regret, and wants to save the marriage. You both should seek help, to cheat on one another, physically or emotionally shows a serious underlying issue.

Its really embarrassing to actually say this, but here goes… I have been married to my husband going on 5 years. We were in our upper teens when we got married.

Within our first year of marriage he had talked to another woman online and I caught him up in it. I let it go and tried to work it out with him, after all it was just our first year. So a few months later I got pregnant with our baby girl. I thought everything was getting back to normal.

My trust for him was finally starting to build back up. I found a fake facebook he had created with a fake name, but he told women who he really was.

I hacked into the email he had used and seen that he had been talking sexually to multiple women that knew him and I was married. I also found out that the messages dated back to almost a year ago. I let all that go and once again tried to forgive and forget.

But my feelings for him were slowly starting to fade it seemed. We recently moved out of town due to a new job he got. Just in a couple weeks of living in our new town, I was introduced to a friend he had years ago. We hit it off and became good friends. We started talking and im not sure how it came up but we told each other we liked each other.

We started eventually texting and he started coming over and just hanging out while my husband was working. Things to physical fast. We talked about our feelings and he knows what had happened in the past with me and my husband.

We did end up going all the way but we talked and said that we need to both slow it back down. I am just so torn on what to do with my marriage.

Every kiss and every touch puts thoughts from the past into my head. I wonder everyday if more went on other than what he has told me. I feel out of love with him. Our daughter is 2 now and I feel like if I was to leave it would destroy everything. Our new house and his new job. And his friend ship with the other man. I honestly feel stuck like im obligated to stay.

And I feel like of I was to leave I would end up with nothing. I dont feel pretty anymore with him. This other guy has made me feel so good and he has done everything and said everything that a woman wants to hear.

As of now him and I are just in a friendship but it makes me wonder what would happen if I was to leave my husband.

Would I be making a mistake or is this other guy truly the one for me. Is there a way I can message you via e-mail? I am in the same boat and would like to converse with you if I may. I am 30 years old, have been married for 6 years this past July, my husband and I have a beautiful 5 year old. I came across this site because I am searching for solutions to my problems currently.

I met my husband in church, due to the marriage processes in our church, we never had a chance to properly get to know each other better. So in a space of 7 months we got married. My marriage was averagely good, I fell pregnant on my honeymoon night, so immediately after the wedding I was pregnant.

I had my daughter and after that my husband and I were heavily involved in our church ministry. Beginning of last year my husband resigned from work and went back to university to study full time, as a result we do not see each other except for weekends and school holidays. When he went back to school, I started realising that I married a complete stranger, we had never spent real time together before we got married and with the baby and the ministry we were always busy, so when he went back to school I started realising just how different we were.

I truly am not even show if I love or ever loved him, or my whole marriage was out of family and church pressure. I do not blame anyone because I was old and am responsible for my own choices. Now I have recently met someone, who is the world to me, I do not ever recall being this happy in my life before. We share the same passions, we laugh together, his presence in my life has changed me.

Besides having met someone now, I was already trying to find means of leaving my husband. I feel I am very unfair to him because I really do not love him the way he loves me. I believe that there is someone special out there for him to love him and cherish but that person is not me.

How can I walk away without hurting our daughter, our families, our church. Hi, I am almost in the same position. I have been married for 12 years now. I got married when I was My husband and I are in to church ministry and our parents too. We have 3 beautiful children right now. Im not sure if I love my husband or have I ever love him.

Right now im busy trying to find some sort of fulfilment in a lot of things. Every time I look at him I feel so sorry for him because I feel like im a hypocrite. I am lost I need help.

I also came across this site because Im looking for help. My situation is a bit more intense. The catch 22 here is, it is my husband friend as well. We have been seeing each other for 4 years and during that time he has gotten married and had a child.

Even with his union, we still have not stopped seeing each other. He tells me he is in love with me. Not sure if I believe him. As for me all I do is think about him. I think he is the first person I have ever been in love with. I have tried to end it so many times and find myself right back with him days later.

I cry so much over this. Cry over hurting so many people if we ever get caught. Cry over loving him, when all I want is to fall in love with my husband. Three years ago, I caught him texting an ex of his — they texted literally 24 hours a day, for 30 days before I caught him. I stayed with him and I have never held it over his head. At the time, I had become detached from our marriage and was just going through the motions, so I completely understood how he got to the point of reaching out to someone else.

