3 Things I’ve Learned From Dating A Ukrainian Girl For One Year
Conversely, a man who is drawn to a bad attitude has a mental instability — like immaturity or a sociopathy… I mean, really, who seeks out drama like that?!? When I try to make my guy feel like a winner, he seems very uninterested. Image courtesy of Fourpanelhero.
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Seems to me that he might be careful and take things slow to make sure things are in line with what you told in how to pick up a latin woman. We met up a couple of times for drinks and on the last night we slept together. I have a question. Coleone — where you normally meet Swedish girls? Do women find older men attractive or not? I want to fall in love and be loved and I feel ready for it! We dream with finding the right guy to be able to do this with.
I agree with Celine, a hilarious read. However, I have known many foreign guys in Sweden at universities, mostly from the Anglo-Saxon world, and almost none have been at all successful in the Swedish love department. Some Swedish girls are OK with Catholic, American or Muslim values neither of which respect women very well , but most are not.
Swedish values raise the bar for both men and women. I obviously cook and clean, but I also do renovations and fix computers. Such skills, along with a certain degree of intellectual maturity, seem to have been taken for granted by a lot of Swedish girls that I have associated with.
To master a language enough to make jokes and be the life of a party usually takes about 10 years of practice. All you foreigners here, can you tell a joke like Robert Gustavsson? Totally agree with you. I have lived for almost one year, here in Sundsvall I see many African men and Swedish girls couples. Most African guys dating Swedish girls, are somewhat confident and feeling good about themselves.
Thats my two points. Dacke — Thanks for your comment. If that is the case, I can see that being a big issue here. Vincent — Confidence and feeling good about yourself: Shyness and nervousness are acceptable, but be proud of yourself. You should have no problems getting a book deal! Your writing is genuine, refreshing and truly entertaining. As an American man, I found your site through a referral. Keep up the good work and tell the guys to stop drinking booze like Swedish fish!
Sounds like i need to go to Sweden considering all the men over there are litte pusies. What the worst answer you can get from them? But overall nice article. Come and show them how a REAL man gets women! Been outside your country yet? Things can be very different when you come to other countries and cultures. You could come here and have a really succesful time. I am an Indian-American guy who came from a Hindu family but later became a Christian. I also attended a Swedish-American Lutheran college, but was more into the very exotic types of women at that time.
Right now I have an acute case of the Vikette fever ;-. But I do not speak a word of Swedish. And I am a pretty devout Christian, want a large family like kids , believe that men should be chivalrous, and want to share my faith with others especially Muslims and Atheists. Yet at the same time I have always been extremely progressive.
I would want a woman to be highly educated and to work outside the home as I would want her to have some independence if something happened to me. I also believe in evolution, sex-education, reproductive rights, and gender equality. And I live a very ecofriendly lifestyle, am concerned about climate change, and believe in universal healthcare. Swedish girls are not only beautiful but they are so intelligent and sophisticated too.
They read, travel, and have independent minds. And Sweden seems like such a nice place to raise a family because education and healthcare are phenomenal and not so expensive. I truly admire the cohesive and corruption-free societies that Scadanavians have built. But could I fit in? Many Christian girls in the US who want this are waaay too conservative, often superstitious, and do not think critically.
Are there Swedish girls who have the best of both worlds who might be into my type? Ahh yes, and finally, I am not looking to get married right away as I want some time for my own development. But I also do not want to just hookup and definitely do not want to get girls drunk to do so.
Some girls will become devout Muslims when they marry guys from those countries because it is exotic, the girls are naive, and the education system and media are too politically correct to criticize it in the way they have lambasted Christianity for decades. And some like African men, even asylum seekers with criminal records because they believe in the myth, because of the taboo nature, or because they think that they can be some kind of agent of social change.
But are there the kinds who will be interested in the kinds of guys that their parents might also like? I had fun reading all these remarks about people from other culture. One thing is certain. I like blond men and brown haired men. I think blond men are more chivalrous than majority of other men. And I like the Scandinavian man features too.
I am a white Latin woman, with medium brown hair blond during childhood , big brown eyes and nice features. I would love to meet a blonde or light brown haired man who likes white latin women.
I have a latin personality and gentle nature. And I have a nice figure and very attractive facial features. My email address is sheila at yahoo dot com. I would like to know names of websites to date scandinavian men.
I would like to meet one Scandinavian man. And I would like to have comments of people. I am very liberal in my thinking and I respect all kinds of opinions as long as they do not harm other people. People have different personalities and ways of thinking.
That is what makes each of us interesting. I am a Swedish girl, and ever since I was little, I fantasized about an American man. So the real question is how to fix one?! You come to America, I go to Sweden..
I looked up that group! That is some scary group!! Hate missing posts here! I seem to have a fan club lol. DS — Why you talking to truth about MS13? It was me who mentioned them lol. P Hope your well hun. Does anyone know of the best ways to meet beautiful Swedish women around my area? I hate you all. Well this site left me with my mouth open and amazed! This is not possible! Is it uncommon for swedish women to stay in the same bed at night with a best friend that is male? Is casual sex with a male friend if the women has a boyfriend, that is not in the country common if they are good friends?
Just need a honest opinion from a 3rd party, thanks. Jake — Yep, totally agree with Dano. D I can smell the humour all the way from here btw. Thank you for the replies, read all the negatives on swedish women thats why i asked the last question.
