17 Surefire Signs Your Ex Still Loves You (And What To Do About It)

17 Surefire Signs Your Ex Still Loves You (And What To Do About It)

i still love my ex but im dating someone else

That means you need to accept that your ex girlfriend broke up with you and your past relationship is over. I ended having to be the one who filed. When he admitted it, he told me there had been a few others, but that she is the one who is worth it. Nevertheless, he spent the rest of the night praying over her sleeping body. We even talked about him together … all the while she was sleeping with him.

1. Your ex maintains contact with you when they don’t have to.

Well she broke up with me because I was clingy and got worse when I felt her pull away. I let him know that I still loved him, that I was really hurt more than angry and that I needed to move on with my life if he decided to choose to be with this other woman. Since me giving him the green light nothing has happened. This article is going to help me now and in the future! But, it can also affect you badly if you are not prepared. Hello, first of all thank you very much for his very informative website. He interpreted that as her not caring.

He tried to make me jealous by talking with our friends about which girls were texting him and I chimed in saying oh cool! I genuinely was supportive of him talking to other girls and it really shocked him. At the end of the night, I was so drunk, I was stumbling.

I reassured him I wasnt going to drive drunk. I was just going to my car to wait for our mutual friend to take me home. He insisted on following me around to keep an eye on me. Apparently a girl invited him to a bonfire that night and it was almost over so he got pissed off at my friends and I that we took too long to go.

It looked like he was about to cry and actually starts banging his head on the middle armrest in our friends car.. Why is me being supportive of him talking to other girls so upsetting to him when he was the one who broke up with me and stated we needed to see other people? Why does it make him so upset that I dont care what he does anymore? Is he possibly not over me? I was done with my ex..

I went to his house to talk about it and ended up staying there.. Why does it hurt so much? Once i blocked him, i was free and i didnt even think about him. And now he has figured out a way to real himself back into my life and i cant stop thinking about him. It hurts so much because… pheromones.

Since you had detoxed before seeing him, you stirred all of those chemical reactions back up when you went over to talk. We have 2 grown kids and grandchildren. He is the one who wanted out of our marriage. We see each other at our kids family gatherings for birthdays, holidays etc. He has had short term relationships. In public if he sees me talking to another man, he will approach us and ask who the guy is. What does this mean? When we met i was married and so was he.

I married for love and got cheated on, he got married love but she didnt love him. When we first started dating we talked alll the time about everything.

Granted i have 2 kids. We are great together. He doesnt get out till Im happily divorced but he is still married. He says that they have been split since early His wife doesnt have facebook anymore. He also said he promised her supposedly before we got together that he was gonna go to her graduation which is in Florida.

Much farther from where I am. We talked all the time. Even if it hurts your feelings but when it came to his ex it was like walking on egg shells. After talking to him about how I felt and him telling me that i have nothing worry about I dropped it.

His mom called and even told me about his ex and how she was verbally abusive to him and how she never loved him and she was just using him for money. He even told me they never had sex. He said they fooled around but never actually had sex before nor after they got married. He wants a family and kids and to live out west, travel, etc. He said he thought he could how her how great it would be and then maybe she would change her mind. After that things were great and we had our normal convos and talked about everything and anything from politics to the kids to the future etc.

After we started making plans to move to California, everything was set. He told me multiple times a day how happy I made him and bragged to his family and friends about me and my kids that he referred to as our kids. Treating them like his own. He is stationed in California already so he was going to set up a place for us. Both of our colleges are there and i have a job waiting for me. Once I got my phone turned back on, he told me that he asked his ex wife if she had extra graduation tickets, he said she said no.

Ever since he got that answer he was acting strange and about a week later he asked if we could take a break from dating each other. I asked why and he said he wants to be stable and figure himself out. Naturally I was devastated and heartbroken. I went to my besties for advice and all they said was forget him focus on your kids.

I always focus on my kids all the time but why cant I focus on myself too and have a life and a bf future hubby. Since we split, we didnt talk for about a week. He liked and commented on it. Ever since then we have been talking everyday. Nothing like we used to and every once in awhile he calls me and we talk for like 5 or 6 hours straight. He still tells me everything.

No parent especially a mother should have to do it alone. Please help me with some answers because I am confused by his words and his actions. I have been living with my boyfriend for nearly 4 years, and I have finally had to face the truth: He still loves his ex and if she clicked her fingers I know he would go running back to her she left him for another guy.

My ex does almost everything on that list except drunk dial and have a new girlfriend. He left me a month ago after a period of arguments and lack of communication. We have a 10 month old son together. He text me back always and we have recently been talking more.