It never went beyond kissing, but I fell for him so fast. We still email and check on one another, provide advice, etc. I ended the marriage. I met my now spouse a few months after we separated i felt it was what i needed at the time now being married to her i feel i made a huge mistake and she does not make me feel the way my former spouse made me feel.

My former spouse is not remarried, although she has expressed that she wish things could have been different and would have worked through the prior marriage. Or just end the marriage and be honest with her although i would like a chance with my former spouse i would spend time alone thinking about my life and how quickly things spun out of control.

Have been for two years and now have a child together. I lost my virginity to him and feel like I owe my life to him. As we became friends, I fell more in love with him. My husband is a good man, but he has a dark past that is starting to shine through finally.. His persona is becoming more violent and inpatient, especially towards our daughter. And when the other guy is around, he spoils my daughter and plays with her!! With never feeling like I was in love but doing what I should do, put up with a lot of crap from my husband- cussing me, lying, n cheating, flirting.

Married for 10 years, mostly unhappy. We have a 7 year old son, and until very recently they barely had a relationship. I met someone this summer and my feelings for him are growing stronger by the day. I want to leave my husband — not for the new man, but for me.

I have been here standing by his side through all of it. With his friends and his family I am constantly being thanked and being praised for how strong I am to stand by his side for everything.

Which brings us to a little while ago when in enters someone from my past. Sweetheart has seen me at my worst and even though we were only friends he always made sure I was ok. It was clear right from the day we met that we shared some pretty intense feelings for one another. We never got our shot due to one or both of us being in other relationships. Eventually I made the decision that I needed to try and move on from sweetheart and shortly after that is when I met my significant other.

And then last week he started paying more attention to me … which fits the normal pattern every time I start to really think about our relationship and if I should just do what I feel is right for me and end things my significant other does a and starts treating me the way I have always longed to be treated.

Especially since he has come back into my life. I love Sweetheart I always have we just have never had the chance to be together. And I know Sweetheart loves me as he has told me a few times since coming back into my life. Which brings us to tonight. Sweetheart proposed to me. I know that hurt Sweetheart and I hated hurting him like that. Any advice is appreciated. I stopped seeing the other woman without explanation. Something was wrong with me and no one could figure out what!

I went to bed and spent the next 18 yrs in bed fighting for my life. My wife has done absolutely nothing wrong! Thoughts of the other woman are eating at me.

I went on Facebook and found her. She has 2 adult daughters. The man she was married to, is engaged to another woman.

So I assume she is divorced. I messaged her on Facebook, no reply. Shortly thereafter her page was taken down. I know her home address and phone number. I want to send her a real letter,on paper and in an envelope. I really want to know about her journey in life thus far, possibly reacquainting ourselves or developing a friendship. Is all of this crazy? What kind of trouble could I get myself into?

These feelings to see her are tearing me apart! My husband starting talking to an acquaintance from high school in Feb It has quickly escalated into an emotional affair.

She is jealous of me yet when I try to make them see each other she lives 6 hours away and is married too Unhappily supposedly she told my husband he is her soul mate sends him inspirational messages everyday.

My husband says he is in love with her but loves me and never intended to leave. She says it would tear her heart apart if he left his children. I dont know what to do. She says she is a woman of Jesus on her Facebook. She wont let him go. My husband says he loves me but wont look me in the eye and yes we still have sex. He used to be such a good man. Please I need advice. First, an affair with an ex, even emotional, is a different animal.

Find it, and maybe it can help. We each move through three major phases in life. My husband and I have been married only a little over a year.

He was 25 when we got married and I was only a month away from turning We only dated 9 months before getting engaged and waited another 9 months before getting married. In hind-sight we rushed it. I never really felt a burning passion for my husband and never really expected to. He was and is someone I look up to and ultimately feel comfortable with.

The problem is and I have talked andthiught through these feelings a hundred times and every time they get more and more confusing …I have two guys who love me deeply …one of whom I care for , but I feel is holding me back from a lot of things I want to do in my life though he tries to support them and the other? I need him in my life … But the only way he wants to be in my life is as my husband …he really has been trying..

I am a hard worker, smart, detail oriented and a successful person. This created an enemy for me at work and caused it to be horrible as he is a manipulator and used to effect on peoples opinions about me, until I met him.

We have lots of common, in our core values, but he is married and I took him as a friend. I was happy to be able to be his friend and for 2 years we were, until I got engaged! My x guy now, was bad news and I end up ending it, after 11 months.