I truly admire the cohesive and corruption-free societies that Scandinavians have built. Some girls will become devout Muslims when they marry guys from those countries because it is exotic, the girls are naive, and the education system and media are too politically correct to criticize it in the way they have lambasted other religions for decades. As one of the swedish men, I just have to agree on the fact that we need to grow some balls, absolutely!
When it come to chivalry I would say that it varies from man to man, but more chivalry in general would be nice. However, dont show to much chivalry, it can backfire! When it comes to men drinking way to much i have to say that the younger the man, the more he drinks. As said above, dont get wasted! They require you to be able to have a intelligent conversation!
In sweden the comfort zone is about an arms lenght and an inch or two. What chances does a good-looking Asian man with most of the qualities so I have been told by most white girls in San Francisco, which are a fairly diverse sample the author mentioned? Do they hold any prejudice against Asian men? I think the effort should be put into girls who have the same expectations. I would love to meet my expectation in a Swedish girl!
I would not wanna be together with a man that think men are more worth than women. Helga Men ARE more valuable than women. I have been to Stockholm in summer and spent 4 days there. It was an amazing experience for me. Yes, I got obsessed with Swedish women but it was not looks that attracted me most. Excluding the German girl who was staying in the same hotel, at least 3 Swedish girls were interested in me during my short visit which is such a record.
They expressed interest in a polite and nice way but for some reason I thought they are just being cautious how stupid of me — lol. I am not obsessed with Swede girls any more but it would be amazing if I have a serious relationship with a Swede girl: I love to make friends with anyone from Scandinavia whether male or female.
The first thing we men need to understand is that women are no aliens. They are females of the human species with the same emotions, desires and needs you have. Read something intesting to talk about and then meet some women and be interest in THEM, not their bodies. I am an exchange student in a small Swedish town. I have been here for almost 6 months and have a lot of feedback regarding this article.
I do feel, however, that we must be really careful with describing people in this manner as to avoid generalizations. Equality is really nice. Really, if you have fun and feel confident that she also enjoyed meeting you, the other person will notice you and contact you. This brings the next phase in the equation: Then you will see her in school or in a party and you can act as if nothing had happened. This is hard to achieve in latin countries without some sort of sexual tension or strings attached.
Many of them fail to even hook up because they get too drunk, try too hard, treat local girls as they treat girls in their country, or simply do not assimilate into the dating mode. This kind of keeps a sense of interesting aura about me that the Swedish girls I have been with definitely like. I have some really close swedish guy friends here so I guess you could say that when I date girls I kind of follow their steps.
I also fractured my ankle 3 weeks ago playing football and therefore am not going to bars as much. Some psychologists say that when you help someone you release endorphins and therefore, if you are good looking and have crutches while getting drunk in an afterparty, chances are you that will do well. Guys, no means no! Big mistakes happen when you see a guy invite a girl to a party or whatever and after a refusal, he keeps on trying. Not cool… Remember that sometimes girls just go out for a drink or to catch-up with a friend, not for the whole thing.
Just be genuine, funny, and actually enjoy yourself. So if you remember her during, say wednesday at My swedish girl friends tell me that it is really nice to be acknowledged outside those scenarios and that it gets you lots of points.
However, I have noticed that it is easier hook-up with girls from bigger cities like Stockholm and Gothenburg that study here. Kind of a bigger city mentality. Hope this is not a bad generalization. Finally, during one of those afterparties I met a very nice girl from Gothenburg.
She is also a crazy party girl who always gets wasted like I do so she is also being very cautious. So things are going well and I am proud of not having just thrown myself at her like I would in a latin country.
I am being careful and so is she. Swedish girls are over-rated. The guys are even more ridiculous. I have many solid Swedish friends male and I rip on them almost every time we go out.
Zero game, and zero balls. They whine about wanting a wife, kids etc. The swedish girls are the most amazing girls you can ever meet. I always wanted to spend my life with a swedish girl cherishing every moment with her. February 12, at During the day they can be quite arrogant, but once they have consumed alcohol — they do not have any standards and also seem to have taste for middle eastern gentlemen because they believe them to have money.. This is something swedish women has embraced and is also a sign of freedom from predjudice and norms.
Something women from other parts of the world should strive for. But it makes it so much more enjoyable as a swedish man when a swedish women chooses you even tho she has the other options at hand. So we embrace it aswell.
This site describes Swedish girls as some kind of animal, like a breed. Swedish girls are some dark skinned while some others are blonde. We do definitely not like the very same thing, so please, stop. Hey Mike, I agree that Swedish women have made tremendous strides in equality compared to other nations. However, with that equality comes a cost.
Everything that happens has a cost positive and negative, called externalities. We see as positive externalities: Negative externalities could be: Of course both types jokes are unacceptable but I see women act aggressively if someone makes a joke that related to women, eg.
I want to be Charlie Sheen; a depraved alcoholic and womanizer. I rarely hear the water cooler jokes about genderism but I have heard horrible jokes regarding ethnicity and religion at the office. From personal experience, I have never met a Swedish man that has intimidated me but I have met Swedish women who do. They come off aggressive with a bitchy streak.
