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After taking a wrong turn while sailing, this brave sailor is lost. Frilly gowns, fancy veils and daring tattoo's are the way to go for this beautiful bride to be. If my son is not a socialist by the time he is twenty, I will disinherit him. Tell them all the things you think they ought to do. Hannah and her new husband are their honeymoon on a tropical island.
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What do you think? When coalitions change, the philosophy adapts. Wow, I thought I was alone in the world. Ask him for help around the house, put him in charge of travel, let him cook you a special meal, and be comfortable in sharing your vulnerabilities with him. Modern life is like this a lot. Im Just taking One step at a time. Something like operant conditioning or whatever.
Puppy love is all about small sacrifices in the name of romance. Your boyfriend's planned for your three week anniversary since he met you, and now it's here, but there's a thunderstorm! It's always difficult to kiss when it's your first time. You may think you're being suave, when you're actually missing her lips. You may think you're being cute, when you're actually making weir Ice Cream Store Dating.
An easy way to meet a new boyfriend is by hanging out around places you love. Like ice cream stores! While decorating your ice cream, check out what he likes, and maybe decorate yours just like h These two hotties spotted each other from across the club, and the smiling and joking doesn't look like it's going to end! She's into him; he's into her. This meeting was destined to happen and m First Date Make Over. This young woman has a first date in under an hour!
Take her on a whirlwind makeover to impress her date. Experiment with her makeup, hair, and clothes to make an amazing first impression. Take a stroll through the park with your very first love and experience a fashionable and fun first kiss! Floating hearts and puppy love await you and this cute couple! Explode into a daring new romance with your charming beau. Make sure nobody catches you kissing or its game over.
Don't get caught kissing your new love at the bus stop. The prying eyes of strangers are everywhere and always judging. Sneak in a smooch under the radar. Pucker up Bratz style! Take a cute trip to the aquarium and don't get caught smooching your brand new beau. Dodge the judging looks of your friends and the sneaky octopus spies! Pucker up Hollywood style! Kiss the leading man of your dreams in this star studded romance themed dressup. Get fancy in gowns, jewels and tuxes as you walk the red carpet arm in arm.
Take a dive and find love under the sea! Swim away with your new secret love to sneak in a few smooches. Don't get caught by any nosy divers or fish though, they wouldn't understand. A kiss in private and an embrace away from the judging and prying eyes of people who wouldn't understand.
Get styled right for your secret romance with tons of trendy, fun and funky outfits for him Get all kissy kissy with Glee's resident cutie Finn Hudson. Be sure to keep your love secret as no one would understand and don't forget to feed your pet cat as you sneak in some smooches and dodge Friends first, lovers forever! Keep the passion alive between this couple of heart eyed first loves by styling them in a chic over the top and one of a kind look! The sun, the sand, the romance!
Feel the heat this summer with these beach bums and their lazy daisy kisses on the beach! Make the magic of love come alive with this cute couple! Click to kiss and avoid the eyes of spies in this fun and romantic kissing game! Get down to some funny monkey business with these 2 cuties as they steal a kiss and play the day away at the zoo! Style this happy couple for a country wedding at sunrise! Frilly, shiny, lacy and fancy everything in all your favorite natural colors and cute hats and boots for the groom!
Secret loving under the cupboard! Sneak away from the crowd and get some serious smooching in before anyone finds you hiding under the table! Skull speckled veils and black hearts everywhere! This emo couple knows their way around fashion. Custom veils, bouquets and gowns all done in trademark emo style await! Help Britney and her new boyfriend sneak in some backstage pre show kissing!
Get romantic and steal the show with this singing sensation! Frilly gowns, fancy veils and daring tattoo's are the way to go for this beautiful bride to be. Love is all around for this one of a kind romantic so style her bright and dress her right in this t Kisses explode out of the darkness and the glittering spectacle of romance lights up the sky. Style this sparkle eyed couple for a night and a life they'll never forget.
If my hypothesis is correct, the chemistry between these 2 science nerds is undeniable. Make some magic happen with secret kisses in between their scholarly duties. Barbie loves Ken and Ken loves Fajitas! Join this darling doll for a fun session in the kitchen, preparing, making and serving her man some delicious, traditional spicy fajitas. It's a vacation love fest under the sea in colorful bathing suit and swimming accessories! Dive into an underwater romance with this cute couple!
Date night means make out! Style this trendy gal for a fun night of movie kissing with her new boy toy! Chic tops, tight jeans and a glitter in her eye means fun times for everyone!
True love by the light of the moon. Luna smiles and shines bright on these young lovers as they embrace for an unforgettable kiss! Make them look their best in trendy clothes and cute hair dos. This adorable couple is trying to have a romantic moment during their fishing escapade. Help them to sneak and share a kiss by protecting them from the paparazzi and snoopy snoops who want to ruin Can you make up your mind and choose the perfect suitor?
Be attentive to their preferences and hobbies. It will help you to select the perfect outfit and activity to do.
Let see if you can create Hit the dance floor for the first time ever in an unforgettable gown with chic hair and fancy cute shoes. Terri will never forget the fun and fashion of her first dance if you style her right! Hayley's Crush Hot Game. Meet Hayley and her head full of boys! Who is her new crush this week? The cute guy at the record store? The boy that sits behind her in math class? That guy on the bus? Either way, keep Hayley lo Before this naughty trouble maker can fire off one of his trademark arrows a fairy friend surprises him with a kiss!
Turn the tables this Valentines day and give Cupid a taste of his own medicine! Take on the adventure of a lifetime as you and your beau sneak in kisses and affection at some of the most popular shopping malls and public venues anywhere. Don't get caught a Enjoy the beauty of nature with your first boyfriend and experience a romantic kiss in the falling autumn leaves!
Make sure your nosy little brother, errant poodles and passers by don't catch you t Kissing in the Rain. With thunder in the distance and lightning crashing all around, love reigns supreme.
Join this beautiful couple for a quick kiss under the ionized sky just barely between the cold drip droplets of A Kiss Goodbye Hot Game. The trains are on the track, the planes are fueled and ready to go. Embrace, whisper your sweet nothings and say good bye with a kiss that neither of you will ever forget. Get a smoooch in before the wedding happens! Make sure the groom, mother in law or best man can't see you because this is secret love!
Pucker up for some secret loving! These rock scene styled kids are madly in love with loud guitars, ripped jeans and each other! Help them sneak in some back stage kisses without any pesky guitari First impressions are important so dress this pretty lady for dancing, romancing and fun out with her fashionable new beau.
Fine dining and high fashion go hand in hand with this beautiful babe and her beau. Join them for a night of romance and adventure complete with chic outfits, shiny accessories, and thoughtful gifts. Romance by moonlight and styling by you. Dress this cute couple for kisses under the stars and long walks along the beach. Take a stylish stroll down the white sand beaches of the legendary French Riviera with your best friend forever by your side.
Style yourselves in cutting edge euro fashion and breezy, chic summer w Help this cute gal toss up a delicious summer salad for her boyfriend!
Its a romantic and healthy meal complete with eggs, tomatoes, cheese, spinach and more! Chic veils, cutting edge gowns and a handsome beau to be as the perfect accessory. Style yourself for your dream wedding in the city of love, romance and all things beautiful. Style this blushing bride in either traditional African or exotic white and colorful silk gowns, head dresses, and golden accessories. Kissing in the rain is so romantic! Make sure the moment isn't ruined by nosy cops or buss passengers though!
Help out in the kitchen to cook some spicy steak fajitas for your lovely girlfriend! Make sure to follow the recipe correctly so she isn't disappointed. This cute couple likes to work hard at their swimming skills but can't help taking a break to flex their smooching muscles.
