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Stage 1: The Valley of Grief aka Don’t Push Her Away

Kendra July 31, , 7: If you ladies have rush to try things — go ahead and call him, see what happens. The guy who Im attracted to well , he has shown some signals that he is too but since my last text in reply to his I havent heard from him. That reason might be you are out of his league for financial reasons or because you are really hot, etc…. After awhile I was going to Christmas and Thanksgiving plus other family events being introduced as his girlfriend everywhere. But I knew there was connection and interest.

We are both in High School. We were snapchatting one night and he got drunk and sent me a picture of his dick. He has a girlfriend but I am single and he said it was an accident and I told him that it didnt change our friendship and the next day we acted like nothing happened.

But the next day he didnt open or answer my snap and he hasnt for a few days… Is he mad about what happened? If this description fits his behavior, you should break up with him. So a guy i like said he likes me. A lot of help!!! Walk to class together or sit next to each other if you have classes together.

If you have recess or study hall, hang out then. Meet outside your school after the bell and chat. I am going through same.. He did cut my calls also and asked me not to call. I have become needy. Okay, just not answering is one thing. But literally telling you not to call is another. He might not even like you! My boyfriend and I were together for 3. One day he jad enough packed his bags and left. It was emotional at first.

We fought, I cried alot and begged for him back. Its been a month now and we text almoat daily, talk on the phone maybe once a week.

He says he loves me but cannot be with me and obviously it kills me. Im getting better and ignoring his texts and spending more time to text back. Partially because im busy with other things and also because I know im needy and pushing him away. In what ways besides stated do you think I could change my own life so im not pretending and actually being happy? In reality im miserable without him but im getting better at loving myself and refraining from needing him.

But it doesnt change how I feel. I feel like he is stringing me along, making me an option instead of a priority. I want him to know im not okay with it without being emotional or angry to him about it. Also in a way that makes me more desirable to him. Can someone please give us some good advice? Dear Tia and Haley: It makes you think you can get them back. Breakups should be clean breaks. Block their numbers, unfollow them on social media. Find a hobby that you enjoy.

Eat your favorite foods and watch Netflix. Focus on your schoolwork or job. Make plans with friends. When you feel like crying because of how much you miss him, write down your thoughts in a journal or talk to a friend or family member. And for the sake of your happiness, let go of the thought that you might get back together. Give yourself time to get over him. Then go back to the real world. The he asked me to come visit him while he goes to the states to visit his family, I was surprised because Ive always wanted him to ask me to come with him.

He is going there for a few months so he asked me to take some time and go visit him there. I was the happiest because for the past month he has been showing significant leaps in his behavior with me, I feel he cares about me and really likes me, ive always felt he loved me but hearing it solidified it for me. Then his best friend passed away 2 days after he told me how he feels for me, he was texting me the night his friend passed away, but once he heard the news he has been hurt.

I am truly not trying to be selfish at all, but what should I do? Just let him grieve for his friend. Be there for him if he needs you. When he gets over his grief, you can move forward. Met this guy a year ago. We hit it off very well. At the beginning our communication was strong and intense. We became more distance towards each other. Sense then we have had a more on and off interaction. At the moment we are on. That makes me very happy but not satisfied because I know Our communicating will stop at one point.

All this makes me wonder if it is worth continuing? What am I gaining from this? Long distance is usually only a temporary thing. Internet relationships are no substitute for being together in real life. If you decide to visit each other or one of you moves near the other, great. He has no right to abuse you.

Anyway, about the guy you like. I would say talk to him in person about it, not by text. Just simply ask him how he feels. I have been seeing this guy every week for about 3 months. We met up last weekend and had a good time, or at least I did and he seemed to as well. Then I txt him mid week to ask if he wanted to go out this weekend but no response 3 days and it is now the day I suggested.

Before our last date he went away for two weeks and he txt me saying he missed me and was looking forward to getting back and seeing me. Should I cut him off? If so, how do I do it? I would prefer to say something rather than just waiting to see if he txts, for my own closure. Any advice is much appreciated! How hard that even may be, do it for yourself. If he does not have the respect to send you an answer to a very natural and normal question than he is not worth your time and respect.

You can only win him by doing so. Make him work for it too. It is not a one way street. If he really likes you, he will reply more. So i have been dating this boy for 8months on the 15th. Two months ago he started getting more distant with me. He barley texted me and barley called. And when i told him when i was sad he assumed i was pouting or in a pissy mood. He used to b there for me no matter what.

I asked if he loved me still and cared about me still. But when he replied he said he did. I had his fb password and he didnt know. And he was texting my friend saying he didnt love me anymore. And i see that hes not texting other girls so i dont think he likes someone else. Its just feels hes dont want me anymore. Or like me anymore. He dont call me just to have sex… I dont think. But hes been being distant forever now and i just stoped texting him all together.

