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We check each entry to make sure it is relatively interesting, not patently offensive, and at least superficially plausible. Some versions of the Bible from differ in a few words here and there. This is not as simple as it seems. While the Bible gives a reason for the action of Abraham in taking Hagar for an additional wife and, in the case of Jacob, for having Rachel as a wife besides Leah, it only proves that polygamy as well as concubinage, with which it was always associated, was among the mores of the ancient Hebrew people Gen. Too often they thought they were in the service of stability, but later found out that was not the case. So why not America?

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Plural marriages would men that a woman would not have to for any man rather than none at all. The man who is kind, considerate and caring, gentle and loving is the man who will attract women to his household. Women will want to be with him. Plural marriages mean that if a woman could share a husband, her chances are better of getting a good one. This is not for everyone.

No more than any religion or belief is for everyone. Society has an interest in promoting monogamy. Prevention of sexually transmitted diseases is one. Stable monogamous relationships in saving, acquisition of property and personal economic growth. Stable-long term relationships also contribute to health and longevity.

It is a system of developing family, not just the bringing together of a man and woman. Martin Luther and Malechethon both were approached by the German Prince who wished to have a second wife, the first wife was in agreement as were both of the parents.

Both Luther and his associates agreed that polygamy was not against the Christian religion and that plural marriage was better than adultery, which was a common practice of the nobility of the day has anything changed , and so the approved and the prince was married to the second wife. When the secret marriage was discovered Luther proposed a good strong lie! An entire German community in Muenster called the Annabaptist was burned to the ground occupied by the Annabaptist who were practicing polygamy as a community, for no other reason than they were practicing polygamy.

For ten years a man could take more than one wife. Is polygamy a dead issue. In Asia, mistresses have largely replaced concubines because men found it better for themselves. Mistresses have fewer rights than formally recognized concubines.

Why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free? A typical male response to such a situation. It costs less to keep a mistress because they are not legally or openly recognized as in the more formal concubine tradition. The Bible recognized them as wives before a solemn covenant with God and protected their rights. Concubines were protected under Mosaic Law, Exodus Concubinage was legally sanctioned and socially accepted in ancient cultures although they were not entitled to the same rights as a wife.

American divorce courts show that monogamy does very well at promoting and producing sinful behavior and carnal problems between mates and the parents in law. The problem is still sin and the flesh, not monogamy of polygamy. The plight of most wives and mistresses and concubines are worse now than when polygamy were legal because then at least they had some security and commitment from their mates even if they took additional wives, while they are now dumped when a man takes a new wife or mistress.

The women have a choice to live as single widows risking hardship in war ravaged countries with no protection against sexual attack by roving homeless males. Or, they can become the wives or concubines of one of the few surviving stable and working males coming under the umbrella of a family and having the protection of not living alone.

Black inner city ghettos are facing the same critical shortage of marriageable males. Approximately 1 out of every 25 black males is in prison. There are more females available for marriage than there are black males. The vast majority of black males in prison range in age from with most in tin the age group. Most of these men will return to prison within a short time after they are released.

Obviously, this means that there is a startling shortage of marriageable black men during their most productive years due to imprisonment or death. Homicide is the number one killer of African American youth between the ages of One out of every black people is dying of AIDs.

Only murder takes a higher toll on young black men. The third highest rate is abortion. More babies are being aborted. The black population has increased very little since in the last 20 years. This all means that a significant number of Black males are unavailable for marriage or parenting during their most productive years.

Black women are not sought by other races for wives. Even black men have shunned them. This leaves a large number of black females of marriageable age with no suitable male available and help raise children. Young black females with affectionate and passionate needs do not have enough suitable males for monogamous marriages so that leaves the frustration, promiscuity, lesbianism or bisexuality.

In America bigamy and polygamy are illegal. Should such an option be made available? This is not the first time this idea has been approached. There seems to be a genuine shortage of men who are filled with the desire to get married and provide stable homes for their families and wives. The number of black men seeking to marry has drooped drastically as the number of women available has increased.

There is a sever gender crisis in the black community. One of out every twenty black males may die before the age of twenty-one. For those years of age, homicide is the leading cause of death.

Besides, many young black males are unemployed, in jail, or on dope. As a result at age 40 , one in four black women have never married. Usually the wives are unaware that other women are sharing their husband. Of course, this is one of the biggest problems is the secrecy and hidden. An answer could be consensus polygamy where it was agreed upon by all parties and acceptable to the community.

Of course the rules governing such liaisons would be tremendous but it could offer a temporary solution. Men will suffer in the long run because the more capable and more desirable will be the beneficiaries of such an arrangement.

Women of less than desirable traits will also, Suffer. What chance will a woman will multiple children have of join one of these families. What about men who are unemployed or under employed? What chance will they have? There are many reforms needed throughout the country to make this marriage lottery and family stability work out.

Polygamy is not the answer but neither is monogamy in its present state. Currently, it is Joanne. For both men and women. There will also be other groups who could benefit such as the elderly and others.

Even evangelist Billy Graham has recognized some of the benefit and the moral hypocrisy of American culture. If present day Christianity cannot do so, it is to its own detriment. Islam has permitted polygamy as a solution to social ills and has allowed a certain degree of latitude to human nature but only within the strictly defined framework of the law.

Christian countries make a great show of monogamy, but they actually practice polygamy. No one is unaware of the part the mistresses play in Western society. In this respect Islam is a fundamentally honest religion, and permits a Muslim to marry a second wife if he must, but strictly forbids all clandestine amatory associations in order to safeguard the moral probity of the community. In Islam, the regulations concerning polygamy limit the number of wives a man can have while making him responsible for all the women involved.

That will be more suitable, to prevent you from doing injustice. It is interesting to note that many countries, Muslim and non Muslim, have outlawed polygamy. Taking a second wife even whit the permission of the first wife is a violation of the law. However, cheating on the wife without her knowledge or consent is perfectly legitimate as far as the law is concerned. Martin Madan, who wrote a three volume work called Thelyphthora in and it contains practically every argument that can be made in favor of Old Testament polygamy.

Or, in other words if the Jew took as many as he could maintain, the Christian ruins as many as he can debauch. We may boast of our marriage and condemn polygamy, but there is not a nation under heaven where polygamy is more openly practiced than in this Christian country, for, though a man may marry but one at a time, he may have as great a variety as he pleases without ever marrying all.

To punish a poor deserted creature for being a prostitute, when it is put out of her power to force her seducer to provide for her as the divine law enjoins, is equally cruel and foolish, not very unlike the man who threw his child into a ditch and then beat him for being dirty. Find all posts by Amun-Ra. In any society where the amount of available women exceeds the number of available men…. A lifetime of solitude, becoming a single parent, or homosexuality are not heathly alternatives. Polygamy does not go against the mores of Christianity as you stated , it goes against the mores of Western civilization.

