Reflections of a Crazy Life

Dating Is A Struggle When You Have Bipolar Disorder

dating a bipolar chick

Me, I think I had been emotionally abused for so long without realizing it and felt so helpless that hitting him was all I could think to do it was wrong and I am seeking counseling for myself. The irony is bitter. I was diagnosed with Bipolar disorder at the age of 19 and am 31 now. More importantly, she wanted to have a family so do I. She told me i was her best friend and i felt the same..

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They want things handed to them. She was incredibly giving, affectionate and passionate with me even bringing me gifts for my house and coming over to cook me wonderful dinners if I was stressed after a long days work. However, she seems to change the story, and takes no responsibility for her actions, and makes everything my fault. Happens all the time. She currently is carrying on with another relationship with a man in another Country and I read through her emails and saw that they are planning a trip while I am dating her!! Teenage years resulted in her first highs, pregnancy and attracting the wrong types of men. I still love this girl, but I think it would be too difficult to keep her in my life.

Any words of wisdom are greatly appreciated. Guest over a year ago You should be the one who she goes home to, not him. Who is this guy by the way? Is it a close friend? If not, she's probably sleeping with him, and I don't mean the kind with your eyes shut and you dream.

It's very sweet that you trust her, but if she is having episodes, she is not in her right mind and her judgement is impaired. If you can, try to get her to open up to you, and better yet, get her to see a doctor. This is coming from a bi-polar girl, so I'm not just talking out of my arse.

You have to have a great deal of patience and understanding to be in a relationship with a bi-polar individual. And a bi-polar individual must have alot of support and be able to trust their significant other. Guest over a year ago It's sounds to me like she's using avoidance to not face guilt feelings. As a bipolar person myself, i know that when being silly enough to get yourself into a situation where another man may want something from you, it's hard to then say no.

It common for bipolar peeps to make bad desicions in regards to sex etc. Thats not an excuse, just immediate situations overcome potential consequenses.

It's entirely possible that this is not the case with your partner, this is just an opinion. She may just be experiencing a mood disturbance. Bipolar peeps are particularly good at denial. There's a mental process that isolated something that happens, and deny it until they almost believe it themselves to cope with guilt feelings. It's a strong enough emotional pain that stops you ever wanting to go through it again.

It can be a roller coaster ride being with a bipolar person. Even if you imagine the worst to have happened, it sounds like your the sort of person to be able to move on from it, so waiting it out may be the best choice. I hope that may be of some use to you, everyone's different though so interpretations are subjective. Guest over a year ago I'm a bi-polar grandmom on lithium for over 25 years. I'll talk to you as I would one of my sons.

First of all spring and fall are the worst times for bipolar patients. Is she taking her meds right? It sounds like she is trying to leave you but doesn't have the heart to tell you goodbye. You sound like a really special person, I think there is somebody else out there waiting for you. Don't be overprotective because she has a mental illness.

Bi-polar people are very strong, we don't need to be coddled. Don't be afraid to confront her with your feelings, in other words, treat her as a "normal" girl, not as someone who is disabled.

I hope you know what I mean. Be loving but not enabling. I might be bipolar, but I'm a deans list college grad, and have an active life. Bi-polar doesn't mean fragile. A friend of hers she confided in told me she said she had meds at first, but they was causing some bad side effects, so she stopped taking them. She seems fine, just the brief week periods here and there. And, I believe you was right, Arizona Granny, in that she may have been trying to leave me but didnt have the heart to tell me.

When She and I started dating, it was a week after she said she "sorta" broke up with her previous ex. He came around and is still bothering her, wanting to spend time with her. I believe she never told him. I told her that given the situation I guessed the relationship was over and shed rather be with the friend. But, ways she's seemed when I left her house with my stuff, and the past week when ive bumped into her around town, and ive been talking to her as a friend now, she seems like she may still have feelings for me.

Even now, I know she's cheated, I still love her. And Ill be willing to do anything to get her back. Thanks for all you for writing. Basically she lied to ya in that time span and yeah she cheated on ya with that dude. I think most folks that cheated on someone is feeling guilty and don't want to talk about it and also they don't want to talk or want to be around ya.

Guest over a year ago Run as fast as you can from this woman and never look back. Save yourself and whatever is left of your dignity. I was together with a guy for 6 months when he couldn't take it anymore. It totally crushed me, but I understood. But it's really hard to be alone because you have a disease. Remember that if she is acting wierd doesn't mean that she's been cheating. Maybe it's just her illness and that's not her fault.

Although, it's not okey to cheat, but still, maybe what until she's more stabil to confront her? Guest over a year ago I couldn't agree more with the previous post.

Run as fas as you can. She already cheated on you. But worse is yet to come. Get as much freaky sex out of her as you can bipolar chicks are animals in the sack then RUN when the crazy starts coming out.

Also, make sure the sex is at HER place, not yours. You don't want a crazy, bipolar chick knowing where you live. Bipolar disorder is a real condition. It's not a synonym for "moody" or "confusing. Should you condemn this woman over stuff other women have done to you? Would you like it if she did that to you? This is horrible advice. Do you really know that she is bipolar? Is she taking medicine for it?

Or does she just have PMS? There is such a thing as PMDD. It heightens the signs of PMS plus truly wicked mood swings.

It may be none of your business but maybe down the road talk about it. Remember also she was abused. It can be a mental thing too. Whereever we have our RV parked. If you can't trust her and suspect she is bipolar, there is only one course of action. Run as fast as you can in the opposite direction. You're dealing with a crazy person. They don't have the normal rules funtioning in their head. If she turns on you??? Ever seen the Michael Douglas movie, Fatal Attraction.

Don't say you haven't been warned. I was married to a woman who was bipolar - it didn't manifest until we'd been married awhile.

While each person with this condition is different, my experience would make me extremely cautious about dating anyone I knew had this condition. It was very stressful at the best of times, and when she went off her meds or they ceased to be effective, it was even worse. Imagine trying to care for a toddler and visiting her daily in a locked psych ward for several weeks until she stabilized. Or the manic spending sprees or other inappropriate behavior, the occasional suicide watch on the down cycles, not to mention the abusive episodes when I was in fear of my safety and our son's.

Yes, hers was a more extreme case, but you can't predict how things may change with time, either. As far as I know, she's been stable and functional the last few years, and I hope she can maintain that. Not personally, but one of my ex-wife's friends was bipolar. When she wasn't dating anyone she would latch to my wife, call her everyday, ask her to go out to bars and stay there till 4am, and if my ex would say no she would get so pissed and said she wasn't supportive.

When she was dating some sucker, she would disappear from our lives for a couple months, wouldn't answer my ex's calls or anything which made my ex worry about her, till the cycle would start again. When problems with my ex started she would ask her to leave me, that she would introduce her some "nice" guys that would truly love her, she didn't even wait till we separated. Oh, and she started giving my ex some anti anxiety pills to help her "cope" with the separation.

And not to forget the times she cut herself and my ex had to go sleep to her apartment to keep an eye on her.

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dating a bipolar chick

I love her w all of me but I find I need time to recover and to refind my feelings that I feel for her because I get gaurded and resentful. Well what does your gut tell you?

dating a bipolar chick

I think that with education and a good understanding of the condition that your partner suffers with then half the battle is won or maybe that just my fluffy bi-polar world i live in where i am able to hold down a job,maintain a large social network and encourage others to stay well.

dating a bipolar chick

On those days, I chiick a warrior and dating a bipolar chick ass. As the man, your job is to be in control of your emotions. So ultimately I just withdrew. I came at her pretty aggressive trying to get to the bottom of it for about a week off and on. Well you were just too dependent on her.