How to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back Permanently in 5 Stages (Game Plan with 17 Mini Objectives)
You will realize that you can live without your ex and life is not so bad after all. You will also find common pitfalls in each section of the article. I call this the elephant in the room approach. Yes you could send the letter if you want.
Stage 2: The Inner Demons aka focus on yourself
There will be my chance to get her back in my life as its been 3 months of my break up and her new relationship. But in almost all the cases, her new relationship will be a rebound. If she is unsure but you want to be with her, then you can convince her that things will be different since both of you are aware of what needs to change to avoid a toxic relationship. March 5, at 2: At what point do I try telling her if we can take it slow again or something? I find them very pretty, but a bit slippery; maybe because i was not playing by the rules before. And to be honest, the best way to bring this topic up is only when you've gotten her back, and she's in a positive frame of mind.
Fast forward to two weeks ago when she says she wants to slow down and just date we had been talking about the future, marriage and kids a lot. I tried to stop all of the future talk but it was hard to go from talking about it all the time to never mentioning it. Well she broke up with me because I was clingy and got worse when I felt her pull away. When we broke up admittedly I was crushed and did the begging and negotiating thing that just made me look worse.
Since I had been almost living with her half a week or more I got all of my stuff and she came the next day to get hers from my place. By the time I got home she had deleted and blocked me across all social media. She did not want to see me so she asked if I could leave her stuff outside. When I knew she had left I went outside and she had left a box of all the gifts I had given her from jewelry including at Tiffany necklace that she adored to stuffed animals. My questions are why would she give back all of the stuff that was gifts and how can I show her I have changed during the NC period since she had blocked me everywhere?
NC period would not act as a continuation of the relationship in your case but rather a fresh start, as if you were dating someone for the first time. It seems that she wants to cut off all contact with you and make a clean break up right now, due to whatever that has happened. The best thing you can do is to let the breakup happen and slowly learn to accept it. By begging or asking for her back, you'll only push her further away and ruin your chances.
Give her some time, and work on your issues in the meantime. At the end of NC, if she still does not want to respond to you or responds negatively, you might have to be fair to yourself and consider walking away from this.
Is there a way I can ask her casually without seeming like i am just still my old self? I am currently on rebuilding attraction, we have gone on a couple of dates, and already even have plans for two more. It depends on how your ex is as a person. You could always casually mention it in passing as a joke or teasing her, but in all honesty, if she's only just dating someone casually, you'd stand a better chance given your connection with her, and by bringing the topic up, you risk her getting upset with you.
Are there any signs to know if my ex is playing hard to get? I know my ex well and I know she is prideful. They can work in similar reasons as signs they love you or want you back mean they have feelings but have made it not very obvious for you to tell for certain.
And probably so, that she would not allow you to touch her if she had 0 feelings for you or felt uncomfortable with it, but the fact that she didn't reject it meant she probably still feels something towards you. Continue to take things a step at a time, and see how it plays out. Ok so here is my situation. Me and my ex were together for a while and we both agreed that that time was the best time of our lives.
Then one day she just said that she wasn't ready for a real relationship and said that she still had feelings for me, but she didn't think that we should be in any sort of serious relationship at the moment. I was very confused by this, but I didn't ask for any clarification because I took this as her asking for a bit of space. Instead, I went to a friend of mine who is also my ex's closest friend and asked what I should do and she also told me to give her space.
I did this for about weeks where we had minimal contact and I gave her space. She texted me a few times during this time, but I still didn't talk to her very much.
She didn't want to talk about anything serious and I respected that until the end. That's when I just told her that I couldn't go on not knowing how she felt about me and I asked her to be more open when she talked to me all of this was done as gently as possible. I told her that I wanted the relationship to work, but I couldn't go along not knowing how she felt anymore.
After I said this she told me that she had lost feelings for me and that we should just be friends. I said "I have nothing against being your friend and I hope that we can continue to be friends and one day work towards something more, but I don't think we can do that at the moment. I acted visibly mopey for the first week, but I'm much better now. I talked to my friends and they helped me feel better and then I decided that I wanted to get beck together with her.
I spent 4 weeks making a plan, but then one of her friends told me to stop and that my ex just wasn't interested anymore. After that I decided to restart my plan, but be a bit more subtle about it. Before I began trying again, I apologized to my ex for planning behind her back and that I did want to still be connected to her and us being friends is fine for now.
Now I'm 5 days into no contact and I don't know what to do next. I already know that this is going to take a long time, and I'm willing to take the time because she is worth it, but she seems to have moved on in less than a month and she doesn't seem to care about me anymore, and I'm a bit discouraged by that. What can I do next? Just because someone has lost feelings for you, doesn't mean those feelings can't be regained.
The fact that she fell for you in the first place meant that there was something about you that attracted her. Understand what that is, and when NC is over, include that in attraction factor with your plan and win her back as if it were your first time chasing her.
I dated my girlfriend for almost seven years We'v had a few but major problems in the relationship n I ended it for 8 months. Then the girlfriend tried numerous times for us to back together, but jst ignored her attempts. And she says we can still communicate cos she still loves me but we can't be to together anymo and that she has developed the luv for other guy I would know what should or can I do to get her back to be my girlfriend.
There isn't much you can do at this point because she's in her rebound relationship, and it's best to let it self-destruct on its own as opposed to you interfering and causing feelings of hostility towards you.
Bear in mind that you were the one who broke up with her and rejected her attempts to reconcile, resulting in her rebound relationship, so it's something you would probably have to live with. If you're convinced it's a rebound, it'll be over eventually. However in the mean time, work on improving yourself and your life in general and keep distracted. I finally decided to quit my old job, and finally got a job in something I like doing I now work from home.
Been focusing on improving myself to be the best me I can be. There are no signs of someone else or anything. I tried to keep it going although i often ended it since the advice on here is to slowly build up the texting. Did i do something wrong? Perhaps meeting you brought back negative feelings relating to the breakup, which caused her to act this way.
I would suggest you give her more space, and to continue with NC again for awhile longer, before contacting her a second time. But she set up another date herself not sure if you missed that part. Please reply to this if there is any more input or at least some words of encouragement would be apreciated.
Do you think there's a chance you did something to upset her during the second date? People would have different reasons to back away, one possibility could be that, while another may be that meeting you was more for closure than reconciliation, or even that she's simply busier during this period to maintain small talk with you. Either way, hang in there and give her a little space for now, and maybe drop her a text again in a couple of days to check in with her.