To wait for him to text me. What do i do? I think you did the right thing by not texting him anymore. However, I think you should just end the relationship altogether.

There is too much drama in your relationship for it to be healthy. Just end it before it gets worse. So, i met this guy through the site omegle. You can say that his this rare of a kind guy. But he told me that his not ready yet to enter in a relationship, its no big deal to me cause I know the reason why. Weve been texting each other for sometime. The way he text me is sweet and all. He said his kinda flattered cause i like him, then after exchanging a few texts he told me that he is going to sleep cause he have a headache.

So i told him good night. Then the next day he didnt text or call. So, what should I do?? And the fact that he stopped texting you shows he probably got scared off. I met this amazing guy and we hit it off right away. He started making plans about our future right on the first date.

Talking about going to museums and San Fransisco and how he thought I must have been made for him He was really intent on me We hung out all week and he responded to my texts and calls regularly. He will send me the occasional 4 word test and then nothing. I have been sending him about 1 text per day.

He finally responded and said we should make plans, but when I told him when I was available I got nothing. They recomended I give him a call to see if he was having similar symptoms and I got no reply. I told him I was a little mad that I could not reach him when I actually needed info. Should I just give up? Just do other things and make other plans. If he texts back, great. Sometime ago I met a man and we went on a date which ended up being very good. But recently we started texting and calling again.

A few days ago I decided to take the lead and ask him out. When he did respond, he asked for more details and then he said he was getting ready to head to a farewell party. I texted the details and told him to let me know. After his party he contacted me and we chatted for a while. That was last night and my invite was for today. He said he was tired and going to head to bed and I responded by asking if you could let me know about the invitation before he signed off.

So I told him to sleep well and let me know in the morning. The plans I made the plans I was going to do by myself I thought I would invite him along. I am going to keep my plans. I am not angry or pissed off. I am always disappointed when people act rude or disrespectfully. Although there is a temptation to contact him and let him know how disappointed I am, I am not going to do that.

If he contacts me I will respond and let him know that I am not interested in a relationship I am not delusional and thinking that he wants a relationship — he told me last night that he wanted us to see if there was the potential for more than friendship. But when I tell him this I can almost guarantee what his response is going to be. There is no winning. If you give somebody another chance then you are being a doormat and needy. If you set your boundaries and keep them then you are a rigid bitch.

All I can hope for is that I will meet someone who is respectful and thoughtful and is looking for someone just like him. Just let him come up by himself with an excuse. Do not hand out an easy way in for him to make excuses. It will boil up making your day worse and worse. Go out and get a lot of attention just attention from other guys to boost your ego. You need it to cope with this lousy one. In the beginning of this explanation, you sounded pretty happy with the guy and the date and where it was going.

But in the end you sounded very bitter about his behavior. I think you were right to stop talking to him. He may have said he wanted a relationship, but the timing of his not replying like right when you tried to tell him something important , combined with the flaking on your plans and the seemingly negative way he treats you…I think it was best to nip this in the bud.

Because it is my happy self that attracted them to begin with? Example I had sex with this guy on sunday.. Monday I text we had fun. Yet he is on fb posting. I did not say a word. I just removed him from my page. And removing him is a sign of neediness? Mind you I like the guy but what he did is rude, mean, unkind and disrespectful.

And I wished 3 years to have sex but picked this bastard who made me feel so low and so stupid. LOL I agree with you although I am not as angry as you are. As I have posted, there seems to be no winning. If you give a guy a second chance or text him before he text you or call him before he calls you or however it is that you were communicating, then you are needy and a doormat.

But if you set reasonable boundaries such as someone cannot treat you disrespectfully or with rudeness, then you are a bitch. Oh, you poor darling! I think you should take a break from dating and focus on you for a while. Let go of your bitterness and work on being the best version of you that you can be. Then get back into it. Take it slow with guys. I am currently seeing a guy for nearly four months and we go out from time to time.

But when I text him just to say good morning he does not reply. He will ignore my message for two weeks and he never calls me. I always have to call him. I think its really unfair and I really want to know why he does it.

The honest answer is that it could be one thing or the other: In any case, he is treating you as an option. My boyfriend and I have reconnected after 26 years apart. We live in different states. Over 4 months he promised me the world, professed his love for me. He announced he cannot wait to marry me. He was planning on moving to me and my children in the Midwest. Everything was fantastic until the holidays. New Years Eve we were to be together but was not.

He texted after midnight saying Happy New Year! Moments later he said his holidays were horrible and he needed some time to think. He said it has nothing to do with us, only about something happening there and for me to please understand. It has been a week and nothing is different. He hasnt called in a week but still texts he loves me at bedtime 5 of 7 nights.

When he texts he still calls me babe. I have NO idea what is happening as he will nit sgare, only keeps saying he needs time to sort things out or time to work on things there. It is hurting me deeply!!! And comfort me, reassure me regardless of the silence. What do I say? How can I fix this? Is there anything I can do?