This culture has not been to the benefit of black people. Although it may not be for everyone, we should reconsider the benefit of polygamous relationships, they can help to re-establish the black family. This is one of those subjects that requires checking your emotions at the door or there will never be a discussion. However, that said, the case for polygamy is strong even though I doubt it would bear much weight once religion weighs in even though there is nothing in most religions that forbid it.

There are too many misperceptions about polygamy. Beside the opinion that it goes against Christianity….. Indeed a black female journalist Michelle Mitchell-Chicago SunTimes wrote an article about black men in Chicago engaging in polygamous relationship, and how these relationships hurt black women. However, what the author described was cheating….. These were not voluntary relationship, but a man convincing a woman he was committed to her….

I wrote a rebuttal to the author, informing her what polygamy is she never responded. Originally Posted by Amun-Ra This is one of those subjects that requires checking your emotions at the door or there will never be a discussion. Since coming to the forums, this is the topic that has had the greatest impact on me. These types of discussions have caused me to pause and take note of my beliefs, emotions, morals, values and opinions.

When I arrived here, my views were primarily limited to and corralled within modern day western thought. I never considered the historical perspective on the subject nor gave much thought to the pros and cons it might have for our people today. My view now is that polygamy has nothing to do with infidelity or sexual promiscuity. But what law would people be breaking if they chose this lifestyle as opposed to a monogamous one? None that I can see. Originally Posted by NNQueen Since coming to the forums, this is the topic that has had the greatest impact on me.

I think there is going to come a time in the not so distant future where everyone is going to re-evaluate their opinions on polygamy. Mormons in Utah are already in the process of changing the law on this in response to gay marriage. In the Bible, Koran and many other texts there are laws for dealing with more than one wife and all the laws favor the wives in seeing that each is treated fairly and not neglected.

Most men would run from this situation because it requires serious commitment, an ability to provide that is beyond normal, and truthfulness. Panafrica and NNQueen you both nail it. This is not a job for a weak man. It is a job for a strong man who understands commitment. The sexual favors in the polygamous relationship are inflamed by western thinking. Each women is to be treated with respect and has her own time with the husband during witch he must not give her any less attention than any of the other wives.

He cannot play favorites. What happens when he somehow manages to anger three woman at once? Where does he go. He does he turn to for comfort? Just an idea, but sex is a small part of the polygamous relationship. It is more about commitment, responsibility and providing equally. In the black community such an idea is not without merit, but it would require dropping some westernized thinking.

Polygamy as PanAfrica rightly points out, is not having several women on the side. It is about being married to several women and all that implies, such as fidelity, care, love and protection but for more than one women and equally. Western thinking make men and women chattel like horses and cows.

We belong to each other and there is that sense of ownership, but in a polygamous relationship it is sharing and its is haring with love which may be the hardest thing anyone could ever do.

This tgype of relationship is not for weak-kneed men, or cheaters. This requires real men with a commitment to family and providing. That right there would be enough to make many men and women run. Where the Niger meets the Nile Posts: This all looks good on paper but without a major radical social change your last sentence holds a significant amount of truth.

How many men do you think would be open to such an idea? Americans are that crazy. Widespread acceptance of polygamy will require a total restructuring of our economic system which would make it possible for a man to provide for all these women and there college bound children equally.

Even if all the women work there must still be a strict distribution of the finances so that no one feels she or he is being called to subsidize the lifestyles of all or some of the others.

This is not to say that the problems of trying to get along with all those people are insurmountable but they are much more complicated than two people learning to cohabitate which is already difficult. I would suggest that we learn to deal better with the problems we have now rather than look to something far more complex as if it were a solution. Africation Open a door in your mind. See what your brothas and sistas are doing in the worldwide African diaspora.

Learn about the cultural traditions of Black folks around the world. Ebony Botunde A place to share and receive healing for spiritual wounds That which does not kill me makes me stronger, but that which kills me does not destroy my strength. I take it with me as I go forth by day. Find all posts by river. While it may be true that the Bible makes precepts regarding polygamy it does the same for divorce. Yet, as Jesus said, from the beginning it was not so. The Bible does not say for this cause shall a man leave his mother and father and cleave to his wives.

But to his wife and they TWO shall become one. Three people cannot become one. What God has set forth cannot be set aside by social expediencies. But like everything else in life we rationalize tell ourselves rationale lies to make morality and common sense fit our desires. In truth intimacy cannot develop in a crowd. There are no social problems in marriage or family that can be resolved by polygamy.

We like to think that if we change the social structure the people will also change. But if you have the same corrupt selfish backbiting neurotic people as you had in the old structure the new structure will have all the same problems plus some of its own. Every social structure looks good on paper.

Find all posts by river , And as much as we talk about it the harsh reality of who we are and how we live and think today makes me feel that it would take some psychological help which I think most of us need anyway and a real sense of self and political consciousness to make it work in this society.

I think it is one of the ways for human beings to come together and not be and or die alone.. The systems and structures that we have now started out as ideals. Until we are mature enough to face the harsh realities and deal with them we will always be starting over like this like someone who marries and divorces over and over without ever recognizing the role they play in their own life.

They do this sometimes and the resilt is disease and dysfunction. Yes, we are individuals but that does not mean our actions have no impact on others beyond them minding their business. The conseequences do affect others so why should we expect people to just be quiet and leve us alone?

No one lives in a vaccuum on another planet by themselves where nothing they do has any consequences that could affect other people.

Certainly the consequences outlined above affect more than just the people involved. They do this sometimes and the result is disease and dysfunction. The consequences do affect others so why should we expect people to just be quiet and leave us alone? No one lives in a vacuum on another planet by themselves where nothing they do has any consequences that could affect other people. In this country for any of this too take place would require so much restructuring and reeducation that none of us would be here to see it.

Of course, another answer to the problem is to be committed to the women and men we have, slow the number of babies born without the benefit of a second parent or start looking elsewhere for men and women.

Originally Posted by jamesfrmphilly since what one does affects other people, the other people have the right to tell one what to do? You have the right to respond to what I write and express your disagreement. No one has the right to go through life without criticism. Originally Posted by Amun-Ra In this country for any of this too take place would require so much restructuring and reeducation that none of us would be here to see it. And you see the solutions to the problems we have.

I agree with you that the ideal of polygamy is one that could only be brought to manifestation by strong men. My question is if we had a significant number of strong men would we have the problems that we have today? How can we strengthen the men? You are asking for it Pan my man. The Bible says a woman can reduce a man to a crust of bread. What can two women do? PMS twice a month or two womanh going through it simultaneously in the same house.