First, I have to say that you are awesome! I am learning so much from your articles. However, i found them too late. Here is the story: The last year or so went downhill because I didn't appreciate her anymore, took her basically for granted, and started to neglect her and her needs because of my new job, which was very stressfull, and I worked very long hours.
I wasn't doing it on purpose, i loved her very much, she meant everything to me, and she still does. She decided that she wasn't in love with me anymore and left me on September 23rd of last year. Just 2 days later, she came back crying, saying she made a huge mistake and we got back together. But within the next 2 months, it all started coming back to her, she said she is again feeling trapped when she is in my house.
She left for 3 weeks, she went on a holiday with her sister and her boyfriend. During that time she was away she called me because she missed me. When she came back after new year, she again came back crying, saying she missed me a lot and couldn't be without me.
And again, everything was ok for a couple of weeks, but then, she decided she needs some space, and we should not see each other for a while. About a month later, it was valentines, which was also our anniversary. My emotions got the best of me, i called her, we met up and i broke down crying ang begging her to take me back.
She said she doesn't love me anymore, that she got used to living without me, and she was okay with it. She also said, that she wouldn't like to try again right now, but maybe when i move out of my house into an apartment by myself, because she just couldn't come back to that house. I of course was crying and said ok, just don't get rid of me because i can't live without you.
That was 4 days ago. I only found your articles a day before yesterday, and immediately saw all the mistakes i made. I sent her a text message saying i was sorry for being rude and needy, my emotions got the best of me, and that i realised now, the breakup was a good thing.
She replied she wishes me all the best in life. I did not reply to her, and started no contact. Given the time you guys were together, you definitely do have a chance with her. However, you have to work towards understanding why she first decided she wasn't in love with you anymore, as well as her reasons for feeling suffocated, and changing those aspects about yourself if you want another shot.
Since she has gotten used to living without you, there isn't a point in pressuring her to get back together with you right now, because you would come across as the one who is needy and desperate.
Apply No Contact and work on those issues I mentioned earlier, before coming back to try once more as an improved person.
Hello, first of all thank you very much for his very informative website. It helps me accept the pains of my recent break-up. I'm a 36 yr old man from Europe Netherlands Although your website offers a lot of information, i still have some questions concerning my own situation and how to handle with it.
I will try to write the story as compact as possible, since a lot has happened. I'm suffering from a mild form of MS.
I was dating an 27 year old girl for 6 months, and she dumped me finally 3 weeks ago. We met through tinder, chatted about 1,5 weeks, started calling each other and the spark was there. When I first met her on date I was honestly a little disappointed, as she looked different in real live then on pictures.
But we talked for hours and went to her house afterwards and slept together was pretty fast for me, i don't like ONS actually. She asked me the next day if it was a one time thing, and I said no, so we started seeing each other more often.
Eventually she told me she was sexually abused when she was like 13 although she stated earlier that she was not carrying weight from the past. She told me she talked with psychologists about and that it was no issue anymore. But only recently she said she dared to talk to the person who did it to her, so i wondered if she really processed this all.
She also told me her mother was pretty much a borderliner, and alcoholic. She wanted to do stuff pretty fast in the relationship. After 1,5 month she wanted me to meet her parents. We had some discussions about the amount of contact on whatsapp and the amount of dates, but no fights.
She had problems With her living situation, her work, and her grandfather being Ill. I felt she needed me too much for all her problems. When I couldn't be there for her when she called me in panic, and when I told her my own problems MS blocked me from coming over to her place, she would never accept it, and she was disappointed in me. I did do allot of other things to help her , and even went tot he hospital a couple of times, because her grandpa with colon cancer was almost dying.
When I was there she was happy, but later on she seemed to forget those things I did, and stating, that I was never there for her when she needed me.
She also complained about me being not sweet enough for her, and that she needed confirmation that I really liked her etc. We had 4 serious months of relationship when we had fight about starting to live together, which was caused by her bad living situation, she paid a lot of money and had a dirty moisture house with problems.
When I said i needed to think about it first, she got angry and probably felt rejected. After we had a big fight about it, she broke up from me. After a couple of days I started to miss her enormously and wrote her a letter that this break up made me see how much she meant to me and that I loved her told that fort he first time.
She cried and we had 2 nice weeks, where I showed much more of my loving side, and she confirmed that she saw I changed in the way she wished for, but that she needed to adjust, because of the rapid change of my feelings for her.
She was colder emotionally in this period. After those 2 weeks she started another discussion over whats app i asked her like X no drama on whats app please, rather call that she felt lonely on the birtday of her grandfather she wanted me to be there. I responded that i could understand, but that we should have fun together before getting into family stuff again because I had a fight with her mother.
The she said, ok then it stops and I don't come with you and your family to Austria for Christmas then. I was pretty hurt because I did all kind of sweet things in the past 2 weeks, and she started to demand all kind off stuff again.
We had a week of no contact and i went alone to Austria. I called her with Christmas, but she reacted very cold and could only talk about stopping the relation. I even called her dad couple of days later, explaining could reach her emotionally anymore, but her father also reacted cold fort he first time!
With new years eve I did went to her place, and we had very good talk, and we slept together, but the days after she was much colder again, and the moment I complained about that, she broke up with me again. This time saying ice cold, that she wanted me to leave her alone.
A knife in my heart. After this I started NC rule, for 3 weeks now. I do know the things I did wrong, and already apologized for it. I also know she emotionally blackmailed me, and I let it happen. I don't know if I can handle the no-apologise, but I do want to talk to her. There's something you have to understand if you want things to ever work out between you guys. A person like this comes with a lot of emotional and mental baggage, whether she admits it or not.
Based on your story, this is quite evident, because most of the time, a person who has been abused growing up has a tendency of over reliance when they find a partner because of the comfort and positivity it brings to their life.
For your ex's case, she can probably only see things from her point of view and what she feels at the moment, so you shouldn't be expecting an apology. The case of where she breaks up with you whenever she doesn't have her way is a sign of conditioning, because she's been subconsciously conditioned since the first time that by breaking up, she eventually gets her way - but the process is definitely exhausting because at that moment, she may genuinely feel like she wants to break up and may treat you coldly.
You're going to need a lot of patience with her, and even consider suggesting therapy if her issues do not get better. For the time being, I would suggest talking to her if you still feel strongly for her once NC ends, and slowly try to work things out again.
Thank you very much for your reply. Should I send the elephant in de the room letter after NC? I did try to show her her actions to me are based on fear, but she denies and blames me for everything. How do I make her clear that her fears destroyed our relationship, without getting another fight? Yes you could send the letter if you want. And to be honest, the best way to bring this topic up is only when you've gotten her back, and she's in a positive frame of mind.