Okay, alright, you win! But let me say this, I used to live in Minnesota, as well as in Sweden for a numbers of years. All these regions are full of Scandinavians. While it may be true that Swedish girls are prettiest; it is my humble opinion that upper mid-western American girls are not only pretty like their Scandinavian cousins, but also smart like many American girls, and I consider this a huge advantage that our American girls enjoy.
So the bottom line is Swedish girls are pretty, American girls are pretty [since the beauty is in the eyes of beholder]. Everybody love blondes… in my case, since I was a child I was so fall in love of a blonde girl of my neighborhood. I have all need to have success… I am a gentleman first, but with so spicy latin hot blood in my veins…. I love to talk and really I have the balls to go to talk to the most beautiful girl of the night… actually I love to feel the adrenaline when I am walking to she and she is watching me coming to her!!!!
I dont care about to go to Sweden to find my blue eyes blonde girl of my dreams… I have been in Europe 3 times and I love it! Please dont come more to europe man, we cant afford to provide for your non-working ass. Stay in Costa Rica for the love of god. Yes I have noticed this in pictures too. What is with the fake blond hair?
Why do they do that? I know quite a few Swedish Canadians and none of them are blond. No one will be convinced. My guess is that Tourism board of Sweden hands out free bottles of hydrogen peroxide to local women to encourage tourism and fulfill the expectations of male tourists….
I was just offered a job in Sweden. Believe me gentlemen, I speak from experience. Angry and argumentative all the time. A word for the wise: Mike is absolutely right. People are always going on about how beautiful Swedish women are and all the guys want to come here, etc.
That is one of the biggest deceptions of all. It is impossible to get passionately involved with Swedish women. They do sex but not passion. They are scared to death of the kind of passion which makes you want to give yourself to someone or even to die for them.
So they always hold back. She will not let him into her heart. Plus the women here are very opinionated and pushy — imitating the worst aspects of men and totally unfeminine. They may dress like women but you can see that they feel uncomfortable with their femininity and walk very awkwardly. If you cohabit with a Swedish woman you will be lucky to get a few years together or even less before she becomes bored with you and gets physically attracted to someone else, dumps you and just leaves, no matter how many kids you may have together.
These are just my observations. As soon as I saw through it which was after a few months I have avoided them like the plague! I have been observing carefully for more than a year. There are plenty of foreigners who have come here to get it together with a Swedish woman and then deeply regretted it. So let that be a warning. Looks are not everything — in fact they should take second place to what is in the heart.
Sadly there is little heart in Sweden. Forgot to close the html-tag up there! Really, really sorry, mate! My name is Tove. I am Swedish, however, and lived in Sweden until just last year, although, growing up, I also spent a lot of time in various parts of the United States. This post, on the other hand, I find blatantly offensive and insulting.
Indeed, you might want to ask yourself whether it is ever appropriate to generalize across human beings. Or that all Swedish girls are lesbians because my friend is a lesbian. Just like your post, then.
Or, indeed, that all Swedish girls are blond and beautiful. Internalized sexism and internalized racism, that is. I will say this: I do not think it means what you think it means. Here is another quote for you, this time from Feminism which attempts to explicate what, exactly, being a feminist entails: My last point pertains to the final few lines of your post: Personally, I take pride in being a strong, able woman, just as much as others take pride in being more emotionally-inclined; indeed, women can be both.
In conclusion, generalizing people like that, be they woman or men, Swedish or American, blond or brunettes — what have you — is completely impossible and, furthermore, potentially endangering or problematic.
Obviously, you can just snap back at me that this comment is ridiculous as a response to what essentially amounts to a silly as in lighthearted rather than vapid blog post. Still, you posted it in the public sphere and as such all comments are merited: I doubt whether you will want to argue those points with me, but there you go, this is my response to what I consider an offensive, problematic post. I like to think the animosity levels were kept relatively low, too.
So I tend to stick to other foreign women. If I talk to Swedish women sometimes I feel like a stalker or a freak afterwards. Swedish girls might be attractive, but in my opinion they are amongst the most boring women that I have ever met.
Guys, I do not know why all this controversy on Swedish girls. It is true that they live in the cold, but they are not made of ice. In my point of view American girls are more snobbish, especially in relation to foreigners.
I had a proof of this when I visited the U. Draw their conclusions by themselves, I think you will all agree with me.
Hey guuys calm down… Some swedish girls is pretty, im a swedish girl and i think u can go around the world and find pretty girls all over, swedish girls isnt special if u ask me. Several of the girls in that photo could actually be English, looking at their faces. Not every Swedish girl is a tall blonde girl with big boops! So please stop talking about Swedish girls like we were an item! Also, we fight allot. And neither me or any of my friends have any pare of tight jeans, thats just gay.
I am very much so attracted to tall, beautiful, full figured women and Sweden seems to have an abundance of these physical traits that I crave. So have a quirky sense of humor, an open mind and all will be well.
The downside is that I have never been to Sweden. The closest I got was Bavaria Germany. German woman are beautiful as well but I still want to meet some Swedish women. A guy can dream, right?
I have personally found them to be extremely beautiful and friendly but somewhat reserved. I have dated several Swedish women so I am going by my experience and my friends experiences. And yes, they were all tall, blue eyes, soft light hair and sweet dispositions. As for the foreign attractions, I guess opposites do attract and maybe that has something to do with it. Also foreign women tend to be more aggressive with white men as they consider them a catch.