I know he misses me and I miss him.. I feel like I lost my best friend. He talks about the breakup all the time and now seems upset that I am doing ok. I am not doing ok.. When he left it broke ny heart so I feel like I have no choice but to move on. He is the love of my life and I just want my family back. I am lost and alone right now. I really do want to be with him but my ego is so fagile right now.

Anyone have any advice? He told me its hard to see me and not wanna hold me and love on me. When he left he said to let him go..

We didnt speak for a couple weeks but he seems suprised that I have made improvements for myself almost suprised and he said it hurts him that I am doing better without him.

Should I have a sit down with him and confess that I am very much in love still or just let him go like he said when he left? I am pretty desperate for some advice. I honestly love this man with all my heart.. I want my family back and I know he misses his son as he only sees him on weekends now. This is his first and only child. My ex and I have been together for 9 months. When we first met we know we were meant for each other, we were in extreme happiness and we plan for our future together.

We have small fights here and there but we always handled it well. When I first went to USA, things were going badly. I started complain to him a lot and he tried really hard to give me advice. I reached out to him and told him i should stop complaining to him. So i thought everything is fine. After that he avoid me: The day i came back, we had a talk just to let all our feelings out. He said he needed a break, but a week later he message me saying he was burnt out from the relationship and call it a stop.

When i went to his place to pack up my stuff, he cried so hard. He hugged me, we kissed many many times and he said he loves me many times. It seems as though you see nothing but dead ends. Also, what works to get someone back is often quite counterintuitive. Well that suits it up! My now ex… Freshly an ex, made out with some chic 2 months ago…. Fast forward to yesterday where I finally had a mental breakdown and apparently that was me finally letting him go.

He said that he is just not in love anymore. He still loves me and I am very important to him. He wants to remain really good friends. And people are telling him that just by looking at him, they can tell we will be back together. We were always happy. We still had a great time together. I never knew anything. When I had my breakdown, he was right there for me.

Once he realized I was there. Friends of his told him that I was asking for help with some texts I sent. He feels tons of guilt, I know that. So he always tries to make things easier on everyone. We both also said the if it happened again in the future, neither would be opposed to it.

Also, I forgot to mention that we do still live together and are going to therapy to be able to communicate. We have both been very tense lately…. But we never fought, never had any real issues before this. We were that cute relationship that everyone saw and wanted theirs to be like ours. So what kind of hope do I have and what is your advice?

My first ever real boyfriend and first love broke up 18 years ago. He cheated on me, I was a 18, he was Hes marriage has just ended after he was cheated on, and he regrets not marrying me which I know is genuine. Could it work to be together? We are great together and laugh most of the time, i just wonder what the caution block is for me. Is it normal for a man to suddenly be happier in my presence and forget about the hurt of his wife cheating and the demise of his family unit?

He wants to unite both of our families as one blended family but it all seems so quick. Looking for advice i suppose, can a man carry a torch for his first longterm girlfriend years after it ended?

And is it part escapism or can a man genuinely love a woman all these years and why? Stop going to social media for advice i love you but im not sprung over you, just like you can move on so can i,i messaged you so you can stop slandering my name and get that demon out you we better than that, you keep shootin these slugs calling me a 5 year old but you always going to the internet or to ppl for advice you so smart you dumb realize that all you need is god….

Hi, thanks for the article Well, I met my ex online from a chatroom. We never met each other. He broke up with me almost 2 years ago because I showed my face on the camera a lot for other men to view, this is what he just told me why he broke up with me, this made him very upset and made the decision.

You have to work on moving on, even if he comes back. Try it out and see. He was now begging i should come back home. All thanks to him. Hi My ex and I broke up 2 weeks ago and we tried not talking at all, however we could only go two days without talking. He broke up with me because he said he is unhappy in his life right now and that he has to figure his life out and that he doesnt want to drag me down too. He says he still loves me. I still love him to.

I just am confused on what to do. We talked and I asked him if he wants to hang out and be friends and have sex sometimes. We started having sex and hanging out. I told him that I still want him in my life and he said he still wants me in his. He told me that me having sex with him confuses him and he wants to but is worried it will make it hard for him in the future. I wanna be with him. I wanna get back together with him I just dont know how.

I have tried everything. Hi me and my broke up 3 days ago and we been together for 1 year and it was my fault cause I kept getting mad. He told me his going to his friends house because we both woke up early to go to boxing class. And I told him we can go to his house instead and rest.

I just need help getting him back because I love him. Any advice on what I should do. I just need help. I just wanted to say thank you soooo much for the time that a man of Allah proffsaha took with me in helping me to get my ex boyfriend back.