I was emotionally hurt, broken, exhausted and it was horrible. On top of that, my friend, took a step back and was away.

I was deeply hurt by his distance but I thought he is giving me a space. I honestly had a thing for him since ever, but I never look at married men! It is a no situation. Now after broken my engagement slowly my friend came back and I welcomed him.. He then chose to tell me he loves me. I see it, the process you talk about in ALL.. I told him he has a wife and kids, a family he said was always enough and he was accepting life and happy with it.

It created a huge problem for me and at times I became weak and told him I had feelings too. In a way his love, made be heal better, but it also hurt me a lot. We were platonic, not even flirting but the comfort and level of connection we had, made me feel bad. I told him we have to face it, this is NOT good. I know we did nothing wrong but say: He also was regretting telling me big times.

We have a great friendship and we can be blunt, totally honest and still love each other. I do want to help him and I am actually glad I can see it, heal my wounds and say finally he is not the man of my life and though I love him a lot, though I would take him if he was single, he is not and I am not going there.

We are still friends, good ones but how I will know he is not still doing it wrong? I am a positive person and I love caring and giving, naturally. I know he can have it all! I should say at times I believed he is my other half, we are different but totally the same. He still says I complete him and we have this huge level of understanding. It is like we have the same core, in two personality and when we were friends I used to joke, we must be twins!

And with him I have no fears, and feel totally safe. I never had that before but I also accept now it is not limited to him. I wonder also if I should stop being friends with him? If it is harmful for me? I would hate that but I am OK to do it if it is needed.

I want to do the best for me and him. I got married to a woman without 2 weeks after we agreed to date while inlove with some else its now 4yrs in marriage and i am still inlove with the other person. Our marriage has been on the rocks eversince we got married, thought by now things would be okay but tgey are not.

I no longer know what to do cause even when we being intimate i see the other woman. I was in a relationship for 2 years with a sweet person but we were having problems. The 33 year old stepped in and showed me a moment of happiness. However that was a big mistake! I was sold a dream and a fantasy. I am having more problems than ever before. But I caused so much hurt and pain. We were suppose to be getting married this year. But I was so broken and so weak.

I been married 26 years. We both married young. I was 22 he was On our wedding night we fought. Since my Dad was not around growing up. I think my husband was a father figure…many years later I meet a guy we just text for years. Then I fell for him. Just were friends or was it more. My marriage to my husband is fighting all the time. I think we grew apart overtime. He had been both verbally and emotionally abusive for pretty much the whole time with some nice days here and there.

I begged cried and pleaded for him to please stop being mean, ignoring me, disrespecting me, walking on me, hurting me in every way imaginable except physically. A year ago I started talking to a man online and while at first we were friends, about six months ago, we realized we were falling for each other. Please, any advice helps.

Help me please I am so confused. Please give me some advixe. Hi my name is Samantha I am 20 yeara old my husband and I were married for almost a year been together for 3 years but he was deported back to Mexico and is not able to come back legalized, me and my husband been threw thick and thin together, im his first serious relationship and his first love and he is my guy i would do anything for that i love to death, we had a still born, we have been threw hell to be with eachother but its jus at the point were i cant.

Help i love my husband but he wont change i told him millions of times about what i want…. I love touching, feeling, caressing, hugging and kissing. My wife just lays there like a corpse and will not have oral sex either. My heart aches for love. I want to be her right now. I want our bodies to be one. I been married 8 years from now…but after he bring me here at usa.. Been married to my husband for 14 years with 2 preteens. We carry a lot of pain from our past. From the hurtful things we did to eat other as teenagers.

Seems our past will alway haunt us. It always comes up in arguments. My husband is a great father and provider. Just really bad about verbally respecting me and the pain a carry from him stepping out of our marriage is everlasting. Because financial reasons we lived under the same roof but was separated. I started to emotionally move on.

Started going out with the ladies and enjoying myself. Someone I was madly in love with in the past. I wanted a family more than anything.

Just out of a relationship as well. So we exchange numbers that night. Short story, became friends again. Was helping each other thru our break ups and feels started back right where they left off. We got together one night and it was a night full of passion. We have the best relationship. Talk , respect , romance and it feels like we truly know each other.

He pledes me back. And I thought I would leave this passionate guy who took my heart alone. So I told my husband I broke it off with him. And kept doing what I do with the other guy on the side. In the back of my mind I thought my husband was just going to fail.