During that period, at least she may be more receptive to change then as opposed to now. It was 30 days now since last contact and i was about to send her the elephant letter. For the first time in those 30 days i decided to check her Facebook. My stomach turned when I read she did a status update about 10 days ago that she is in relation with a new guy. So half of januari i was in her bed the last time and month later she declares a new relationship on Facebook to the whole world.
It is very obvious she jumped into a new relation almost immediatly and delibarately posted it on Facebook so freakin fast hoping that ill read iT she didnt posted so fast stuff about our relationship at the time on Facebook and never a relationship update, she is not very active on Facebook btw. This sets me back in mental strongness and i probably should not send the letter now, since iT hurts like hell, i did read about the all the rebound stuff on this website. Do you agree that this is an obvoious rebound action and posting iT on Facebook is her way to try to hurt me?
How long should i wait now? It definitely sounds like a rebound relationship. Unfortunately, in this scenario, your only choice if you want her back is to wait it out until the relationship ends. I don't recommend you simply wait around and hope that it one day ends, but rather focus on yourself, and even consider moving on for the time being, and should an opportunity present itself in the future, based on how you feel, you could consider taking it up.
Our relationship is from last 8 years but from last 2 years we always fight for some reasons where i acepted myself now as my fault, the time we are in relation i didnt realize that i am doing wrong to her as i didnt want she talks always with her friends male.
Which she caught and breakup with me finally.. So i dont want that she leaves me because i want to be with her till my end I feel sorry and realize what i have done from last years but this makes me too late as she told to move on..
I am afarid to loose her. Apply No Contact and give her some space to let go of her negative emotions relating to the breakup, and spend that time working to improve yourself before you contact her again. I was wondering, how should texting behavior be after first and second date after NC and after elephant in the room text?
The second time she brought up some stuff about the breakup, which surprised me. She said both her parents told her that she was stupid. Again, this came out of the blue and i was very surprised.
On multiple occasions it felt as if she was trying to get me to say something, again, i may be overthinking. Again, i may be overthinking. At the end of the night, i dropped her off and just said goodbye no hug, no kiss, no handshake. As i was walking to my car she stopped me and walked over to me and hugged me and said happy valentines day thank you for tonight i had a lot of fun. I guess ultimately i am asking if this sounds like im pretty close?
It sounds like things are going well, and she's even ready to talk about the issues regarding the breakup. Regardless, you should keep things casual and continue to build up on connection if you're worried about facing rejection from her.
You don't have to ask her immediately to get back together but drop hints of flirting, without seeming too pushy, and observe how she responds to you. There has been a development. She seems to answer my texts and calls if I initiate. Also seems willing to hang out. However, she never initiates texting at all.
She did after the elephant in the room text, then all of a sudden she stopped initiating. She is active on social media however. You could always continue initiating since she's been responding positively.
Maybe she's used to the idea of you texting or calling first, resulting in her lack of initiation. Well, it's best to come across as being friendly but casual. If she does not initiate texts or calls, perhaps wait a couple of days before initiating again. You might need to build her comfort level further before she starts to do this on her own accord. We have been hanging out more frequently and it has been going fairly well.
However, a few nights ago she invited me to her place after having dinner, it was the first time she had invited me back to her place since our relationship started going in the shitter months ago. Anyway, after dinner, we bought some drinks and some pot. We smoked and got really high and then drank a few beers at her place while watching tv. She seemed a little pushy about me finishing my blunt.
I expressed the concern of driving home high and drunk and hinted at NOT wanting to stay over since im not trying to rush any feelings or emotions or any physical contact. She expressed it was still early and not to worry about it, like I said she seemed pushy about it. So i smoked the whole thing and drank some more and she came out in some somwhat revealing sleeping clothes or pjs.
She told me to stop a couple times until she gave in. The entire night we kissed as i felt her up and from time to time she would tell me to stop and other times she would kiss me. After the high and the alcohol passed, and i came to my senses, i pulled away and took a nap for about an hour or two but i kept getting woken up by her cuddling me and holding my hand and resting on my shoulder and then woke up to her pulling me on top of her so i could sleep more comfortably while she caressed me.
After this i woke up feeling normal again and i said i was leaving and she it was ok and we just hugged goodbye and that was that. Everyone has needs from time to time. This could have been her way of expressing that, although mixed with uncertainty at the situation. If you'd like, you could have a talk with her to address the issue of where this is headed and how she feels, before deciding on your next course of action.
Alternatively, you could continue to maintain contact with her and work on building up the bond and comfort between the both of you. Our break up was painful, and the fact that it could happen again is scary. Although I am positive it would be a better relationship this time. No contact and your site and articles overall have helped me immensely.
At the moment we are friends. Since that experience, she has called me more often. She also initiates texting more often. Although it's best if the initiative could come from her, but sometimes if she's playing hot and cold, it might be better for you to take charge of the situation instead of sitting around wondering what her intentions could be.
You could ask her out sometime soon in a casual date-like manner and see how things go from there. So, me and my ex gf broke up a couple weeks ago january 23rd. I'm currently doing NC, planning on sending her the "elephant on the room" message in around 1 month like march 10th.
Is there a way to have you look at it first Ryan? Should I let her know I had an interview in her country last week? Perhaps you could let her know when you are actually talking to her again. Including the interview may feel a little negative missed opportunities for starting out. I made first mistake to texted her again and again. We spend hours daily in uni and talk all night,But now we did't talk. I asked her to talk to clear misunderstanding but she said i don't want to talk and went.
I saw her daily and totally upset. You could wish her when her birthday arrives, but if she is still upset and does not want to talk to you, do not push her for a conversation after that and continue giving her more space.
Hi, my ex girlfriend and I were together for over 6 months, we both realised we felt something special, anyway, I know she's confused and not herself, she used lots of excuses none of them a reason to break up as it is easily fixed by us working on it together and communicating more, on the phone, i asked is this us breaking up?
She said like in a confused manor I suppose so.. I know she wasn't sure as she wasn't being her usual self. I suggested having a few days to think and see how it goes, 5 days went and I messaged asking if she was ready to talk and had enough time to think, she suddenly changed and became rude and blunt, not herself and saying she doesn't need to talk, she doesn't feel the same said that before aswell and can't rekindle the same feelings, so we are meeting tomorrow to exchange bits we have, we have had no contact for a few days since, if we have any it'll only be about time to meet and I'm wondering what do I say?