Help them keep their love secret as they kiss up a storm and train for th Kiss in a Hammock. Lazy days on the beach in a stunning summer dress are best accessorized by a handsome prince charming to share your hammock and a smooch with. Style this fun couple for a fashionably romantic day a New York is the center of the world for fashion and romance.
Style this cute couple for their day of kissing and canoodling in the always chic New York staple, Central Park. The Secret of Princess Vivian. Secret kisses and hugs hidden from the prying eyes of your fathers spies. Join Princess Vivian for the excitement of an age old forbidden romance. This cute couple are having a fun summer romance! Click to make them kiss, but make sure that no nosy neighbors happen by to ruin the fun! Young Romeo always has his eyes on young Juliet because she's always fashionable.
Help Juliet picking her outfits every day to create a perfect look that will make Romeo fall for her more. This skater boy and his hot new girlfriend just want some time alone so they can smooch it up but the prying eyes of the other boarders are always getting in the way!
Help this couple get some priv These two cute little bugs are in love with each other. They are going on a date and the lady bug has a surprise for her boyfriend. Dress them up nicely for their date and see what surprise lady bu Coordinate this adorable couple for an amazing first date. They're both incredibly nervous, but that will melt away as soon as they share their first people-watching joke at the park.
Make this cute kitty couples date puuuuurfect by dressing them in adorable little outfits! Listen to the strings of the violin as this cute kitten sings Italian love songs to his favorite date. These best friends are about to share a very special first kiss! Dress each doll up and make it a picture perfect moment.
Dress up and make this romantic night extra special for this new fun couple! Monique and Marcel are two good friends that love winter and their sports. They have grown up together and learned many sports but their favorite is skating. As soon as the lake freezes they take t This couple like each other a lot but are too nervous to kiss! Your first date is always the most special.
Leave him a lasting impression and dress up with cool clothes and funky hair styles! Dress up and look your best for a fun date. There are three possible date locations, including the beach, a nice restaurant and a dance club.
Tessa is going to marry Tom. She wants to look beautiful on this important day. Which dress would you prefer: Make your choice and give her and Tom a romantic make up and d Angelina and her boyfriend are going out on a fun date, dress her up so she looks great! Trendy Couple Dress Up. Dress up this trendy couple is ready for cool night out, mix and match outfits and come up with the perfect look for both of them. Mix and match with your date and make this couple look great!
Help Bonnie to win Kevin's love, facing all the girls who want to go out with him. Move the items on the board to make lethal Angelina and Brad Dolls. The ultra hot hollywood couple Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie are going to dinner and a movie, complement Brangelina's movie-star looks with a movie-star wardrobe.
Choose a nice outfit for this girl before her big date! She is about to watch a movie with her boyfriend and needs a dress to impress.
Pico Sim Date 2. You miss your girlfriend and want to give her a smooch, just dont get caught or left anyone see you! Give Esmie and her new boyfriend a make over.
Click finish when you're done. Issac and Amanda's Happy Dating. In sunny days,Issac and Amanda are glad that they have a happy holiday at last. Let's help them choosing the suitable clothes in order to have a happy vacation.
Princess Tinder Wars Hot Game. Oh, the princesses want to have dates! So help them to set up the tinder profile for them to get many matches. Princess got two dates. Please dress her, but dress here differently so she won't look the same. Who is the best match for her? Ladybug First Date Hot Game. Ladybug has a date and she is so nervous. Please help her to get ready for the date so she will look beautiful.
Ariel and Anna have a double date with their boyfriends. But before going to the movies they need to get beautiful. Take a look at their wardrobe and dress them beautifully!
Help Anna to find the perfect outfit for her date. There are plenty of options, have fun to dress her up! Valentine's day is coming and the princess doesn't know what to wear. Help her to get dressed up beautifully for the date with her prince. Ice Queen Romantic Date. Go on a romantic date with one of your favorite couples! The Ice Queen and her boyfriend want to have an unforgettable date. The red hearts are hidden in different places so first you have to find One of your favourite Monster High ghouls, Draculuara, is now getting ready to spice up her love life just a bit and her best friends convinced her to try out something really fun!
High Fashion Double Date. The frozen sisters are asked on a double date by the charming prince Eric and his bff Flynn. Now the princesses should get ready for the date, and they need your help. Barbie and Ken broke up recently and she found out that her ex-boyfriend is on a date with his current girlfriend.
So, Barbie and her friends are planning to crash his date to show what he is missi Princess Wardrobe Perfect Date. Everyone knows that when it comes to doll up before a date, each girl does her best.
Well, in this dress up game you are assigned to make sure a princess is perfect for her date. First, you will en These two lovers are getting ready for a romantic evening.
Make sure their date goes well and they will appreciate it! The couple needs some help to decorate the room. Set the table and choose a bo Marinette wants to ask Adrien on a date, but she is a bit too shy, so maybe you can he Flynn asked Rapunzel for a date.
Living with her mother, Rapunzel can never leave the house openly. She used to sneak around and leave without her mother knowing. This time, you need to help her pi Angelina and Brad Romantic Date. Angelina Jolie is preparing for a romantic date with her husband Brad Pitt.
She is trying to impress her husband again just like their first date! Help Angelina to choose the best outfit and makeup Stella's Date Night App Game.
Prepare Stella for a romantic date. Choose the best hairstyle, dresses and accessories to make her a glorious princess for the date. Love is in the air! White Princess Romantic Date. White Princess celebrates 10 years of relationship with Prince Charming and she is very happy. The last 10 years have been extraordinary full of love,many friends and great adventure.
Finally, Eric has called our beautiful princess Ariel for a date! She was trying so hard to get him interested in her and she made it! Ariel is very happy, but she needs your help in creating an ou Barbara and Kenny Romantic Date. Kenny invited Barbara to walk through the park followed by a romantic dinner, in which wants to declare his love for her. Barbara and Kenny need your help to prepare for this evening full of love.
Princess Sofia First Date. Sofia is excited because a young prince persuaded King Roland to entrust his girl to a romantic date. Royal Designers have prepared various royal dresses and beautiful accessories for this date.
Princess Amber First Date. Princess Amber has received parental consent to have she's first date with a boy. As you know, Amber is a princess with fine taste in terms of fashion.
Help her to be elegant but with a modern styl Snow White's Hot Date. Beautiful Snow White is preparing for a hot date with a new prince charming, and she must look gorgeous. Help Snow White to be sexy and attractive! Zayn Malik Date Simulator.
You won a date with Zayn Malik! It's your chance to get to know him better because you're the chosen one. Test your skills to see how you will handle the date. Zayn likes a sweet and shy girl Modern Elsa is preparing for a romantic dinner, and wants to dress up a summer outfit that has to be fresh and romantic at the same time.
Help Elsa to have a perfect romantic dinner! Open up secret boxes and create the most amazing outfits for Tris! It's date night and she really wants to impress her boyfriend. Help her try on different tops, bottoms, hairdos and sparkly access These two are totally meant for each other but they really need to figure out what to wear on their next date.
One of the best parts about prom is dancing the night away with your date. This cute girl can't wait to steal the dance floor with her awesome dance moves. But things aren't going according to pl Princess Amazing Double Date.
Ariel and Jasmine are so hungry about romance! So they decided to hint their boyfriends using Instagram. This swinging couple knows how to keep it simple and sweet. Quality time doesn't have to mean fancy restaurants, walks on the beach or live theater. It can be as simple as a few stolen kisses as yo One of your favourite Monster High ghouls, Draculuara, is now getting ready to spice up her love life just a bit and her best friends convinced her to try out sometime really fun!