I want our lives back to normal and together. I drempt of it last night and awoke myself from crying at am. What else do you have going on in your life besides him? I hope there is a lot.

I hope you have some goals and dreams that you want to fulfill that do not include him. Get some that do not include him and go after them. Quit worrying about him. That is not love. But I have to tell you straight out: I think the best thing for you to do is ask him what is going on, and if you can help. Or, if the behavior continues, he might not even be ready for a relationship right now.

He also should deal with the issue first. You deserve someone who is well enough to be totally into you, and hopefully he will be. He works out of state so we only get to see eachother on the weekends. He refused to apologize, instead i got: We hungout that night. He never said sorry and actually meant it! Our problem was regarding sex. Please respond back because this is driving me nuts.

When you were together, what do you do? Is most of your time spent in the bedroom? Are you planning any kind of long vacation together? If all you do when you get together on the weekends is have sex and maybe grab a bite to eat, then you have what I would call a standing booty weekend relationship.

The friend will do things with you. His needs are getting met. Is that what you want? I assume you want a complete relationship. You want him to spend time with you outside the bedroom. It just means you want different things. So you accept it and… As I love to say… move on. Yes, I agree with Lori here.

Combine that with the fact that he might just see you as a booty call. But some guys are like that. He was just about to start college after being homed schooled, while I was going back to high school in the fall. During the conference we just met and never really talked, however we started talking over facebook during the summer and it has continued for 7 months even though we are miles apart.

At first we would talk all day, every day and we would respond within minutes of each other. Over the months the responses have gotten longer like several paragraphs longer but it takes him at least a week to respond. However our conversations are very rich and deep, but I have never told him how much the wait bothers me.

Does this mean he lost interest in the conversation and he is just trying to be nice by carrying it on? Or is it just because it takes awhile to type the length of response? You have to know something first about him and I. I am extremely mature for my age and I even look older than I actually am. He is also mature, but my maturity makes up for my age, so we balance out.

Is it because I am in High School, that he is so late to respond? He has told me that we will see each other at the conference again this summer.

He said even though it is for youth, he will go as a chaperone. This makes me feel like he is excited to see me and that he is interested and this will be the first time we will see each other in a year by that time. I am just scared that our conversation will die out by then. It feels like I am holding on by a thread. Please answers these questions honestly. I am really over feeling lethargic about the whole situation.

The data is ever changing, however each time I check, his ID has shown up more than two times, so I know he has kept tabs on me. Each time I check, I see that the range of the times he has viewed my profile is from 2 to 4 times.

Just a another important piece of information. How old is he? Oh and please tell me how you can see how many times someone views your profile! Anyway, I think you should just ask him about his texting habits when you see him in person. He could have just been busy. It may not be true! What do you want? You said you are FWB. Is that what you want or do you want something more? Namely, how often do I get together with my female friends? They are probably busy with their lives just as I am busy with mine.

In my opinion, a FWB should be viewed exactly the same way. You get together when you can. Sometimes you might have dinner together or go to a movie or do something else the both of you have an interest in. But the focus is on the sex.

Is that OK with you? Im 41married with kids and had a one night stand with a 30 year old single guy. He lives in another state and have been sexting and video calling for the past month.

We exchange photos and messsges almost daily during the week but weekends he tends to go off the grid. This past thursday we had a video session and on friday I sent him a nude pic. He has not responded. So I sent him a message today saying he was a shit head for no responding and he laughed and said calm down its ok. I dont want to respond but would like an explanation. I am due to visit him in a week. Could of cut you of because your not Classy… he found out your married and got turned off my it.

And wants a women not a cheating hoe. Hi I have a problem that maybe you can help me with. I need some really good advise from you I need your help!!!! You are not a couple and you will never be a couple. This is what he is chosen to do he has chosen to be around this woman and his child. I suggest you move on with your life. First order of business would be to take a class in composition so you can learn how to spell, punctuate and formulate coherent sentences.

What I got from that was a friend introduced you to a guy, but you had a boyfriend. He got tired of your mixed signals so he gave up, but then you hooked up at a party. But you should worry about how to compose a sentence before you worry about this guy. Well, its not really a problem, more of a worry really.

We hit it off well, he was the one who came out and declared his feelings for me. We hung out and talked for the most part. He has two jobs and he went to school, i really admire that in him. His drive and his dedication. But anyway, about a week after we striked the play he has been really involved with work and he has actually missed a couple of classes.

I worry about him that he works to much and he is not really focused on himself. Also this is what worries me we have not hung out or talked for….. He does not reply to my text, every time I AM with him I ask if he wants to meet up and he always says he has work.

I know and understand that he is busy and I accept that. I keep the txting to a minimum because I know that he is busy. I also do not want to seem needy, because im not. I usually just txt when I think he is free and still, he does not reply.