I want to get her back and I know for a fact that she loves me as she said she still loves me, how do I go about saying about the no contact for like 30 days? She hasn't blocked my number, but has blocked me on social media which is good as no contact will work then, but I want to tell her or not tell her in a way that will not ruin any chance of us getting back together permanently.
We both said and realise at the start that the way we felt was different and more intense than other relationships, felt calm and excited with eachother and it was special, there was a feeling and connection not felt before..
But we didn't even get a try or chance, it's like she jumped the gun and this is a rash decision, she is very stubborn by nature. I want to give us a chance as I see a future and so does she as we spoke about it.
You don't have to announce to her that you're applying no contact, but rather, just apply it on your own. The whole point of it is to give both parties space and for you to work on any issues you think can be improved.
You have to give her the space to let go of any negative emotions or fears she may have, in order to start on a fresh page again. I am writing this confused and worried. My gf broke up with me but not by normal methods of breaking up, she kind of done it over the phone with me without ever saying it then I suggested we have some time no contact and then see how it goes, she agreed, then after 5 days I messaged asking how she was and she has had enough time to think and if she was ready to talk..
She got quite harsh and rude in the texts.. I know I want to get her back but I don't want to tell her I still love her as that will not go well.. Well, she could have been nice over the phone because she was afraid of hurting your feelings directly back then, but messaging makes it easier to remain distant from the entire situation. I suggest telling her when you meet up that you acknowledge your shortcomings back in the relationship and you'll be working to improve yourself.
You could also bring up the idea of remaining friends, so that once you've worked on yourself, can build a new bond and try to win her back again. Remember not to come across as pushy or pressure her into anything she doesn't want to, at even if she responds negatively, just treat it as taking a few steps backwards. You can still turn it around. I feel I need a serious support from you. We're having a wonderful relationship my girlfriend for last six years with high intimacy and enjoyed sex whenever possible.
I'm having a wonderful family with two kids and she also got her family with kids. But due to some doubts on me, she broke with me two to three times. But I'm able to manage her back to normal life. She is working in my company.
I brought her to my company only after we started of our relationship. She is very capable and doing her job very successfully. We are able to spend a lot of time together. First, we broke because of her doubt on me with another lady. But it was a very fair relationship and I was almost like a mentor for her and she helped me in some financial troubles. I kept it hidden not to worry her for a long time and she caught us over phone red-handed.
That was a very serious and she resigned. But I beg pardon and I explained everything she forgave me. But so suspicious on every relationship even with my relatives. It happened once more when I kept hidden something not to worry her and broke again.
Again managed to get her back but She asked me to cut all suspicious relationships and I accepted. I'm so sincere to her till this moment and never thought about any other dating relationship even before I met or after we fell in love. She is the second lady with whom I had the physical relationship in my life after my wife.
I was keeping some financial or company things hidden only because not to make her sad on that. But on many occasions when she comes to know about it she will burst out and will become so violent and try to break from me and the relationship.
I had given oath many times to her that I won't lie or hide anything from her. But on many occasions due to fear of losing her, I kept hidden and lied many times to her. In last December one such thing happened and finally, she left me. We were had a lot of discussions apologies, but nothing worked out.
She is not happy if care here more and if showed much affection. But she is very normal to me now. But I'm undergoing a very stressful period and she is my first love. I'm 50 now and all my motivation is surrounding her and I want to get her back permanently. But I fear, she had few earlier relationship which also broke but she never goes back to that what may happen.
She is a person like, once broken is broken and she will never get back to it. What may happen I want her back. I'm ready to answer any of your questions. I need her back. Her husband is not at all supporting her for her living and abuses her very much.
He continues to do it from her marriage days itself. She had her marriage 20 years before and still together. She got a feeling that I cheated or betrayed her.
But I haven't done anything wrong or insincere to her except hiding or telling lie. But that is most important to her but its normal to me. But I'm ready to change. My company is going thru a financial struggle and I need this relationship back to set right everything.
I need her back at any cost for the rest of my life. We are meeting everyday at the office and having normal and official communications directly and over the phone also.
But she shows no intimacy to any of these communications and she told that she is not even thinking about me when I'm away. Need your sincere help and advice to her back. I did a lot of mistakes before coming to your site like begging, pleading, apologizing, promising on future and bad things possible as you pointed out. Now i started the no contact as you suggested. But that be limited as we are are meeting everyday in office and a lot of official communications.
Is you EBP advanced will work on this scenario? Hi team Ryan, Still waiting to get a suggestion from from your expertise. Just to know that purchasing EBP will help me in my odd scenario. Please give some advise. Given this comment with a lot of belief on you after getting in to your site suggested by a friend in Texas. He is also wondering what happened. Hi, I believe I had replied you some time back but the message might have gotten lost somewhere.
Regarding your situation, although you did not cheat, you still did lie to her and that contributes severely to a person's trust towards you. You will have to build that trust back up if you want a shot at winning her back. The first thing however, is to deal with the fact that you work together with her. For the time being, keep things strictly professional and only work related. Give her some space and time to forgive you, and let go of any negative emotions, as well as to slowly gain her trust once more.
EBP system may definitely help, as it does provide various methods on winning someone back, and also guides your mindset, to not come across as desperate or needy.
How long i should keep this "only professional relation ship"? You feel still i got a chance to get her back? If she does not quit her job because of you, that means she is either fine working with you because she still harbors feelings, or that she has completely moved on. However, given the circumstances, it's unlikely that she would have moved on completely.
Keep the professional relationship for as long as necessary until you feel that you can have a normal conversation with her without being awkward and a certain level of comfort starts to re-develop. About two months ago my ex broke up with me, out of nowhere and used the basic texts to justify it. As it was my first real relationship bc i'm still Young i fell out of all the clouds of happiness in which i was. We were a couple since 5 months and before that we've been in the same school for three years.
In the first two to three weeks after the break up, we were still having contact over Snapchat, just like we were normal friends. There was no contact in the last month, but she was always on my mind to be true. Now she suddenly sent a Snap this monday and also today friday. We shared a few messages and i was trying hard not to appear needy, which didn't work out all that well.
She didn't seem especially interested but she made contact again Can somebody tell me what that means? Is she still interested in having contact with me? If she contacted you again, it could either mean she's still interested in you, or at least interested in remaining friends with you. Either way, if you do want her back, it'll be a good idea to continue with the conversation by definitely try your best not too come across as desperate or needy and start things off casually first.
