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Teenage as a Second Language: If they go to his parents house I make sure his mom or dad or someone is there also. As long as you like the person, and the person likes you, and you go along well, why not start a relationship and enjoy yourselves the most?

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I actually expect my daughter to actually answer my call on the cell phn that I bought and paid for specifically so I can get a hold of her when needed, I know I know I should be reported to CPS.. I think it's all about mental state. Submitted by Anonymous on October 17, - I have three boys and they will not be dating until they are spiritually mature, able to provide for themselves and a family, and truly understand what they are called to be and do as husbands and fathers. Earlier than that might just might be too early. This way you as parents get to see how your children interact. Membership is just one click away.

And serious to me is very long term - like marriage, and kids, and till the whole death to us part. I like this answer: I see myself getting married when I'm in my 20s, but I've been in a serious relationship for almost 3 years now since I was But who knows, we could break up in a month or still be together in 7 years still happy and smiley.

P awww that is so cute: Disney ruined everything along with all those movies like the Notebook and Titanic and Dear John. And trust me, you'll find a guy. Haha I have a guy sweetie: D doen even get me started on the notebook. Of it actually happening is like 1 to billion, but I still think it's a wonderful thought of that actually happening to someone.

I honestly don't think there really is a set age as to when serious dating begins. I think it really depends on the maturity of two people and how they feel and how they handle things together. There are plenty of young couples who can make things work and communicate very well, and older couples who still just can't figure things out and continue to play games. It doesn't neccisarily depend on age.

Some people act older or younger than there actual age. It depends on how they act and their personality. Or when you can talk to them about anything. Age isn't always the factor. Flirting isn't necessarily cheating but you just have to think you know, "What if my girlfriend is out here flirting around heavily? Yeah fair enough - but I definitely reckon a healthy amount of flirting should be allowed - especially for thoes who used to be extroverted.

For me there's a window of where I might be looking for someone to settle down with. I want to be settled into my life and mature. Serious to me means possibly engagement, maybe a kid or two.

I eventually want kids, but I think there's more of a chance that I'll just be single and adopt them rather than settle down with a man and have my own. I'm 19 and I know what I want I want a big beautiful house with a teched out mini mega awesome van and a nice sedan or whatever for dad. I want four kids years apart I want to have that terrible 2 year old and "I hate you mom! I know what it means to be a mom I know what it means to give up my life for my kids that is what I want.

I want him to be a good man like my dad. People who accept - acceptance. Sexual underlined thank-you very much Hahaha. P but yes I can see where you are coming from because you prefer older you have to be younger.

Yeah, you'll know when you want to settle down. Just keep dating, you never know who it could be and then one day it'll just happen you'll be with someone you never want to be with out. Originally I didn't even want to have kids because they will put you in debt, but if I must then I will hopefully get preggers around 35 or so, I'll be married too hopefully, but if not, oh well ;-.

I don't know yet, and I don't want to put a number on it. I'll know when I'm ready to settle down, if it even ever happens: Also close this question. At what age do you start 'serious' dating? Select age and gender to cast your vote: Personally 24 - Don't want off cuts.

What Guys Said I think at least Off cut - like off cuts of meat - the ones that are left once the the goods are gone. Unfortunately I have seen way to many young girls use dating as an escape from difficult family situations, or personal insecurities.

My response would go something like this Are you ready to get married in the near future? If the answer is no, then please do you yourself a favor and don't waste his time or yours.

If you are not ready to get married, then I encourage you to live, and enjoy your life enriching it with as many experiences as possible until you are ready to marry, and when you feel you are ready to marry, then make you sure you have set a standard high enough to last the rest of your life! Please, don't date just for the sake of dating I really do think it depends on the person, we all have different life experiences, and we are ready for things at different ages. I really do think we need to look a our teens and go by who they are, but remember that having open communication goes a long way.

My oldest was 15, she felt ready, she was dating him for 2. She has been with her current boyfriend for just over 2 years, and there is talk of marriage, but not for a few years. She is 20, and very cautious. I was 16 when I started dating. I think I would judge it based on my daughters, my older one is quite mature, but gets hurt easily. Younger one is more immature, but everything rolls off her back, not much gets her down for long. Also, I would sit down and talk to them, find out what they consider dating before making that call - older is better though.

I am torn too, the world I am raising them in is so different than what I was raised in; we live in a large town 12, , whereas the community I grew up in had people. The same kids started playschool together and graduated grade 12 together, mine do not have that same core group.

My four teen year old is in a serious realashionship where they hangout. But I will let them be alone. My 17 year old Is also in a very serious realashionship. Let them date whenever they want. My mom didn't set guidelines. It was pretty general. When I got my first boyfriend, I was 13, and he was We went on a date with 2 other couples, because neither of our parents want us alone.

He met my mom and shook her hand, and it was all good. I think that you should allow them to date at around age Make sure they're not alone and that sort.

