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Then you find out that this other person is threatening the whole picture in your mind. Otherwise, just like playing the stock market, it pays to diversify. I'm speaking this Sunday with 9 of the country's leading dating and relationship experts in Beverly Hills.

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Its called sex addiction. And I think my best qualities are the internal ones. Inevitably, in a close-knit group of friends, someone will be disappointed when a match occurs that doesn't include them. I was in Boulder over the 4th of July holiday and met a guy I shared pizza with. The reason I ask is because you have to remember that when you are with someone for a while, you will start to loose that spark that you had in the beginning. Don't subscribe All Replies to my comments Notify me of followup comments via e-mail. So i went on dating site.

You said it perfectly. Theres not honey they are either dead. Druggies or viagra taking old farts. Im like jerry Seinfeld.. Maybe I started corresponding with a guy earlier and so we went on a date earlier. Or the correspondence with both guys began around the same time but one guy asked me out sooner.

If I was the type of person who only went out with 1 person at a time and asked to put the 2nd guy on hold, it had nothing to do with the 2nd person at all, and only timing. In this case I can understand why some people would rather not date the person again in the future. I agree w Jayne 6. Women like a guy who makes them feel special, especially at the beginning, as the man is the one who should be trying to impress the woman. Honesty schmonesty — this guy should have kept his mouth shut then asked her out when appropriate.

Then, if things go well, tell her once they get to know each other. I have told men i cant date them because i am dating someone else. Its upto them if they are still available. But still there is nothing wrong with forgiving people and giving them a second chance. They might surprise you… Keeping grudges never gives good results. You are the only one who ends up hurt in the end with no real mistake of the other person if you think about it objectively.

Dating is sort of like business, as illustrated by this email. Bravo to Lorraine for sticking with it. So, when people are desperate, they hold on to crumbs.

And of course, the way the guy explained it to her was completely insulting, imho. I think this is more of the latter. How should he have kept his mouth shut and asked her out when it was appropriate? They had exchanged a few emails and calls — should he have abrubtly ceased all contact with her without explanation when he decided to focus on someone else?

The disappearing, then reappearing act would have put me off much more than the honesty this guy showed. Really what is to be pissed off about? Guess what, every time you meet someone new, both you and that other person have dated LOTS of other people. A-L I agree with you.

If Lorraine and the guy had already met and he decided to pick woman X over her, then clearly she came up a bit short in his eyes and it would be reasonable for her to feel slighted. Would that be dishonest or desperate? Why should you expect him to feel anything for you, given the same set of facts. I can relate to this a bit — but I usually wait until the third date to decide if the guy is worth my while. I did that one thing you say I should absolutely not do — I pretty much gave up on dating — online or otherwise.

I became cynical and hopeless. Not because the few guys I went out with rejected me but because nobody but old men, horny year-olds, bitter bearded men, and creepy foreigners ask me out anymore. This thread is about seven years old. However, on the next page Heather implied that she was in her mid-to-late thirties at that time. You two really sound like you have low self-esteem. And I think my best qualities are the internal ones. But if it does, I know who I will ask out next. I had been planning to ask the other woman out, but decided to postpone doing so for a few weeks.

I was about to go on a cruise, and wanted to avoid any ethical dilemmas if I met someone on the cruise. I started dating my girlfriend on that cruise. I have another option and another option after that, and so on. When a previous girlfriend pulled a two week vanishing act, I exercised that option. And this other woman might not be available in the future. See my previous comments about options.

Until then, there has to be a certain degree of quid pro quo. What should he have done instead? Asked her to check back with him every few weeks to see whether he was available?

Only someone truly desperate would agree to do that. The man insulted her. Men think with their penis. People make things complicated. This whole dating thing can suck really. Give me a break!!. Im not happy with the man i was with.. We had good dates. But he has a issue i cant fix. Its called sex addiction. Shalini 14 — my point exactly. And lucky her, he did. Hurtful, maybe, but not disrespectful. And she would accept. Dating in the first weeks is pretty much fair game and even then, it depends.

I thought it may have seemed harsh, but if you think about it. How else could you really say it? I thought about it for a while, but I tend to be a pretty straight forward person. So that seemed like the best way in my opinion. The whole principle is to find people to date, but to actually find a man that accepts one date at a time?!

Or knowing that you constantly have competition, which you probably do anyways. People drive me insane as it is. Ok… I fail to see the down side here. What is it just, ladies?! Again,… not trying to be rude. A couple of years ago I was supposed to meet an online woman for an initial meeting drink and in the meantime a woman that I had met at a singles event a year earlier and I ran into each other and started to date.

This is what I have never understood about dating. My grandmother got on my case once for complaining that a guy rejected me after I made it known to him that I was interested. She said I should be letting the men court me. There are certain limitations for a woman when she has to bide her time and wait for the men to do the asking out.

Uh, maybe the same place you found the first one? Or maybe, in the real world? Seriously, if you want options, you have to expend your horizons. Try another site, or maybe date and socialize in the real world too. Dating real world only? Try putting a profile on an online site. It pays to have options, not only as to individuals, but in dating marketplaces as well. Otherwise, just like playing the stock market, it pays to diversify.