Build up a stronger connection again with her before thinking of the next step. I met a girl days ago who I fell more and more in love with, 2 weeks ago we met for the first time, then the week after again at her place. Everything was fine until later that day, when I was home. She blocked me everywhere without even saying anything to me. I have no clue of why this happened, because she didn't say something she disliked about me before.
It has been 4 days ago this occured. And i have been NC since 3 days ago, since I was desperetly tried to contact her, which didn't work out. So im still as confused as day 1.
I don't know if you can block peoples messages on phone, so I could try to contact her there after a month. What do you think I should do?
I really like her. I don't want this to end so quickly. You could try to contact her again casually after NC ends, but you should mentally prepare that it doesn't work out, and to walk away if she still doesn't reply. She may have her reasons for leaving you so suddenly like ex boyfriend walking back into her life, or personal matters, of which you'll probably have to let go of things if she won't even tell you what the reasons are, because it means that she's prepared to cut you out completely.
Thanks, I'll try that, I won't get my hopes up because it's very unlikely that she responds, we'll see what happens. Thank you for your time. You could always start off with something light hearted, and see where it takes you.
The whole point is to be as casual, and not to raise any of her defenses, so you'll have to come across as a friend. You could follow this article for more tips on how to go about contacting her again. So I realized recently how much I want to get back with my ex. After reading this article I realize it was going well until I screwed it up.
We were together 3 years, have been apart for 1 and have a son. He lives in another state too. He visits every month or two. He was here this weekend and we went out with our son and had a great time. He mentioned it was great. Then we went out to dinner just the two of us. We were having a good time and then I brought up us getting back together. His defenses went up and he completely rejected the idea of getting together.
I continued to talk about it for much too long. How do I fix this? Also, do I need to invest a lot more time in building a connection since we live in different places, have a kid and reconnecting would be such a big deal? Yes, it would be a good idea to slowly build the connection back up instead of jumping at the idea of getting back together.
Also, you need to understand why the relationship didn't work out the last time, and why your ex is reluctant at the idea of getting back together. If you can dispel his worries and doubts, he would probably be more open to things.
Hello Ryan, My girl friend just broke up with me on Saturday. We were having a beautiful conversation and all of a sudden she brought my ex girl in the conversation. I got mad about it and it brought huge misunderstanding. I needed to send her my call log and noticed that her name was saved as Ahmed Gift and My ex as "So Mine". But honestly that I thought that was normal. I have been pleading with her. She confessed she still love but I have to move on this she's time to heal and she's afraid of getting hurt.
Am seriously in pains. I would recommend you following through with no contact to give her the time she needs to let go of any negative emotions of you and your ex.
At the same time, focus on picking yourself up from the hurt you feel because she's not going to come back into your life if you're an emotional mess. Work on yourself and after following the no contact rule , if the decision to win her back remains the same, you could initiate contact once more with her.
So after two weeks of her being very ver unsure, she broke up. She said she has deep fwwling but there are reasons she will not tell me. So now i am moved away already signed a job contract , and i still want her back. Merry christmas and happy new year. To be frank, it's hard to fully go into the friendzone if you were once her ex. If feelings could be sparked once, it can be sparked again although the second time may be a little harder.
My suggestion would be to build some form of friendship back up with her first and re-create the spark with her slowly, and trying to hint or get her excited at the fact that you're possibly returning in a couple of months. See how she responds from there. Thing is, i do have a tendency to reactive depression she knows about, and while i am pretty used to it, i think she feels guilty of possibly having me pushed into another one she has, not the wordt i had so far but pretty up there.
We always talked about getting a dig when we move in together. She seems very reserved. I think she misses me, but she sticks with the decision or she would look crazy to herself. Okay, well, thanks for the tip on hinting on my possible new job in town once we have more of a connection. And wow, thanks about empasising on no contact So much.
I stuck to it as best as i could and it at least did wonders for me. I speak a new language now, made about 20 new friends, went to some massive parties and got involved with some marvelous ladies.
Knowing there is abundancenof happiness, but choosing the specific kind of happiness with that specific person. Thanks for all of that. I'm glad to hear that you've had such a positive impact towards No Contact. Not everyone receives the same success as you, but that's because sometimes they get disheartened or give excuses and try to take the easy way out.
If she's currently still reserved, just give it a little more time and conversation for her to open up more, and you can take your next step from there. We had our problems about being faithful after I cheated and then she did the same, but we were teens then and made sure I would never do that again.
However I became insecure after she cheated and became verbally aggressive and controlling and eventually she broke up with me because I caught her talking to another guy. Now their relationship isn't sexually at the point i found out but I still panick and began to beg and cry.
Then we went like 4 days or so without speaking each other, I tried to get her back by being confident, like day six or seven. It didnt go well. It was suppose to be friends outing but I called it a date in front of her. Then I tried to have sex with her and she said no. Then I told her that I love her. Now I wondering if I start NC that I can healed up and eventually become a guy who she could re-attract her, or is it too late.
Right now, if you continue to pursue her, she might go to the other guy regardless for comfort against you. It might be a better idea to let her be and start NC to work on your insecurity issues, which you will need sorted out before you begin working towards getting her back.
I was in a long distance relationship. My ex gf broke up with me. I pretty much followed the program. We had a great talk where she clearly outlined her concerns and that if they could be addressed She could see herself ending up with me long-term.
She has booked a flight to come see me for the weekend. How do I make sure to not mess this up? Just be yourself, don't be too anxious about things and keep things casual. Treat the meeting as if it were your first date and you're meeting for the first time.
Hi, my girlfriend of a little over 2 years and I broke up very recently. I did the whole begging thing and letting her know I would change for 1 night, and just began NC a day ago.
Before I began NC I sent one last message apologizing for continuing to pressure her into getting back and I would begin to respect her request for time and space. I have set a NC period of 30 days. You could either do that or depending on how she responds to you, to continue talking to her casually after. My partner of the last year and a half broke up with me about two weeks ago. I did the whole begging, but for about a day before I just asked if they'd be my friend. They agreed, then changed their mind, and then later said they do want me around.
Right now, I have disappeared. Without a word to anyone but family, I'm taking a week vacation without Wi-Fi, or messaging them or any of our friends. They act apathetic, but will still reply to me, and has hugged me since then. Half of their family has messaged me, including their mother and grandmother. They're talking about feeling suicidal, dropping out of school, not wanting friends or to be around people. After this week, I do plan on messaging them the "Elephant" message, I plan on doing the NC for a week out of concern for them.