Through it all, you were there for me and helped me to get him back. Allah has truly blessed you with a very special gift. I have been blessed and I am grateful that Allah put you in my path. I even helped with cleanings she died slowly and painfully in the house. While his sister lived down the street with her husband he and his dad stayed there and then I moved in. He would talk to everyone except me.

He is so social and playful I knew something was wrong. This went on for 2 weeks, then about 12 days ago he dropped it on me. He said he was sorry. He offered to help me move my stuff I said no and did it by myself the next day.

When I came the next day after crying myself to sleep he was painting in the backyard I did it all by myself, he eventually came in I said I was done he said OK bye, walked me to the door said bye with a blank stare and closed the door behind me. It was cold, I have been so broken ever since. His sister told me…I am beyond broken. I would do anything. Hi Eric, I need your advice. I am 37yrs old and few yrs back i had registered myself on a matrimonial website.

There was a guy from Mumbai 40yrs old who showed interest in my profile and took my contact no from the matrimonial people and came down to Goa to meet me all of a sudden after texting me. We spoke for one hour in a public place garden and after the discussion was over he said i would like to chat with you. Later the next day he dropped me a message saying It was nice meeting you and I am looking forward to meet you again.

I would like to speak to you so that we can understand each other better. When he called me when he reached Mumbai he said that he liked me and wanted me to shift to Mumbai with mom but had to wind up my recruitment business. The next saturday again he called me and said tell me about your business so i told him the pain and trouble i took to come up in my recruitment business after talking to me by 7pm he drops me a message saying there is no future in us as he wants me to take up a job in Mumbai by winding up my business.

He winded up with me three times and suddenly on Christmas day he sends me a warm wish. Boldly i called him and said i would like to know what you misunderstood about me. Suddenly my uncle went to Mumbai and called him and wanted to meet him as he kept himself as a stranger to me. As the month was getting over i was calling him he was not picking up my calls nor replying to my messages so i called him from my mothers no he took the call and said i am done with you and i came down to goa and went.

I am confused with this guy is he playing games or is he serious? I cannot understand this guy please advice me how to speak to this guy and find out what is disturbing him right now.

I have read your blog. We made it to just over 2 months and then broke up. It was a pretty easy break up, nothing too traumatic but the way he acted could perhaps been seen as a bit out of hand by some people. I also was respectful to him and treated him really well throughout.

Everyone including myself always thought that we would last forever but I guess good things come to an end at some point.

Having found this out pretty late at night, I asked him as soon as I could the next morning. When I did, he agreed with what I had found out and we broke up. He told me that I had done nothing wrong and that he wanted to remain best friends as we previously were. He messaged me the next morning saying that he was sorry and felt like he had let me down. I decided to start no contact and have been doing so for the last 15 days. Before we broke up, it was planned that we would come to my school prom with me but now due to the break up and no contact this is no longer a plan that we have.

He also organised a suit and we talked of how we were matching te dress and tie etc. I thinking that perhaps if I do ask him to prom and he says yes. I continue the no contact until the date of the prom? Do you think I should end no contact and ask him to prom with me? Do you by any chance sell advertising spots in your mailing list?

Hello my name is Jennifer.? I feel like I just keep getting knocked back in all areas of my life. I knew being single was what I needed to try and build myself up. Trying to build my confidence, strength and life and I thought it was working. I recently found out my ex, whom I did still stay friends with has met someone else and for some reason it crushed me.

Being a doormat, being too generous. I thought by making others happy it would make me happy too. I feel like I need some help and advice to put me on the right path to get out of this vicious cycle. So ive been dating a online boyfriend for 1 month and last night we ended because I used a fake picture now yes I guess I catfished him. My question is this my relationship ended about 5 months ago, I found out he was texting a girl he worked with and that they had been texting back and forth for about a month I think.

I saw a text that said good morning baby how was your night. My X and I lived together for 3 year but we had been together for 10 plus years. He has in the past cheated on me more times than I can count but I did know about 3 others women for the past 15 years together.

I am 12 years older than he is. But that he does love me, and that he was concerned about my age even when he knew I was 12 years older than he was, and he is having problems with it. That he could not accept my family, I have two daughters and that the way he looked at is that he should be dating my 30 something daughter in stead of me.

We have had lengthly conversations and texts over the last month or so, him say that he knows he lost the best thing he ever had when I walked out, and that he is sorry so very sorry for hurting me and that he would do what ever he could do to get me back.

But he is still seeing the other women, and this is something that he has to go through. And he knows if we got back together that he would marry me and accept my family as his.