This is not your vaccuum cleaner girlie. You spend it all on her! This is becoming a reality ladies in more American households white, latino, and black , whether or not we want believe it.

Polygamy has both its benefits, and downfalls…as does any other relationship. However at a time when relationships are rapidly being redefined like Homosexual marriage …polygamy will also be re-examined. Originally Posted by deepy brother panafrica i had to sign back into respond to you…what are you talking about.?

If that was a joke, I sure did misunderstand it. You mean you thought I was serious? It never occured to me that you would take my post as serious. This is because we are reading words without the benefit of voice. Of course it is only human to inject into those words whatever we are already feeling when we come to them. Pan, you know you my boy so go back and read my post and laugh dagnabbit.

Let me add this though sister River: Even though I knew you were joking, the situationd you described would be an issue between a man juggling two girlfriends.

Originally Posted by panafrica Let me add this though sister River: Two women in the same house would probably fall out over even smaller things because the things they are falling out over are not what the real issue is.

In America we have this idea that a wife is supposed to be the woman of the house just like a husband is the man of his house. To ask a woman to share or abdicate this role is just like asking you to give up the kingship in your own home. You may be able to get a woman to give mental assent to the idea that sharing her crown is the intelligent and mature thing to do but something in the back of her mind will still rebel and these little petty issues will crop up as expressions of her disatisfaction.

I have been in this situation trying to one big happy family with my sister and her husband and kids after living fifteen years on my own. Being married to the same man is not going to make a difference. All we have really established is that polygamy would not be the right lifestyle for you Sister River, and this is your right.

This lifestyle certainly should not be forced on those who are unwilling, and unable to practice it. Indeed, I can only afford to take care of myself, my wife, and my daughter. In a true polygamous marriage two different women would have two different houses. Therefore being in each others hair would not be an issue.

Because I am a Christian the pracaticality of a thing is not the litmus test for whether or not it should be done. As I pointed out hefore just because God allows people in the Bible to do certain things does not mean they are within His will. His will is that a man leave his mother and father and cleave to his wife and they TWO shall become one flesh.

Three people cannot become one as a man runs from house to house. For many marriage is just a legal, practicall and financial contract that can be designed and redesigned anyway they want without any regard for how God designed it to be. I cannot speak for them. But I do speak to the people of God who might be led to think that polygamy is okay with Him.

Pan, if we are talking about having polygamy in the west then we must see it through the eyes of the west because it will not work for us the same way it works for the east. The biggest assumption proponents of polygamy make is that it will be about one man having more than one wife. God clearly permits men to have more than one wife.

But that is not His perfect will. Polygamy is not the way God planned things from the beginning. Reality is there is precious little in this world that is as God planned it from the beginning. So He permits some things like divorce and polygamy as responses to our realities. Your efforts to stimulate our thoughts are much appreciated, Ra. These are the kinds of activities my father enged me in when I was a child. As a result I think very deeply—questioning not only the answers but often questioning the questions.

Of course we all come to any discussion or argument with a heuristic paradigm based on our the knowledge and experiences that we bring to the table. Give me five pennies. Originally Posted by panafrica It is the reality that I deal with at all times. Then I would like you to address some of the realities of polygamy in the west that I brought up, i.

Also how do three people become one? Originally Posted by river Then I would like you to address some of the realities of polygamy in the west that I brought up, i. Multiple husbands is not polygamy, it is polandry mispell. However one of the conditions that makes polygamy necessary, and preferable is a greater amount of available women than available men. Women in America across all races outnumber men more than 2 to 1.

In this case, the multiple husbands would be acceptable. The reality of the American sex ratio amoung single people is: It is numerically impossible for every woman in America to find a husband, because women outnumber men. Ironically most American women who are against polygamy, base their objections on a belief it is anti-Christian. Yet millions of supposedly Christian women choose these paths instead of considering polygamy.

When this reality sinks in…I think more women will believe so too. Oh Pan, I feel like I just passed up a good thing. Five minutes ago a very nice man with a good job and a good reputation in the comunity told me to call him if I was just sitting here in my apartment with nothing to do. I smiled sweetly and said yes then you and Wendy his wife can come and keep me company.

Maybe I shoulda taken him up on it. Daddy, it has nothing to do with logic. In this little one-horse southern town where most of the woman have to iron their pants in the driveway I could easily have as many men as I want because they look at me and fall all over themselvles like they never seen a woman before.

If I was the kind of woman to do that I would care less for logic or if other women had any man. This argument is very academic. It looks good on paper. In its ideal form polygamy is logical. Originally Posted by river This argument is very academic. I am not talking about being his concubine…his mistress…his jumpoff in more recent terms. I know, Pan and I wish it could be a reality. I wish the ideal could work.

I guess I just know the western mind too well to see that ideal being reached here. This is the scene: You and Ra present all your arguments to the supreme court and the nine say yes you are right.

This is logical and it will solve a lot of problems. Then state by state it becomes legal and accepted for a man to have more than one wife. Then the feminists jump up and…No wait! You take the prize in this debate.

Originally Posted by river I know, Pan and I wish it could be a reality. Anyone who grew up in Western Society is going to struggle with this idea. As a man who is in a monogamous relationship with his wife and content …I wish that every man and woman could have the same. However, I know this to be numerically impossible because there are at least twice as many women as there are men.

Match up every man in the world with a woman, and there would still be hundreds of millions of women by themselves…. If 20 people attend a function with only 10 dinners, some are going to have to share, if everyone is going to eat.

Trying to deny the obvious only brings frustration. And yet most people do not approach love from a logical standpoint. Even the ideal lover Prince Charming had three wives: Snow White, Cinderella and Sleeping Beauty. Still they lived happily ever after as far as I know. This discussion of polygamy is likened to someone trying to put on a new dress over some funky dirty underwear. The dress might look good, but you still nasty.

I think it was stated clearly in the very beginning of this thread and in the threads downstairs where this topic is heavily discussed, that you literally have to undergo a total cleansing, if you will—a separation and deprogramming of what you currently know in order to fully to grasp the potential value that such a different type of relationship might have on individuals and society as a whole.

Polygamy means more than that and if it was ever accepted as a lifestyle, it too would be conformed to modern conditions to support the people involved. That is one perfect example of how society shifts in terms of what it believes in and will allow. So to really debate this topic and give it fair consideration, you must compare apples with apples and not apples with oranges. Alkebulantaazar Black Relationships 93 Destee Powered by vBulletin Version 3. By Lee Tyler P. Box , El Centro, CA oldservant8 yahoo.