But the thing is, I dont keep on txting him, I dont txt him long why-are-you-not-txting-me-back messages. I just wish he actually made an effort to at least txt me back once n a while, or made an effort to see me. I just need advice on what I should do about this. Do I confront him about it? Should I tell him how I feel? I really want to work things out with him, I really do not want to loose him.

Any advice, I would be grateful for!! I understand your worries. From the way you phrased this, you could be in college or have recently graduated. And what you should do kind of depends on where he is as well. You need quality time together. However, if these jobs are to put himself through school, it is likely a temporary thing. I say if possible, try to meet with him in person and discuss your concerns.

If he ridicules or gets angry with you for being upset and missing him, or acts as if his work is significantly more important than you or your needs, I say just let him go. Disable text messaging on your phone. This forces them to communicate on your terms. My terms are, a brief phone call once or twice a week, for the sole purpose of arranging to meet. As an INTJ female, I have met with a lot of needy men who either text too much, and a lot of passive-aggressive men who punish by not texting back in a timely manner.

Disabling text, cuts this behavior off at the knees. Sophie, quality men DO still call these days. Notice I said quality. And in the pre-relationship stage, they do not even want or expect women to initiate contact, at all. If a man only texts you, he is not into you. Ok so I have been sleeping with this guy I really like for about 2 and half months. This entire time we text almost everyday and we both start the conversations first.

Ugh what should I do please help! So I broke down yesterday and texted him hey he responded with hey!! I really like him and thought he really liked me. People make time for what matters to them. Even if they are busy with work. How long does a text take? You can do it during a bathroom break.

I think you should just let this guy go. Even if you guys were just sleeping together, not dating, he was seeing someone else while that was happening and did not inform you. That means he was cheating on his girlfriend, and disrespecting you. You have a right to more than just a FWB situation. But this is probably not the guy to do it with.

He called me about 30 minutes after, while he was on the road to the airport with the rental car. Called me again as he always does when he arrived at the airport, and then, again when he got home. However, he could tell on my voice my concern for what had happened that weekend.

I was so utterly disappointed and sucked dry of emotional energy. I felt totally abused and mistreated. We ended the relationship right there on the phone conversation. I let it ride for four days—no contact. Called him back after the four days and calmly asked how he was, and what was the relationship feeling like for him now.

He said to me that it was over, that he no longer felt like we were a romantic couple but just really, really good friends. Of course, he never shared any of this therapy visit with me, nor his doubts or anxiety with me, his so-called life partner and GF!: I slept with the guy about three times that weekend!

Our sex was highly controlled, clinical, and mostly one-sided his side , with only his desires in place, but not mine. Lost my mom to a vicious cancer just seven months ago, and I feel empty emotionally.

My ex bf was not really in tune with how I must possibly feel, especially since she and he had the same birth date! As much as it hurts this just happened last weekend! Love is not this. Love is not exit, cancel or bail. Love is there, whenever, however and unconditional. Men like this have not received this love as children.

What type of mom says that to her one and only child??? Still I hold HIM accountable for his actions in any case. I say, seek help if you have had these type of problems in your childhood. I live in a foreign country alone, with my children and cope with my ex-husband, their father. I know that I do not want to live alone, that I want to experience the love that I once had in my marriage again. My kids are teenagers practically and I think of the day when they are gone from my home.

This is not a person who can love. If I suddenly got sick myself in cancer or any other disease, could I count on him, would he be there? If one of my kids got sick or died, would he be there? Looking forward to it…looking forward to starting anew.

As so many of these sites and blogs suggest, I want to break free and get better. I deserve better and so do my children. Good luck on your journey! I have been grieving a failing relationship with an EU guy i dated for over a year. I can see my relationship in all of your stories. I literally thought I was losing my mind and headed towards a nervous breakdown. I finally went to therapy and did a lot of research- including finding this blog- and have realized that nothing good will come from this relationship.

As hard as it is to walk away from someone you love, and says loves you, I have to put myself first. That is a trait I rarely do, and most of us that get in these types of relationships probably dont do. And obviously exactly the type of person an EU man can take advantage. Hope you all find love and happiness.

This blog is so comforting to those of us who have struggled with an EUM. I was in a relationship for a bit over two years. I failed to notice any of the red flags thrown my way, largely because I never experienced a dating relationship like that before.

I was widowed after 30 years of marriage and had a good relationship with my late spouse. My EUM was charming, attentive, engaging, physically available…at first.

He even got involved in a major remodel of my home, that I envisioned he could share with me some day. In any event, I ultimately concluded that I needed more certainty, and started to withdraw some in terms of time. When I ultimately told him I needed a commitment not marriage or living together, but just the certainty of seeing each other regularly and moving the relationship forward , with the caveat that if that is not what he wanted, I fully understood as he was newly divorced when I first met him.