What's your advice here? They said they don't have feelings for me anymore, but now they seem to be in a downward spiral. I love and care about them very much. NC can have that effect on your ex.
Sometimes the lack of contact and sudden change in lifestyle routines would cause your ex to miss you very much. If you feel that the amount of time that has passed is enough since the breakup, and you have managed to pick yourself up since, you could go ahead and contact her.
Recently I broke up with my gf and I really want her back. If she is unsure but you want to be with her, then you can convince her that things will be different since both of you are aware of what needs to change to avoid a toxic relationship. Ultimately, it's also how you feel about it, if you want to walk away, then do not lead her on any further. So, my ex and I are kind of talking on and off. She broke up with me because she didn't think I loved her and she didn't think I was sexually attracted to her.
I was dealing with stress and had a porn addiction. She turned me on like crazy but I felt bad because it would take me forever to finish because I had usually taken care of myself before.
I have since fixed this addiction. We talk, but she is still having doubts about getting back together, she thinks things will just be the same. I keep showing support for her and try to show that I am more in tune with being there for her where I lacked before. Just having a tough time breaking through her wall. I don't know what else I can do. I guess just take my time building the trust?
Yeah you can't rush into it when you're trying to build trust and regain her confidence in you once more. Take it a step at a time and remember that the fact that she responds to you is already a good sign.
She says she still thinks about the mean things I said at the end of the relationship and that it made her numb. She wants to hangout in the new year so I take that as a small victory. Just need to keep things slow. I kinda jump ahead when I start to make progress. I will be away for most of January, so hopefully that will give her time to heal more.
There is possibly a new guy trying to get in the picture though so I'm worried that month away will give him time to swoop in while she's still mad at me. Hello, My situation is like i was in long distance relationship for almost 1 Nd half year and we never meet in real yet and we were planning too meet and in between she start falling for someone else and then she gave Me reason that her parents isn't agree and all this while leaving me and she dating someone now and its been almost 3 months from now and she is with him and i have done all possible ways to convince her and lost my self respect as i begged, i try to make her remember our sweet moments, but she gets angry on that and after that i ask forgiveness also and she said she forgiven but just ignoring me and im giving time also as its been month i didn't talk anything with her.
There will be my chance to get her back in my life as its been 3 months of my break up and her new relationship. You might want to consider moving on since you have never met her but she might have met him.
This makes things difficult for you as her connection with him might be stronger due to the physical memories they've shared. You can try talking to her once but if she doesn't respond positively, do yourself a favor and walk away. So I have completed 30 days of NC other than a couple little things here, she text me on thanksgiving and I didn't reply till the next day cuz it was her birthday so I killed two birds with one stone.
And then the only other contact was when she was coming over to pick up her dog from my house. But I made sure that I wasn't home and that someone else was there to give her the dog. So after the 30 days I sent her a good reminder text and she responded well.
A few days later we spoke a little about how our dogs are since I have one and she has one so now I'm just waiting a few more days to try and send another good reminder text or something along those lines. Is this a good idea? I know you're not suppose to let fear rule anything right now but I just fear that she is only replying because she said she wants to remain "friends.
But the fear that I will end up in the friend zone is what gets me. Any suggestions or more tips? If the relationship you shared with her was a meaningful one, it's unlikely that you'll be in the friendzone not for long at least. Even if she wants to remain just friends, it's something you should take as it's already better than her ignoring your messages and gives you more room to build up a stronger bond. Some people get the shortcut of their ex instantly wanting them back, while some others would have to go through a slightly longer route of nurturing the relationship up first as a friend before trying anything more.
It was a 6 year long relationship so it was definitely meaningful. But right now before the NC she was saying that she doesn't want to date anyone or anything because she just wants to find out more about herself apparently. But last night I sent her a good reminder text again and she replied with "I'll never forget that" so today I tried to keep the conversation going by saying "Happy Festivus" along with sending a picture of us from an event for that "holiday" a made up holiday from her favorite show Seinfeld.
And she never replied. So I'm gonna take a step back and see what happens, so hopefully her and I can hang out sometime in the near future so she can see the change in me. We are officially not together anymore, however we still live together because we have a kid and we own a home together, and she still relies on me in many ways.
We broke up because of something I did over jealousy and insecurities. I did the 30 days no contact rule even though we live together, and after 30 days I sent her a elephant in the room text with no response. So I continued no contact strategy for 2 weeks. During that period she tried to irritate me and get a reaction out of me by constantly complaining and doing little annoying things, but I continued to ignore her. She even got jealoused when I was hanging out with coworkers. When I saw her attitude changed for the better in the last few days, I sent her a good memory text asking her out for dinner to catch up.
She responded immediately saying yes and planned on catching up tomorrow. FYI when we were together she has never gone out to these parties. She made sure I noticed her new dress and heels and new outlook.
Ever since the break up she rarely went out and seemed depressed. I texted her back wishing her having fun at the party and asked her if she wants to reschedule with no response. Only saying it was a good stress reliever, should i continue no contact strategy or work on rebuilding connection over text?
You could try once more building a connection and if it doesn't work out, continue with NC again. Bear in mind that if you could make changes to your life go out with coworkers, etc , she may do the same as well. As to whether cancelling on you at the last minute was out of spite or that she really had no choice, is something only you would know for sure. It's been nearly a year since I broke up with my ex. This has been a great and more polished read, and I thank you for that.
This past year has been a roller coaster. I made plenty of mistakes, big and small but I would like to say that I've learned a lot and made changes to myself Considering the state I was in, it would have been best if I just quit right away.
I realize now that even though I tried to act normal and happy, I was miserable and pitiful and if anyone saw through me, it was definitely my ex. She knew I was still not over her. The thought of me is very unpleasant for her.
I worked on this EBP program earlier this year still haven't done all my worksheets haha , and I sent an incomplete Elephant text I realized that I only completed the first step of the Elephant text. I wrote a comment earlier this year too on the "texting" EBP page One of them used to text me no joke every half hour all day long. He sound like a guy who needs to read a guide on how to date outside of Sweden: I would get offended ahhah. Thanks a million, very fun to read! Now I know to be on the constant lookout for eye-contact if I ever get to a Swedish club I was intrigued by the sound of the non-date fika.
What a versatile and interesting concept! Really good post, Antonia! This is so very interesting! I want to hear your story with Hannes. I think dating is really fun! We met in Korea, so I had no one to help me with these Scandinavian ways, and he thought I was very pushy indeed.