But he knows that he messed it all up and that he wants me to stay in touch and he that he knows he lost the best thing that every happened to him and that was me.

Help me to understand. My boyfriend has been acting distant the past couple weeks. He used to be so in love with me and made me feel so loved. We both hVe careers that keep us apart for long periods of time. I am certain this is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with without a question. For Christmas he had bought me a promise ring and yesterday he dumped me..

Have you asked yourself how long are you willing to wait for him? My boyfriend broke with me 2 weeks ago after a years. Said he had issues he needed to work on and focus on his kids and work. One week after not texting he finally did asking if we could talk. He told me he loved me and hated he was hurting me.

I told him I thought our relationship was worth it and would give him time. Since then he has been out of town for work and has text and face timed me non stop. He actuallycalled me last night to ask if I had talked to any guys since he broke up with me. I want him back , what do I do. We have remained friends, and still wished to be together.

But now, he is starting to date someone else who is more similar to him. I did some stupid things, and it felt like I got this big slap in the face- he was always right. He always was telling me things that were disconnecting us that were things I needed to work on. He admitted to me that he was scared of being with me, let alone staying friends. He is someone I see frequently fyi, not a co-worker and we text a lot still.

He loved me once, he even got me a promise ring of sorts… If he sees me changing for the better, will I still have a chance? The fear comes with the fact that there is another woman who could steal his heart. Yet the funny thing is, she loves and adores me beyond anything. She also knows my history with him. My boy friend and i had a great relationship but we never saw each other and we had a couple of fight. We havent even been dating for a week but i want him back do you think he would even want to take me back.

I have been a faithful fan of yours over 3years now and i must admit that your team has been a source of inspiration and help to me. Sabrina has been awesome. My case is simple. I have always wanted to marry a white guy right from my childhood though I am a black lady. When I grew older after high school? I worked in a company where they have lots of whites.

I will be graduating next year and hope to get scholarship to study abroad. I am 23years old. My ex boyfriend contacted me after 18 years.

We were together for 3 years and the last 7 months got really bad because of his ex wife and then his family got involved and he got really depressed. We would be talking and all the sudden he was having a party with people over and he had to go. He would go from talking and laughing to having parties or he was going to Italy to How rich he has become since his dad passed. It was so confusing because I thought I did the right thing leaving him but now I am regretting it. I still love him. He would only talk to me via Facebook.

He kept accusing me of cheating then i figure it out he was the one cheating so he un-friended me. After a couple of days I sent him a friend request and he accepted within 30 seconds. He knew I was going through a break up with someone I had been with for 6 years. He said he would come and visit because we live in different states now. Then he blocked me. He remembers thing that happen when we first met and things I had told him about. I have loved this man since I first laid eyes on him and I made a mistake by leaving.

I have never married but he has twice. I love him with all my heart but I am so confused on his actions. I wrote him a litter apologizing for my mean words because i told him his ex wife looks like a guy and she does but i had no right to say that.

I just want to understand why he contacted me again and why he still wants to hurt me. I am just confused. I just want to understand why he came back. I really need some advice, my ex and I have known each other since childhood. One day last year he started flirting online with me and then we started texting and really hit it off. So after months of flirting and falling more and more I decided we can give long distance a try since he comes back to our home town often and I can go visit him.

After a few months of that things were good and he actually as able to move back home and we were so perfect for each other. Saw each other all the time and fell more in love, spent time with both our families all the time and every one was happy. Then my life got stressful with work and studying for Med school applications. And he got a new job that was very demanding and took a lot of his time. I noticed things became distant when he didnt have time to see me or even just relax with me, he always had work first and his family is also very demanding and took a lot of his time as well.

We had date night once a week and i would see him maybe once or twice on weekends and that was okay with me, but i still made him feel bad about it. I was devastated, this messed up my studying and my life for weeks. Yet he says he cares about me and still has feelings for me. Im so confused, and probably asked to soon if he can see himself with me again, since he did the same exact thing to his last girlfriend for the same reasons and took her back.

If he worked on his own issues and i worked on mine could we get back together in a few months? I was just so scared to lose him i ended up pushing him away. I just want to know how to get him back or make him realize if we just talk about our issues instead of running from them maybe things would be smoother when were both on the same page.

I really love him and deep down know he still cares for me and loves me. Im just so scared to say the wrong things now and push him away even more. Could he really have his own personal issues? Is there any way to get him back? I try to contatct him as little as i can so he has space but its hard and we are still friends on social media even though he deleted all signs of our relationship together.