I call it class and decorum, not being cold and aloof. I guess being an old fashioned guy I want to make the first move anyway. And keep in mind many foreign women come here with one purpose in mind to marry a local man. Be wary though that many are submissive and sweet during the courting but after the marriage they become very domineering and controlling.
They all ended up going back to Swedish girls after a nasty divorce or relationship. All 5 of them. So that says a lot to me and I have chosen to continue my pursuit in that direction of finding myself a nice Swedish girl. This description seems to be about her. Thanks for the info. Wow… what a response to your post.
Spans the years and scrolls forever! May I add to it? Mine is a question. I was much younger late 20s , single about a month after a painful breakup , and impressionable I was knocked out by the preponderance of beauty roaming the Stockholm scene. We went to one of the clubs and I was so overwhelmed by the number of gorgeous women that I had no idea what to say to any of them.
My travel friend was bolder and he struck up a conversation with a couple girls. To say my interest was purely innocent or intellectual would be a ridiculous lie. And surely, she sensed that. Or was she testing me to make a move?
I know it was clear to both of us that I was only there for a couple days. So what was she after? I was a nitwit then. Most of my girlfriends asked me out before I worked up the nerve to ask them. But to this day, I wonder if I threw away a beautiful if short-lived opportunity. Each person, as many have said, is an individual with their own intent. But to this day, I still remember her as a smart and talented musician , devastatingly attractive, and irresistibly sensual woman… that I may or may not have had the chance to spend a few gorgeous hours with… a long, long time ago.
I am an albanian residing in NY City. There are about Swedish -Americans here and I have met some of them. I would say that their physical appearance is stunning. The one I have met were business women or girls.
I mean they were making in average above a quarter million dollars a year. Because I am blessed with good looks always they were the ones approaching me. Down to earth and smart. Of course I bowed to pressure and married one. She still has relatives in Sweden but I have never been there since my wife was born here.
But close where I worked I have seen 3 young ladies from Sweden working in real estate office. Three of them obese, I mean real bottom heavy. Likable faces but strange life styles. I saw them with all kinds of colored primates that reside in New York. I did not know that obesity is a problem in Sweden and if the lifestyle of women in Sweden is like the girls I saw here, its not much to be proud of other than the looks.
But again I am happy since my wife outsmarts me in many things. In my house I am the one blond and blue eyes, my swedish wife has light brown eyes, light brown hair. This was really fun to read!
LOL, I have to say the on-line dating or electronic dating has come a very long way since the days of straight forward chat rooms. A lot more and a lot more people are turning to on the internet dating sites to display prospective dates. It IS true though that most Swedish girls are tall. I find myself tall, but im 4th tallest in class.
Aw well, i respect how generalized this is, but dont get your hopes too high now, guys. Just an observation, I think the fetishising of Swedish women or any other ethnic women is unhealthy. Too me, a preoccupation with a certain ethnicity debases the women or men from your own culture and possibly indicates an inferiority complex.
There are beautiful women or handsome men to be found in every country although you might have to look a little harder in some. It seems some of the posters on here are interested in visiting Sweden not for the culture or scenery but for casual sex and hooking up. This was a funny read! I find that the women in Sweden are alot friendlier than the men?
I love Sweden especially the north please someone let me move in ; haha [email address redacted]. Luke — You are right there are some posters who are only interested in hooking up with Swedes not finding or dating one.
I do try to edit or not approve those posters as they do not contribute to the discussion. I found this write up and the follow up comments very interesting and somewhat true in most regard…I have to agree to one fact that have been stated here….. I am an African that have been living and studying here in Sweden for a little 3 years now……I have been with all sorts of Swedish girls….
Yea not all are good looking …I have been with more Swedish girls during my stay here than most Swedish men twice my age have…. I usually ask most of them why they end up being with me…and the response is almost always the same…which is that, they like the courage, audacity and balls I show by walking up to them and start chatting them up without have to wait until I am under the influence.
Coleone — where you normally meet Swedish girls? Bars, clubs, restaurants, on the street?? I was searching for some blogs to get info bout the country before I go to visit it this december or april..
It is funny to read some of comments—their personal life experience their doubts n so on. Men are men and women are women. I tell you now my little story. I am south korean and I have been living in italy since I was 7 I just turned 20 and when I was a mid teenage I tried approaches with italian and french girls many times. If I think about the day when she approached me I still wonder how the hell it was possible.
She was tourist, she just approached me, asked me few things, then asked me about me since I told her I have been living in italy and stuffs and then she asked me to guide her through Rome. Then we knew each other and eventually things went as it had to go. The fact she approached me like that was because maybe i have never been to swe do i dunno yet girls approaching first was a normal thing in her country..
She helped me to break the schemes, way of thinking and break the tradition. The way she first approached it.. After all women are attracted to men because we are men and nothing else and viceversa.
Roles are not reversed. I hope it helped! They are absolutely right. Probably should have stuck with her. What a turn off to be analyzed like some sort of species, but yet flattering and amusing. Are blondes really that special? I was born in the midwest of the good ole USA; my paternal grandparents were immigrants from Sweden.
After college I spent 3 months in Europe traveling, half the time in Sweden and the rest traveling around parts of Northern Europe.