Shortly afterwards however, and just after my only sibling died, he said he wanted to take a break. I told him that to me that meant a break-up and that we should not have any more contact. I needed to focus on my family and grieving my late brother and did not have any more energy to deal with a man who so lacked empathy as to talk of a break at such a sad time for me.

He really abandoned me and my family as he had spent all the major holidays with us, rather than his own family from whom he was largely estranged. So strange, but I guess not. Do these guys have the EUM playbook or go to EUM school, as they all seem to have some variation of the same behavior. It has been 8 months without verbal contact, with only a few emails or texts in between.

I am doing better…appreciating more and more that there was nothing I could do to change the dynamic of the relationship, other than continue to feel empty, lonely and unwanted.

Was it us or will they be the same with the next person? He was with her for over 9 years, could only stomach me for a few months. What was so wrong with me? It is this almost a year later I cannot, cannot get over. In short I will just sabotage any chance of a future relationship to the point this year I decided to not bother having one ever AGAIN. At least then I will keep myself safe from running the risk of meeting these types of men ever again.

What is so wrong with me???? Your mistake was, you got too attached too fast. Learn from it and know that not all men are like him. I worked with this person for a year. In that time I was not interested. I got on with him as a friend and that was all. So when we got together we had a history, and he had made it clear that he fancied me, so much so, colleagues always mentioned it. I did not attach too fast, I was guarded.

I told him because I had been hurt before that I did not want to go in too deep. AS far as I am concerned, all men are like him. Hi I need help. We spend time together by going out for meals, pub meeting friends, chilling, usual couple things. He has twin girls of 3 years old and has been split up from a arwful marriage for 2 years. He very passionate about his daughter and I completely get that. At the beginning he said to me that it would be at least 6 months before I met his girls.

I have always given him space and he always comes back to me, so not been clingy. What do you suggest? Should I stay in this? Because of his arwful marriage. I feeling like I want to run x. I have an EU guy. I love him to bits. Instead, I live in a world of black and white with him. No Christmas, No Valentines, no Easter and nothing commercialised.

He believes in nothing like that. No cuddles in bed…it keeps him awake. I love cuddles more than anything. To feel the skin to skin contact is amazing. He has said he has always been this way. I was in a long distance relationship with a great guy for 6 years. I moved to his state 4 years into it because I wanted to move back to ny. I had to ask him if we were exclusive. I had some issues w my roommate and thought i should move back home when he told me he didnt want me to leave n to come n live w him.

As soon as I moved in he was looking for a place for me to live. I told him I think its best if I move back so he told me take my time. Later in the year my beloved cat had cancer and I lost my job. Mike was upset when I said I had to go back for a short time but didnt stop me. We continued our relationship and I told him I would come back but only if we could live together bc I knew there was no sense in living seperately again.

I gave it another year, in he took me on a romantic trip. In april I went to visit. I asked what we were doing, I said I know I want to be with you, we dont have to get marriedas long as we are together. He gave me the excuse that he couldnt see himself w one woman bla bla.

I shut down we slept seperately our last night. On the way home he picked up on it, I told him everything was fine. At the airport I cried and said this might be thr last time I see you, I knew. He said he would try to visit. I said I love you a million times and left. On the plane I knewhe would never budge. In june he broke up w me telling me he didnt know what he wanted and that he loves me more than he ever loved any girl and he did not want the breakup to be permanent and if we can keep in touch.

I said ok… he stopped calling but would text me to see how I was… we spoke a few days ago and I said listen I know you said you couldnt imagine your life without me n didnt want things to be permant, its almost been a year where are we…. I asked if we are done for good forever and hr said again well who knows but my intentions are to be friends. I gave this man 6 wonderful years. His family loved me I was the only long term gf hed had, his friends loved me… does this man expect to kerp me around till hes ready should I keep in touch with someone who shut down I dont kniw which excuse he gave me is true, I dont know if I was ever his gf sometimes I told him he was always emotionally unavailable and usd school and work as a way out he left me when things became inconvenient for him and now im upset because I know he is a great person and could be a good friend but at what cost to me?

I also dated an EU guy for 3 months. In the beginning it was great. He showed a lot of interest in me, complimented me, wanted to hang out often, planned interesting things to do together, said that he was very attracted to me, etc. Then near the one month mark these actions stopped.

At first I thought he simply lost interest in me or maybe there was someone else. After dating someone for a period of time I just lose the ability to show much emotion. I had known previously that his ex girlfriend of 3 years had cheated on him. He forgave her, they got back together and then she left him for someone else. His parents were also divorced when he was at a young age and from what I understand it was a rocky situation.

I believe this is what his issue may have stemmed from. However, I remembered how great our relationship was in the beginning and despite this serious red flag, I stuck with him for the next two months and tried to make things better. I tried to be the best girlfriend possible. He became even more distant as the months went on and and with the exception of small moments often appeared miserable when we were together.