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She is sooooo soft and firm, so full of life! We look into each others eyes, hers sparkling—-we look long and deep—and then a cloud of uncertainty, self-doubt, personal fears, and haunting memories moves across her face and the lovely pools of her eyes are troubled. I kiss her passionately and hold her ever so close, wishing I could pull right into my heart and soul. I look again and the cloud has passed and her face is radiant. We two as one set out together to face and deal with our world.

She lives and is loved in the deepest depths of my soul and my mind is filled with wonderful memories of her and us—and my heart rejoices. Your ointments smell sweetly; Your name is an ointment poured forth: Therefore do the virgins love you. Draw me [to you],. They made me keeper of the vineyards; Mine own vineyard have I not kept. It was and the Black women living in Bosnia, Rawanda, Somalia, Sri Lanka, Cambodia and in Black inner city ghettos are all facing the same critical shortage of marriagable males in a patriarchal society where most of them want no part of lesbianism.

Approximately 1 out of every 25 black males is in prison; 2. Between prison and death, there are significantly more Black females available for marriage than Black males; 3. The vast majority of the Black males in prison range in age from 20 — 40, with most in the age group; 4. Most of the imprisoned Black males will return to prison. This means a very significant number of Black males are unavailable for marriage or parenting their children during the normally most productive years due to imprisonment or death.

The AIDS virus is currently responsible for approximately on third of all deaths of all deaths of Black men aged 25 to 44, and for approximately one fifth of deaths of Black females aged 25 to 44, according to the CDC.

The second major killer of Blacks in America, especially the males, is Black-on-Black homicide. According to Beverly LaHaye of Concerned Women for America, the original founder of Planned Parenthood had as her original purpose the use of government funded abortion to keep the minority populations small, especially the Black population.

Tragically all of the facts cited above AIDS, Gangs, drugs, abortion mean that Blacks are killing more Blacks per year now than the number of Blacks killed by Caucasian bigots and the KKK during any one year from to , to the delight of the bigots. In , according to the census bureau, Blacks accounted for More than a fourth of the Black population just dropped off the census charts during that time and the Black community has never made it back up to Not much chance given the present circumstances.

This results in significantly more Black females than males being available for marriage and parenting children, many of whom are single parents raising a family without a present or stable father figure. We still live in a racist society 20 years after the death of M. Black females are not sought for as wives by a significant number of Black males and non-Black males in America. This leaves a significant number of marriagable Black females with no suitable male to marry and help raise their children.

Normal young, Black females with affectionate and passionate needs do not have enough suitable and marriageable males for monogynous marriages so that leaves neurotic frustration, celibacy, promiscuity, lesbianism or bisexuality for many Black women. Through ignorance, bigotry, fear of society, and bad taste the wonderful grace, beauty, deliciousness, elegance, wit, strength, charm and intelligence of most Black women is NOT appropriately esteemed or appreciated by most American males, so you do not find most white, Hispanic, Asian or Jewish males seeking Black women as wives.

Most white, Hispanic, Asian or Jewish males would seek white, or Hispanic, or Asian, or Jewish wives before they would consider seeking a Black wife. Black women are, for the society as a whole, seen a lovers and sex objects far more than they are seen as wives and mothers. Take them to bed but never bring one home for dinner! Many single Black mother on welfare would rather have her own independent welfare income with independence from males, rather than have a man around who could mess up her dependable welfare check.

Lastly, many single Black mothers never learned at home or in the community how fragile the male ego is, and the last thing they want to do is to show a Black male honor and respect as the man of the their house.

Many Black mothers, bitter and resentful towards the men in their lives who they feel have wronged them, with barbed tongues shred the souls of their men, dominate them, belittle them etc.

Of course the verbally inferior Black male responds to her superior verbal violence with his superior physical and inferior verbal violence. What about that whole generation who grew up without a positive and nurturing dad? They learned that men were not, therefore are not, necessary to raising a family—-or at least to surviving as a family.

They grow into men who believe that they are not necessary to the women in their lives and act accordingly, some even turning from women to men to feel needed and desired, homosexuality.

They seem to be afraid that if they do this it will be taken as a sign of weakness and make it harder for them to control this little man of theirs.

Many learned from their single mothers that sex outside of marriage is the norm——that personal freedom and love- without-commitment is better than love with commitment to and responsibility for a marital relationship. So what role model did they have? The uncommitted, irresponsible, selfish, self-centered transient lover-boys that many of their mothers accepted. What motivation would such a male have to feel morally and financially responsible for his women or his children?

Is there any hope? Some suggest finding support groups churches, fellowships, 12 step etc. Some find significant help from counselors. There is another substitute, another option. Two single moms who also are the best and dearest of friends Women are so much better than men at building successful relationships! If they are both working even if only part time , or receiving child support or welfare, this dramatically reduces their cost of living, enables them to divide up the household chores, enables them to have more relaxed time with the kids for parenting, enables them to give each other breaks from the care of the kids, gives them a helper if they are temporarily disabled by illness, gives them an adult companion with whom they can share their trials and joys Women are such good listeners!

The savings and efficiencies are increased if three or more such single moms move into a larger dwelling with their families. Many misunderstanding can be avoided if the single moms involved sit down together first and reinforce their commitments to the shared living arrangement by drawing up, having signed and witnessed a contract that clearly spells out each others responsibilities, privileges and accountability in the arrangement.

Of course the down side of this is that they are sexual and affectionate beings who will need to hug, hold and touch each other, basic human needs. The danger of them becoming lesbians or bisexual is greatly increased, and a factor with which they must deal and recognize if they choose to join forces in their struggle with life, family and work.

Sometimes these substitutes work, but many times they are just better than nothing. There are other ways of solving this problem where there is lifetime commitment both for the parents and for their children. There may be some value, some lessons to be learned, some ideas worth considering in an anthropological consideration of how other people in other cultures and countries deal with this shortage of men who are interested in and willing to seriously and effectively commit to marriage.

There is the Moslem solution. Several times in recent years the subject of marriage was brought up in the International Shura Consultative Assembly of the Ahmadiyya Muslim Community. The reason was that most Communities faced the problem of having a surplus of girls unable to find husbands. During the Assembly the Head of the worldwide Ahmadiyya Muslim Community had inquired from various delegates whether this problem existed in their local communities.

All representatives had to agree, with the exception of the African representatives. As Polygamy is practiced in Africa the communities there did not face any problems in this respect. Polygamy was in part the cause of the large size of the Hebrew household; in part the cause of it may be found in the insecurity of early times, when safety lay in numbers. Polygyny and bigamy were recognized features of the family life. From the Oriental point of view there was nothing immoral in the practice of polygamy.