I can say categorically, hands down the most beautiful women I encountered were in Sweden. They were natural, fit, educated for the most part , strong, and sweet. Leave your sterotypes at the door, fools. Ask Elin Nordegren how things worked out with Tiger or any other example I could provide.
Most of the things here is true, about the girls. Follow him on Facebook. Things that I assumed about relationships have been proven false.
Issues that arose from my relationships with Western girls have been absent with the Ukrainian. Overall, my outlook has changed drastically. This is for many reasons. The overall attitudes and mannerisms of women in Eastern Europe are drastically different. In some areas my expectations have been exceeded, but I keep myself grounded. You really have to string them along and make her beg and plead for you to be an exclusive couple.
But the pride of Western girls prevents them from asking you for at least a few months. The sex and the city lifestyle. And that matters, because she can brag about it to her friends to feel valued. So I wonder do most men really feel this way or do you write about what you like because it is your job, to share your knowledge of what men want.
Also I am sure the men you are around like a similar lifestyle to you weather they are married or not. I feel that most men do want women who are completely themselves but still take pride in their appearance. I feel like an ugly hater who rags on beautiful women, which is not the case you can look on my Facebook I am not. Also I have been asked by my boyfriend many times why I try so hard and spend time doing my make up and hair when I am a mom and no one expects me to, he says I should just be natural.
So my question to that is why does he say that? I hope to hear your I out on this! Sexual attraction is an important factor in a relationship, but far from the only important factor. Same goes for everyone. Saying loose weight or dress sexy is insulting, I am a mother of two I have been pregnant the past two years.
I am not heavy set but I do weigh more than before I had children. I feel this is how shallow men feel. My man hates heavy make up and sexy clothes.
He is far more into me dressing casual or even sporty. It all comes down to the same thing pleasing your man. Being healthy is far more important than being thin and no they are not the same thing. At least not to me. It feels shallow after a while. However, I am not sure young girls will understand it cause this is something that comes with experience in life. Wish I had read this 10 years ago, it would have made my life considerably easier then ;-. Wow you hit the hammer on the nail. Gotta up my market value.
Than for this article. I think the article vividly points out why most of my female friends have one failure after another in relationship, and they always end up in the same way: Most of the women devalue themselves without knowing it, and they rarely think about what they can offer in a relationship.
The sex, the looks both can encourage relationships, but neither can keep men or sustain relationships. Dear Eric, I have been reading your articles and you keep saying, wear makeup and be feminine.
I used to wear makeup but recently, there has been such a hype going around that men like women with no makeup at all. Apparently they think when you put makeup on, either you are hiding something or trying too hard, which comes off as a turn off.
I used to love wearing makeup but now I hardly wear any, im scared that men will think im trying too hard. And I know how much is too much, I just like enhancing my best features. So my question to you is what makeup look do you think is sexy, playful, nice?
Do you think women are trying too hard when they put makeup on? How much would be too much in your opinion? Thank you, I just read like 5 of your blogs back-to-back and this one had the most impact—super helpful. I think the part about what men want and what they want in women helped me the most.
I work with Prince Roku and he and I had been eye balling each other for quite some time until one day he just popped in my office, made small talk and asked me out on a date. Nothing ended in a bad way or anything, we are just both in the midst of a crazy busy season at work.
Any concrete examples would be appreciated. This website is pure science. I enjoyed this article. I am certain I would not have sex with him until I decide it is best.
I am willing to take a step back and approach him more as a friend although I have already romanticized with him. I understand his desires, attraction to me and faults. I support him completely. I do understand that I need to give him time to miss me but I feel I understand my motivations for being with him and as I said before those are all positive reasons.
If he has won me and I support him, have made him feel like a winner and understand his desires…is it ok to approach him as a friend? I have a problem with my boyfrnd. I give him my time even wen he was sick I took care of him.
Honey you need to take care of you! I know how being pregnant with a non committed man feels and you are too good for that and not only that you have bigger things to worry about. Conga durations and I wish you the best!
Hey Eric, I founf ur article relevant in my current situation. Youre saying here that i shud date other guys or go out with other guys to make him feel that anytime alot of guys will snatched me if he will not do his part to take me his own.
My question is what if i go out with other guys and he knew it then well tou guys think to date other women to make it fair enough? Its like you guys will think that if us gurls can go out with others guys why cant u also do it? Your article is so special and love every word of it! I believe it will definitely help me out and do you sell books I can buy and I feel finally I got the point. I guess the articles you write and the advice you have in each one of them is just better than probably any of those relationship and dating website.!
They are always of great help. Of course this all applies to men who actually are open to exclusive relationships. I really loved this article. It really breaks it down for us girls to what men like, and how to make it known to him that we are interested in us liking what they like to get intimate with him.
Also teaches us women how men see women, what category they place us at and why. Please write an article as to ladylike manners, how a lady should dress… I love your writing work, you are amazing!!! Thank you for being honest and real. I have been reading your advise for a couple months. We are really good friends since then. We hooked up twice in those 20 years and have always seen each other as more than just friends, we care about eachother alot.
He got out of a 13 years relationship with a woman that really tore his self esteem down mentally destroyed him. A child with her is involved, and she uses that against him alot, to manipulate him.