Barbie Blind Date Challenge. Going on a date is a difficult challenge, isn't it? So help Barbie turn her blind date into a success. A cute dress up game with love! Are you and your boyfriend ready for a romantic date?
We have a new special game for you with Rapunzel. She is a beautiful girl but as any other girl, she has some beauty secrets to look always fabulous. Today our princess asks you Is it a prince? Will he likes your look? Our beloved Disney princess Rapunzel can? The princess has a messy look, so you have to clean her and fix her makeup before her stepmother comes back. She needs a simple makeup that will help her look fresh after that long night.
Jack decides to ask Elsa on a date.. Let's get Elsa a nice outfit for her first date! Magic Date Dress Up. Tonight our beautiful princess has a date and she can't decide what to wear. Be her fashion advisor and help her choose the perfect outfit to impress her boyfriend.
Try out different dresses, bags Tinkerbell Dating Spa Makeover. Can you give Tinkerbell a dating spa makeover for her date with Terence? Holiday First Date Makeover. Elsa and Anna Double Date. Are you ready to dress up these cuties from frozen for their double date?
Anna and Kristoffs Date. Anna and Kristoff are going on a date! Can you help them both find the perfect Frozen Fever outfit?! Oh no, It has started raining! Just when this lovely lady was about to go on a date! Can you find her a date-tastic rainproof outfit?! Barbie got herself messy.. Can you help her get cleaned up and sparkly ready or her date?
What can be more romantic than a dance class date. Play this game and help our girl get dressed for this special occasion. Choose from a variety of colourful dresses, skirts and tops. Give this girl a perfect makeover for her date! Ken Beach Spa Salon. Meet Ken, a handsome guy who went on vacation for a week. He wants to relax there and think about beautiful moments. You must know that last night he met a beautiful girl and today they h Valentine Cuties Dress Up.
These cuties are going on a lovely valentines date. Can you help them to find a suitable outfit for the date? Sarah and Tim have gone on a date. Kissing Tim is the only thing that can keep Sarah awake, but will she be able to slack off on her movie date without Tim noticing? Elsa's Halloween Love Date. Elsa needs a cute outfit for her Halloween date with Jack Frost. Can you help Elsa from Frozen with finding a lovely Halloween costume?
This lovely young couple is going for cute picnic in the park. Of course they want to share a kiss on this romantic date. Can you dress them up for the date? Late for my Date. Luna is so late for her date with a young boy and she's not ready yet for it either. You have to help her to collect all the items she needs and make sure she gets ready for the date. So get on yo Twin Barbie at Salon.
These 2 cuties are going out for a double date with 2 lovely young boys. But first they need to prepare themselves for this awesome date night. Can you help them with giving them a spa facial, make Help this lovely girl look like a movie star! Can you dress her up in pretty clothes?
This cute girl needs to dress herself up for a cute date with her boyfriend. Can you pick out the most loveliest outfit for her? Popcorn and Movie Date. This cute guy just asked you out on a movie date, so give yourself a quick makeover before the date tonight.
It'll really impress him if you show up to the movie three hours later looking glamorous! Baby Play Date Prep. One of the best things about going to school is making new friends. This cute little girl is getting ready to visit her friend for a play date so that they can play with dolls and watch their favo Popular Teen Dating Makeover.
This popular teen is the president of the student council and is sure to be crowned prom queen for her senior prom. All of the students in her class know her name and admire her chic take on the t First dates can be very nerve wracking, especially when things don't go as planned. You're the hostess at one of the fanciest restaurants in town. People often treat their dates to a meal at your Valentine's Day Date Prep. Getting ready for a hot Valentine's Day date can be very nerve wracking. This lovely girl is getting dressed to go out with her lover for a romantic evening on the town.
She wants to look beautif You've been invited to be a contestant on a popular dating show so that you can find a date for Valentine's Day. You'll have to overcome a variety of challenges to find the date of your dreams, in Melissa's not the kind of girl to be played. That's why she's going after some fresh clothes to start her life new again.
She used to date a boy that didn't really care about her. My First Date Makeover. This partying diva knows how to make a good impression.
That's why she shows up to her first date looking like she spent weeks planning her outfits, and she leaves the nightclub with enough fashio Dating is a great way to meet new people and discover potential love prospects. November is a time for romance. The temperature is getting colder which means your future honey can give you their Fabulous Clawdeen is going to go on a romantic date with Clawd the captain of the football team, but she's getting more decisively diva-esque and strikingly stylish as she goes out with her hunky w Dress up Twyla for her spell bounding night while saving her vampire friends from the villains that hound them.
Click and pick the various tops and bottoms, necklaces, hair, and other accessories My Baby's Play Date. To make a happy baby, you need a constant flow of entertainment and education. Of course, if you can combine that edutainment into creating a sense of style in that terrific toddler. Sarah is out on a date with Tim, help her entertain herself when he gets called away but remember to kiss him as much as possible when he returns.
Beware the waiter, he doesn't approve of sloppy ki Glamorous Date Night Prep. Every girl dreams about having a mind-blowing date with a handsome guy in which they go to a really nice place, get to know each other better, and flirt.
She wants to look absolutely fabulous, so My Perfect Wedding Makeover. She doesn't know what to expect for this blind date. It may be the love of her life. Or it might be another one of those greasy, weird looking nerds!
What if it's a fat beard? Date by the Golden Gate Bridge. Have fun preparing Linda for a romantic date near the Golden Gate! Linda must look perfect for her boyfriend and she wants to go through a complete makeover.
But this cannot be done without your he Preparation for My Date. Have you ever prepared for a date and you had to rush to get ready? It's so difficult to rush when you need to get those exact strokes on your eyeliner or prepare for that special night!
Make yourself a beautiful date for your night out with your new boyfriend! He's a wonderful guy with plenty of ideas for what you're going to do tonight. Maybe a hay ride and then a nice meal at Sarah's back at work, but she can't concentrate because Valentine's Day is so soon!
All she can think about is what she needs to do to prepare for her date on Thursday! Do you like a hint of shimmer in your eye makeup? Or perhaps a bolder color? Sara has to get ready for her first date ever tonight and she can't decide what look to go with! She loves pastel hues a My name is Ellie, and I'm new to this town, but I've already made a friend!
He's a handsome guy, and I don't know if tonight is a date or just a friendly meet up or something. Prep for Valentine's Day. Sometimes my clothes have a mind of their own, and they just jump out of the closet at me making sure that they are the one that goes out to the date for that fancy wedding! Valentine's Romantic Date Prep. Every year, during the lovely month of February it seems like things suddenly change in the world. People start planning and thinking about impressive ways of making their better half happy on the McDreamy is a talented singer and a lovely man, he started acting and singing at a young age, and he never lost sight of what really mattered.
It's important to instill charity in your kids so the She's had a crush on him since the first time they met, and now that they've actually gone on a date together, she knows they are going to fall in love for years to come. I mean, after all, they c This young couple fell in love at first sight! Having first found each other after hanging out with the same group of people, the boy finally worked up the courage to ask her out.
And now they ar Angelica is getting ready for her date with a really great looking guy. Help her prepare for it by cleansing her skin and then adding her make-up. Then give her some sparkling accessories to comple There was never a moment where somebody gave me a piece of evidence that proved I was wrong that is to say, that I perceived as proof I was wrong.
But I had a blogged, and it was one of many subjects I blogged about, and I got so much pushback and ridicule about it that I began to despair that nobody would take me seriously because I was a YEC. I wondered what the point of talking about YEC was if it would just make it easy for others to dismiss anything I have to say as coming from a wacko nutjob. So I stopped blogging about it. Then I stopped reading Answers in Genesis. Then I started to cringe whenever the subject came up on its own.