The female slaves were in every respect the property of their master and became his concubines; except in certain cases,when they seem to have belonged exclusively to their mistress. In the patriarchal age polygamy is regarded as an unquestioned custom. While the Bible gives a reason for the action of Abraham in taking Hagar for an additional wife and, in the case of Jacob, for having Rachel as a wife besides Leah, it only proves that polygamy as well as concubinage, with which it was always associated, was among the mores of the ancient Hebrew people Gen.

Then there is the Christian version of this solution, with Martin Luter as its spokesman. From this noninterference attitude Luther, as late as the 16th cent. If a man wishes to marry more than one wife, he should be asked whether he is satisfied in his conscience that he may do so in accordance with the word of God. In such a case, the civil authority has nothing to do in such a matter.

And he did so with the sanction of the Fathers of the Reformation. Protestant historians have never recovered from the shock. The only effective answer would have been that polygamy is condemned by Christian doctrine. But this was a stand that Luther and his colleagues never took — and for very good reasons. They themselves did not believe that polygamy was against divine or natural law.

So why not America? In America, bigamy and polygyny are illegal. The kids of the single mom get a committed and already successful father figure, and the single mom gets a husband with whom she can soul-bond and count on, plus she gets to see her best friend a whole lot more. Real love can overcome jealousy and envy, if they selflessly work at the marriage, as you would have to in any marriage. A compassionately cherishing husband, who consistently compassionately cherishes his own wife, thus making her very secure with him, should be able to come to his compassionate and generous wife and ask her to thoughtfully consider such a controversial proposal as the following: I believe that the conditions in our own family would allow us to be of considerable help to her in her crisis.

Please think about us accepting her and her kids as part of our family, with me as father-figure to her kids, with me as husband to her and her as concubine to me—-with lifelong commitments for the sake of both her and her children. It would take a very secure wife to share her husband, but compassion has moved people to heroic and selfless actions throughout history. The real needs of the fatherless children would be met. The real needs of an adult female would be met, who had been sexually loved and who may have a genuine sexual appetite with no one to meet it in a context of soul- bonding, commitment and genuine caring about her as a whole person.

My Black play-sister Elaine told me the easiest thing to get, for her as a Black female, is a hard dick and a panting male. I asked how easy it was to find a male who would commit maritally and honorably to her and her well being, for life.

She got real quiet and acknowledged how rare it was to find such an honorable man. Given the choices of no sex, lesbianism, sex without commitment and polygyny, she said it was something to seriously consider. It is understood and admitted that such a kind, unselfish and generous Spirit is possible only in and by the Lord. Broad is the way that leads to family self-destruction and many there be that go that way; but narrow is the way to family-salvation and a remnant few that are willing to do almost anything to save their children especially their sons , their moral integrity and their feminine virtue will make the hard decisions necessary.

Some will find other ways support groups, counseling, a benevolent male friend to be the firm but loving and supportive mothers they need to be, a few will be open to the polygyny option, whether Christian, Jew or Moslem.

This has greatly undermined the role and status of women in the Third World countries to the advantage of men and the disadvantage of women. Many of the polygynous wives in China, SE Asia, India and Africa were either dumped and and abandoned with their children, or they were reduced to the status of mistresses, who have no legal rights for themselves or their children. All things [including polygyny] indeed are pure; but it is evil to that woman who [becomes polygynous] while stumbling [in sin] because of her doubts about its rightness.

Have that conviction to yourself before God. Blessed is the one who does not judge oneself in what [belief or practice of polygyny] one allows [with a firm and convinced faith in its rightness]. Polygamy is great for women because: When Jesus had finished saying these things, he left Galilee and went into the region of Judea to the other side of the Jordan. Large crowds followed him, and he healed them there.

Some Pharisees came to him to test him. So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate. But it was not this way from the beginning. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery.

For some are eunuchs because they were born that way; others were made that way by men; and others have renounced marriage because of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it.

In the above verses, we see that Jesus was approached with a question about whether or not it is allowed for a man to divorce his wife in Matthew Jesus immediately referred to the Old Testament for the answer in Matthew He referred to Adam and Eve, one man and one woman. The Old Testament does talk about the story of Adam and Eve as one husband and one wife.

However, the Old Testament which Jesus had referred to in Matthew Also, when a man becomes a one flesh with his wife in Matthew He can be one flesh with his first wife, and one flesh with his second wife, and one flesh with his third wife and so on….

To further prove this point, let us look at the following from the New Testament:. That same day the Sadducees, who say there is no resurrection, came to him with a question. Now there were seven brothers among us. The first one married and died, and since he had no children, he left his wife to his brother. The same thing happened to the second and third brother, right on down to the seventh. Finally, the woman died. Now then, at the resurrection, whose wife will she be of the seven, since all of them were married to her?

At the resurrection people will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven. But about the resurrection of the dead—have you not read what God said to you, He is not the God of the dead but of the living. When the Jews brought this situation up to Jesus in Matthew Instead, Jesus replied to them by saying that we do not marry in heaven, and we will be like angels in heaven Matthew A man can be one flesh with more than one woman.

In the case of Matthew Also keep in mind that Exodus I also advocated for some honest and open discussions about sex, or we may find ourselves in a quagmire filled with less love and more deviant sex, less commitment and more pain, less fulfilling sex and more aberrant sexual behavior.

The problem is that following the so-called sexual revolution, many Americans now hold some strange ideas about sex. For some, free love has exacted the price of disease, relationship discord, emotional dissonance and sexual dysfunction.

For others, free love has resulted in unwanted or unplanned children, unwanted abortions and reproductive dysfunction.

While there are some human beings who are living for the sexual connection based on other forms of attraction, far too many people, particularly in the United States persist with the pursuit of free love, even while paying the high price often exacted. Some people, while not necessarily advocating free love, are all for experiencing sex with multiple partners, even advocating the avoidance of virginal marriages in favor of sexual experience with other partners prior to a life commitment.

Yet, there are still others believe that humans were made to find one mate and mate for life. In America, the standard is allegedly monogamy, or at least that is the company line that many of us claim to hold near and dear. The struggle with monogamy comes because much like many beliefs that Americans hold, most of the holders have no clue as to the origin of the belief.

Monogamy as we know it is a relatively new concept in the human continuum. It is steeped in religious traditions, but not in the origins of any actual religion. We know that in Islamic societies, a man may have many wives as long as he can support them. But what some may not know is that the same was once in place within Christianity. In fact, at one time, even Catholic priests could marry and have children, although their children could not inherit church assets. Well, those of us who know history, know that God did not hand down any edict to alter the directives of the church.