I just want to talk about all i have thought about since he left me and how i hope to fix things so we can grow together. This is great advice. This is why I come back to this site to try to rid myself of the negative thoughts—your points are spot on. My bf split up with me last week after 2. We were committed to each other and always were making plans for the future. This article really resonated with me as I can see where things went wrong perhaps I have been confused all week I feel I pushed him away by trying to get it to go in a certain way ie pressuring him about children — but then feeling like we came to agreement I am 36 and had come out of a toxic marriage when we met.

I then got made redundant he had two lots of sugery on his hand and then I had a brain haemorrhage! All within 3 months! We then spent 3 months recovering together with each other everyday meaning that sex was off the table as we were both too ill and the fun disappeared. I felt it was just about getting back to normal and starting doing what we used to. I then started feeling incredibly vulnerable and probably a bit needy as I felt everything in my life was slipping through my fingers.

And then he ended it. Is there any hope? So I sent him a text stating I wanted to pick up my belongings and that I would come by after work the following day to retrieve them. The next day I contacted him to make sure he was home, he wanted me to stop by later than I planned, but I told him I wanted to get my things as soon as possible and be done.

My exact words, he agreed to meet me and said he would be there when I arrived. I deleted his number and unfriended him on facebook before I drove out the parking lot. I would be open to getting back together with him. I have been on a date since we broke up and another man is presently pursuing me he has stated he wants a relationship and I am rejecting him because I still have feelings for my ex.

However, is there anyway to know he wants me back? My ex broke up with me 8 months ago. So we completely stop talking to each other until one day my parents and I went to his house my parents and his parents get along very well. So that day we were talking again and when we were talking out of no where he hugged me and that made me get a lot of flash backs of us together.

After the hug he kissed me so we kissed and then I asked him what we were and he said whatever I wanted and I said we can try this again if you want. After I left his house we were still talking and I decided to ask him about his ex. He told him he still had feelings for her and I asked why he was with me and he told me because I reminded him of when he and the girl started dating supposedly I was being like her.

I got really mad and we broke again. But we still talked cause we ended up being friends. One time when we were talking he told me that he regrets breaking up with me. We lasted for a very long time without talking but I noticed that every time he and the girl broke up he will talk to me.

I decided I needed to move on but it took me along time since I still have really strong feelings for and even when I got a boyfriend I still had feelings for him. Barely this passed Saturday I saw him again. It was so awkward my mom noticed that he was really nervous when he saw me and that he was looking at me. What can I do to get back with my ex??? I like this article. But sometimes this method is the best outcome for both parties. I myself have recently stopped being friends with an ex.

I was no longer single, and had moved on, but held onto the hope he would want me miraculously again one day. That day may or may not happen, but life must go on. I cut off friendship with him despite his protests. I told him our significant others would be jealous and left it at that.

A year has passed now and I have not heard from my ex. I bumped into him last week and he told me he was seriously living with a new gf now. All I do now is just look positively on life and realize I have to appreciate my current boyfriend, which I do. Eric I need help… The love of my life and I broke up like a week ago…. After agreeing to get our relationship right this time.

And I believe it happened because we still had such tension that we never took care of… And I suggested that we start over… Like get back together and start over and that that would be the healthiest idea…. I believe this is worth fighting for. We have been through so much in over the year we were together. My mom said that he only said that so I would finally give him space. But everyone keeps saying just give him space. They work together and this is the second time they have fallen for each other with 4 months.

The first time it was discovered they ended it, citing their respective marriages and children. This time they both want a divorce. I am trying to slow the process down to buy some time as I still love my wife and want to keep our family and marriage in tact.

I would appreciate any thoughts, advice or prayers. Hello im in a crisis my wife and i have been together for almost 12 yrs married for five this month. We have seperated five weeks ago when i found out she was kissing another man at work. I did get upset and say some things not meaning to. I know this didnt just happen over nite her wanting to seperate. We hqve had ups and down as most couples have but this time i have finally come to the realization of what she has needed fron me and askin for.

I have been distqnt and depressed and blocked out my hole famuly at time especially her and her needs. Ive been controlling and not kept any stability in our lives. Among other things i havent seen because ive been so distant and blind to what is going on. I desperatly want my wife back home but she has started seeing this other guy and pushed me out emotionally and physically. Refuses to discuss reconciling at this point and says she is in a different place than i am on it all.

She says she dont know if she wants a divorce but knows she has to have space and time away from me but remain freinds. Ive since been as calm as can be and better understanding on how she and i have gotten to this point in our marriage. She says she loves me and i know that and i love her.