Then I did my best to stop thinking about it altogether. Yet at no point was I convinced that my previous position was wrong. Not because of evidence, or argument, but because of social shame: It is probably like meditation, lots of people are never introspective enough to see it changing.
How would I recognize a low-status opinion or a low-status person if I ran into them? Are we talking about economic class, professional labels, perceived intelligence in some domain, popularity in a specific group or some other thing? How is status related to wisdom? I guess I think about wisdom largely in terms of psychological depth and self-awareness, as well as emotional flexibility. And something about more kindness and generosity of spirit and less dogma and epistemic closure.
It seems more to increase in response to how people learn from adversity along the way and whether too much adversity has set someone into a kind of permanent defensive fear mode that precludes growing wisdom. In the absence of that evidence, you try to tell if they have traits in common with other people who are low status. This can be more difficult as different cultures have different status symbols.
I think it might relate to ambition, at least to some degree. It reminded me somewhat of his earlier piece comparing political opinions to fashion. People develop a perspective based on their experiences as interpreted by their personalities.
As they get older, their perspective gets richer and more complex, until around age forty, at which point brain cells start dying faster than new connections get formed, and their perspective starts hardening and simplifying.
How are you defining wisdom? Well, sure—and if wisdom just means having wrinkles, then clearly it comes with age. Most people, however, demand more of wisdom than merely a coherent worldview, however simple and stupid. I might be setting the bar a bit low, but demanding faultless omniscience is surely setting it too high. I think part of the problem here might be sampling bias. A very popular sort of ageism, in our society.
As to the first: As to the second: How many of those were there? What you call ageism is actually just an accurate description of the majority belief among older people. I would be quite willing to argue that while Facebook effectively turns standard gossip up to 11 it is extremely unlike to actually be the death of us all. So if you ask a question about was life better and a link would be useful, as the question could be loaded people may think so in certain ways.
Another way to look at it is that for most of us life was better as a kid, since it was more exciting, novel, fun and free, but is also better now, since we have autonomy and unless you are a lot younger than me a much more accessible and friendlier world. And if you are still a kid and are reading this, congratulations on your great future ahead of you. Switching to the position that they mean X metaphorically or spiritually or whatever when faced with evidence that they actually do believe X is kinda sketchy.
But it is probably something that is extremely dependent on phrasing and things like priming. And it is also unclear if you are talking about the world or about the specific people. It is better to be young that old, so to some extent the world was better when the specific subject was young. Nearly all the young people I know, across the political spectrum, think the past was better than the future will be though what their referent of the good past is depends on politics, obviously, and is never something they lived through themselves.
All of the exceptions I can think of are people with jobs in tech who are active in EA. Though obviously both aspects of this reflect the filter bubble thing. I find old people are often very wise. For example, take these interviews with centenarians.
If I imagine a world in which technology has been progressing, so that we keep getting richer, but we also keep inventing more destructive things Facebook, video games, drugs, TV, etc that make us dumber, depressed, less self-reliant, and less able to function like adults, would that world look different than ours? Used to be you wrote some essays in high school and then never wrote a thing again unless your job demanded it. Now people are reading and writing every day.
During the golden age of blogs, about 10 years ago, people were writing more. What percent of the population is on facebook today versus the percent that had blogs 10 years ago? Twitter is great practice for writing professional e-mails, where being able to say something important in few words is incredibly valuable, and anything over five sentences will get skimmed at best and instantly deleted at worst.
I listened to some of the interviews with centenarians, and the general effect seemed to be happily retired. In my experience things are rarely as good or bad as the conventional wisdom suggests. I am 44 and looking back at when I was 33 I cannot help noticing how naive I have been back then. At 33 I would be pleased to go there, meet people, have interesting conversations.
And one can easily imagine how that can morph into, say, anti-immigration argument. I worry a lot about nuclear weapons these days. I can give a coherent argument for why they are the most important problem right now: They are the endgame of every doomsday scenario.
Whether you worry about AI, economic inequality, bioengineering or nanotechnology it always ends in the same way. The problem disrupts the society, social chaos ensues, nuclear weapons end up in the wrong hands, one missile is fired, with all the defence systems on hair-trigger alert the chain reaction happens, the end. So maybe I am just growing dumber as I age. But how can I know?
Indeed — nuclear weapons are to an extent self-limiting: Is there a new Cold War with Putin? Also remember that the people at the top are probably better than their competitors at something , but it may not be the thing that ought to be required in that position.
Or do you think that 45 is a particularly sharp thinker on policy issues? Being male is a high risk profession, reproductively speaking. So it makes sense for young adult males to be willing to take risks in order to get mates and status. In the modern world, you can see the result in auto accident statistics and the resulting insurance rates. One thing this suggests is that the increasing conservatism pattern might be more true for males.
At a risk of explaining everything with biology, this makes sense — a woman invests quite a lot in her offspring. Being socially conservative has a lot to do with being risk-averse. If you are a woman over 40 then you are not likely to have any more children. The best you can do is to protect what you have and this can result in a similar increasing conservatism pattern. What would be interesting to see though is whether these shift happen in men at women at roughly the same time and what the shape of the function is how quickly it changes at which point in life on average.
Of course, the latter is way too detailed to ascertain from any sociological data. Since when is conservative the opposite of risky? But political conservatism seems to me to be, by definition, pro-risk, and aggressively hostile to risk-averse people. This ties into the question of whether life was better in the past. I always vote for the present over the past and am generally optimistic about the future , but in the narrow area of social norms re. To use the Political Compass beloved of memes, I think most Americans are red-quadrant, the Dems are green-quadrant, the Repubs blue-quadrant, and the genius of Trump was to run in the red quadrant though he has now reverted to type.
Libertarians are purple-quadrant, which is why they are popular on the Internet but never really gain any headway. So the corporate masters are the ones shifting the risk off them, and the right-wing base eats it up and colludes in their own impoverishment, with the cultural shibboleths anesthetizing them while the risk is shifted onto them—they feel more secure even as they are made less secure.
Trump is an example of someone actually calling the corporate masters out on this and then going out and doing the same thing. One of the things I realized a while ago was that a political party comes up with the coalition first and the philosophy second. When coalitions change, the philosophy adapts. You can see this now with the GOP feeling out how much populist nationalism to adopt. Then they worry about entirely the wrong things. Because most conservatives seem to be very proud of what shameless libertines they are — case in point, the current POTUS….
The environment modulates their behavior. What does he think about it? Maybe he would have had the exact same reaction. He might also have said that this post was appropriate for the world he was living in, while your post is appropriate for yours. It is said that at all times there are 36 special people in the world, and that were it not for them, all of them, if even one of them was missing, the world would come to an end.
Just below the surface, there are likewise lots of people working to make things happen which is what moves the world forward. The world needs the best and brightest to act. It is amazing how he manages to consistently pack so many distinctive stylistic characteristics into even the shortest of comments, such that his new alts are always immediately recognizable.
Assuming the Biblical account is roughly accurate, reactions to Jesus both positive and negative were much more political in nature. It was not that his teachings resonated with some and upset others, but that he was claiming to be the Messiah.
This was understood as a political claim at the time, and a threat to the existing power structure. He also criticized the religious authorities directly, which probably upset them.
Mohammad was hardly a peaceful presence, and the Old Testament prophets were according to the texts about them extremely involved politically.
Buddha was a prince by birth, whose renunciation was a public statement. So Jesus claiming to be the Messiah is of a type, not an exception. Whilst in a mature democracy a fair amount of new truth can be contained within the system through new parties and through open discussion, in any theologically-defined society prophets were either threatening the social order or reinforcing it in a novel fashion.