I was in Boulder over the 4th of July holiday and met a guy I shared pizza with. Be your authentic, gorgeous self and men will show up. Give a guy a chance. What, in that brief letter leads some of you to believe he presumed Lorraine had no other prospects and would anxiously be waiting for him to pop back into her life for crumbs? Why should he presume such a thing?

What makes you think Lorraine was sitting around hoping he would call? She could easily have met someone else or changed her mind in the interim and it would have been his loss. Your email address will not be published. Don't subscribe All Replies to my comments Notify me of followup comments via e-mail. You can also subscribe without commenting. Moving men from email to the phone to the real….

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Hes a wanna be. I could tell she was drinking lots of wine and drugs because her nose was all red. I went up, I now have a nice big home, hot tub, a second vehicle, and I'm in my 3 year of sheetmetal.

I drove her to her parents house, who I once new very well, because we were once family, they were happy to see me, but not her. I ran a bath for her and then I had a long talk with her parents, they said her new friend whos a girl, the one who convinced her to dump me for him stopped being friends with her and conviced her NEW boyfriend to dump her, so she was even more of a wreck, doing coke and crack and drinking, her parents almost begged me to take her back, but I said no, I said I love her and it breaks my heart to see her like this, but when she dumped me, she left me with all the problems.

I even just had a family member die, and I begged and cried, she posted pics of her and him on Facebook the next day, threw our little family out the window. I said if she would have came back way sooner, I would have tried, but now she is not that same person anymore, I don't want this to happen to you or anything bad, my own story sorry if its too long lol. This is a hard one, but regardless I'll do my best. First I would say trust with what you feel is right, and my opinion is that if you don't see this relationship you're in going anywhere, then let him down gently just don't mention the other guy.

Whatever happens is really up to you so I hope you can work things out. Thats a hard situation and I know what you are going through my girlfriedna and I have 2 years and 4 months and teh relationship is sometiems shabby, what you should do is do a romantic date with your boyfriend and tell him how you feel, sometimes sex is a good thing to spice things up in a relationship but should mostly focus on devoting one day to him and knowing how you feel about it.

Story of my life! Well, my advice to you is not to leave your boyfriend for someone else. I don't believe that's a good enough reason. If you're truly unhappy in your relationship, then you break up with him because you're unhappy. If you leave him solely because you like someone else, you may regret it later on if your relationship with this other guy does not turn into what you want. Especially after being with someone as long as you've been with your boyfriend, I would say you still need time to get over that relationship before you start thinking of getting into another otherwise you risk it becoming just a rebound and that's never good.

Think about the reasons why your feelings for your boyfriend have changed. Focus on that and you will know whether it's time to leave him or not. Do not focus on whether being with someone else would be better. That will come eventually, but only after you've made the first choice to break up or not. I understand you don't want to hurt your boyfriend, but your going to hurt him even more if you prolong the relationship, while beginning to have feelings for another person.

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My Husband bought me a new car and a Gold wristwatch. I have a boyfriend but we been dating for 5 months.. I like someone else and it's hard cause he likes me too..

I wanna date him but I don't wanna hurt my boyfriend and I don't know what to do.. I have a similar problem. This is my first boyfriend which i have been with for 3 months.

We were soo spontaneous but now i feel kind of, bored. I mean i love him a lot but i want this constant happiness. There was this friend i have which i started talking too more recently and today i told my best friend i like him but i like my boyfriend. My bff told the guy and he said my worst nightmare "i like you too and i want to be in a relationship with you" im mrs nice guy and i hate to make people sad. This guy is was more spontaneous which i what i needed and he actually want to go do stuff.

Dont get me wrong but my boyfriend doesn't really ask me if i want to do something, if so then its rare and i feel like i act too needy. I dont want to make anyone sad but i think im going to play this out and see what happens. I would never cheat. I wish i could be in a doubke relationship lol. I love both of them and its getting out of hand. Its been happening constantly with me I'd get a guy then I'll fall in love with some one else make a list of quality's you like in each of them then think whose better to provide for you.

I don't know if I should stay with my boyfriend or be with another guy! What you need is time away from both guys. I've been with my boyfriend for 5. Liking another guy never even crossed my mind until I started school here and wasn't able to spend as much time with my bf.

I started spending so much time with the other guy that when my boyfriend made time for me, it was somewhat annoying. I actually had to ask him to go on vacation for a few days so I could predict how things would be without him around I offered to leave, but he didn't want me to.

But even when he came back, I couldn't stop thinking about and talking to and texting with the other guy. Honestly, what got me back with my boyfriend was spring break. I stopped seeing the other guy on a daily basis and eventually stopped talking to him. When I did see him again at school, all I could do was spot the negative things about him. Unfortunately, during the time that my boyfriend left, he and I were taking a break, and the other guy and myself did move forward.

I regret everything that I ever did because my current boyfriend was the first one I've ever had. I've never even so much as held another guy's hand!

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What Girls Said 8. Conveniently, Lorraine was available-wonder how much respect for her is going on? Thank you for your response!

i like this guy but im dating someone else

You feel like this guy is really in to you and has eyes only for you. But it can also be hard if the man you're attracted to pursues one of your friends. How much time and effort did he really give his current relationship? Women are trying to hurt men. She knew I liked him yet she still asked him out.