And I thought he was cheap because he never paid the check. Although, I do think think that people should try to adjust to the culture they are in a little more in this case I mean the Danish guy. How did this whole thing end? A guy who makes an obvious attempt to hook up with a girl will seldom succeed, no matter how hot or otherwise attractive he is.
The same goes for girls, for that matter. In fact, most Swedish girls will refuse to let the guy pay for her coffee even if he insists on paying for both of them, and many will even get offended. There are big differences in how dating works in different places. Many of my readers have had problems with getting into the dating scene in Sweden, which is why I wrote this post. Hi Antonia,I am a Indian guy living in India.
I seems from your article that Swedish people are highly independent and individualistic which I believe other nations should learn from you guys.
If the girl has any interest in the guy she would pay for her half. I for one prefer dutch dates. I am sick of this responsibility of a provider. I think Indian girls over here should learn a few lessons from their Swedish counterparts. Everyone has got the right to exist for their own sake. Please do not pay attention to what other readers are saying. Thank you so much for your input!
Very interesting reading your opinion on this subject. I tend to agree with you, however, we have to remember that it takes a lot of time for this kind of things to change, generations even. From my personal experience I must confess here that there was a time when I used to hold the same mindset which is held by most of the responders who have commented against your article. I was years old back then. S in my mind,I blame myself for not using my mind before planting the B.
S in my mind. Let me explain here, you see, storing an idea or a data in mind without making an effort to understand the concept or context of the data or idea is always dangerous. In a similar way having a desire without making an effort to understand the concept or context of the desire which is created in your mind would earn you a one way ticket to mental asylum nuthouse!!!
You would find many examples in your day to life of people who exhibit such form of method of cognition. If you ask a person who wishes to be a rich person three questions viz. You would notice the similar answers,vibes,implications. You would always be able to equate these three basic questions which explain reality with the three vibes. You must notice here that all these three vibes are actually three different magnitude of the same attribute i.
And they practice these three attributes consciously or unconsciously to make unreasonable demands specially demand of self sacrifice from people around them without leaving them with any choice or reward or admiration or respect. They want to live of those people who exist by their own productive efforts. And this behavior is not gender specific,both men and women do it equally. In fact its a very good gesture which shows that you love and value the person.
But such gestures should be shown only when the other person makes an effort to become valuable for you,by earning your love,respect and admiration. That is why people really make a mess of their own love life and sexual life and hurt innocent disarmed people around them. I hope my input over here would help you defend your article and the moral implications behind the words you have written from potential NAIVE attackers. I consider it avoiding responsibility and taking advantage of women.
My Swedish man pays for everything, carries my bags, and opens doors. Well that just shows how much of a sexist bitch you are. Grow the fuck up. That is not sexism. That is just a way in which every guy can express his feelings. All those gestures make the relationship sweet and romantic for a girl.
It is about the emotions a girl feels and making her feel special but not just the following one. You Swedish act very much like narrow-minded people. That is classic sexism. Yes to me that is very incorrect. As a matter of fact I as a swedish girl am dating an american guy. If he ever would offer to pay or do everything for me, I would be very offended as to in Sweden it insinuates he thinks less of me.
In the end both genders are equal n therefore does equal parts, if a girl demanded the guy to pay for her she would be seen as stuck up and spoiled. I met a swedish guy at club not in Sweden. We dance and we spend the night together. I had a weird time adapting to dating in the U.
Here people turn anything into a date! Would love to hear more about the differences between Puerto Rico and the U. Funny enough my Dutch boyfriend never lets me pay. Thank you for your comment, Layla! Rather, I was trying to explain how dating works as a whole in Sweden. I know people from Finland, Germany and Canada that have had trouble getting into the dating scene, even though they, as you point out, are used to splitting the bill.
Maybe because later on in dating people tend to split the bills. Because the Dutch are known to be cheap. More on dating in Sweden Swedish love affair. As a Swedish guy myself, the article is very true and that is a common way to go about it. However, most Swedish girls would really appreciate being asked out or complimented in any given situation, especially by a foreigner.
Now, naturally one would have to be a bit cautious about just how straight forward to be, some initial chitchat would likely be a good idea. I have not been in the dating game for a long time.
But it is very interesting to read about. I read that most Swedes take it slow but after our fika, he kept messaging me and is quite vocal about liking me. He just seem to be coming too strong. We will be going on our 3rd date and he is already joking about marriage and all.
Two explanations seem possible to me. Do you think any of this seems likely? However, something tells me this is not the case. His promises is just a bit unusual for my culture… He promised to make me a cake for my next birthday next year …. Keep you posted thanks again and have a great day. Will you be my sambo? Daten In het land van Pippi…. I was recently in Stockholm. One day in the morning a very cute guy caught my eye in the train station. But I was too busy talking with a friend we were lost, oops and this guy appeared again from nowhere by our side, he looked at me and got out of the station.
Anyway, I still remember his face and I just find it so sweet and funny. Sex sells or nude celebrities Swedish love affair. My experience in Sweden is that these people are very uptight, much different than Danish. I lived in Denmark for 2 years and all I had to do was say hello, and ask for directions, and the next thing I would know they would be asking all kinds of questions like what are you doing in Denmark, but they are genuinely interested in hearing what you have to say, and then they want to teach you Danish, because if they like you, they want you to stay in Denmark.
Unlike some of the immigrants that dont want to integrate into Danish society, but still take full advantage of all of the services available. I dont get these Swedish girls at all, but now that you have given me a little information, I will see if I can put it to use. Strangely enough I found that when I was in Sweden people would be asking me all sorts once I started a conversation. Well,Russian girls first ask you to take them on a dinner or to by a drink no matter on her social status.
They are always nervous for two years now i stll dont know why,i just cant adjust to Russian girls,i am to slavic but totaly different world for me. So, then we met on cam and i dont feel any changes since we already seen each other cam. But the thing that really bothers me is: Is it just he is flirting with me? Simply because they are very intelligent, beautiful and honest. Totally agree with your comment mate,I live in England and an opportunity I met a girl from Sweden, and it really was beautiful in personality and physicallyi..
I look forward to visit Sweden. Thank you so much for this input! I had to figure out some of these things the hard way with danish guy, but i think they apply there too. Because I know how the things goes usually there and that confuses me Could you help me with opinion? They were watching him like they would ….. Great place to talk about the art of dating in Sweden! We use to write to each other by e-mail once or twice a week. Hi Max, thanks for your comment!