We have had a long talk about relationships and he says to me….: He never said anything except that he understood. With in a week, we hung out with his mom, our mutual friends, and his sisters. Who All mean alot to him, they are his roots and foundation. Mind you i have known them just as long as i have known him, just not on the same level as him. My question is…am i wasting my time on something that will not go anywhere? I dont know if im wasting my time. I really care about him obviously, he is like my best friend and i dont want to lose our friendship over this of it doesnt work out.
I had no idea men were so complicated! I kind of freaked, like most women would, I suppose, so I did a Google search and found this article. Thank you very much. I love your approach. I have homework to do for sure. I found this article interesting and pretty on point. I can see how all of these things make a big difference. My question is, what is your opinion on just being yourself? Or should they all, and always, be this woman that you described?
Your physical beauty, clothing, make-up, hair, etc. Your negative mood could be worried… angry… sad… deceitful… jealous… spiteful… hateful… afraid of loss… etc.
Your negative vibe is the external clue to other people that they should avoid you. On the other hand, when you are in a good mood internally, you give off a good vibe to other people and you attract love to you.
Yes, we all have bad moments or even bad days… and when negative feelings come up, we acknowledge them and we allow them to pass through us. You can feel a negative emotion, let it pass through you and never have to feed into it. So, to tie this up: I need this article.. My relationship is always in chaos bc my negative vibe. I try so hard to be positive. I have to practice good vibe to reap a successful life.
Wow…you just managed to improve on perfection, Eric! Thanks for adding this extra nugget to an already complete article. Very interesting article, certainly hit the nail on the coffin on relationships.. We parted on good terms and I once asked him why he liked me so much that night he met me I was not his type at all! He told me he walked into the bar and saw me wearing an Astros shirt and surrounded by 10 guys, and there was no way he was leaving without talking to me.
He said he had to meet me because I liked sports and every other guy seemed to want to talk to me. Hahaha…what a great experience, Mel! Wow, this is the second article I read from you and it blows my mind!!!
It is so good and so true!!! Keep up the good work….. Hi, I just wanted to ask a quick question: I have no idea what to think and how I should react…. I really enjoyed reading this article. It was very informative and will help me improve myself.
Thank you Eric for this article. I really loved ready it. It has helped me to understand so many things that motivate the man I have been dating.
He says he never wants to go through that again. Thus saying, he has no intentions in living with anyone again, etc. I love him dearly and am trying not to change him. I have just recently expressed to him that since he does not envision himself with me for the long term, that maybe we should part as friends before we become resentful of each other. It is only then when he starts to do the things that I had expressed to him I love i.
At this point, our lives are so intertwined with our activities, the kids, that breaking up seems harder than I thought. And I tried to leave explaining I am respecting what he has ultimately said, he steps up again. Should I distance myself, in hopes that he will chase me? Your guidance is so appreciated. I have bought several of the programs and am trying to understand but this seems like the step of total disconnect that scares me.
Thank you again for all that you do and all you share. Omg, this article is exactly what I try to tell my friends as I call it. Good points in here especially about being in his corner. Keep up the good work! I really enjoyed this article. It makes so much sense in the fact that men what to feel like winners. We ladies often forget that and it was a great reminder. Hi Eric Your article made me think of the positive aspects in my relationship rather than the negative which was great.
However, my man has admitted to me that he is seeing another woman. When I heard this I was obviously devastated but I have noticed our relationship has changed tremendously in the last month. Like you said that actions are what we should focus on. He spends much more time with me now and the time is quality with lots of sharing in his behalf and laughter.
Our time together does definitely not revolve around sex but mutual sharing He has verbally told me he loves me and he shows me all the time that he does. He makes me feel special and has mentioned many things that we are to do in the future. Or is he really good at having two girlfriends? I would like to know how to make my boyfriend treat me like a woman of value. I always feel like he loved his ex girlfriend more than he would ever love me because he would always make an effort to buy her gifts and spend alot of money on her just to make her happy like taking her out on dates and clubbing, but with me he does not do the same unless I push him to.
This article is awesome,and thanks you for sharing. I have been in a relationship for almost 4yrs now with a lady who was surpose to be my wife. This lady exhibits a lot of anoying characters like keeping secrets,keeping to friends and personal advice,lack of finacial management etc. I wish she will findout this type of article exist. A lot of people have the idea that marriage will somehow change the relationship in a good way… like it would make a not-so-serious person more committed to the relationship or an untrustworthy person more trustworthy….
Your opinion matters and has validity to Randy and all of us who read your articles and are furthermore subscribed. Please keep pouring it out — of yourself to us, I mean; just my opinion!
He will call or text every day then he goes cold. He comes over at first 3 times a week 2nd week about 2 times then 3rd week once a week since. We have a great time when we are together. We have the best sex ever. But he still on plenty of fish when ask him about it he says he likes reading the profiles. I set him up my girlfriend sent him a message and he responded. So i have been avoiding phone calls and text. Again a very good informative article.
It has reassured me given some of the experiences I have had with men which have not always been great. Also information that I can learn from. Well he did break up with me.. And I was so heart broken.. I mean he is an amazing guy..
We complement each so well.. So I read your books and all the emails you send and over like 4 days I would text him my thoughts on how I felt about him and our relationship.. Remembering everything you have said never coming off as needed or that he is my world..