It is not hard to find failed prophets in scripture and history: Everything is arranged so that the worst of tastes, the taste for the unconditional, should be cruelly fooled and abused until a man learns to put a little art into his feelings and rather to risk trying even what is artificial: The wrathful and reverent attitudes characteristic of youth do not seem to permit themselves any rest until they have forged men and things in such a way that these attitudes may be vented on them: Later, when the young soul, tortured by all kinds of disappointments, finally turns suspiciously against itself, still hot and wild, even in its suspicion and pangs of conscience: Unfortunately, I myself am not yet wise enough to understand what made him so wise.
Guess I just have to keep reading him. Is that from Genealogy of Morals? It is hard to tell if he is wise or crazy, but he for sure is a skilled writer.
Typical of him, the first sentences of the foreword of Beyond Good and Evil combine an irrelevant ad hominem attack philosophers are inept with women with a hunch that I have a hard time to shake off. It is relatively easy to shake off that feeling in physics at least since Newton but I am a social scientist and the thought lingers: What if our whole approach is just wrong? Is there not ground for suspecting that all philosophers, in so far as they have been dogmatists, have failed to understand women—that the terrible seriousness and clumsy importunity with which they have usually paid their addresses to Truth, have been unskilled and unseemly methods for winning a woman?
Certainly she has never allowed herself to be won; and at present every kind of dogma stands with sad and discouraged mien—IF, indeed, it stands at all! For there are scoffers who maintain that it has fallen, that all dogma lies on the ground—nay more, that it is at its last gasp. But to speak seriously, there are good grounds for hoping that all dogmatizing in philosophy, whatever solemn, whatever conclusive and decided airs it has assumed, may have been only a noble puerilism and tyronism; and probably the time is at hand when it will be once and again understood WHAT has actually sufficed for the basis of such imposing and absolute philosophical edifices as the dogmatists have hitherto reared: I think there could be selection effect.
Not all people get wiser as they age and many hit a ceiling at some time. And the really wise ones stay silent because their wisdom has become impossible to communicate? Everything you wanted to say required a context. If you gave the full context, people thought you a rambling old fool. The Tl;dr as far as my understanding is that a lot of human cognition is based around fear of death, and that one of the biggest ways we manage that terror is by binding ourselves to our cultural values and identity.
I wonder of there are parallel processes occurring as we age—we gain new information which causes us to be wiser and less revolutionary, which may make us more conservative or more liberal, depending on our starting position. But with age comes increased mortality salience, so we become concerned with the preservation of traditional values so that something we are ego-bonded to will survive us. I think the former process may also be largely contingent as having openness to experience as a strong personality trait.
Individuals may differ but populations display evolutionary themes. So wisdom is perhaps finding your place in the world and then conserving it. Just as other troop or herd animals do…. So, the subconscious, glacially-slow, nigh-undetectable by introspection, and yet obvious from the outside view, shift of preferences and incentives with age. And when it happened, I found it perfectly easy to justify as having less slack in how I treat my body, and needing a more stable lifestyle to maintain productivity.
After that you will start feeling better as you realise that the struggles of youth and the routine stress of later adulthood are behind you. It is not inevitable though. Some people retain the political views of their youth, or the sexual attitudes of their youth but people who do not seem to be authentic are pitied. You see that external incentives drive your very preferences. Older people generally have a lot more money and status than young people.
Oh honey, enjoy it while it lasts. The human body is a bit like the wonderful one-hoss shay ; it hangs together marvelously well for quite a while but when one part goes, they all tend to go. The good news is that you have another twenty years or so before it all goes south at once! This sentiment always feels so full of despair that I want to destroy the whole edifice giving rise to it. Tai chi, yoga, Feldenkrais…. I agree with Deiseach — enjoy it while it lasts.
Re SENS — yes, aging is a finite problem. Yes, it is potentially amenable to a full solution. But… notice that in the SENS proposal, fixing cancer is a subtask?
Also notice that we already live around 3 billion heartbeats, while most mammals live around 1 billion heartbeats. Animal models are going to be a big problem… Any longevity assist for a lab mouse has a good chance of already being maxed out in humans.
Probably longer than twenty years. I was well into my sixties before my first serious medical problem, and in my early seventies most of my body still functions pretty well. My situation is partly luck— no big genetic problems and no history of major injuries. I get pretty good agreement if I say that the human body has a 40 year warranty. Start saving seriously for retirement. Compound interest The Invisible Foot on the Accelerator is still on your side.
You will not believe how pleasant you will find it in 25 or 30 years to have the freedom to decide whether your career is still bring you enjoyment. Even if it does, choice about exactly what you do is worth rubies. You can find various guidelines about how much to save, but I think the real key is just to be a little nerdy about it. Maybe in the antebellum south, the more slaves you owned, the more you would realize that slavery is not so bad an institution after all.
I have a slightly different explanation. Positive change has a cost all the pain and misery you have to go through as you first live through the transition and then have to adapt to the new situation and a reward getting to live in a world that is better than the world you used to live in.
Thus, the older you get, the worse the tradeoff becomes. You feel like you have nothing to lose and everything to win. I am middle aged and probably the best thing about aging has been that my emotions are duller now. When I have a problem at work, I am less likely to freak out about it and more likely to sleep well, knowing that in all likelihood I will find a way to muddle through.
Even having less intense positive emotions has been constructive since I am less likely to engage in destructive behavior just for some thrill. When I was young, a mildly unpleasant incident felt like the end of the world, so to speak.
That feeling was pretty much counter-productive. So to the extent that wisdom means exercising good judgment, I would say that my wisdom has improved with age because my judgment is less clouded by intense emotions. The closest sense in which I observe such a thing to be true is in my observation that older people seem less accepting of very modern ideas and developments than younger people are.
For instance, an elderly person is more likely to express concern over the fact that nowadays people are spending more time looking at their phones than interacting with each other. My theory is that this comes down to a feature of our brain development, where we are more flexible to new behaviors and ideas when we are younger, so our brains get molded during our youth but then become more rigid and resistant to accepting new things. Or to put it more concretely, why were so many of my younger friends passionate supporters of Bernie Sanders in even with his crotchety old guy aesthetic!
This ties in with your changing attitudes towards utopianism as well. I suspect it has a lot to do with perspective gained from experience, both in that 1 things can get much more dire than younger people fully understand; and 2 there tend to be a lot of complicated hidden mechanisms that dampen radical change, and most pushes for revolution are less likely to work than younger people realize. Maybe an analogy can be made with mutations versus continuous genetic variation driving evolution, or something like that.
Some thoughts and experiences related to this post. As someone says above, we need to distinguish between individual people changing their views as they get older, and the centre grounds shifting as younger people are more liberal than their predecessors. See ex-trotskists now in the Tory party or at least Blairite in the UK. I expect that the people interested in politics changes are likely to be relatively more driven by learning from experience and reflective thought than people just slowly change their views over time from, for example, a bit left to a bit right of centre.
Or left to a bit left less left, right to a bit less right etc. I think three probably applies to the rationalist community. Not necessarilly in terms of political views, but certainly in terms of beoming more sceptical, less sure, more cynical etc. I thought of trying to make a similar list now vs 10 years ago. The birth of consciousness about power and politics, and how it affects everything. A much heigthened understanding of subtext — how people say things with hidden meaning, sometimes even hidden to themselves.
Due to , loss of belief that I am a good person, and how that actually makes me a better person than I was before this understanding. Also, a much greater ability to see what really motivates people, and how that is dissonant of what they say or even believe actually motivates them. I have fully understood that I am going to die. Due to 6, I have started meditating intensely, having kept a meditation practice for 8 years now, with several months spent in solitary retreat.