Anyway, I think you should be brave and tell her how you feel. It might turn out that she feels the same way about you, but maybe not. Wow, This is not good news! What if I asked the girl if we could skip the dance, and just talk? What if you happen to be a year olde widower of some nine years now? No kids, financially secure, but two cats lol. Great article and nice replies!! All the best from Chicago, IL. Dave, I came around this page, maybe to late for you.. However, in your case you may face difficulties to find someone even to talk to in Sweden.
Swedes are not that openminded they say they are. Good luck with your cats! So this in my opinion is not a good sign. On a more serious note, i want to say that individuality does matter. There will be cultural differences and i believe, India is one mixed up place where every kms is like a new country. My online friendship with two swedish men a coincidence lol was quite an eye-opener. That will never make up for going there for real but who knows? Someday i might and i would love to!
The thing is, i am very close to one of them and we have been communicating for many months. He is quite shy but these days, i think indiska is rubbing off on him! A few days back, he finally told me that he may have a bit of a crush on me but he isnt sure because he has never met me. Same goes for me.
I really adore him but its reality. The little changes i have noticed in him ever since we reconciled after a fight is that he blatantly tells me that he wants to talk to me instead of chatting. Earlier it was me who kept bringing up talking on skype.
He now tells me to fix the day and time when i will skype with him. He is such a sweetheart and is so considerate of my time and feelings. I know its a long message but i have to say this:. Both of us are unique and should just know the person without this generalized mindset of someone being boring or cheap because of their nationality!
I do hope i meet this sweet svenska friend someday and can say his name the swedish without turning scarlet! I wrote below an answer to you, but I didnt posted it on the right place. I just want to say something in order to help eventually.
When I was meeting him for 3 years, before we decided to live together, he was really the prince on white horse for me, so adorable so adorable ….. Great article — learnt a lot from it! One thing though, how does a non-Swedish girl like me start talking to a Swedish guy? They seem really shy and are a bit funny about talking to strangers from what I have heard so how do I do it? Is it best to speak for the first time in person, online or what?
I am black and have lived my whole life in Scotland. For months I texted her and spoke with her and met up frequently. Please keep the mindset that cultural differences and misunderstandings are just more opportunities for laughters and fun memories.
For those of you still puzzled of Swedes, please keep in mind that Swedes are a traveling people, why a lot of people pick up habits and customs from other regions, sometimes correctly understood, sometimes not this is the category what makes the most fun to read, please share your stories!!
Make sure you know your teas.. Could kind of be good to know just as for a Swedish girl that moved to Italy and discovered the hard way what it meant to go out three times with an Italian guy, trying to kick the guy out of the doorway that was trying to understand what he done wrong.. Swedish girls are totally racist , only percent are open minded. Your color of skin is a big factor in Sweden. Swedish girls hates Asian guys. They like to date with white guys wherever they are form.
I have been in Sweden fur 5 years , I never met any one if them, rather I dated with Russian, Japanese and Chinese girls. On the other hand German guy had his face and wrote the same words, he got reply from 9 girls out if Me zero out of So, they are simply damn racist. I really wanted to have a Swedish girl asy lover, but failed completely and bus gave up completely.
Sorry for bad words and and offensive behavior. Well after living in the usa for a long time I came back to europe and decided to spend the first 18 months in sweden before moving on.
I had heard from an older guy that he lived here in the 90s and had a great experience. I have to saw it is one of the most awful social experiences of my life.
My Icelandic friend really was not joking when he said the Swedes are boring. Before I came here I really thought he was just biased. I am not saying I am some kind of Don Juan or expect women and men to just be on the look out for sex but it is like the average women in Sweden just do not even have a sexual libido or lack the ability to flirt.
Then you have some that are always hunting for a foreign boyfriend but no one is actually interested in them because they have some really bizarre interpretation of reality. I also find them boring and up thigh. Also never letting us be men because we always have to be equal the feminist way.
We been married for 5 years now and we never had a bad day together. Hey , gr8 post … I am planning to do my masters in Stockholm at SSE, could u explain me my chances of dating a Swedish? I am an Indian and is it true dat Indians r looked down upon and r ignored by Swedish girls? Swedish are jealous about good foreign people and they are extreme discriminators.
They are under skin racist. Okay so I have to assume for obvious reasons that this applies to meeting someone in Sweden. Does this bode well for me? I find that I have a hard time reading Swedish men in general. And what kind of things should I look for culturally when we finally meet? Thanks for sharing Antonia! The swedish way of life is really unique if compared to other countries where society tend to be more conservative.
When it comes to dating we may find huge differences on how women and men interact with each other. The swedish society are based on equal rights but in some cases the laws benefit women in many aspects in detriment of the men what i consider it estremely bad if you take in account that the laws must be equal to everybody. It all happens because men are afraid to take the first step into relationship and instead of being the leader of the relation.
The most ardent feminist desire to be dominated to a real man but if you say it to her she will rationaly deny it because all the process occur unconsciously, and rationaly she will never assume it , any way, Feminism will continue preaching its teachings in sweden and the whole world but i ask you. Are Women more happy than before? They achieved money,power, status, but ….
I found the women to be extremely forward and very direct in what they wanted. I found some of them to be almost predatory in their approach to me. Complete contrast to the UK where I as the man would make the first move. I also found the men to be chatty and friendly in social situations. Generally a very good social experience and I have recommended Sweden to many friends.
I think dating in Sweden is more of a problem for foreign women because they are not used to paying or making the first move. If you are a foreign man then dating in Sweden is easy because the women take so much initiative. Having read this post and all the comments I feel like I got off the plane in a different country! This also applies to love relationships even more. I am an attractive, well educated, intelligent, passionate, sweet young woman with a good, true heart in search of love and marriage!
I like being with people and have fun.
Imsges: i am dating a guy who isnt over his ex
I already know that this is going to take a long time, and I'm willing to take the time because she is worth it, but she seems to have moved on in less than a month and she doesn't seem to care about me anymore, and I'm a bit discouraged by that. However I became insecure after she cheated and became verbally aggressive and controlling and eventually she broke up with me because I caught her talking to another guy. You should prove to her that you're supportive of her choice in wanting to be there for her daughter since her daughter would always come first.
So, think of a joke that you think she will find funny and send it to her. We are able to spend a lot of time together.
You should strive to build a stronger foundation and a better dating in singapore forum with her. October adting, at 8: I do really like him so what I did was texted him. The truth is, everyone can and should strive to improve themselves and become a better version of yourself. And she says we can still communicate cos she still loves me but we can't be to together anymo and that she has developed the luv for other guy
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