If I was a mother, I wouldn't make them wait, if they're ready, then they are ready. He was 15, and I was 13, and our relationship is pretty good. I think it's all about mental state.

If the're not emotionally ready, or they are too immature, then they're not ready. You just need to talk to your daughter about it. I have found that my 18yrs 10moths is dating older guys aged 25 yrs, how do I talk to her about older guys. I don't think there is a magic age to start dating. As children mature they explore relationships both romantic and platonic with the opposite sex. At each stage, it is the role of the parent to help guide healthy development.

Romantic interest at 10 or 11 is not the same as it is at 14 or at In my mind, it isn't so much about telling a child they aren't allowed to have a boyfriend or girlfriend until they suddenly reach a certain age as it's about helping a child to navigate a long and gradual process.

Now, its not all about getting knock up. When they are on their own. First of all, you can't shack up with some kid in our house. Second of all, I don;t want another kid hanging out around my house, I am raising enough of them. If he wants to pick her up and go to dinner or movies, that's one thing but hands on hands and lips on lips. At 16 your body starts to change the most. Things to make sure of: Make sure the boy she wants to date has a background check, Make sure the boy she wants to date is her same age or only 2 years over her age, Make sure the boy she wants to date has no crimal record, Make sure the boy she wants to date does not touch her any where close to her privates or touch her in a way that makes her feel uncomfortable, Make sure the boy she wants to date does not have his own car drive them to the dating place to ask small questions to the boy.

I did not allow my daughter to date until For one, she did not have a car nor did her boyfriend until that point and even after. Two, she was just beginning to get interested in dating. Three, We had to know the boy before she went out with him. Four, we had to take them on dates as they did not drive yet.

Five, there is no reason to date earlier than that anyway. I think it depends on your daughters maturity level, her ability to stand up for herself in tough situations, and what type of dating scenario she is interested in. I was not aloud to date until I was And I think it was an okay decision on my parents part. I could have benefitted from more practice in one on one social situations.

And I certainly could have used a little more time playing the field before But overall, I understand that my parents choice was to protect me from a few things that I wasn't ready for, even at If you think your daughter can handle all the highly emotional parts of dating, the temptations that come with being alone with someone, and is responsible to make good choices for herself let her try it out.

A good rule of thumb, for everyone venturing out into the dating word, there is security in larger groups. My Dad was very encouraging of the large group dates.

There are a lot of fun group activities they can do. Oh yes, and I am driving These relationships are important for healthy development. And yes, they learn how to deal with disappointment and heart break. Atleast age 16, so they can drive and get away from a situation if they need to. High school is good for unchaperoned dating. My daughter are all grown. This worked well since they were all involved with G.

Scouts and church groups. They did a large variety of activities and didn't feel left out. I have an 11and14 year-old daughter. I told them they have time after high school to look for a boyfriend. That the last thing they needed was to through what I went through. I love my kids and told I would never have changed them for the world, but would their father in a heartbeat. I'm honest with my kids and expect them to be the same way with me. I admit I'm strict but too many girls their age are getting pregnant.

They know I don't want them to struggle like I did to finish my education. I know outside pressures can be tough when teaching them right and wrong. To me it is not an issue of age,but maturity. If I have a daughter that isn't mature, whom I can be assured understands limits and consequences and the difference between right and wrong, then I may hold off on allowing her to date.

I have three daughters all of which have different personalities and maturity levels. The other issue is group dating versus single dating. I came from a culture in which girls did not date without a chaperone. Not something I would necessarily do to my own child. I do shuttle my kids to the mall and the movies with their friends and I stay not with them, but in the vicinity. They are aware that I could come upon them at anytime and thus do not tend to act inappropriately as some kids do when away from their parents.

Spending more time with your kids Shearing your thoughts about consequence for every behavior when they still young. Love your children unconditionally. Watch them closely daily life, showing your loves and the examples. Never spoil your kids, give them what they need not what they want. Educating them through the school is not enough, showing your faith with God.

Follow Jesus steps , I promise you they will make a wise choice when they're ready. I have to admit that I am impressed with the age your daughters are and the way your youngest continues to honor your rules. I am finding that regardless of the standards and values we have tried to Iinstill that and believe me we do continue to try, that peer pressure and the standards she sees at school are becoming a constant source of controversy in our home.

The comment was made that they will do what they will do. We have a lot of the same rules in our home. Group outings with friends, boys hang out downstairs and not behind closed doors.

Getting to know her friends and their parents. We have set 16 as the age we believe single dating should be allowed. We believed that communication with our daughter was open and honest especially about boys until we found out that she had a boyfriend at school that was never mentioned at home.

It came to or attention when a school dance was happening at the school and she was asked to go. All of a sudden she was faced with having to ask permission to attend this dance with a boy she was seeing at school without our knowledge and she was going to have come clean with us.

It caused some anxiety. We were very lucky in this situation, because the morals and values we had been trying to instill had done their job and the "seeing each other" had been limited to hand holding, talking, and maybe a few kisses. What we had to address was the lack of honesty and lack of communication that there had been between we as parents and our daughter. Another thing we had to address was the kinds of influence that her friends were having on her.