Changes came in the fourth century under Emperor Constantine, when the church became the Roman Catholic Church as he bridged the Empire of Rome to the Church of Rome, appointed himself Pope and began to organize the church. Christianity was strongly and aggressively propagated from the Roman Empire into the West and from the West into the rest of the world and thus came to be known as a Western religion.

We know that the world was redefined based on Western supremacy, so when we speak of monogamy, it should be noted that the Romans were notoriously monogamous. It should also be noted that the average Roman enjoyed little marital bliss or worldly pleasures. It is called asceticism; the paganistic teaching that to be spiritual is to be poor.

Under such teachings, sex and all other human passions have to be denied for the highest fulfillment. This distorted view of human passions and sexuality tortured the souls of those who wanted to be spiritual, but who still wanted to embrace certain pleasures of the flesh and of the world. And, this view became the foundation for other propaganda surrounding holiness and marriage forms in the growing Christian world.

In addition to the proliferation of monogamy, celibacy was propagated as the new standard of high attainment in holiness. Sex was viewed as unclean and sinful, so accordingly, marriage was viewed as a necessary evil to guard against fornication. Based on those views, monks and nuns were considered holier and closer to God than anybody else. The view of marriage continued to evolve.

Since it was considered strictly an activity of the flesh, it was touted to be avoided by those seeking spirituality, which lead to priests being mandated into celibacy.

Monogamy became an acceptable pursuit for those less spiritual and polygamy was condemned as an abomination. These views and resulting laws emerged during a time when Greek philosophy and Roman politics ruled the Church and the Church ruled the land, but contemporary Christianity is still very much Romanized where monogamy is the law rather than being Hebraic in nature where polygamy was viewed as acceptable in the sight of God and man.

So, if we know that the majority of the world practices polygamy and that monogamy is a relatively new concept, why does the average American believe that monogamy is and has always been the most popular lifestyle? The easy answer is that the popularization of monogamy is tied directly to the Western Feminist movement, which has been influencing society for more than two centuries. In fact, polygamy continued to be openly practiced in the last two centuries in Non-Western countries, and today, is still practiced in some Western societies.

Yet, in America, we still have advocates of monogamy claiming that such a lifestyle is the only path to spirituality and happiness. But we would have a hard time telling that to polygamous societies, which are the most numerous in the world. According to a worldwide ethnographic survey of human societies, had customs that were polygamous more than 1 wife , 4 had customs viewed as polyandrous more than 1 husband and had monogamous customs.

Other than the religious and supremacy factors, there can be a few other reasons for this. Quite frankly, the practice of polygamy, whether you agree with it or not, actually works for most of the world. And, if we look at the dwindling marriage rate, it would appear that monogamy is on the decline. Whether a society of individuals make choices to be monogamous or polygamous, politics should be removed so that the people can decide which is best without viewing one or the other as sinful or wrong.

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Polygamy is a very ancient practice found in many human societies. The Bible did not condemn polygamy. To the contrary, the Old Testament and Rabbinic writings frequently attest to the legality of polygamy. King Solomon is said to have had wives and concubines 1 Kings The Old Testament does have some injunctions on how to distribute the property of a man among his sons from different wives Deut. The Talmud advises a maximum of four wives.

Oriental Jews regularly practiced polygamy until they arrived in Israel where it is forbidden under civil law. However, under religious law which overrides civil law in such cases, it is permissible.

What about the New Testament? Father Hillman stresses the fact that the Church in Rome banned polygamy in order to conform to the Greco-Roman culture which prescribed only one legal wife while tolerating concubinage and prostitution.

The Quran, contrary to the Bible, limited the maximum number of wives to four under the strict condition of treating the wives equally and justly.

It should not be understood that the Quran is exhorting the believers to practice polygamy, or that polygamy is considered as an ideal. Why is polygamy permissible? The answer is simple: As the above Quranic verse indicates, the issue of polygamy in Islam cannot be understood apart from community obligations towards orphans and widows.

Islam as a universal religion suitable for all places and all times could not ignore these compelling obligations. In most human societies, females outnumber males. In a country like Guinea there are females for every males.

In Tanzania, there are There are various solutions, some might suggest celibacy, others would prefer female infanticide which does happen in some societies in the world today! Others may think the only outlet is that the society should tolerate all manners of sexual permissiveness: For other societies , like most African societies today, the most honorable outlet is to allow polygamous marriage as a culturally accepted and socially respected institution.

For example, many young African brides , whether Christians or Muslims or otherwise, would prefer to marry a married man who has already proved himself to be a responsible husband. Many African wives urge their husbands to get a second wife so that they do not feel lonely.

Only 23 percent expressed anger at the idea of sharing with another wife. Seventy-six percent of the women in a survey conducted in Kenya viewed polygamy positively. In a survey undertaken in rural Kenya, 25 out of 27 women considered polygamy to be better than monogamy. These women felt polygamy can be a happy and beneficial experience if the co-wives cooperate with each other.

One of them, who lives in the U. The problem of the unbalanced sex ratios becomes truly problematic at times of war. Native American Indian tribes used to suffer highly unbalanced sex ratios after wartime losses. Women in these tribes, who in fact enjoyed a fairly high status, accepted polygamy as the best protection against indulgence in indecent activities. There were men aged 20 to 30 for every women in that age group. Many young girls and widows had liaisons with members of the occupying forces.

Many American and British soldiers paid for their pleasures in cigarettes, chocolate, and bread. Children were overjoyed at the gifts these strangers brought. What is more dignifying to a woman? In other words, what is more dignifying to a woman, the Quranic prescription or the theology based on the culture of the Roman Empire?

It is interesting to note that in an international youth conference held in Munich in the problem of the highly unbalanced sex ratio in Germany was discussed. When it became clear that no solution could be agreed upon, some participants suggested polygamy. The initial reaction of the gathering was a mixture of shock and disgust. However, after a careful study of the proposal, the participants agreed that it was the only possible solution.

Consequently, polygamy was included among the conference final recommendations. The world today possesses more weapons of mass destruction than ever before and the European churches might, sooner or later, be obliged to accept polygamy as the only way out.

Then contrary to previous custom and law, an overriding natural and moral inclination might arise in favour of polygamy. In such a situation, theologians and church leaders would quickly produce weighty reasons and biblical texts to justify a new conception of marriage. To the present day, polygamy continues to be a viable solution to some of the social ills of modern societies.

The communal obligations that the Quran mentions in association with the permission of polygamy are more visible at present in some Western societies than in Africa.

For example, In the United States today, there is a severe gender crisis in the black community. One out of every twenty young black males may die before reaching the age of For those between 20 and 35 years of age, homicide is the leading cause of death. Some observers of the crisis of man-sharing in the African American community strongly recommend consensual polygamy as a temporary answer to the shortage of black males until more comprehensive reforms in the American society at large are undertaken.