And I hate meditating, as I find it very unpleasurable, very time consuming, and a very difficult thing to do in general. Due to 7, I live in a condition that is close to a permanent low-grade acid-trip. This makes my sensory perception very different from how it was 10 years ago. I am less sure that there is such a thing as truth, and more focused on usefulness — applicability and expectable outcomes — and self-consistency — even at the expense of usefulness. I have drastically cut down the number of activities I engage in, and the number of people I engage with.
I still somehow read this blog from time to time. What I mean is, who is to say that the changes make the NMDA receptors function more poorly, from a political or value perspective. There would still be no way to say whether the views of wisdom are worse than those of youth. What matters more is the beliefs of the population or community in aggregate, and the dynamics there are complicated. And I can think of people who were dead wrong about a lot of things who still influenced a lot of people in a good way.
But of course our inability to bust out of our own heads and grasp the truth and the thing itself extends to this too. What is the cause and the effect there?
Maybe becoming more conservative affects your NMDA receptors? Remember, there is no ghost in the machine, you are your brain. I found that as I got older I realized how terrible most people were at their jobs. If you were raised to believe that people suck at everything, which seems to be the case now, at least in my bubble, then as you mature you realize that maybe people might not necessarily be morons.
I think that does help me avoid falling into stupid mistakes quite so often. Since no one else seems to have pointed it out yet, let me state what seems to me to be completely obvious, which is that 2 is a load of bull.
People really do actually listen to you. Your opinions filter in to the general discussion. But why would you believe that less now rather than more? Snap out of it. A reason, or even worse an explanation, does not mean a good reason! I would definitely love to hear you talk with, say, Joe Rogan or Sam Harris for two or three hours. But what should the default assumption be? Controlling for birth cohort, individual productivity does not peak until at least age 60, and may never peak Cardoso et al.
Today, our abilities at different kinds of tasks peak at different ages. For example, raw cognitive processing peaks in late teens, learning and remembering names in early 20s, short-term memory about age 30, face recognition in early 30s, social understanding about age 50, and word knowledge above age 65 Hartshorne and Germine As an intellectual, your productivity is presumably measured in ideas.
FWIW… I would expect an intellectual age curve that balances: I liked that phrase about cynicism that its goal is not to maximize truth, but to minimize disappointment. Intellectual conservatism is not the label I would apply to James Scott, although he does say interesting things.
So hurrah for the self-centred blinkered viewpoint of youth which thinks it is special enough to do what has never been done before, because sometimes that really happens! Even though, as someone who went on to discover that he was one of the , other ones, I do find youthful overconfidence extremely grating.
Changing the world is easy. Just not in the kinds of ways that Elon Musk has changed the world. There were previous job some older engineers who have seen basically everything, and they were so conservative it sometimes drove me nuts. At the same time, I recognize that my position is probably far too aggressive for the flying public. My proposed solution was to take the decision-making out of the hands of the most senior people, and give it to people in the middle, advised by both the old people and me.
The sequencing methods can now read through long-repeats or the chemistry used for some step is improved or some background piece of knowledge has been added to the field that now allows people to power through the former roadblock.
Knowing lots of dead ends can be useful and can save resources…but it can also be maladaptive as the world changes around you. The distribution of wisdom seems to be a tad spotty. Some people get older and wiser… some just get older. This gives them cover. Instead of sounding crazy, they just sound basic. Most young people of my generation sound crazy to me when they regurgitate CW e.
Old people often sound wiser. To spell that out, if the mind is a physical process of the brain, then gaining wisdom must be a physical change in the brain, part of which could involve those NMDA receptors. On thing that happens as you grow older is that mental processes run their course. I am considerably less interested in learning new skills. My younger son spend a good deal of time on what look like very interesting computer games—Paradox Interactive historicals.
From time to time he suggests I might like them, and thirty years ago I would have, but at this point both the learning curve and the amount of time they take are serious barriers. In at least one case, I am less able to learn something new. I know a lot of poetry by heart, learned in the past very easily. My guess is that there is some shift from fluid to crystallized intelligence, a pattern I observed in my father—from thinking things out afresh to using the answers I thought out in the past.
My daughter thinks that, although I still enjoy interacting with small children, I am less patient than in the past, comparing my interaction with her when she was little with my interaction with my adorable granddaughter.
That raises the interesting question of whether, if ending or reversing aging becomes practical in time for me unlikely but not impossible , I would want to raise another set of children. All fairly basic stuff, so over a few drinks I explained the reasoning behind why people criticize some services because it means them having both X Y and Z piece of information etc.
I assumed they were students doing a report. A while later I got a thankyou email and it turns out they were actually working for a financial services company and said report was apparently for that.
Part of this way of thinking is it wisdom? Or maybe my declining energy has something to do with it. Perhaps in addition to the factors you described in its decline, enough of the brash young things who populated the movement at first might have simply aged into more nuanced views of religion and society.
It made its way inside the Overton window. When I was a kid it was weird and scary to find out that somebody was an atheist.
Part of this is that the Internet happened. When I was a kid and teenager, I think many of my friends were closet atheists. The Internet also promulgated and filtered the best atheist arguments. Sam Harris, one of the New Atheists, is a frequent and popular guest on the Joe Rogan podcast, which has millions of regular US listeners, and Harris has his own very popular podcast.
He constantly talks about how bad religion is. Dawkins continues to write books and give talks. Daniel Dennett continues to be Daniel Dennett. I think the Bible has a lot of wisdom to offer here speaking of that old post of yours! I guess that figures, since they were written by the wisest person ever! Of course, the net effect of taking this mental posture over a lifetime is to learn a lot. People become more mellow, less ambitious, less willing to try new things, and so on.
This probably partly reflects learning: Then there are changes that basically come from switching to a different reasoning style due to a different knowledge base. Thus you tend to reason out logical conclusions from known facts and premises.
However, as you age you accumulate more implicit and tacit knowledge, and thus your reasoning style switches to something closer to averaging over lots of similar cases. Sort of like a switch from inside view to outside view reasoning. One part of this is trying not to become too cynical, which I think is a mental poison in our society.
I would be curious to hear the perspective of older readers on this, since they presumably have a longer perspective. What can a year old tell a younger self, or a relative, or anyone aged 11 or 22, for example? Nowadays time seems to go by much more quickly. Not trying to be coy or flippant or anything but, Have you ever read any books on time management? The reason i ask is i just complete a few after finishing undergrad and noticing how much time i was wasting and how much days on end seem to slip by in an instant.
I guess being lazy is part of my problem. I do indeed think that some of my bad habits today were acquired as a reaction against externally imposed structure in school. He goes through in equisite detail how to organise a desk, your papers, your things to do, ect.
So that that you can actually relly on them And not have remebering tasks and appointments be a drain of will power. To your point about school. And because you always had that external structure you never learned how to do it by yourself without that structure. It could be one of the pathways to immortality is just kung fu master level time management. I find myself surprised when I deal with someone who knows their own job home renovation will do this to you , and I dread seeking out experts in fields I know little about because I know sorting out the incompetents and the frauds is so difficult.
But I never was much of a utopian, and I can see ways the world is better than it was when I was younger. This at least saves me from Facebook and Twitter. Anyone who has rosy memories of that time were too young, were not actually there, or were on the wrong side of that conflict.
Wow our personallities are almost the complete opposite. Maybe major difference in trait agreeableness. Ive found this to be really helpful in calibration and my thinking A. Im not sure how well this would work for others: Thinks moral questions are just preferences once coordination problems have been identified.
On the whole i find it much better to be a freak with wacked out socially unacceptable ideas than the normie i used to be, i have a ton of new frames and ways of looking at things and i havent lost anything!
Has anyone else tried this? What do you think? Consider an office in SF: Which one do you ridicule? The hillary clinton action figure on the other hand…. But to adress your point: What would be the point in trying to tear down a group thats already beneath you?