I replied with I just thought we complemented each other so well.. He replied yes we do.. He came over the next day we cried and talked and are together: This feels a very acurate article, I have been re-reading it many times and trying to sink in.
Makes me want to go out there, and do this. To be that awesome woman, to some great guy. I want to fall in love and be loved and I feel ready for it! I do appreciate all the advise ive been reading. My friend lives 5hrs. Away and weve been seeing eachother once a month since july. I just cant think of get him to at least call me his girlfriend yet.
Im keeping busy and my options open may see him this weekend he said he would check on tickets, how do I understand this? Surprisingly enough I like your honest opinion and insight about relationship and gender physiology.
When I try to make my guy feel like a winner, he seems very uninterested. You are really good at this! But I want to be able to compliment him in a way that mattets.
He is always a winner to me in every way. I met a really great man and thing were fantastic. He was originally here for business but came back especially to see me and we went away for a week, very romantic we get on great, have talked about absolutely everything, marriage, pre-nuptional agreements, children, money, dating etc which I thought was very heavy but since it was it was honest, it was ok. He went back home and text every day, even when on holiday with his son and mum, sending me photos.
When he came here it was so lovely, we spent 24 hours a day together, went away to the Highlands, had romantic meals but also cuddled up on the sofa. He lives in Germany and is divorced with a 13 year old son who lives with him and a mum who looks after his son when he is at work.
I have accepted this and said his son is number one and we talked about how hard it will be to be part of his life but willing to try. While we were away, he said he more than liked me and wanted to see me at least every 3 months if not sooner and that in his training for his new job, I could meet him and stay with him for the week which could be Switzerland or Sweden which I thought was a great idea.
I replied that I do understand but as we are so good together, he should think about it and that I am sorry if I was intense, but this was new to me and I like it. Today he started his new job so I took photos of the card I was going to send him and sent them. He replied thanks to me and a red emoji face. My friend said he is the complicated one as I have no children, and give him time, but what do I do? How can he just want to be friends after saying he wants me and sees a future together?
D day I saw him at d bank after years was so happy. Click my picture and it will take you to my Facebook page. You are absolutely correct that men want a woman who they can be sure will be in their corner. It is all in how we treat one and another. As an old boyfriend of mine always told me and as quoted in this song by Rod Stewart,.
Be courageous and be brave. We can only do this by being our best selves and loving ourselves first and foremost…being self-respecting allows us to be respectful of others. And as the song goes on to say, we all as women and young girls have the chance to build a stairway to heaven whether it is with a prince or a vagabond.
Love is out there for all of us if we are only brave enough to trust and be true to our own selves first. I withdrew a bit… and that sparked a reaction!! This was a great article! We had a very long conversation about him wanting to slow down, get to know each other, so on and so forth. A couple weeks ago he mentioned he took his dating profile down and asked about mine in which I had to tell him I took mine down due to 78 messages in one day killing my phone battery. Any advice column written by women would tell me to blow him off and move onto someone who will smother me in attention not that I want that either.
Perhaps he really did want to get to know me as a person first. Thank you very much for sharing this article, it has helped me to understand a lot of things that I missed before when it comes to men, and it will certainly help me with my upcoming relationships! I find this blog very useful and keeps me coming back here to check for new articles!
Do men think women online are just looking to fill a position and are going to take whatever or worse, chase it? Most of the guys I met were among the better profiles on the sites but still, eeekkk! This is incredibly helpful for an older singleton who has been happily divorced for over twenty years. Not looking for a relationship at all but then I met.. Suddenly I feel deep love and want a relationship..
He is knocking sixty too.. I have a busy life so it is me who has to decline some weekends and week day invitations. Then he ruins things by insisting.. I know why I stayed single now! Too confusing and even mature men act like teenage boys! I do feel, deep down we will become a couple as I know all his friends and family and vice versa.. This guy is a bonus not a necessity! Long may it last?!!! I really enjoyed your article. Thank you for the insight!
I have recently found a guy that is everything I was looking for and more He is moving out of state for an amazing job opportunity. He has asked me to join him. We have been dating for a few months. Can u give meant advice on how to go about making this a reality? I would appreciate any and all advice. All the ladies need sincere advice from good men like you: Well nicely written, woman objected as market value, sounds like , we are part selling homes, very superficial, but whatever works for you man I suppose.
Over all I always enjoy reading your articls they are great! Eric, I need some advice on a dating situation. I reconnected with someone from high school and we hit it off. We went out on a date, ended up sleeping together. He is away for work for 2 weeks, which I believe he really is. My question is, what do I do from here? I am really into him and could be in a relationship with him. He told me that he was into me and could date me.
He also told some of his friends who told me. This has helped me more than you know. Alot more men want me too, which is great! I do the same with him. We went running together, climbed a mountain together, and worked out together, etc. Being single is fine too, though. Do you have any advice on this subject?
Also you sound like an extremely intelligent, and incredible man. It takes guts to reveal deep things that you have revealed and for that, you have my respect! I hope your relationship is well too, because you deserve the best! Thank you for everything! Hi Eric and Sabrina, Thank you for your advice! You really helped explain particular traits and made me understand all kinds of men in my life!
I particularly like how you go into great detail and explain how there is a middle ground. Thank you keep up the good work. Hi Eric and Sabrina, good articles?