Something needs to change and I really need o make a decision on what I want. Guy number 2 is wanting more from me now. I do truly care for both men. I married my husband six years ago. I did not love him at the time of marriage, but decided to get married because 1 in the ten years preceding my marriage, my parents had become increasingly derisive about my age and the need to settle down, and 2 my husband was the first man I slept with.

The Sunday-school girl in me felt tremendous guilt and thought marriage would appease the guilt. My husband is a good person. I respect his strong sense of honor and responsibility. He also has deep insecurities. He will not undertake any potentially confrontational tasks such as car purchasing, mortgage discussions, utility connections, tax filings, or anything that involves third parties.

His insecurities may also contribute to performance anxiety, but we have a sexless marriage, no kids, and he believes mid-thirties are too old to have kids now. I care about him a good deal and want to love him. I feel like I spend considerable time and money arranging activities which he invariably finds fault with. About three years ago, I realized how vulnerable my marriage was when my male colleague called about a work issue and we ended talking late into the night.

I could joke and debate with my colleague without worrying about hurting his feelings and it was a relief to not feel emotionally drained after a conversation. I enjoyed the conversation so much that I continued to have long phone discussions for three months before my guilt became such that I changed jobs and asked my husband to attend marital counseling with me.

He refused because of the expense and his strong belief that counselors are no-value-add-money pits. A year ago, I met another man. Again, it was a relief to talk to someone and not feel emotionally drained. Again I struggled with a considerable degree of self-loathing for months. Nevertheless, I continue to consider divorce because of the hopeless sadness I feel when I contemplate walking through the remainder of my life with my husband and without even the consolation of children.

I met someone during my temporary work assignment. I came back to my country and he stays in that country where we met. Me and my husband already have issues before i met him.

Now, its making me more confuse. My husband is a good man. But i dont think i love him anymore. Threats by themselves do not indicate any personal ill will.

Just think of them as negotiating tactics. As with all threats it is critical to maintain a steady, untroubled manner. Make a clear decision to dismiss the threat, back down fully or leave then own that choice fully. Visible fear or vacillation is like waving a red rag at a bull. Choose as safe a medium and environment for such conversations as possible.

Acknowledging understanding and requesting time to think, decide or learn can be a useful tactic for escaping a situation that seems imminently dicey. Muslim girls will feel shame at the thought of others knowing about her forbidden love, but not personal guilt.

Consequently her focus will not be on reluctance to do but on reluctance to be seen to do. She will probably attempt to hide any contacts from her family and peers. If she is not a virgin she will likely claim to have only one previous partner who raped or coerced her.

She will be obsessed with evading awkward questions about relationship status from others and avoid situations in which they might come up. Interactions are sometimes carefully managed to imply her boyfriend is her husband without telling a direct lie. A Muslim girl will usually have marriage in mind as an endgame from an early stage.

The rules of the religion do not allow any marriage unless the man agrees to convert to Islam. Therefore she will also have that in mind from an early stage. Her family will hope to resolve the situation in one of two ways—by either getting rid of the man or forcing marriage with conversion.

This is one of the topics which can be expected to trigger physical threats. Those threats will become more direct, immediate, and forceful as the perceived level of seriousness of the relationship increases. Conversion means agreeing to a set of odious religious rules covering every aspect of life down to the smallest detail. Obviously it is not something that can be sincerely agreed to or insincerely agreed to while remaining a man of strength, character, and value.

Islamic religious rules mandate that a girl give her husband sex at any time or in any manner he chooses. Muslim girls typically live up to this one in any sexual relationship. For girls circumcision is common in some areas but covers a wide range of practices, from minor to absolutely brutal.

Imsges: im dating a girl but i like someone else

im dating a girl but i like someone else

People can fake who they are and disguise theit motives. We both got all the attention that we never had from anyone in past relationships and we were in love. But she wasnt going to ask me to wait.

im dating a girl but i like someone else

I am really into him and could be in a relationship with him.

im dating a girl but i like someone else

It is a kike unfolding of connection that comes as a byproduct of your enjoyment of each other. A good man deserves to feel good about his choices, just like women do. You really helped explain particular traits and made me understand all kinds of men im dating a girl but i like someone else my life! Sorry on my computer it didn't go though hope dating a overweight man second comment helped. So he has continued to live a double life and it has been someoje for him… and for me.