Thank you for your post!! I have been in a relationship with an EU for just over four years now. Years of trying to connect and getting no where, along with the poorest sex life I have ever had, leaves me questioning myself as a person. To crave connection with a person on a constant basis only to find yourself wanting is a horrible feeling.

I think what has kept me here so long, is the fact that an EU man, is not a bad man, and has many great attributes. For me personally I can no longer live this way. I can also accept that you are not the one for me. EU men very much enjoy the chasing game…there is definitely a pattern! Much like yourself, I invested years of my life into an unhealthy, highly damaging relationship with a man who is a divorced husband and completely, obsessively in love with his year old daughter.

I also accepted the fact that I fruitlessly spent some precious years of my life feeding into his mental issues, neglecting the person which matter the most — ME! I have been with this guy since I was 12 years old. I am 52 and We have four adult children. I,m recovering from colon cancer.

The chemo made gain a lot of weight. And now he starting to tell me stuff like a can,t have sex with cause you to big. No one really to talk to. The day I was diagnose I had one foot in the grave and another on banana peel. And never came to the hospital. And we lived together. I,m recovering but it,s slow. I don,t know if I,m going to be able to go to work so I,m like co dependent right now and he let,s me know all the time. My niece recently moved to Texas and wants me to come down and see if I like it, she not reliable.

I,m so depressed, only person I,m talking right now is his sister and of course she,s taking his side! I have know one else to talk to. I really love him when I tell him he just says hmmm. His problem is that he can,t read or spell, so I am and has been the secretary all our lives. I feel as Though I have done nothing for me! My health is bad! I asked god for one more chance, and I am cancer free. I want to live! But how do began to. Sorry about some of the words that I left out.

Kinda excited to release some of garbage I have been carrying for years! Nita , I know someone in my life for a short time with the same situation , I believe you should start speaking with local help services to explore some options about your financial position. There might be programs available to you to be able to support yourself. You never mentioned if you are both married or not.. Most of all a wife is entitled to some money especially when the husband does have her depending on him.

I am riding along a wave I should probably get off but cant seem to right now which is what brought me to this blog. Riding along not alone , interesting enough we do feel like we are riding alone a lot and the only time we get anything from these men is when they need something when its convenient for them. EU is the most difficult man I have ever encountered. That is the difference between men and woman , most of the men that are eu to someone are still available sexually to someone , most women are not like that if we are going to be eu we are usually not available sexually either.

Men make it out to be such a bad thing. That we are clingy cause we like them or that we are nagging all the time. Men fail to address why the girl is nagging to begin with , it is usually because he is not doing something he said he would or its because he is a liar and is caught or he is being suspicious and you are sure somethings wrong.

But no men just make us feel crazy when you find later you were right. No matter how hard we try the flaws lay with the man not us. I was called clingy the other day and he could not even give me one reason how , I know I am not.. I asked him a couple times now why so I can fix it maybe and not do it anymore … he has got nothing. I think its because he is eu and I like him more then he wants me to.

I just realised I was dating an EU man after reading all this. He had all the classic causes — troubled childhood, estranged father, separated 2 yrs ago from a borderline personality disorder woman with whom he was married for 8 years, history of panic and anxiety attacks..

He really swepted me off my feet and I fell for him hard. In the beginning he was always the one pushing the relationship forward, He seemed really into me , but then about a month into dating he just changed overnight. He became cold, withdrawn, sad and uncommunicative. But it was too hard for me as I still had feelings for him. It was even harder as he was doing nothing to sustain even a friendship — workaholic, would resolutely refuse to deviate routine at all to make time for me, avoided seeing me if the situation meant we would be by ourselves or it would mean that we would actually have a proper conversation… Then one day he said he felt that people close to him are better off without him and vice versa.

That broke my heart. I then found out he was on Internet dating. I confronted him and he maintained that he was not in the right place to date anyone. Is he EU or just playing me for a fool? I am going through the exact same thing right now.

He is an airline pilot and we live about an hour and a half apart so I figured it was due to his schedule. We had a few breaks lasting weeks initiated by me and I was always the one who made the contact to reunite but other than that, communication was pretty consistent.

I never worried about him cheating but he certainly did compartmentalize his life. Additionally, I never met his friends nor did he ever ask me to attend car races with him. He is a big hunter, loves to race cars, etc…so does a lot of things with the guys but I do know that he had taken his prior girlfriends to car races with him. Btw, this is a man who is 46 years old, no kids, never been married, blah, blah, blah.

Anyway, fast forward two years Jan. Two weeks following that conversation he stopped talking to me or rather texting me as that was his favorite form of communication. I made several attempts and he would respond but not much.

About six weeks after that, I again initiated contact after a vacation and he was very receptive. We reconnected for about another six weeks and honestly spent some time that was the best we had in a very long time to which he also admitted and shortly thereafter, he abruptly stopped all communication.