But it takes more than love she says and i know that. Im working hard to improve my ways of thinking and reacting to things. She told me to go out on dates and get out that i need to find out for sure our family is what i want. I already know it is and dont beleive dating othr women is right. I love my wife and want her to be able to give me her heart back. I am so sorry for what has happened. Right now, the best thing you can do is start working on those things that would make her want to come back.

Be the man that she needed before…that will help bring her back to you. Married 24 years and my spouse strayed and left me for good. I am so hurt. I am very disappointed with myself for allowing this to happen to me! I am so hurt that he once again took advantage of me knowing how much I loved him!!!!! Telling me that I have no proof of his infidelity. But the truth is I know that its true because one friend of ours confirmed it. I also saw the missed calls of the other woman in his phone.

He told me that its over, that he dont want me anymore and still insisting that he has no other woman. By the way, before this arguments happened I sent a message to the other woman on facebook and beg her to stop whatever is happening to them, and that woman also keeps on denying that they have a relationship and she doesnt even know my husband.

But I have the proof which I keep to myself because Im afraid that when I give the proof to my husband he will leave us and he will choose the other woman over us. My wife left me for my dad this past Friday. Please pray for us. I have begged my wife to come back for the past 3 days and today and she says that she does not ever see us getting back together. She is a good person who has done a bad thing. I want her back badly.

My wife and I have been married for almost 14 years, recently I discovered she had been having an affair with a coworker for almost 4 months. I ask anyone that reads this to please keep us in your prayers.

And truly is the love of my life. I miss her dearly…. I also encourage you to join our private Facebook group called Save My Marriage where many other people are finding guidance and encouragement in the midst of marriage crisis: I have been married to my wife for 16 years now. About 5 years ago, under my wifes pressure to get friends, I found a female friend that I became friends with and my hopes were that she could help me open up to my wife. My wife over time had started to pull away from me out of fear I would have an affair and she asked me to stop talking to this woman.

I kept telling my wife that she was silly because I thought I could resist any temptation. Two years ago I started to have feelings for this other woman and started talking to her A LOT over a 3 month period. I becane infatuated with all of the attention I was receiving as my wife continued to pull away. It came to the point after those 3 months that this other woman had told me she loved me and I responded with the same.

My wife confronted me about our many thousands of text messages each month a few days after this happened and I denied any involvement with her. I remained friends with her for 3 months after and refused any attempts at counseling with my wife. I had an emotional affair with this other woman and after thise 3 months I finally pulled my head out of my bottom because my wife asked for a divorce and broke everything off with the other woman. Things started getting better between my wife and I but I still lied about my involvement with the other woman.

Fast forward 18 months and God had really been working in my heart to admit everything to my wife and I finally did last October. I continue to give her more and more space to the point where I only talk to her once a day. Well, Mark, you were right in holding off separation as long as possible.

You need extreme intervention right now. I know it may sound impossible, but I would really encourage you to look into our 3 day workshop for marriages in crisis. You can find out more about it here: I also encourage you to join our private Save My Marriage Facebook group by clicking here: I am struggling with a huge decision.

I have been with my husband 11 years and married for 7 years. In things started to go down hill. He was not communicating with me and never really has or showed emotion. I feel he neglects me and does not care about me. I feel alone even when he is there. Feels like no love and no spark and we would barely ever have sex maybe times a month. I am 31 and he is He tells me to find another man. And it is ok.

I can leave and come back and do what I want. This hurts I feel he does not love me. He left in to work and I barely talked to him. I started talking to men but nothing serious. I forgot about it and moved on and dated. It was not working with the other men. So I decided to concentrate on myself. Then when I least suspect it a man comes into my life. My husband lived and worked in another city but came home this year march when he was laid off. He knows I am dating this man. So this man only together 2 months.

But he is everything I want and need and desire. The passionate side and emotional, intellect side, everything is there. It is scary but good scary. He wants to marry me and have a kid and so do I. Now my husband finally talks to me and opens up after I want to leave. My new partner is beyond words to explain the love we have for eachother. He is my everything and we share everything together. He wants me to get divorced before we live together…but he jokes lots about cheating on me.

Please pray for our marriage, were have been married for 9 years this coming Aprtl. My husband moved out of our home 19 months ago and in with another women. He tells me he loves her, yet he calls and text me all the time and tells me he still loves me. I have been helping him financially since he moved out so I wonder if that is why he loves me. I have put home and all the bills he has no responsibilities with her…. My husband Tendai left me for another woman 3 months ago.

Please help me pray for restoration of our marriage and the love that existed before. Is it ok if my wife is still in contact with the other guy while we are trying to fix our marriage? I have been married for almost 9 years, together for 11 years. We have had a rough year with extended family issues and then a miscarriage. I withdrew for about a month and then my husband announced that in my depression her reached out to my best friend for advice and then they fell in love.