The problem of man-sharing in the African American community was the topic of a panel discussion held at Temple University in Philadelphia on January 27, They also suggested that polygamy should not be banned by law, particularly in a society that tolerates prostitution and mistresses. The comment of one woman from the audience that African Americans needed to learn from Africa where polygamy was responsibly practiced elicited enthusiastic applause.

Philip Kilbride, an American anthropologist of Roman Catholic heritage, in his provocative book, Plural marriage for our time, proposes polygamy as a solution to some of the ills of the American society at large. He argues that plural marriage may serve as a potential alternative for divorce in many cases in order to obviate the damaging impact of divorce on many children.

He maintains that many divorces are caused by the rampant extramarital affairs in the American society. In , a poll conducted by the student newspaper at the university of California at Berkeley asked the students whether they agreed that men should be allowed by law to have more than one wife in response to a perceived shortage of male marriage candidates in California. Almost all of the students polled approved of the idea. One female student even stated that a polyganous marriage would fulfil her emotional and physical needs while giving her greater freedom than a monogamous union.

They believe that polygamy is an ideal way for a woman to have both a career and children since the wives help each other care for the children. It has to be added that polygamy in Islam is a matter of mutual consent. No one can force a woman to marry a married man. Besides, the wife has the right to stipulate that her husband must not marry any other woman as a second wife.

It should be noted that in many Muslim societies today the practice of polygamy is rare since the gap between the numbers of both sexes is not huge. One can, safely, say that the rate of polygamous marriages in the Muslim world is much less than the rate of extramarital affairs in the West. In other words, men in the Muslim world today are far more strictly monogamous than men in the Western world. Billy Graham, the eminent Christian evangelist has recognized this fact: If present-day Christianity cannot do so, it is to its own detriment.

Islam has permitted polygamy as a solution to social ills and has allowed a certain degree of latitude to human nature but only within the strictly defined framework of the law. Christian countries make a great show of monogamy, but actually they practice polygamy. No one is unaware of the part mistresses play in Western society.

In this respect Islam is a fundamentally honest religion, and permits a Muslim to marry a second wife if he must, but strictly forbids all clandestine amatory associations in order to safeguard the moral probity of the community. It is of interest to note that many, non-Muslim as well as Muslim, countries in the world today have outlawed polygamy. Taking a second wife, even with the free consent of the first wife, is a violation of the law.

On the other hand, cheating on the wife, without her knowledge or consent, is perfectly legitimate as far as the law is concerned! What is the legal wisdom behind such a contradiction?

Is the law designed to reward deception and punish honesty? We must grow our collective energy on every level, and we need all of us for that. Become a Premium Member.

It may seem an odd subject, but not as odd as children growing up without father figures in their lives. This is not as simple as it seems. Give it some thought. I am very interested in your replies.

The Annabaptist tried this and were slaughtered for their efforts. The early church even granted dipensation after wrs for a man to have more than one wife in order to replace the male children. Although overt polygamy is rare in the United States, it is common around the world.

Although the number of males and females are approximately equal at birth, in many societies, including the United States, these ratios are not equal at the time they join the marriage pool.

In some societies many males die off by disease, murder and warfare. In many societies large proportions of males leave smaller towns to move into larger cities leaving behind a substantial excess of women.

The reality is that monogamy is not the norm among human society. It is unreasonable to assume that all of these affairs are because of the failures and shortcomings of individual husbands and wives. We give lip service to monogamy but in actuality society plays a significant role in the undermining of monogamous relationships, but that is not to excuse individuals and their roles.

Monogamy is something most people say the believe in and want for themselves. Survey after survey has shown that on this question a high percentage of people think that monogamy is important to marriage and that having affairs are wrong. This means challenging many of our most cherished beliefs about monogamy and affairs.

It means questioning old assumptions and maybe even giving some of them up to the truth. Out attitudes about monogamy and affairs are so ingrained that it will be difficult if not impossible to consider anything that deviates from those beliefs.

A new understanding of affairs involves more than just changing our thinking about the causes of affairs. It also includes changing our thinking about how to handle the issues of blame, secrecy, self-esteem, getting help, and whether to stay in the marriage. Ultimately, in debate or consideration in this country will be linked to social custom and most prominently to the Judeo-Christian ethic that this country was built around.

What does the Bible say about polygamy. Actually, it says little at least as far as laws are concerned. In fact, the Bible is filled with examples of polygamy and there is nothing said about it. The first polygamist mentioned is Lamech in Genesis 4: Although he ended up killing someone for wounding him his bigamy is not mentioned. Abraham, the first Hebrew, and ancestor of all of Israel, had two wives, Sarah and her servant Hagar, Genesis Jacob, the father of the twelve tribes of Israel had Rachel and Leah, who were sisters and their servants Bilhah and Zilpah, Genesis 29, Without these four wives there would be no Israel.

David was condemned for this wife because he had committed adultery with Bathsheba. Solomon had three hundred wives and seven hundred concubines, Kings You get the idea. There are more cases like this in the Bible and there are even indications of the laws governing such liaisons. The Old Testament had rules to regulate and limit its application in certain circumstances. Bigamy was recognized and regulated by the Law of Moses.

Just like a normal marriage, bigamy had its fair share of problems, and the law intervenes in Deuteronomy They often think that somewhere in the Bible it is banned and perhaps even recall sermons when Christian leaders have either directly condemned it or at least suggested that it was sinful if not come right out and say it directly. Often this is because we allow other people to do or Christianity for us. It should be a little disconcerting for avid Bible readers reconciling the polygamy, that was openly practiced by many of the Biblical patriarchs, with the popular teaching of Christianity today that marriage means monogamy.

There are two many example to the contrary for this not to be obvious and a potential issue. It has progressed steadily from the loose and promiscuous matings of the herd through many adaptation which culminated in combining pairs, the union of one man and one woman as the highest social order. The main driving forces behind this establishment of what is commonly thought to be the highest social order has been the need to regulate property and religion.

However, the real reason that safeguards marriages into infinity is the simple biological fact that men and women positively will not live each, whether they are savages or cultured. Simply said it is sex that drives this need to be together. It is the eventual civilizer of the savage because it leads man to think and thinking eventually leading to loving. Still, it is well to recognize that marriage is an artificial mechanism created by society to regulate and control sexual relationships and the descent, inheritance, succession and social order which was the original function.

The family is a stabilizer of the marriage institution along with the property laws. Pride, vanity, chivalry, duty and religious convictions are other potent factors in the marriage institution. While marriages may be stabilizing influences and organizers for the distribution of property and lines of accession they are hardly made in heaven. Marriage is a distinctly human institution. It was brought about by humans and not by the church.