I have not made contact in a few weeks but he has never responded. Keep in mind, nothing happened to make him stop talking to me at least nothing that I did. We had texted one afternoon and I never heard from him again. I cannot get over this man. I have lost 28 lbs and he is on my mind everyday. I am trying to move on by dating and such but I just constantly think of him. All I know is that he came in to my life making me believe that we had a future and then he leaves me devastated.

All I wanted was some sort of explanation…He could have even lied and I told him that. I lost him anyway. I never got a chance. Reading these other posts help me realize that there are so many men like this out there, but why? If I would have known that the last wonderful evening I spent with him was going to be the last, I would have laid it all on the line…. Trying to understand why EU men behave the way they do is a waste of your precious energy and usually requires years of professional therapy.

Many women have tried but that approach has proven to be fruitless and ineffective. EU men will NOT change if we love them more or try harder to show them how great we are and how good life could be if they only loved us in return. Sticking around usually only prolongs the agony and women finally find themselves exhausted and emotionally completely burnt out. He had to go as he had reached the end of his path…his well-known path which ends exactly where he brought you. We, women need to learn to listen to our inner voice and will do just fine.

All my best, Lara. Thank you Lara for your kind words and perspective. I had no idea that those terms related to him but it just all makes so much sense now. Little did I know that it had nothing to do with his job, but rather it had everything to do with him being a commitment phobe and EU. It makes me sad however to think of someone else getting his attention or him actually falling in love with someone else who will probably never appreciate him the way I did.

I just wonder how he can move on so quickly without a simple explanation. Especially when you open your heart, share your lives mine moreso than his which includes my child. I am a 42 year old woman who has been through much worse than the demise of this relationship but I still consider his actions i. What helps, however, is knowing that other women have experienced the same thing and survived and also, now that I am putting myself back out there, I am beginning to see that there are alot of men who would enjoy my company.

Unfortunately, I still compare them all to him though. Hopefully that changes soon. Alright, I need some serious guidance. I started kinda seeing this guy, never any sex or anything, just datey things.

Cuddling, going out dancing, getting breakfast after sleeping over together, etc. We still did the datey stuff, and then we both got busy with life stuff and he ended up taking a job opportunity out of state. My living situation is kinda iffy now. And he currently plans on coming back home every other week. But I think mine had a strange twist. She was clearly EU, having told me that she was badly hurt by a narcissist ex who cheated on her after she fell in love with him.

She told me that she was having a hard time letting someone new me into her heart 1. At least she was honest; i was blind hoping that she would get over her issues. I just keep learning that he who lives on hope dies of starvation. It could have been much much worse. Thanks for having a forum to share on. Only if I knew in advance. I just broke up with a guy that just got over a divorce. I am so hurt by the way he treated me. He was cold and mean. He treated me lije garbage but I was still trying to continue with the relationship.

I need to seek counseling. But then he moved to another city which is only 2 hours away from mine. We wanted to keep it casual by seeing each other once or twice a month without commitment. But then he kept cancelling on me anytime we planned to meet and I got frustrated. As expected, he kept cancelling on me 2 more times but he had his reason. He went completely silent since then.

Anybody experienced this case and can tell me what he wants cause I would like to know too. And whenever we see each other well talk alot. So idek know what to think. Is he too nervous to hang out or is he not into me the way I feel he is?

Hey, im in a very similar situation. And asking me to study with him apparently isnt always a move. So I dont know what to think. Since its been a while, would you care to update or share what you think looking back on it? How funny that women need articles like this to point out the obvious.

I really love him. Why I still love him? I think is more the furstration you feel, like, what is wrong with me? It is not you with the problem. You are not entitled to love. See what you need to change about yourself and go into metamorphosis. My boyfriend recently broke up with me, partly because he has a lot of family problems, as well as his struggle in his college classes and his busy schedule with his fraternity. He said that there is still a possibility that we will get back together, and that he just doesnt have time for a romantic relationship right now.

He also said that he treated me like one of his guy friends, not like a girlfriend. He still wants to be friends no matter what, and comforts me when I need him in relations to the breakup. We also ended up cuddling one night. Did he really not have feelings for me, or did he lose feelings for me? Is it because he just has too much pressure on him right now? I understand that some believe that if someone truly loved you theyd stick with you no matter what, but I also see a perspective from where if there is too much on someones plate they would want to push people away and take off some of those pressures on their plate.

I think affection is not a stupid thing it happens naturally whither a boy likes a girl or not but the serious thing is that whosoever does love will try to stay closer always…. Hi, Anyone wanting to fall in love, find love or even avoid love for some personal reason read this.. I fell in love with this boy who I literally worshiped! In my eyes he was my mr. The amount of people I cut off just to consume enough love from the person to last me through the day: I was craving his attention, this bad boy had given me attention!

This great, handsome some- what messed up boy calling me his girl was apparently enough for me in this life.. Love can turn you crazy, make you fiend for this person, make you do unthinkable things. Can anyone tell me if he likes me or not? But when his friends ask him that he like me or not.