You select your targets based on their threat assessments, and groups that are high status, control the culture and control the epistemic environment are a threat to my very thoughts! Sure maybe you need to pretend to be a good high status believer, but you should try to be atleast free in your thoughts!
You should be working to correct for the toxic epistemic enviroment so as to atleast have accurate beliefs yourself! You should be dreaming of the day when you can speak your mind openly! You should be privately chearing on the brave souls who challenge the system that you dont feel you can challenge!
You should aid and abet those brave souls to the extent you can without risking yourself! You should save your contempt and hatred for the real enemy! If your surrounded by the high status enemy then you just look them in the eye and lie.
I assume Scott and readers want to have accurate beliefs, to be free in their thoughts and that they have a healthy hatred of those who want to distort and control their thoughts.
You may disregard my advice. If individual interest and gorup interest invariably coincided , there would be no need for morality. Consider that different problems might best be handled by different frames of mind.
Old people could be systemically better about personal relationships and youth could be systemically better about public policy. I feel a lot wiser and think I could easily dodge many of the mistakes of my youth now given similar decision points. But whenever I feel myself getting complacent in my wisdom I remember: Young people were more opposed to slavery than older people Young people more opposed to Vietnam than older people Young people realized that black people were people before older people did Young people realized that female people were people before older people did Young people realized that gay people were people before older people did Young people realized that people who immigrated were people before older people did Young people realized that drug policy was bad people before older people did Young people realized that mass incarceration was bad people before older people did.
Getting those questions right is probably more impactful on a social level than a wide variety of other seemingly important points. Across time, if you lived through all human history, a very strong strategy for maximizing your moral worth would have been to always side with the 20somethings regardless of your own judgment. Or Vietnam, though young people had an obvious self-interest in that one.
When I was a four year old female girl-child, my grandmother insisted on treating me as though I were a chair — she was too old to realise that female people are people, too! And I was struck by the fact that their reasons for voting were really not progressive at all. The first big political issue for the newly-enfranchised suffragettes of the United States was Prohibition. Took them a few generations, but they got what they were after. As did everyone else in the country. They then turned their voting bloc on criminalizing consorting with the women they had just made sure were not going to be allowed to vote, then criminalizing drinking, and then imposed a tax on bachelors.
You should provide some sort of source for these claims. One pattern he observed was the tension between women who saw dating as a route to marriage and women who saw it in terms of short term relationships. The former group saw the latter as competitors on the dating market and attempted to use social pressure against them. From what I recall, one of the major reasons for temperance was that men would go out drinking and drink all their money away.
And come home and beat their wives. There are a lot of drugs with reputations for being associated with violence, with varying degrees of accuracy; alcohol is one of the cases where the evidence is quite strong. Besides, old people had a point on a few of those. All of this is based on my imperfect recall and anyone capable of reading the literature on their own would be much better served by doing that.
Wars not make one great. Second, in order to gain wisdom, you need to have both experience and enough time to properly think about that experience. I think this largely explains the difference between the old people who are obviously awesome and the old people who do stupid things like vote for that dastardly Other Political Party.
Many of the things you seem sort of melancholy about losing will in fact come back to you for better or worse. A friend of a friend once let me in on three axioms he used to explain, well, people and politics. This looks like a time to bring up Axiom 2: People are incredibly smart about the things that we specialize in and practice frequently.
This, I think, is wisdom. This seems like settling for a local optimum. Not surprisingly, people start to do this after spending a while searching. If Scott had children, how would he go about transmitting wisdom, lessons learned or related ideas in an age-appropriate way? How does that transmit in an age of social media? Tell them all the things you think they ought to do.
But present them as cautionary tales of things NOT to do, and make them sound really cool when describing them. I think you teach kids wisdom by 1 giving them a wide variety of books from different perspectives, and 2 giving them lots of diverse experiences.
Kids also learn a lot tacitly by example. So modeling wisdom in your own words and actions is probably important too. I mean, when it comes to Catholicism or more broadly religious belief in general, some people even write neat little parables comparing us to Actual Literal Nazis, can you believe it? Though in that parable, asking what would I do at the end? Kill Colonel Y, he obviously knows too much and is attempting to pull my strings for his own ends.
I just wanted to say thanks for your contributions to this site, Deiseach. Ad multos annos , Dr Alexander! I do something impressive or I read about something impressive and uplifting.
This puts me on an upward trajectory where I feel good about myself, accomplishments feel like they matter, and I can get work done. This plateaus for a bit. Then I start to slip or get distracted. Then either I screw something up or something terrible happens and I start to backslide. That plateaus for a bit, untio mechanically going through the motions starts to produce results again.
Then the cycle repeats. The reason I mention it is that I introspect a lot, and this influences my philosphy drastically. I used to get this a lot, now I deliberately do things that act counter-cyclically. If I start getting too excited about some new achievement, I slow down and think about it more. Maybe pick it apart and find flaws, or deliberately take a break to let passions cool a little. Not too much- I still want productivity!
Specifically related to socialization ie. Something like operant conditioning or whatever. I felt this was happening to me when I was tweeting. Will it be praised? Will it be dramatically flamed? I think synaptic remodeling must be happen in the presence of such worries if they are happening for you like they happened for me.
In any case, keep blogging. Bowhead Whales live over years, Greenland Sharks live over The average 50 year old probably knows more about trees or politics than the average 5 year old.
But moral truth- as that is a more shifty topic- I mean, maybe it just peaks at age 33?? The middle aged tend to take a more balanced approach to these problems. Old and young people are more willing to watch the world burn, and thus more willing to jump to hasty conclusions regarding moral truth. Middle aged people are so attached to everything that they really will be hurt if the status quo suddenly collapses in a negative way, and so they are bit more reasonable and less exciting in the way they talk about things.
Anyways, those are my thoughts. One change in me— I used to be a just plain libertarian. I have become what I call a harm-reduction libertarian. If I see a government policy which I think has clear bad effects, like the war on drugs, I oppose it.
It may be especially useful to tell people to indicate their experience with the area. On the other hand, people are less sane about food. There are more eating disorders, more weird beliefs, and probably more status tangled up in food. We have no idea what people who live to be in good health would be like, and this may depend on details of longevity tech.
Do we get people who are physiologically 20? Or there are various changing processes that go at different rates. Modern life is like this a lot. There are credit cards every where, which can be a trap for people, but if you use them judiciously, you can benefit from the ease even earlier. Free to play games, likewise.
The internet has tons of garbage, from disinfo to hyperstimuli, but you can use it to make life easier in many ways. One interesting effect of credit cards that one notices if one travels—concern with different monies has almost vanished. Happy birthday, old man! A quick review of my personal perceptions; the risk of a personal post on a blog like this is that you get personalized heckling:. The thing is, a 0. Some, of course, are, but a rebuttable presumption of field-level expertise is useful, I think.
At some point I will tirade on the failure of people to try to actually improve the thing they want improved, from gun control to pro-life folks. Your audience largely cares about the truth, which is why we are here. Many of us are willing to step up for it. I basically join JRM in his disagreement, and would even put it more strongly. And IMHO, the classic counterargument wins, hands down.
In particular, in the real world, if you try to operate as though no one cares about truth, reality will trip you up. That said, a related slightly more careful and twisty claim does seem to be true. And you, like me, seem to grouchily appreciate its importance more at 33 than you did at People and organizations do rather strongly tend not to be very fond of the truth.
A lot of the time when they happen to arrive and remain near the truth, it is not just blind luck, but it turns out it is not fondness for the truth that has put them there either.