He moved out and straight into her house. I still want our marriage to work……is that possible? Hi I am married for 2 years.. I had miscarriage before 8 month….. I with the help of family warned him …we live in conservative society where women have no other way to new life after breakup in marriage….

I have a question, I recently found out that my wife of 12 years has been having an affair. She went on a missions trip with our church and connected with one of the other members and the affair started shortly after they returned.

I confronted her about it once I found out. We seperatly have talked to our associate pastor who lead me here. At this time she is still madly in love and tolerance with the other guy.

We have 3 children together. I am in the military and on leave now through Jan 3rd. Any advice would be appreciated. Before thanksgiving day my life turn worst. Found out my hubby was still cheating me with same woman I caught him cheating back Than was ready to give up after all my pain. We been marriage for 16 years now until today found out he still talking to her. The pain is so deep I find it hard to breathe. I fear waking up in the morning because of the heaviness of my heart.

I find it extremely difficult to focus. Please pray for me and my husband. It is my fervent desire to be reconciled to him. All this years I try hard to explain him what bothering me. It hurts so much. Without him I no longer want life. I promise to god I will vow my marriage forever until death do us apart. I trust u in God. Your my father ,my lord , my God. He wants us over. This woman he talking only wants his money. She fully understand me. My hubby cheats on me cuz we have arguments ever time.

He never spends with my or my kids. My kids are already suffering so much. All change since Since he decide to cheat me. Plz pray for us. Please call us at We would love to help you. Been married for 11 years with 6 kids. My husband has gotten too close to a girl that works for us. I have been warning him for a while that she seems to have no boundaries.

He admitted he was attracted to her but not to worry about it. He has been under a lot of major stress at work and had a conversation with the girl telling her that he has fallen in love with her but is committed to his wife and kids. I phoned the girl telling her she had no respect for my marriage. She admitted she has been struggling wth her desire for him and has been flirting. Lucky for me nothing happened and her Paster at old her not to return to work which she has done.

The problem is my husband has also admitted to not feeling in love with me. He said he never has felt a spark or romance with me. Can he fall in love with me? Was he just too overwhelmed at work and have some kind of mental breakdown? He said he feels to tired and stressed to feel anything, but how come he was able to feel for this girl? Did she mentally and emotionally take advantage of his needs?

Did I fail him in some way? It is likely limerence. He is likely rewriting history with you and is stuck in the limerence right now. Please search our website for more free articles about limerence. We also have a podcast on iTunes, Marriage Radio, where you can listen to hours of free content that will help you in this situation.

If you failed him, then he would have truly strayed. He may say that he is not in love with you, but I believe that respect, responsibility, and commitment is love. Rhythmic in a sense that everything is predictable and no longer is exciting. You did not fail, but maybe you can do something to bring back the excitement?

Perhaps there are things that you need to do together to rekindle those old feelings. A vacation perhaps, or a change in wardrobe? Maybe even additional sexual exploration? Separated 2 months I kicked her out of the house. I caught her at a restaurant with a young kid.

We are both She said she is having a midlife crisis and now has a dating profile. We have a 3 year old boy and I am trying to stay strong. As last resort I will file divorce papers. We tried counseling prior to this but she was already with this guy for 4 months! I invited her back into our marriage as long as she can come clean and show remorse.

In her mind she has done nothing wrong. I may be wrong, but this is my take on it. Since in most state, adultery is no longer a justifiable reason for divorce. Instead of throwing her out, start ignoring her.

If she is unemployed, stop giving her money to run the household. If you have children, take care of them financially yourself, do not let her use them against you.

Stay in a separate bedroom if you must. Start treating her like a housekeeper instead. Slowly cut her out of your emotional life. Start dating, meet new women, rebuild your confidence. Separate your finances, take what you believe is yours. Let the stronger person win. If she leaves and shacks up with someone else, let her. If she is employed herself, let her take what is hers, nothing more. Sorry my english is bad. Been married for 7 years, We were chatmate for 2 years and got married.

I moved in to his country. During our honeymoon stage , I discovered that my husband was not sexually active. I initiate to have sex but my husband cannot gt hard anymore, he struggles with erectile dysfunction. The doctor gave him pills, but still cannot gt hard.

As a woman it was not easy for me, I was young and I need sex. But I am deeply inlove with my husband who is 12 years older than me. I understand him , I will never imagine my life without my husband, so I accepted the reality.

I never look for another man. I concentrate my life with my work, internet and smetimes I forgot to prepare him a food, i got lazy. Because I was too confident that my husband will not find another woman.