Well I herd that he used an example of me being his GF but I did this just to be sure and yea….. Other than that, he likes me. That was the only one. Anyways, theres this guy I know for a long time probably my life, but its only in recent years maybe we began talking as proper friends. But hey I guess people chsnge their minds fast? But I guess sadly, not everything goes our way right? Yeah I hav the same problm plus the guy i like myt net b intrstd in me bt hes always intrtd in my besties: Some of these signs do not make any sense.

But the girl I like I am super nervous to talk to her, and have her Kik texting app but not her number. As an athlete my confidence is never low unless I try to talk to her or kik her but when I end up trying to kik her, I end up asking about an class assignment. We have moments where we talk and get lost in each others eyes but the moments seem to fade becuase it happens like once a month.

We hug occasionally and feel like she staring at me out of the corner of my eye. Most girls instinctively know a guy is still interested.

There is a guy that Showed so many sighns of liking me this whole year, and then my fiends told his friends that I like him. I asked him about and he lied and said his friends never told him about it. Now he is acting weird and I am not sure if I should ask if he lied or just ignore him? I think you should just leave it as it is for a while. Try talking more to him,texting,hanging out and stuff. And when it will all calm down and everyone will forget about that try casually asking or telling him stuff like compliments and other signs.

If you get closer and closer, tell him the truth. It might be hard to admit, but sometimes this is the case. You will just have to deal with it like anything else that is not positive in your life.

I normally am not that weird about him texting me first, but after how many months, you would think that he is waking every morning with the thought of me.

In my case, I always been straight up with a girl. If I do not like her, for whatever the reason is, I tell her. Its the more adult thing to do. Very easy to tell, just have to keep your eyes open.

I am wondering if I am dealing with this right now. Should I really be thinking that there is something else going on? I mean, we have only been dating for a few months, should I assume we are exclusive?

Yeah, I would agree that if you are seeing any of these signs, there is a good chance it is time to move on. I hate having to be the first one to text. However, I do get the hint after a couple of times that maybe he just does not want to talk to me. Ohh, these are sort of harsh, but they are realistic that is for sure. Reality is sometimes harsh and that is OK.

It is better to know ahead of time, compared to knowing a little too late. I have been hanging around a guy that I like for a few months now. Nothing serious just when we are all out and about with friends, but I am not sure if he shares the same feelings because we only see each other with friends, what do I do? If you cannot see the writing on the wall with signs like this, I am not sure anyone can help you!

LOL, yeah I would say this is quite obvious. My boyfriend never texts me first and it was really bothering me recently. Now I read it on here and I do not know what to think. Am I doomed to be with this guy? These are signs alright. I am going to add another one to it. Sorry to hear that! I hope you feel better soon and find a man that does not treat you like trash.

These are pretty good indicators. I think this is happening to me. If he is not interested, he can just tell me. LOL, I would say these are a pretty good start to him not liking you. All of these can be stopped with a simple question.

Talk to your man, find out what he is feeling. That is better than any speculation. I wondered about this! Very good list of things woman should keep an eye out for. Sometimes the signs are coming from a level of immaturity, but you should be able to figure that out right away.

These are pretty obvious, too. If you are seeing these signs, just do yourself a favor and get away. There is nothing you can do at this point and you will just make a fool of yourself trying to get him to feel otherwise. When I thought about this for the first time, I was not sure that they were very good signs. Then I was in a bad relationship that included some of these and it is now quite bothersome for me. These are quite obvious in my opinion and should be noted as soon as possible to avoid any situation that lasts longer than it should!

It would suck to be on the receiving end of these signs, but they are true! If the guy does not like you, there is very little that you can to change that. Yes it does suck. This happened to me last summer and I will never be blind to things like this again! It is sad, but these are very true. I have a bad habit of not believing it until it is too late. That makes dating and things like that very difficult for me.

There is another issue, maybe more than one and it should be addressed as soon as possible. I would say that if I had to hear about other girls from a guy that supposedly likes me, that would be a deal breaker!

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I hate that Jesus Collected T when T was in the second grade and He got to meet him and talk to him and then Jesus asked him To stay out of six sixual contact well God asked him that if He can freeze His sixual account T said sure Father and then God did.

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I took him a bit off guard by calling him but after that there was no question that he was into me and pretty soon, he was the one that was more into it than I was. If he wanted casual sex again, why not ask?

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That guy im dating doesnt call everyday feeling average length of dating relationship I could never be liked was terrible… Eventually I mustered up the courage to talk to her. He set up three dates to see me and during talking with him he asked me what I wanted and I told him a relationship and marriage. He calls me fat and looks at me with disgust whenever he sees me naykid. It might be hard to admit, but sometimes this is the case. Do the work it takes to open your heart. Give yourself time to get over him. How funny that women need articles rveryday this to point out the obvious.