First, it is proverbial and true that many people tend to delight in thinking about more-glamorous military issues but overlooking workaday issues, notably logistics. However, in all three cases, reality is patiently stubbornly insistent, and this matters.
If you go someplace that only financially successful people can reach, you are likely to find a significant proportion of people who care about less-glamorous occupations, even if at some level they would prefer not to. And as you pass through reality, you are likely to encounter various outcomes which are hard to explain without underlying concern for the truth, even if you may reasonably suspect that this concern is no more than wary respect for the truth, rather than any enthusiasm for it.
How many generations has it been since conquest has made a nation more prosperous than rivals that just chilled and hung out, patiently taking advantage of low-hanging fruit of tech progress? Some became more militarily formidable, yes, because size matters in war. But in most other eras the conquest temptation could be much stronger, because the military pie-eating conquest offered prizes other than more pie.
And the bigger-but-less-prosperous combination is also less obviously a military advantage in our era than in many others. In many ways this tends to make our era a nice time to live, but it does tend to make truth bite less sharply and promptly, which tends to give delusion much more scope to run wild without being promptly pruned by starving to death this February, which does tend to be aggravating. Despair for truth is probably a normal reaction, but IMHO it is clearly an overreaction even in the short term given that, e.
And in the longer term, all bets are off because the population of minds is likely to change radically overdetermined: More or less the same way that the eventual impact of movable type and paper was considerably greater than its impact in the first generation or so.
A counterpoint to the general mood of the last few posts: There do exist society-wide changes which trample over fences in the road based on logical decisions ie unstable inference chains , and end up with colossal utilitarian improvements.
Until someone did the math and insisted that this particular fence is broken — only to be utterly ignored by older, more conservative doctors. It is pretty infectious, after all. One thing that complicates these ruminations, at least for me, is the unreliability of memory. I remember my confidences and passions shifting over time, some different patterns of behavior, but how much of that is a subconscious attempt to paint my current self as wiser?
Similarly with government spending and other macro-econ topics. This could be a product of not reading about it as much, but the general lack of certainty holds true often, though not universally. I worry an ability to multi-task is actually an inability to focus. Probably related to the easily accessible, intermittently rewarding internet etc. Less follow-through on projects, although I was always more of a starter than a finisher.
This relates to the memory thing. I think being old and more financially secure makes you better at satisficing. I remember not long after moving for a job, the cable company charged me for an installation fee that I was told was free.
After spending 4 hours on the phone, and being transferred 5 times, I realized that I could either get angry and frustrated fighting it, or just pay it and be happy. This obviously would have been a harder choice when I was younger and had tighter finances. This is also possibly relevant https: The pessimistic version of this phenomenon, I think, is that as you get older, your cognitive biases simply shift from one batch to another.
Or from one combination to a different combination. The more optimistic version, is that wisdom really is a thing you can acquire as you get older; some mixture of intelligence, experience and observation. Regarding obsolete ideologies, I think you got it right the first time. I went from neoliberal centrism to radical libertarianism, both politically and culturally. Does age bring wisdom? Does age make us more conservative or liberal?
This is mainly for two reasons, one of which arises from the other: I also know that we have an amazing God, who created an amazing world, and that there are many things that I could not know even if I could live for several lifetimes trying to find out about them.
But you are an incredible thinker, so if your thinking leads you to a truth that differs from that of the crowd, why are you cowed by the fact that so many people look down on it. Ask yourself what assumptions they are making, and how many of them have actually asked the questions you have asked to reach the point you are at. It is a salutory lesson that you can make a good living in academia destroying received wisdoms, repeated in print, because no-one has ever gone back and checked the original source or replicated the original experiment, or that something presented as a hypothesis has somehow become a fact without ever being proved.
If intelligent and skilled people as a group can manage to create falsifiable truths quite so often through simple acceptance and assuming others have checked the fact to be accurate, why do we fear that going against the beliefs of the group is wrong?
If you are thinking for yourself you have to justify your points and you do this well ; if you are part of a group this sort of effort is not required and group think sets in: But this is a paradox, considering your blog is not simply a restatement of conventional wisdom, but at times a vicous demolition of that — I first read it through being introduced to You are Still Crying Wolf as part of a debate around whether Donald Trump was a bad candidate summary of debate conclusions — yes, but perhaps not that bad, and perhaps better than the opposition , a post which blew me away with its ability to reason a point and disrupt a narrative.
Do you feel that you are wrong to do this? It is something of which you should be proud. But hopefully a further change to come will be for you to adopt a much more justified realisation of the value of your opinion against the consensus. Even people you trust and respect who have not thought through an issue that you have are not going to be able to comment on it as well, and will likely fall back of what is known to be correct.
So stick with your rational conclusions, and if they differ from those of others, remember that you are as likely to be right as not, and that it would be a hell of a lot less fun if everyone agreed with each anyway.
It is perfectly acceptable to abandon views to fit in socially, and so long as you are aware you are doing this, not even intellectually dishonest. But it seems to be a concern to you it has come up before recently, notably in the uncertainity about the reception of your explanation of postmodernism that others who you hold important or learned disagree.
But ask yourself this — if these people are truly important to you, will they insist on their thoughts being followed and your conclusions being underplayed? Would those you respect be worthy of your respect if they refuse to accept you functioning as a thinker, but only as a follower? God knows why — it was something that needed and still needs to be said.
Dude, 33 is too young to get all old-timey. People tend to be more productive and more knowledgeable in their 30s: More risk-taking and mental plasticity is great in some contexts especially in tech, which is why we can even have the level of obsession with age that leads you to lament your old age at Just wait until 35, though.
You move up an age cohort on all the surveys. I too am 33 this year. What has surprised me about aging is that I am moving, politically, to the left rather than to the right. I was a teenage libertarian, but have voted for Democrats in all presidential elections.
Maybe that was a function of us all starting from a more conservative place we grew up in solid Red-Tribe communities and moving away from the extremes. I want to make little sub-communities and spend time with people in them.
As a result I value the communities I can participate in all the higher. Are you implying that you consider libertarianism to be right-wing? Some voluntary interactions among a few strong leaders.
Anarcho-communists are pretty atypical for libertarians. I was more of a Paul Ryan type, which I think is more typical. When I was a teenager, especially during the Clinton administration, many libertarian ideals were shared by conservatives. As a teenaged libertarian, I thought that community could be built through enlightened self-interest and voluntary interactions.
Part of my change in politics has been the observation that, at a large-community scale, the incentives against defecting become too weak. Many libertarian ideals were parroted by conservatives.
I have also found that when the chips are down, they tend to support more rather than less government intervention except when that intervention involves cops.
Looking at the US from a UK perspective, it would seem quite natural for libertarians here not to support Republicans, as until Trump the Republicans were a big state party allied to a certain extent with religious interests — much more comparable to the UK Labour Party socialists than to the Conservatives supposedly free market, although someone should remind our Prime Minister of this.
The right-left division is sometimes better at obscuring links than showing similiarities. I thought that Scott was meant to be the Rightful Caliph, not the Messiah.
Let me check wikipedia — I see. One thing that happens as you get older is that you can look back and see all the times things did not turn out as you expected. This tends to blunt the overconfidence bias. First, every cohort is qualitatively different. Second, the older the cohort, the less formal education it has, and that turns out to make a difference. Indeed, I wonder if that moment of deep pessimism is a necessary developmental stage, breaking down expectations and making it possible to succeed.
My father was a professor of history and a homeowner in a college town. I envied him and took it for granted I could never be as successful as he was. When he finished his Ph. D, he had faculty job offers from three universities, which seems inconceivable today. But he also volunteered and lied about his age to fight in World War II — he was badly injured by shrapnel, his teeth were blown out of his mouth, he contracted malaria, etc.
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