It is true that religion greatly influences it but marriage as we know today is the workings of social custom and mores.

Primitive marriages were primarily industrial; and even marriages of today it is often social or business affairs that drive them. Various cultures have dowries and marriages of convenience. They are not based upon love but upon the need to keep the social order. The idea of romantic love came later. It should have never been called a sacrament. The Sethite priests made marriage a religious ritual but for thousands of years after Eden mating continued as a purely social and civil institution.

This linking of human associations to divine association has been unfortunate. It has only been recognized as a sacrament in several of the major religions today but it persists as a holy ritual. The union of husband and wife is a material function of mortals. Spiritual progress may accrue upon sincere human efforts of husband and wife to progress, but this does not mean that marriage is necessarily sacred.

Spiritual progress depends upon sincere application of righteousness in other human endeavors. It is unfortunate that certain religious groups have assumed that marriage is a divine action. Such beliefs lead directly to the insolubility of the marital state regardless of the circumstances or wishes of the contracting parties. But regarding marriage, which is truly a human institution, who shall presume to sit in judgment to say which marriages are unions that might be approved by the universal supervisors in contrast with those that are purely human n nature.

Married at the Justice of the Peace. Still we are in a family crisis as marriages fail fifty percent of the time in this country. The numbers have remained steady for more than a decade and show no signs of changing.

There are a variety of reasons. People are less inclined to put up with anything that is less than ideal. They often come to the realization too late that marriages take work. The new independence of women. The list goes on and on. As long as we fail to properly educate children and youths in a realistic fashion about marriage and divorce things will not change. As long as the existing social order blatantly dismisses discussing sexuality, marriage and responsibility there will continue to be problems.

And, as long as immature and unwise youthful romanticism and idealism is unchecked, divorce will remain prevalent. For every single women of marriageable age in the United States, there are fewer than 70 single men. As people get older this number changes and the statistics get worse. By the age of 45, for every available men there are over single women. Natural instincts propel humans as other animals to mate and reproduce.

Single women will respond to biological needs and they will continue to attempt to secure a man of their own. Under our current social system, divorce is the only recognized solution of providing husbands and fathers for the surplus women. We have not only the highest divorce rate in history, but we have the highest rate of illegitimacy in our history and the highest rate of children living in single parent homes.

In a misguided attempt to preserve the family some people and bumbling politicians and religious rhetoricians are suggesting that we make divorces more difficult to get.

It will not work. And has no chance. All it ends up doing is leading to more creative ways to leave a bad marriage the simplest being just walking away. No one will sleep on a bed of nails regularly when other obvious solutions are available such as simple getting up and changing beds. We cannot legislate morality. And, we have failed. Whenever you have a demand that exceeds supply an inflated value is attached to the item in short supply which in this case would be men. Unattached women will compete with each other to their own detriment, for a chance at the marriage lottery.

This self-defeating competition had led to more and earlier promiscuous sex. The woman carried the competition into the bedroom believing she can capture the prize, not knowing that she may be actually making the prize harder to obtain and making it harder for her sisters to obtain also. Women sometimes live with men to solve this problem but is no guarantee.

It main benefits are for the man. He has a live-in helper without the responsibility. Self-image and disease are also issues for these single women.

Staying attractive in the mating race is expensive, hard work and often hazardous to your health. Women often live in fear of gain pounds, of looking anything but their best and staying physically fit.

There are too many single parent homes — 12 million of them! There are too many homes where the father is absent — 10 million! And, half of those children live in poverty. Recently divorced women are especially susceptible to a predatory single man. Sooner or later she will be left behind is she presses for a commitment. He will move on to easier conquests.

This familiar line has a certain amount of truth to it. There are a variety of ways to improve the quality of men available for women to marry. However, it would do nothing to increase the marriage pool for single women.

Plural marriages would men that a woman would not have to for any man rather than none at all. The man who is kind, considerate and caring, gentle and loving is the man who will attract women to his household. Women will want to be with him. Plural marriages mean that if a woman could share a husband, her chances are better of getting a good one.

This is not for everyone. No more than any religion or belief is for everyone. Society has an interest in promoting monogamy. Prevention of sexually transmitted diseases is one. Stable monogamous relationships in saving, acquisition of property and personal economic growth.

Stable-long term relationships also contribute to health and longevity. It is a system of developing family, not just the bringing together of a man and woman. Martin Luther and Malechethon both were approached by the German Prince who wished to have a second wife, the first wife was in agreement as were both of the parents.

Both Luther and his associates agreed that polygamy was not against the Christian religion and that plural marriage was better than adultery, which was a common practice of the nobility of the day has anything changed , and so the approved and the prince was married to the second wife. When the secret marriage was discovered Luther proposed a good strong lie! An entire German community in Muenster called the Annabaptist was burned to the ground occupied by the Annabaptist who were practicing polygamy as a community, for no other reason than they were practicing polygamy.

For ten years a man could take more than one wife. Is polygamy a dead issue. In Asia, mistresses have largely replaced concubines because men found it better for themselves. Mistresses have fewer rights than formally recognized concubines. Why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free? A typical male response to such a situation. It costs less to keep a mistress because they are not legally or openly recognized as in the more formal concubine tradition.

The Bible recognized them as wives before a solemn covenant with God and protected their rights. Concubines were protected under Mosaic Law, Exodus Concubinage was legally sanctioned and socially accepted in ancient cultures although they were not entitled to the same rights as a wife.

American divorce courts show that monogamy does very well at promoting and producing sinful behavior and carnal problems between mates and the parents in law. The problem is still sin and the flesh, not monogamy of polygamy. The plight of most wives and mistresses and concubines are worse now than when polygamy were legal because then at least they had some security and commitment from their mates even if they took additional wives, while they are now dumped when a man takes a new wife or mistress.

The women have a choice to live as single widows risking hardship in war ravaged countries with no protection against sexual attack by roving homeless males. Or, they can become the wives or concubines of one of the few surviving stable and working males coming under the umbrella of a family and having the protection of not living alone.

Black inner city ghettos are facing the same critical shortage of marriageable males. Approximately 1 out of every 25 black males is in prison.

There are more females available for marriage than there are black males. The vast majority of black males in prison range in age from with most in tin the age group. Most of these men will return to prison within a short time after they are released.

Obviously, this means that there is a startling shortage of marriageable black men during their most productive years due to imprisonment or death. Homicide is the number one killer of African American youth between the ages of One out of every black people is dying of AIDs. Only murder takes a higher toll on young black men.

The third highest rate is abortion. More babies are being aborted.

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