Until last February I visited my family in asia. I stayed for one month. During my second weeks in my country he was so sweet, sent me messages and called me, until my last week of vacation he sent me message if we can separate for a while. He said he need space and he want me to move out not so far from our apartment.

He want to know If he will still miss me if he will not see me. But i discovered that he has chatmate also an asian. I asked him when they started as a girlfriend boyfriend he said during when i was in asia. I asked him if he love the woman, he said he dont know. But his love for me is still there but not so strong like before.

I still live in our apartment but he show always that he still care for me. I asked him again last night if our marriage is finally over. But i cannot stand everytime he chat the other woman. I want my husband back. I really love my husband. It does not matter even without sex forever. What should i do. Good afternoon, Thank you for sharing with us! This is an article that would highly recommend reading: Please pray for my marriage my husband and I have been married for almost ten years together almost twelve.

We were very young when we got married. We have a nine years old that is hurting a lot bc of the situation we are in and a three year old. I moved out from his house three years ago but we both decided on working on our marriage living apart and when he was responsible we would move in again. We still went out as a family and our children knew we were together and that we would move back in this year.

A month ago he told me he is in love with someone else that he met less than three months ago and no longer wants to be with me. That he wants a divorce. My heart hurts my son is so sad and I do not know what to do. I love my husband and I have want us to work again. I have hope and pray to God everyday. Me and my husband have been together for 5 years married for 3 years right before our 5 years together he left me and said he didnt want to be with me anymore that he wasnt in love i still tried to hang on.

He refused almost everything i tried he wouldnt come home started drinking neglected his kids. In the time all we did is live together and have sex, we didnt even share the same room.

Months later i found out i was pregnant and moved far away. He acted as if he wanted to save our marriage when i left and spoke about moving to where i was and working it out. When he would come visit every few weekends we would go on dates and be happy. He ended up moving back but instantly became distant the next day. He left back to where he used to live for a day and didnt contact me at this time i found out that even before he broke things off with me he had been being with another woman.

So he hid it for 6 months and never came clean. When i asked him he admitted it but said he wanted to work things out. I feel invisible most days and dont know whether to give up.

We actually did a radio show on a similar topic the other day. Please go to http: Its been 7 years i married my wife my love. Before 2 years i came to know that my wife has an affair with her boss. She initially told me that we are just friends. But later on i recognized that they both have an affair. I checked her call detalis and notice tht she used to talk to him for hours when i was at work.

Now she is in deep love with him. She is asking me to give divorce. I am totally broken. I love her like anything. She is telling me that he cares for her a lot. Even i care for her a lot. I love her a lot. I dont want to leave her. God please help me getting her back and start loving me as before. I am totally getting destroyed without her. Of those six we were engaged for 1 year. We have a beautiful son together and live together. She was younger then me and risking it all for her.

He was spending all hours of the night out with her. Lying about doing over nights and over time. We were working on our relationship and then he had begun talking to her at the end of April and stopped again on May 9. He had told her things like he was there to stay and calling her by names he calls me.

Could this be fixed? What do I do? I love this man so much. I feel as if I pushed him right into her arms. He even went on to tell me how she was just an easy target and between him self and another guy she was just a bet to see who could bed her. She claimed that our entire relationship wedding vows included had been nothing more than fantasy. She said that she still loved her high school boyfriend and would rather be with him.

We have been married for 11 years with 4 children. She understands that she will not ever get to be with him and is willing to stay with me for the meantime. But how can I stay married to someone who refuses to love me, openly admits to wanting someone else, and denies ever loving me despite almost 12 years of marriage?

Imsges: i still love my ex but im dating someone else

i still love my ex but im dating someone else

I would appreciate any thoughts, advice or prayers. Knowing my ex she is always after my to react.. Or if you both argued constantly and could never come to a reasonable conclusion.

i still love my ex but im dating someone else

Hi team Ryan, Still waiting to get a suggestion from from your expertise. He said he never has felt a spark or romance with me. I kept telling my wife that she was silly because I thought I could resist any temptation.

i still love my ex but im dating someone else

Yet he says he cares about me and still has feelings for me. We talk, but she mmy still having doubts about getting back together, she thinks things will just be the same. I told him that the facebook stuff hurt me so he had her remove all the videos of them she posted. I met a girl days ago who I fell more and more in love with, 2 weeks ago we met for the first time, then the week after again at her place. He drags his feet on tying up loose ends. When i asked him he admitted it never dating said he wanted to work things out. I dont kno what datiing i still love my ex but im dating someone else.