Somehow she got the impression that what we didn't know wouldn't hurt us and it was definitely wasn't hurting her so it was Ok. It forced us to re-examine some of our parenting styles and to take our heads out of the sand. Our daughter is a good kid and has so far not caused us any real problems, but what we learned from this experience is we needed to ask more questions about her friends and what goes on at school.

We also learned not to assume that everything is as it should be just because we haven't heard other wise. We have had to put a few more rules in place that we hadn't realized were necessay and most of all step up our communication skills with our kids. You can state rules and expectations, but without rules and follow through. None of it means anything.

Michelle you sound like a really awesome mom ; I know what you're goin through and the negative outside influences can be overwhelming and it still hasn't ended for my girls and I. I have raised my girls as a single mom so I have all the odds against me. It's a fine line from being our children's parent to becoming their 'friend' and it's super tough to just listen sometimes CALMLY when they just confessed they had their first kiss or crush..

I wanted to lecture the heck outta her but I knew if I over reacted she wouldn't trust me anymore and would possibly stop confiding in me.. I love your insight that parents shouldn't assume everythings OK just cuz they haven't heard otherwise, I totally agree..

I can't stress enough how setting the EXAMPLE in the way we live is most important and then talking to our kids everyday about everything.. I also give all Glory to God for guiding me thru this thing called 'Parenting'..

To whom much is given much is expected. Many blessings to you and yours ;. We set 16 for our girls but it also depends on the situation. For school dances 15 with a strict curfew homecoming, prom, etc Actual dating 16 with strict curfew. The girls always had cell phones and if they changed plans during the night they would call me and tell me where they were going or ask permission.

We weren't naive about what could happen but we hoped we raised them right enough that they would make good choices. The rule for dating in my house for both boys and girls is 16, no dating before then. I also expect any boy dating my daughter and the rule applies to my son as well to come to the door, meet both of us and be respectful. I also want to know where they are going and make sure my daughther has her cell phone and cash incase of an emergency.

If a boy won't come to the door and meet us then he has no respect and I feel he wouldn't treat my daughter with respect. We also have a midnight curfew for those under I forget to add that my husband has a little talk with all boys taking our daughters out lol he makes sure they know what is expected of them as far a behaviour goes. You can't be to careful these days. If you don't feel your daughter is mature enough then you have to decide whether or not to let her date.

HI,, I haven't face that sitation yet but i've been thinking on that too soo according on my little research and point of view i think that an appropiate age to let your child go on a groupal date is 16, but of course it depends on what kind of friends or boys are them My daughter had to read "Boundaries in Dating" before she could date at the age of 16, she even had a young man in mind she wanted to date and who wanted to date her, so he voluntarily read the book as well.

They started dating when she turned 16, most of their dates were chaperoned, their choice.. Statistics show the younger a girl starts dating, the sooner she starts having sex, thus the greater chance of a teenage pregnancy or abortion.. Three of her best friends in high school started dating at 13, one got married, had a baby and graduated high school the same year.

Another one of her friends quit school to get married, and another got married within days of graduation and had a baby within the year. Is it or In so many ways I agree with this post. It is not about age but maturity. Instilling children with high self esteem and a good moral compass is vital. BUT interviewing the poor boys first. As the Mother of a 21 year old boy and a 20 year old girl I think it is important to talk to both of them the same way. If a boy has been brought up to respect women and take responsibility for his actions then all women would be 'safe'.

But for my daughter, the boy had to be willing to go on a "double date" with my husband and I first. If the boy won't spend time with us, then he can't be alone with our daughter.

Worked great for us! My son at 11 already has a very close girl friend not girlfriend but if that evolved, we'd just see how it went and make sure to be open with him and encourage him to do the same. My parents said I would say earlier if it is a group thing. My Dad always said no dating until I was When I was around 14 I wanted to go on a date but knew he wouldn't let me.

So we got a bunch of other couples together to go with us movies and I told my Dad it couldn't possibly be a date with that many people there and that it was instead a "gathering". He told me there was no debating that logic and I got to go.

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Two, she was just beginning to get interested in dating. Neither one of our kids had a car of their own as teenagers, our daughter bought one her Junior year of college, our son is now 27 and has never owned a car. But if it's true, you'll last and you'll keep working on it until you'll ready to get married.

at what age did you start dating

Why even dod in high school if you're not going to be serious? My oldest is a freshman in Middle schoolers sometimes say they are dating when actually all they are doing is texting or sid communicating via Facebook or in some other electronic manner. I have a 9 yr old daughter. I am dating - asya ss speed dating not serious - more a learning process - not saying that if a keeper came along I'd neglect him and vice versa. I completely understand why you are confused. At what age did you start dating now there not talking and loveholics dating sites posting really bad things about her I love my daughter with all my heart this is eating me up that her dad and grandparents think it's just so cute Ugh!