In fact, these articles helped me understand some traits of men in general i. Eric — great article. Thanks for sharing this info with us. I wish I could sit down with you and pick your brain for awhile. What can we do to have and maintain high market value? Is this based on our looks?
Is that your real pic? I think you are verrrry cuuuuute. And you are honest enough to write about what men really feel like deep down. Not many men would take on this job.
I learnt a lot from reading your articles. Hi Eric, I really like your articles. They are so true and so helpful. Your articles and insights are really helping me to see things in perspective — to better understand past actions helps me to get rid of anger and move towards forgiveness. This is what I need to move on. This is all super helpful and honestly points out several flaws in persuing men. Also i love your format and the context. Means a lot to me.
What if you had dozens of men asking you out even in front of him, you rejected them all and asked him out yourself? I started using your advice on being happy and whole in my own life and putting my own needs first as selfish as that sounds it works. He treats me like a goddess! He told me this morning for the first time that he loves me and I am in awe at how your advice has changed my life forever!
Thanks to Sabrina too! Your articles are absolutely awesome. I found out mostly my commom questions about relationship in real sense since all along im refering it to fairytail endings and it all make me disappointed.
I'm dealing with something right now. I was working in a cruise line industry. As i evaluate my relationship I think I started it in a wrong way. I met a guy in the ship which is my boss. It was very good when it started since he is expressing his feelings to me crystal clear. Since we only got 2 months left to be together I was thinking to cut the courting period short since i want to make some good memories in that minimum of time left for us.
But I think it turns out to be wrong decision. I felt like he is distant and cloudy. But he said he is just not the emotional one. And so much more now since we are in LDR. I broke up with him and remain silent for about 20 days and on that days I have found out what he means about him being unemotional one. I chat to him one hi and everything turns out to be okay.
He said he thought that it was fine for us to communicate miles apart but to be there next to each other is far more better yet doesn't do anything to make it realized his mindset before was its better for us to work in different ship or i will stay in land for work so that he can visit me on his vacation.
But one time I got angry since it take some time for him to reply on my message or more likely suddenly gone in the middle of our chat. And in this moment my eyes were opened. Am I acting needy already? I decided to step back and give us some space. He thinks im breaking up on him and didn't try to correct it. I read about one month no contact rule. I am now in the middle of it.
I dont know what to do next. If I must contact him first after I feel already ready,confident and found self love? Will i still have a chance to have the relationship i want since i started it wrong? And examples on how to make him feel like a winner if he takes pride in is work? They have made me have a different perspective on relationships.
I loved this article btw, made me laugh towards the end the way you suggested that we can re-read it to further analyze it. I was impressed by the simple yet harsh truth we have to face sometimes of having to face putting ourselves together, like how we usually are in the beginning when we are interested in a person or when we are just coincidentally just are good at looking good for ourselves and the other person sees this.
I think its sad how were forced to rest reassured that a person can love us as we are, when in fact everyone loves a little adventure, something different either in our appearance or our behavior.
For example, I like to just relax but if im sitting there impecably gorgeous then that looks like Im preparing for someone to ask me out and curiously enough I have sensed this from the other person so they propose to do something especially in public like dining out, maybe wanting to show us off in front of others, and lets face it.
If we were to go around looking like were lost in a desert for days, the other person would pass up the opportunity to even get close the best we would probably get is to cook for them, or fill in some other common like shore as a maid. And the makeup that has to look flattering yet indulginly natural is a total killer for me sometimes. I wish I could perfect it but the truth is that im not a plain person and i like to experiment.
I feel like im not left with many choices other than to wear possibly elegant but distinctly natural looking falsie lashes with minimal lipstick and I hate that, I have tried the natural look only to look like im about fourteen years old again, however i have managed the like miss makeup doll look somewhat a result of my own ideal effort to integrate a much softer sexy vixen look. Its hard to tell when someone is going to be around to even see it like its been there all along, since the makeup gets tacky thru out the day.
Oh well, I guess well just have to keep at being divas. This is REAL relationship wisdom which empowers women. Not so quick I guess???? Great food and great sex. I realize I was needy. I prefer to be happy alone then unhappy in a relationship. My emotions freaked him out. He said he was communicating with another women.
He told me in the middle of the night while we were in bed. He owned his bad timing in telling me about his possible interest with this other woman. There was so much that we needed to know from each other at least I did. So other day three weeks after we stopped contact he texted me to see if I was safe and taking care I live in Baltimore and there was all the rioting.
I responded back keeping it short and simple…thanks, I am safe. Just wanted your opinion. I really liked him and I can see how I was not my best self. It certainly has inspired me to get myself, my life more together.
Imsges: girl dating guy one year younger
The same thing happened.
We cook for each other and could easily get mistaken for husband and wife. Really nice post Sapphire and lets hope more Swedish women will replay on your post.
Yan Madison wi dating ideas, my whole point was that foreign women generally speaking, of courseunlike Swedish women, ARE able to give and receive affection, meaning that if they come to Sweden they would have a huge advantage over Swedish women. I want to fall in love and be girl dating guy one year younger and I feel ready for it! I guess I was also. I wonder if we humans are to busy finding love, so we miss someone guyy, kind and gentle along the road……. I dont know what to do next.